MispronouncingMangoes

Hello sunflower! I'm Mia, 20's, female, bi (or maybe pan or whatever). This used to be just for Hannibal puns and feminist rants, but it's now primarily Supernatural. Send me cheesy puns, delightful headcannons, or requests for hugs if you're having a bad day. If you want me to respond to your ask privately, just let me know.

[beesarebadkissers]

Whatever resolutions you’ve made for 2019, take a moment to re-evaluate them. So many resolutions are so unhealthy and negative. Let 2019 be the year you improve yourself without being mean to yourself. Start the year off positively, focusing on growth, not guilt.

[beesarebadkissers]

Some good healthy resolutions for 2019:

-Appreciate the beauty of something impractical every day. Look at how lovely little things in your life are!

-Be soft to your body. It does so much for you! It’s squishy and warm and doing it’s best just for you!

-Say out loud every good thought, silently process your bad ones. Throw compliments around like confetti. And any negative thoughts you have are okay- don’t feel guilty, just work through it yourself or with a therapist.

-Pick something realistic you’ve wanted to do but told yourself it was too frivolous and do it. You deserve happy shit in your life, okay?

-Pick a skill you picture your future self having. Google it first thing tomorrow. Begin the first steps to acquiring it. Learn that language, play that instrument, pick up watercolors or tap dance or whatever you want! You got this!

-Finish that thing. That thing you started and told yourself no one will like. Finish it. Enjoy finishing it, and enjoy it once it’s finished.

Remember changing is about loving future you, not hating past you. 2019 is your opportunity to grow yourself! Take it! You deserve it!!!

[momworries]

Yo how is it that these porn bots are not blurred or even censored … but everyone else is🤔

[goldnpoc]

plot twist: the porn bots are the staff

[raeazure]

the porn was coming from inside the house

[nakedbrownie]

the raw energy of this scene can’t be conveyed through a gifset

[violentwavesofemotion-deactivat]

Plato, tr. by W. R. Paton, from “Greek Anthology; Epigrams,” published c. 1918

[purellsnuff-deactivated20190503]

PLATO SAID “LESBIAN RIGHTS!”

[kayla-bird-deactivated20190505]

“fucking superb you funky little lesbian” - plato

[deakery-deactivated20200516]

[thejediguy]

Last day to post this gem

[afro-elf]

y’know…. conversations about world war ii would be a lot more bearable and constructive if white men found that period rightly horrific rather than pornographic 

[werewolfofsector2814]

We glorify war because it’s the only time we’re allowed to release the beast and not go to jail for it.

You want to see who a man truly is, put him in a battle.

Man is never more himself, than when he has nothing to lose.

[afro-elf]

you’re not fucking odysseus, go to therapy

[gahdamnpunk]

Christian Soriano is bae

[wingedrivers-deactivated2019081]

AND DO YOU KNOW WHERE HE GOT THAT FROM

I remember the season Christian was in. And he had a problem (because he was fresh out of fashion school) with understanding how to dress bigger women. And Tim Gunn, who has always been a proponent of needing to design fashion for more natural sizes, helped him to get out of that mind set by planting the seed. That growth we see is from this amazing fashion teacher! 

[tami-taylors-hair]

I was in line at Aldi and this girl with two toddlers in front of me had her card declined and she looked so fucking sad and said “let me call my husband real quick” and it was only 18 dollars, so I just paid for it, and she was very sweet and then as she walked off, the lady behind me said `”You know that was probably a scam, right?” and like, even if it was, like what a sad fucking scam, right? 18 dollars at the Aldi. If you’re “scamming” me for some Tyson chicken and apple juice and cauliflower, then just take my fucking money. 

“A scam” people are fucking wild.  

[dragginage]

This happened to me, too. A woman had used WIC for the majority of her stuff (which I say from personal experience is such a long and embarrassing process) and to buy the remainder of her groceries, which included diapers and wipes, she used a card, and it got declined. I bought the other $30 of her groceries because hey, I’ve been there, and now I’m not. She was extremely emotional and began to cry and even hugged me. My mom called me on the drive home and could tell I had been crying myself, asked what was wrong, and when I told her what happened, she berated me for being “duped.” I couldn’t believe she could be so disappointed in one of her children for doing something- nice? Is that the hill you want to die on? Getting mad about people needing groceries?

[systlin]

I once paid for a woman’s bill at the vet…it wasn’t a big one, but she was trying to pay for some medication for her dog, and her card was declined. And her lip started trembling, and she says “I don’t get paid until Tuesday, would he be ok until then?” 

So I just told them to add the $20 something onto my bill, and I thought she was going to break down crying right there.

And I don’t care if it was a scam or not. Just do nice things for people sometimes. 

[flurrin]

Do good recklessly.

[solarpunk-gnome]

I think “Do good recklessly” would be fantastic word art to hang on one’s wall. Artistic people, go!

[7faerielights]

So this has happened to me but from the other side. Several years ago when my oldest was around three or so, I had my debit card decline at Walmart. It wasn’t a scam or a mistake, I was genuinely broke. Out of money. I checked my bank and discovered I had something like 7 dollars left to my name and a hungry kid and nothing to eat at home. So I sat there trying to come up with the best way to stretch that tiny amount of money to feed my kid. Not even to feed me. I can live on popcorn or something if I have to but my kid was three and he had to eat. So there I am trying really hard not to cry while I slowly take things out of my basket to get it down to under 7 bucks, when a lady tapped me on the shoulder. I looked up and she smiled at me and started putting the things back in my cart. I opened my mouth to tell her that I didn’t have the money for them but she stopped me right away and said “Don’t worry about it. It’s gonna be fine.” Then she handed the cashier her credit card and said “Ring up all of it.” My kid got to eat because of her. I got to eat because of her. I had laundry soap and deodorant because of her. She could’ve just ignored me silently struggling in that line. She could’ve decided I was a scam and gone home feeling good about avoiding being duped. But instead she chose to help me and she saved us. So maybe the person struggling in front of you is trying to put one over on you or maybe they are just sad and broke and trying to figure out what to do. You get to decide which you want to believe and what you want to do. But I’ll tell y’all, no one has ever been more beautiful to me than that lady in that line who saved me and my baby. Be like her. Be beautiful.

[29-pieces]

Do good recklessly

[lightningchaserarts]

DO BETTER. BE BETTER. STRIVE TO BE BETTER.

DO GOOD RECKLESSLY

[averagemarvelbitch]

One time, my dad and I were living the grocery store and there was a guy outside asking for money to buy some stuff to take home for his kids. It was around Christmas time. My dad asked him if he could give him groceries instead of money, and the guy immediately said yes, so my dad gave him one of everything we bought (meat, rice, some chocolates, milk, oil). At that time, my dad hadn’t gotten his paycheck because the company he worked for was going through a tough time, but he didn’t care, he saw an opportunity to help someone and he did.

Another time, my dad gave 50 bucks to a guy who said he needed to buy medicine for his kids. I told my dad he was probably going to spend the money on alcohol or something, but my dad said that “whether he was lying or not says something about HIS character, but hearing someone in need and choosing not to help when I have the means to says something about mine”.

I never forget that.

[lesbian-bookworm]

Can we make Do good recklessly The slogan on 2019

[strawberrydotdwg]

Do good recklessly is the moral i try to embody

[afrodingus93]

Tony Hawk is a real one lol

[northw0man-deactivated20201019]

Here’s a cool trick to see if a man actually respects you: try disagreeing with him

[the-rain-monster]

A friend of mine did something with online dating where, before meeting a person, she’d say no to something minor without a reason for the no. For example: “No, I don’t want to meet at a coffee shop, how about X?”, or “No, not Wednesday”, or “No, I don’t want to recognize each other by both wearing green shirts”. She said how the potential dates reacted was a huge indicator of whether she actually wanted to meet them, something I readily believe.

I’ve mentioned this to a few people and sometimes I get very annoyed and incredulous responses from guys about how are they supposed to know that it’s a test if the girl is being unreasonable? How are they supposed to know that and let her have her way? I find it difficult to explain that if you find it unreasonable for someone to have a preference of no consequence which they don’t feel the need to explain, then you are the one being unreasonable. You can decide for yourself that it sounds flaky and you don’t want to date her, but you don’t have a right to know and approve all of her reasons for things in order to deign to respect that she said no about it. Especially in the case of someone you haven’t even fucking met yet.

[the-real-seebs]

The point isn’t to know it’s a test, the point is that if you would only say “yes” if you knew it was a test, then what if it’s not a test, but because she hates coffee shops, or because she’s attending a funeral Wednesday and doesn’t know you well enough to want to share that, or whatever else? Because if you’re making rules for when other people can have preferences and not explain why… yeah, that is a thing they can reasonably want to avoid.

[teratomarty]

@ all the angry dudes in the replies: the point is not to trick or manipulate men. The point is to see how a potential romantic partner reacts to a minor inconvenience.  If they say, “oh, ok, would seven work instead?” or “well there’s this Armenian tea house I’ve been meaning to try out, want to go there?” then that’s a good sign that they’re safe to date.  If they throw a fit and/or demand to know every little detail about your rationale over something as simple as rescheduling dinner plans, that’s a bad sign. A really bad sign.

It’s like this, dudes. Women in Western society are socialised to cooperate and compromise. Some men are socialised to get all their own way, all the time.  These dudes are incredibly dangerous to women their partners,* and the only way to tell them apart from the OK guys is to pay close attention to how they react.  If you’re one of the OK ones, this isn’t about you. Learn to take “no” for an answer, and you’ll be fine.

*Updated to reflect the fact that abusive men can target any gender, and the fact that I used this screening tactic to good effect during my Big Gay Slut phase.

[lierdumoa]

The thing a lot of the men reblogging don’t get – they think this post is telling women to lie. They think this post is telling women to start a fake argument and to be manipulative.

Actually, this post is doing the opposite. This post is telling women to be straightforward, and forthright, and upfront about their values and opinions.

This post is telling women, “I know you’ve been socialized and conditioned to nod and smile at everything a man says your whole life, since you were 4 years old and your grandma told you that little girls should be seen and not heard. I know that by now it’s second nature to you, and you probably don’t even realize you’re doing it half the time. You don’t even realize that the laugh that just came out of your mouth is a laugh of appeasement, rather than a laugh of genuine humor. ”

It’s telling women, “Force yourself to resist your conditioning. Consciously make an effort to be open and honest in that initial conversation, when you’re making small talk, about small things. If he says something you don’t quite agree with (and he inevitably will, because nobody agrees on everything), don’t smile and concede the point like you’ve been trained to do. Consciously make a point of vocalizing your real opinion.”

It’s telling women “If a man doesn’t respect your real opinion about a small, insignificant issue when you first meet him, then he’s not going to respect your real boundaries later on when you’re in a serious relationship.”

[serakosumosu]

@deadcatwithaflamethrower

[deadcatwithaflamethrower]

Good advice to adopt as gospel.

[betterbemeta]

Also, we have to consider what dating even is. It’s unreasonable that when someone is purposefully looking for a potential life partner, that they aren’t allowed to evaluate, judge, or test who they are with a little bit. It’s a big decision and anyone who spins dating as purely a form of entertainment will see big decisions in those terms too– what is personally most pleasing for them and them alone. Dates can be fun, but waiting to learn important things about your date until a critical situation when you have to say “no” can be hazardous.

[epiphanies]

[sixpenceee]

Watch the whole thing. The artist is dr_mederos. More interesting posts here: @sixpenceee

[memesonthehour]

[grumpytrans]

don’t say “preferred pronouns”, instead say “correct pronouns” because that means you understand that it’s not a preference, it’s who they are

[ftmconfessional]

Also: it’s not someone’s “preferred name”, it’s just simply their name.

[thespooniewrites]

I made a generator to find out about your supernatural partner because human partners are out of fashion now

[postmodernmulticoloredcloak]

“Devout and doting vaguely-humanoid creature who makes friends with every cat they see. They feel at peace when they are with you.“

Perfect

[nightwatched]

i can’t get in lifts with people because i have a sort of phobia of breathing in people’s breath

and when i got asked what was wrong by my law teacher (she thought i looked ill) 

I had to fucking reply “I prefer people when they’re not breathing” 

[a3esome]