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girl help they're taking my fave's extremely thin veneer of swaggering overconfidence at face value
Pick a life-long passive stat boost*:
Persuasion (+influence communicating w/ others)
Durability (damage lessened + temp resistance)
Lifespan (vitality boost & telomere years added)
Endurance (energy lasts longer + need less rest/food)
Health (+disease resistance & healing affectiveness)
Luck (events of chance lean more in your favor)
Strength (u stronger)
Wisdom (awareness + knowledge boost)
Charisma (+anxiety management & people like/gravitate to u)
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*Any upgrade is randomly determined by chance (ex: equivalent to a d20 roll). Base of each stat (1-10) determined by your best judgement. Add your roll to that.
This wasn’t meant to be like dnd but their system covered almost exactly what I had come up with organically, so it’s similar. :P
Pick a life-long passive stat boost*:
Persuasion (+influence communicating w/ others)
Durability (damage lessened + temp resistance)
Lifespan (vitality boost & telomere years added)
Endurance (energy lasts longer + need less rest/food)
Health (+disease resistance & healing affectiveness)
Luck (events of chance lean more in your favor)
Strength (u stronger)
Wisdom (awareness + knowledge boost)
Charisma (+anxiety management & people like/gravitate to u)
*Any upgrade is randomly determined by chance (ex: equivalent to a d20 roll). Base of each stat (1-10) determined by your best judgement. Add your roll to that.
This wasn’t meant to be like dnd but their system covered almost exactly what I had come up with organically, so it’s similar. :P
not every mutual fits neatly into an archetypal medievalism but there are some mutuals that im like yeah addressing you as “my liege” would come strangely naturally
what mutual is prev
my liege lord
my loyal knight
my wise wizard
my evil advisor
my brother in arms
my lady muse
my wild mermaid friend
my fellow alchemist
my dashing rapscallion
my monstrous foe
I know this trophy is supposed to represent a triathlon, but it looks like a cyclist award for attacking pedestrians
i have something to say
"i would kill a pedophile to protect my child" ok but would you teach your child how to say no? even to adults? even to adults you like? would you teach your child the words "penis" and "vulva" and then use them? would you let them ask questions about their body? would you answer them honestly? would you learn how to cope with your feelings when you talk about human bodies, so they don't feel ashamed? would you set a positive example for how you talk about your body? would you tell your child they don't have to hug or kiss anyone? would you tell your family the same? would you stand by them when they refuse to hug someone? even someone you know has never done anything to hurt them? would you let your child avoid food they don't like? would you let you child avoid people they don't like? would you believe them? would you sit in the discomfort of not knowing all the answers and not take it out on them? would you love your child the same if someone did hurt them? would you make them feel valued just as they are? would you let them talk to doctors or nurses in private? would you let them express their feelings? would you show interest in their life? would you let your child say no to you? would you help your child feel safe coming to you when they make a mistake? would you apologize to your child? would you believe them? would you put aside your anger to focus on what would make your child feel safe and loved? would you put your ego aside for your child? would you take your child's concerns seriously? would you listen to your child? would you believe them?
I would both do all those things AND kill a pedo to protect my child, if I had to.
Yesss
i'm gonna add this comment by @papercrane:
"Maya angelou's family killed a pedophile that raped her, and that just traumatized her more. "I thought that I had caused the man’s death, because I had spoken his name. That was my seven-and-a-half-year logic. So I stopped talking for five years." Read I know why the caged bird sings."
and here is my comment:
the fantasy of killing a pedophile to defend your child is... an escape from reality. as with all fantasies where a single act of violence stands for a lifetime of effortful care. it lets us off the hook for the day to day labor of actually protecting the human beings around us. it gives us an excuse to look away from what abuse actually looks like.
it allows us to ignore that setting boundaries is a daily practice. it allows us to ignore the subtle ways in which we punish children for having boundaries. it allows us not to think about things we can do, the effort we can put in, in smaller repeated ways, to be kind and caring. to be safe to talk to.
it is a grand gesture that, were you to actually go through with it, would neither prevent the harm that you fear nor help your child to heal from it. it is an idea with no bearing on reality for 99.99% of people, while rape and abuse are a reality for a large fraction of people.
it is not useful to imagine killing a pedophile. it is not useful to claim you would kill a pedophile. it wouldn't be useful to actually attempt to kill a pedophile in almost any situation.
it is useful to think about how you can help your child know they can get help. they can say no. they can tell adults to stop. they deserve to be comfortable. they deserve to be informed.
the entire point of the post is that your child will not be saved by your imagined wrath. the entire point is that your day to day actions, and your attitude towards children as people, are more impactful to your child's well-being. far more realistic. more important.
not least because your child doesn't need you to be wrathful. they need your love. they need care. they need attention.
meanwhile, the public performance of wanting to kill child abusers doesn't do anything to child abusers. most child abusers believe they are doing the right thing for their children.
saying you want to kill abusers doesn't signal anything good to children, either. as others have said, it makes children more afraid to speak up and ask for help. that might be their mom, their coach, their troop leader. it gives those abusers leverage; the children cannot tell if they want things to be stable.
and it makes it harder for adults to BELIEVE children, too! because if their child was really abused, then they've staked their honor on committing that violence, even if it was against their brother or spouse or grandpa or pastor or neighbor or their other kid's favorite babysitter. and if they don't want to do that, well... then they must decide whether they believe completely their child, or whether their child's boundaries must really be respected, or... if maybe it's impossible to know.
how many abuse survivors have tried to disclose, only to be told that so-and-so wouldn't do that, or they didn't mean it, because so-and-so loves you and we all like so-and-so. this dichotomy goes both ways, psychologically. if a child abuser is entirely evil and has to be killed, then someone who's not entirely evil and i don't want to kill can't be a child abuser. this must be something else. there must be a mistake.
you can not adequately protect your children from abuse if you hold on to this idea. i am telling you. your insistence that killing pedophiles will protect your children is holding you back. it is not useful. it is not cute to talk about how much you want to do a single act of violence to abusers as if that would ever be enough to outrun the culture of abuse and the dehumanization of children in our society. you cannot cling to this like a talisman that would ward off any harm your children may come to. you cannot escape reality by telling yourself you'd be a total badass and kill that bad guy dead. this is not helpful.
"Why would this character be jealous of their friend's romantic relationships? Clearly they're in love with them" I don't know if you guys have ever Had Friends but it's actually pretty common for people to feel jealous if their best friend suddenly has less time for them and is prioritising someone they just met over them. That's not inherently romantic, that's the general human desire to be valued by the people you value.
My Very Little Sister had to move out of 3 living situations because her friends/cousins found romantic partners and didn't need a roommate anymore. She started getting really grouchy whenever a friend mentioned romance after a while.
My cousin lost his best friend of 20+ years because the friend's girlfriend decided he shouldn't see anyone else. For years my cousin was leery about anyone else starting romantic relationships, and acted kinda jealous and resentful.
I had to make clear boundaries with my now-husband, explaining that I was NOT going to be investing all of my limited emotional energy into our relationship, he had to be willing to share. And my emotional energy is VERY limited, so he struggled! If I hadn't been so very very aromantic, and had spent as much time with him as he wanted, my other relationships would have suffered greatly. As it was, people had to get used to a changed dynamic with me - he came everywhere, because it was easier to get out of the house when he was dragging me.
People in platonic relationships have very real reasons to be jealous!
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Art Deco Ingrid perfume bottle made of malachite glass by Riedel Glassworks, depicting a figure beneath a waterfall, Bohemia, Czech Republic, 1930s.
This looks really cool, but I can’t find any evidence it ever existed for real. I’ve searched Riedel Glassworks, malachite glass perfume bottles, Ingrid perfume bottles, etc, but the results all sort of turn up around a year ago with near identical summaries. The sources are Instagram, Reddit, Twitter, Pinterest, etc. I managed to find some scanned photo book collections of the Ingrid line (from 1937, 1939), and the works are really gorgeous, but I can’t find anything with a figure inside malachite glass like this. Although, to my eye, it looks more like uranium glass?
Actually… I’ll search that up, too.
Aha! It is indeed uranium glass, and it has a different designer/production line, which is why my searching went nowhere.
Auction featuring either grayscale photos or a clear glass version HERE
Facebook post with a uranium glass reproduction of the piece HERE
Google books page for book cited in the facebook post, if anybody has it at their local library and can snap a photo for us idk HERE
Website where you can purchase a reproduction(?) HERE (about $170 USD before VAT).
Anyway, it looks 3D but is actually a mostly flat, thin glass pane with a frosted image. Design by J. Pesničák, variously referred to as ‘nude in fountain’/‘naked fountain’/etc. Also found another angle of a clear glass version on realorrepro.
We've all seen fans who sand off their blorbo's edges so they can pretend they are 100% fluffy and unproblematic but I've run into the opposite a few times: people who are so obsessed with the idea of their fave being a toxic, unlikeable asshole that they ignore or downplay their blorbo's canon relationships (romantic or otherwise) and insist that every moment of them being somewhat nice is ooc writing.
Mischaracterization is annoying either way and there are plenty of actual toxic, lonely jerks with no character development that you could obsess over instead.
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One of my biggest literary pet peeves is when historical or history-inspired fiction pretends that "courting" is a synonym for "dating". Usually it's just a one-to-one word swap--in a modern context, these characters would be dating, but this is olden times, so they call it courting instead. Sometimes they'll pretend there's a shade of difference, and that courting is a more serious exploration of marriage or something. But I read a lot of fiction that was actually written during these historical eras, and the word "courting" is never used like that.
Two people do not decide that they are "courting". One person decides to "court" someone else. It's an action, not a stage in the relationship. A man decides to court a woman because he wants to encourage her to have romantic interest in him. He's trying to win her favor. It's not an exclusive relationship--a woman could be courted by multiple men at once. She'll spend time getting to know the guy who's interested in her, but they won't officially define their relationship as one where they only show romantic interest in each other. If they reach a point where they want it to be exclusive, that's when you propose.
There's no middle ground--either you're getting to know each other, or you're committed to marrying each other. This idea of a period where you kind of commit to each other until you decide you definitely want to get married is a modern one, and it occurs in eras where they use the word "dating" to describe it. The closest equivalent I can think of are times and places where they'd talk about a couple "stepping out together", but they're still not calling it "courting". Words have meaning, and the word "courting" has never meant that, so stop using it that way!
the other mild historical disjoint i run into is when people talk about dating in the fifties like it automatically meant exclusivity. the whole reason we have the expression "going steady" is because the default was to or "go around with" or "go out with" multiple people. not in the sense of being in a stable polyamorous vee, but in the sense that archie is actively "seeing" both betty and veronica during the entire time the two girls are competing for his attention and they're both seeing other guys to make him jealous, and nobody involved considers this "cheating."
bizarrely, America has in many ways gotten more conservative about dating since World War II.
I ran into a truly wild cultural misunderstanding with my father some years ago, when I had to explain to him what “hookup culture” actually was, and that the thing he assumed it was was actually what we call “cruising culture”. His response was “how is that different from dating?” and when I explained how it was different, he said, and please note that this a direct quote: “That’s ridiculous! You can’t expect a woman to stop fooling around with other guys for anything less than a marriage proposal. I mean, she’s not a prostitute, you can’t buy her.” Now obviously there’s like… a lot to unpack there, but I think it’s pretty darn illustrative of a substantive cultural shift around the assumption of monogamy!
Also, following this, I asked my mom what her thoughts were on the matter, and she said that while she “wouldn’t put it in those terms” she broadly agreed, and thought that anyone expecting any sort of exclusivity when a marriage proposal wasn’t at least on the very immanent horizon was “nuts, honestly.” I hesitantly asked if she was including relationships with premarital sexual activity in that, and her response was “Of course. I mean, gosh, you know your Aunt Terri used to have a guy for every day of the week before she finally settled down.”
And this was when I learned, to my shock, that the oft-repeated story of how “Aunt Terri used to have a guy for every day of the week” didn’t just mean “Aunt Terri had a full dance card” but rather meant that Aunt Terri had a period of her life where she literally dated exactly seven guys at once, all of whom she was sleeping with (or, my mom was quick to disclaim, “well, fooling around with, I don’t know how far she actually went with any of them, but they were definitely all fooling around behind closed doors”), on a literal weekly rotation. Like, they had a schedule. A schedule that all seven of the guys knew.
America has gotten a lot more conservative about dating, actually.
I bit my fork. :(
I get night sweats, and sometimes they impact my dreams. Like last night, when I dreamt I tripped into a pool. Or the other night when I dreamt about being stuck outside in the rain. Or a couple months ago, when I dreamt that somebody had stuck me in a wet sack that I couldn’t escape. (…I got tangled in my sweat-soaked top sheet.)
Does this happen to anyone else? Anyone at all?
just because you havent seen me post about The Character in a while doesn't mean i'm any less insane about them in private
The idea that stimulant medication is not addictive to people with ADHD is common in the ADHD community but it is, and I cannot stress this enough, NOT TRUE and I need you guys to stop putting that post on my fucking dash.
I take a stimulant medication for my ADHD. It works fine for me, I am not physically dependent on it, and I don't misuse it, and this is true for most people who take this medication. That doesn't mean the potential isn't there, and that doesn't mean I think it's not worth it to take it. Most people take ADHD meds and do just fine. This is the truth for pretty much any medications with addiction potential.
I just think it is irresponsible as fuck to tell people Actually you're fine and don't have to worry about this, and people are mean for trying to tell you to be careful
Hey, tumblr, why did this app update switch the reply keyboard to the email address keyboard. The one without commas or semicolons. The normal keyboard is still here for posts. How did you do this.