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Top 5 Ways to be an LGBTQIA+ Ally Now That “No Gays Allowed” Mike Pence is Trump’s VP pick:

#1: Register and vote

#2: Register and vote

It’s not just the presidential race - 88% OF CONGRESS IS UP FOR RE-ELECTION. GUESS WHO IS PASSING ALL THE ANTI-LGBTQIA+ AND ANTI-ABORTION LAWS?!?

#3: Register and vote

NEVER FORGET THAT IF PRESIDENT OBAMA HADN’T PUT JUSTICES ELENA KAGAN AND SONIA SOTOMAYOR ON THE BENCH, WE WOULD NOT BE CELEBRATING LEGAL GAY MARRIAGE TODAY. THE SPLIT OF THE VOTE WAS 5/4.

#4: Register and vote

Please share this simple #1-2-3 with anyone who says “voting doesn’t matter”

#5: Register and vote

TL;DR VERSION:

1. THIS IS NOT A F’ING DRILL.

2. YES VOTING MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE

3. U.S. READERS REGISTER TO VOTE HERE AND PLEASE SHARE!

grandmatrasha

As a long-time Indiana resident, it should say something that so many other people that live in Indiana are happy about Pence becoming Trump’s running candidate only because that means he can no longer be our governor.

He’s had so much of a negative impact on Indiana’s education, culture, and how we all work together.

Pence has already tried to ruin our state. Don’t let him ruin the entire country.

Can we have a moratorium on companies using the phrase “I have a dream” to describe their sales? Cause that’s just disgusting.

#mlk #fuck capitalism #show some respect

Having a cat that likes to hide behind the shower curtain and lunge out at you makes going to the bathroom a lot more interesting.

#personal #cats #my life

thatdiabolicalfeminist

RE: Not hitting a child, I've had those methods used on me and I think that there are situations where it's completely understandable to show anger or smack a child lightly, like there's a lesson to be learnt from breaking a toy but you can exactly go "don't run into the road again because you might be too dead to do so next time."

I know firstand how terrifying that particular example is, but there’s still literally no excuse for you to physically hit a child.

If the child’s literally not able to understand you telling them not to pull away and run into the street, it’s probably wise to carry them or hold their hand or find some other solution so they can’t get away into the street. The solution is still not hurting them. They won’t understand your explanation better if you hurt them.

There are a million ways to enforce that an idea is important to a little kid, including repetition, practice, tone, etc. If the only way you can think to teach a child not to cross the street is to hurt them, maybe you shouldn’t be caring for children, because millions manage to teach their children that lesson nonabusively and anyone caring for a child should be competent enough to do the same.

nobodysgrrrrl

“Here’s a breakdown of what science has to say:

Physical punishment makes kids more aggressive. Researchers from Tulane University found that children who are spanked frequently at age 3 are more likely to show aggressive behavior by the time they’re 5 than kids who are not.

Physical punishment doesn’t actually work (even if it appears to). Yes, spanking may stop problematic behavior, says Sandra Graham-Bermann, Ph.D., a psychology professor and principal investigator for the Child Violence and Trauma Laboratory at the University of Michigan, but that’s because the child is afraid. In the long term, physical punishment will only make kids’ behavior worse.

Reporting on several studies on the topic for CNN, Sarah Kovac wrote, “The sad irony is that the more you physically punish your kids for their lack of self-control, the less they have. They learn how to be controlled by external forces (parents, teachers, bosses), but when the boss isn’t looking, then what?”

Physical punishment encourages kids to continue the cycle of abuse. A 2011 study published in Child Abuse and Neglect confirmed that physical punishment is cyclical – children who are hit are more likely to use the action to solve problems with their peers and siblings.

Later on, they’re at a higher risk for delinquency and criminal behavior, according to a 2013 article, “Spanking and Child Development: We Know Enough Now to Stop Hitting Our Children,” also by Gershoff.

The negative effects of physical punishment are colossal, well into adulthood. A 2012 study published in the journal Pediatrics found that “harsh physical punishment was associated with increased odds of mood disorders, anxiety disorders, alcohol and drug abuse/dependence, and several personality disorders.”

A review published in the Canadian Medical Association Journal that same year analyzed 20 years of data and came to similar conclusions regarding those risks – and also found that spanking yields no positive outcome.

Spanking actually alters kids’ brains. A 2009 study concluded that children who were frequently spanked (defined as at least once a month for more than three years) “had less gray matter in certain areas of the prefrontal cortex that have been linked to depression, addiction and other mental health disorders.”

According to CNN, another study – also looking at how corporal punishment affects the brain – found that children who receive it have a decrease in cognitive ability, compared with other kids.

The bottom line: Stacy Drury, a professor of psychiatry and behavioral science at Tulane University, told the New Republic, “The goal of discipline, which actually comes from the Latin root meaning ‘to teach,’ is to change behavior. And physical discipline across many, many, many studies is ineffective at changing behavior and it’s ineffective for many reasons … corporal punishment actually teaches children is that aggression is an acceptable method of problem solving.” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/18/adrian-peterson-corporal-punishment-science_n_5831962.html

downpour-of-shelter

A quote from the book I’m currently reading, “All About Love,” by bell hooks, which I think is relevant :

“A young professional, the mother of a small boy, bragged about the fact that she did not hit, that when her son misbehaved she clamped down on his flesh, pinching him until he got the message. But this, too, is a coercive form of abuse.

[…]

Later, with other people, I suggested that had we all been listening to a man tell us that every time his wife or girlfriend does something he does not like he just clamps down on her flesh, pinching her as hard as he can, everyone would have been appalled. They would have seen the action as both coercive and abusive. Yet they could not acknowledge that it was wrong for an adult to hurt a child this way.”

I used to be really ambivalent about calling spanking “abuse” because it just seemed too harsh, and hey, I was spanked as kid, and I’m fine (relatively speaking, anyhow). But the way bell hooks describes really puts it into perspective - we would never accept “they were doing x which bothers me so I hit them” as a worthy excuse from an adult who had physically assaulted their spouse. Why is it different when we’re speaking of children? As far as I can tell, it’s because people still believe that children are the personal property of their parental figures and are not deserving of rights or respect. Which is….fucked, if I do say so myself.

#tw: abuse

physiologyfan-deactivated201801

don’t you miss the days when we didn’t have to be so politically correct all the time?

theists-deactivated20170714

why is this so hard to understand

troyes-lip-ring

Visit Original Link

ayetroyler

I AM FUKCING LOSING MY MIND

5sos-au-imagines

THIS IS THE BEST OMG

sm-dc

@kiokushitaka I’M ABOUT TO PISS

theseerasures

I would like to hear the story of how you slept under the christmas tree

so i immigrated to the US at age 9, right, and one of the first things my family did was join the local Chinese church. as far as the whole “figuring out how to do things so we no longer have to live in the back shed of Uncle Joe’s* Magic Emporium” thing goes, it’s a pretty sound strategy! now we had people to teach my dad how to drive and give us old furniture and say “hey, Seattle is pretty rainy maybe you should rent an apartment-like space before either a) the shed roof caves in b) your daughter with the famously delicate constitution falls dramatically ill from a strain of black mold or possibly herpes”

*is not my uncle, that’s what his store was called. he sold magic gadgets and my dad knew him because???? possibly in a past life they ran a meth empire in Albuquerque, who knows

ANYWAY. thanks to the church i did not fall dramatically ill from black mold or possibly herpes, but there was an unforeseen factor in joining a Christian church, which was that they? were pretty hardcore? about Jesus?**

**in a nice “we build houses for the homeless” way, not in…the other way

given that we’d just immigrated and that China’s religious policy is worshiping Mao’s preserved corpse ehhhhh…let’s call it “freedom of atheism,” my family was decidedly not hardcore about Jesus. my parents mostly took the bemused “i guess Jesus is okay since he indirectly led to us living in a place suited for human habitation” route, but i

was

DISGUSTED.

i was the first kid in my class to get her red scarf, okay, and when we sang the national anthem and saluted the flag every morning i fucking meant what i was singing. we almost didn’t come to America; my dad had more lucrative job offers in Germany and Belgium, but i put my foot down because everyone knows Europe is full of gross imperialists Dad, GOSH, and the Americans helped us fight off the Japanese.

so seeing all these fellow Chinese believing in THE CAPITALIST GOD was basically the worst thing to ever happen to my delicate psyche. my parents’ tacit approval was even worse: DID PATRIOTISM AND COMMUNISM MEAN NOTHING TO THEM? DIDN’T THEY KNOW THAT DOING NOTHING AGAINST OPPRESSION MADE THEM OPPRESSORS THEMSELVES??

clearly something needed to be done.

so because the church was pretty hardcore about Jesus, it was understandably also hardcore about Christmas. big party, massive intricately decorated REAL TREE, sleepover for the kids with presents in the morning—you name it. everyone was going to be there.

WHAT A GREAT OPPORTUNITY TO PROVE TO EVERYONE HOW WRONG THEY ARE ABOUT JESUS.

my plan:

sleep UNDER the giant real Christmas tree: y’know, the one with real pointy needles reaching all the way down to the base? that sheds? with lots of pokey tinsel?

catch Jesus in the act of depositing presents***: look. i’d seen like, ALL of Scooby Doo by this point. i knew Jesus was probably a real person, just not the Son of God.

subdue Jesus so he’s still around when everyone else wakes up: CLEARLY VERY FEASIBLE, given that Jesus was a heavyset white dude who used superhuman agility and strength to deliver presents around the world overnight and possibly had reindeer minions and i weighed 70 pounds at most while sopping wet.

(who is Santa Claus?? who cares)

????

EVERYONE MAGICALLY BECOMES AN ATHEIST AGAIN, AMERICA BECOMES A COMMUNIST STATE

***even if i didn’t believe in him, why was i slavishly devoted stopping a highly altruistic man who gave? people? presents? did i hate joy????

sure enough, at around 3 in the morning i heard soft boots approaching the tree. i reached out and snatched one of the Ankles of Jesus

—whereupon Youth Pastor Liao screamed “OH MY LORD” and kicked me in the face.

and THAT, dear friends, is how i spent my first Christmas in America with a concussion.

waffleguppies

I think this is the greatest Christmas story ever told

pilgrimkitty

This is the most beautiful story I’ve ever read.

teal-deer

oh my god

I need a film about this

Tiny communist patriot attempts to defeat GOD OF CAPITALISM

curaete

queerlove

reblog the gay frog in 30 seconds and you will meet the gay love of your life

warriorsdebt

Stop denying het-partnered bi/pan people their queer identity 2k15

warriorsdebt

Well we didn’t manage it so let’s try again: stop denying bi/pan people in different-gender relationships their identities 2k16

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aurevoir-mes-amis-deactivated20

why are people even questioning obesity in america

merlinsbearditsthedoctor

why is your tea liquidised?

american-auror-story

….. Where exactly do you live that the tea isn’t liquid?!?

merlinsbearditsthedoctor

ENGLAND. WHERE IT IS IN A BAG AND YOU MAKE IT YOURSELF.

like what do you do with already liquid tea? Microwave it?

asmallvillageincanada

No it’s sweet tea you drink it cold

abbysrwk-deactivated20140508

WHO DRINKS COLD TEA???

randomthingieshere

HAVE YOU NEVER HAD ICED/SWEET TEA BEFORE?!?

prouwu-deactivated20190721

so i reblogged this from a british person and i’ve been laughing at their tags for 600 years

cloudyobsession

England, you stole tea from China. You’ve had it a mere 4 centuries compared to their 30+. Don’t play like you’re some kind of authority.

starkinglyhandsome-deactivated2

[skeletons ooh-ing]

saveoursestras

Shots fired. World War Tea has officially begun.

myfriendscallmemaury

#INTO THE HARBOR

theanimangagirl

prettyboyshyflizzy

Englad doesn’t own anything

dad-monster-deactivated20171222

except that time we owned most of the world

dangerbooze

#gif

thecommonchick

college is like when you go from 1st place to 11th in mario kart because you slipped on your own banana

animatedtext

#this is relevant to my interests

terrist

white a nater

Bisexual

christmas eve what about christmas adam

qoti

happy christmas adam to all men’s rights activists

forfuturereferenceonly

Please stop pestering us with things like this. This has nothing to do with men fighting for their rights. Eve is short for ‘evening’. Please don’t turn activism into a joke. Thanks.