cult survivor vibes

is this what the kids call a recovery blog? he/they, adult years old

[cultsrbad]

So like we got pulled from the racists to do work up north bc executive decisions have been made unrelated to the racists

[mimozka-deactivated20220128]

27 January: International Holocaust Remembrance Day

On this day we honour and remember the approximately 22 million innocent souls who fell victims to hate racism and prejudice crimes, nearly 7.5 million of which were slaughtered for being who they were.

6 million Jews (1.5 million of which were children)

1.5 million Romani

270 000 People with disabilities (be it physical or mental)

55 000 gay people (approximately)

14 million civilians, caught in the crossfire, famine and ugliness of war from all over Europe.

This day is an important reminder of what once was and what should never be again.

May their rest be more peaceful than their life and may their memory be a blessing.

Never Forget.

[capsfromtrek]

[iamsojanegay]

can u believe we all fucking love THIS ^^^ show

[reginaldqueribundus]

“Damn it Jim, he nearly sliced your tits off!”

“I know, Bones, and is it weird that I found it kind of hot?”

[creamysacrilege]

is.

is this real?

[reginaldqueribundus]

The screenshot is, the caption is not. In the actual episode it was more like “hey our closest friend is gonna die if he doesn’t fuck and since he can’t do that why don’t you slip me a shit ton of morphine so he can strangle me to death which is the next best thing”

His titties got cut in an extremely horny death battle with said friend on a planet of grumpy elves who have elaborate rituals for everything including fucking (especially fucking).

[creamysacrilege]

[reginaldqueribundus]

another satisfied customer

[cat-n-claw-deactivated20210109]

I have questions… Why couldn’t that friend (Spock?) fuck? And why is strangling someone to death the next best thing???

[reginaldqueribundus]

Because Spock was trapped in a shitty arranged marriage to some lady who didn’t want to marry him either so she invoked the ancient rite of death battles and made him fight Kirk and it was the Sixties so they wouldn’t let him actually fuck Kirk onscreen so strangling was the next best thing no kink shaming

[savorybreakfasts]

I still can’t believe that it’s canon that Spock had to fuck or die, rolled around with Kirk, and then no longer had the issue because he’d basically fucked Kirk. This is canon. It’s literally Star Trek canon that rolling around in the dirt with Jim Kirk was as satisfying for Spock as fucking would have been.

[iriswallpaper]

I can’t believe that no one has mentioned that this scene was The Birth of Slash.

[cultsrbad]

Yo so that sponsoring organization?

Racist.

Sexist.

At least the people I've met.

All very 1950s, which makes construction work difficult for a group of mostly queer, half read as female, largely neurodivergent and one physically disabled, half poc (1.5/4 white passing) including a black leader, mostly leftist group of early Gen Z and one millenial workers.

[rayinberkeley]

These exchanges between a bigot named Brendan Sullivan, and a heroic troll named Robert Graves, will be the best thing you read all day, I promise.

[r4tjam]

crying

[im-a-dragon-cawcaw]

“Remember Brendan, if you block me, the terrorists win.”

[cultsrbad]

So like

I'm in a national service thing right

We travel around the US to do service switching between nonprofits every month

Sometimes these are religious organizations

I did things with a catholic group last project, which was fine because I have positive memories at catholic schools

But now it's an openly anti-gay baptist organization, and I am TERRIFIED

Too many bad memories

[rosebud-wizard]

its fun to enjoy things

[if-i-was-a-wyrm]

this is a joke but in jewish lore angels are jealous of humans for our ability to create

[decodering]

Redditors design worst volume sliders possible

Some of these are genius! ( see reddit / via )

[decodering]

Well, this post went a bit nuts.

[xxxtictacion]

That last one honestly belongs in hell

[official-lucifers-child]

ALL OF THESE HAVE ME WHEEZING AND CACKLING SO MUCH

[ha-nice-joke]

All found in the comments but not found in master post, you’re welcome :).

[nitro-nova-deactivated20180206]

A new religious statue in the town of Davidson, N.C., is unlike anything you might see in church.

The statue depicts Jesus as a vagrant sleeping on a park bench. St. Alban’s Episcopal Church installed the homeless Jesus statue on its property in the middle of an upscale neighborhood filled with well-kept townhomes.

Jesus is huddled under a blanket with his face and hands obscured; only the crucifixion wounds on his uncovered feet give him away.

The reaction was immediate. Some loved it; some didn’t.

“One woman from the neighborhood actually called police the first time she drove by,” says David Boraks, editor of DavidsonNews.net. “She thought it was an actual homeless person.”

That’s right. Somebody called the cops on Jesus.

[xekstrin]

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Since you have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, you have done it unto me.

[fucking-meatball]

“Why are you in Hell?” “I called the cops on Jesus.”

[cultsrbad]

Probably pretty accurate tbh, the dude traveled a lot and often relied on the hospitality of friends and strangers if I remember right

[cultsrbad]

POOR DECISION CENTRAL

Me, upon watching Henry Gamble's Birthday Party:

Weirdly nauseous

What emotion??? Is this?

Much of the setting was very familiar

Am I?? Sad?? Conflicted?? What is This

D i s s o c i a t e

Is this what people mean when they talk about triggers that cause a response other than immediate panic attack

Externally, I'm staring at the ceiling. Internally, imagine a child throwing a tantrum in the middle of totally empty walmart

I want Something but am unsure what

All the internalized phobias but not in the "not being cishet is bad" way just in the "I wish I was cishet so I could experience the cishet flavored religious trauma instead of the queer one" which makes no sense bc trauma is trauma?? Bruh

I remembered some things and forgot other things

Craving and hating the religious aesthetic all at once rn

I need to obtain some Coping Mechanisms that double as Self Expression I think

That movie thought a lot more about actual sexual acts than I think I ever did lol can't relate there

Yk the stereotypical "judgy older church lady" judging kids for random actions like not dressing modestly enough or listening to rock or whatever trope? Strange desire to gain the verbal approval of said type of person for the rules I still follow

🌟religious feelings bc I still don't know the particulars of what I believe or what to call what I do know🌟

Aaaaaaaaaaaaa

[portraitoftheoddity]

Sex stuff you probably won’t learn from fanfiction and/or porn:

Erotic fic and porn can be a lot of fun! But if you aren’t being provided with adequate sex ed through other channels (comprehensive sexual education, frank and open discussions with trusted adults, etc.), turning to fanfic and porn for your understanding of sex is gonna leave some major blindspots and may leave you with some unrealistic expectations. While there’s nothing wrong with these kinds of erotica, they are fictional and tend to leave out a lot of the more realistic, human parts of sex - they serve a great purpose, but that purpose isn’t primarily educational. The following is an incomplete list of some things you should probably know about sex that a lot of fic and porn tends to leave out:

It isn’t always super hot or super sweet. Sometimes it’s super silly. Or sometimes it’s sort of mundane and you’re both simply scratching an itch. That’s fine too. (Hell, sometimes you’re talking about comic books while boning and your partner is laughing that you’re getting REALLY ANGRY about spider-man while they’re going to town on you.)

You will probably not climax at the same moment. It’s a sweet idea, but extremely hard to coordinate, and if all your concentration is going into coming at the exact same moment, you’re probably not enjoying yourselves as much as you might. 

Sometimes bodies make weird, goofy noises. Squelching, slapping, air-escaping, un-sexy noises. It’s okay to laugh at this. 

Hell, it’s okay to laugh during sex in general.

Sometimes you fart. Sometimes you fart while someone is going down on you and it is embarrassing as hell. This isn’t the end of the world. Embarrassing body things happen. Heck, sometimes, with anal, there’s a little poo. You get over it.

Sometimes sex is… kinda bad? This doesn’t mean it’s assault, or something traumatic – sometimes it’s consensual but just kinda bleh and not what you hoped for. The best thing to do (if you’re talking about sex with a partner and not just a hook up who you can not call back) is talk to them about it. Figure out what went wrong, what you enjoy and what you don’t, and communicate what techniques you do and don’t like. Also don’t be afraid to stop someone in the middle of the sex act you’re not enjoying and offer guidance on how to help make it good for you too. (Side tip: masturbation makes great research into what you personally do and don’t enjoy sexually)

You won’t enjoy every sex act. Not every body is wired to find every thing pleasurable. You might find anal does nothing for you. You may find g-spot stimulation just makes you really anxious that you’re about to pee. You may not enjoy giving or receiving oral. You’re not broken if you don’t like something that every pornstar or smutty fanfic protagonist seems to have earth-shattering orgasms from. Everyone’s got nerve endings in a range of places – it’s quite literally, different strokes for different folks.

On that note, not all orgasms are earth-shattering. Sometimes it just feels warm and nice. That’s fine too. 

Sometimes, if you’re neutral on a sex act and your partner loves it, you can suck it up for them, and they’ll suck up something they’re not crazy about for your pleasure in return. But communicate preferences with each other! Know that when a partner does that thing you love that they don’t get much from, that it’s an act of care, and vice versa. 

Falling asleep in each other’s arms right after wild passionate sex seems really romantic, but dried and crusty fluids are gonna be a bitch in the morning. Also, after sex, you should both (regardless of your equipment) go pee to clear out the urethra of any gunk or bacteria to reduce risk of a UTI. 

Putting a towel down on the bed before sex means you don’t have to sleep on wet funky sheets. (it’s also verrrrrry useful for period sex if you or your partner menstruate.)

A lot of people don’t like dirty talk, or rough sex. Always ask first. (Fanfic on the whole does a better job than porn at showing communication, but a lot of it is still highly fictive on this point)

PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION. Use condoms, dental dams, etc. not just to prevent pregnancy, but to reduce risk of STIs. (Yes, even couples with the same genitals who don’t need to worry about pregnancy).

Lube is great and very important, but random goopy things around you are not good lube. Random oils especially, since oil doesn’t flush out well and can trap bacteria inside the body – oil-based lubricant also degrades condoms. Use lube specifically designed for intimate purposes. Water-based and silicone-based lubes help sex feel really good!

Bigger isn’t necessarily better. A lot of people with vaginas don’t enjoy the feeling of being repeatedly punched in the cervix by a monster cock. Some people enjoy a larger size when being penetrated by an appendage or toy and some don’t.

Bodies are hairy. Genitals are hairy. You may get a pube stuck in your teeth at some point. If your partner is WAY fuzzier than porn ever led you to believe they’d be, well, that’s normal. 

Not everyone loves the taste of ejaculate. Sometimes it’s nasty (flavor tends to vary from person to person depending on their diet, but sometimes you just really don’t like it no matter what. Some of us hate the taste of peanut butter. People don’t always like things). It’s okay not to swallow, or to request a penis-having partner warn you so they don’t ejaculate in your mouth (in fact, it’s polite for them to do the latter). 

If you’re gonna have shower sex, get one of those rubbery mats for the shower floor that gives you traction, because otherwise it’s super embarrassing to call for an ambulance while dripping wet and naked because you slipped and accidentally broke something and your partner got a concussion while you were trying to bang in the shower. 

Moaning and screaming wildly during sex is fun but it will make the neighbors in the apartments adjacent to you hate you. Make choices accordingly. 

[marithlizard]

This is all excellent advice. I could throw in a couple more:

Keep reading

[mierac]

Good advice. Also:

Muscle cramps happen. If you’re in a weird position, your body may decide to object. Pillows for support can be wonderful things. 

Anyone who finds towels aren’t enough, they make waterproof pillowcases you can get for like $10. Fold a bath sheet in half, slide the pillowcase in between the layers. 

Related, there is no such thing as too much lube. (I wish fanfic writers would depict using lube more often, and I am looking at myself in the mirror on this one.)

[dirtythingsthatturnmeonposts]

An absolute must read, ladies and gents!

[follow-25303-deactivated2022081]

I’ve been wanting to write something like this for a long time because I don’t want anyone thinking that I think sex is perfect, but 100% to this because sex is not perfect all the time like I depict it because it can be messy and complicated so please don’t expect sex to go like it does in books and porn because more times than not it doesn’t.

[queenjulia24]

HOLD UP HOW WAS I NOT AWARE OF THIS

[lichpire]

was gonna leave my comment in the tags but tbh i’m silent enough about this as it is.

seeing stuff like this is so upsetting because these terms were well known and widespread in the ace community but because of exclusionists many people stopped using terms like this because they felt uncomfortable and unsafe.

i loved these terms when i was in highschool, i loved the feeling of community, but i lost that because i didn’t feel comfortable openly and proudly calling myself asexual.

they’ve hurt so many people and damaged our community badly and i will never forgive them for that. we deserve to use our own terminology and feel safe within our community.

[running-batty]

Yeah the ace community has so much. We were told to stay of the lgbt and make our own group, so we did. And it was glorious! Full of fun, great advice and useful terms likes these.

Then the terms, exculsionists and other bigots realized we had a strong community without them where were felt normal and they couldn't deal with that.

So they dozed people, sent death threats, filled our tags with vivid images of gore, animal abuse, child abuse, porn and even child porn.

They stalked us and screamed at us claiming we weren't victims that any abuse we may have faced was actually "misplaced homophobia" and then proceeded to repeatedly abuse us while gaslighting us all. People were attacked in real life.

Most people stopped talking about thier asexuality. Many left the site permanently. The community was destroyed and then they went back to talking about how we were just trying to be special straight people. Mocking us after doing thier damned best to snuff us out.

And now they point to our destroyed communities as "proof" that it was a fad and that we are all ether represed guys or straight homophobes.

Its infuriating. And worse, there are young aces being fed those lines of being broken, selfish and disgusting all over again.

[imfemalewarrior]

Yup

Sometimes I wonder if they pushed us to make our own community so we would be easier targets

Now they act like it didn't happen and we shouldn't be angry with them for it

No, you destroyed my community. You bullied our members into suicide, into the closet, and offline. We're still in shambles from everything you did to us.

But we're still here. We survived despite your best efforts.

To any young aces who figured stuff out in recent years: there's ppl like me who started identifying as ace before all this went down. We can tell you what it was like and what our language is. All you have to do is ask.

-FemaleWarrior

[lil-lycanthropy]

I usually talk in the tags but I do just want to add:

I saw this post (just the OP) and I was so surprised honestly when I first saw it. I was like, “yeah, people used the card suits for their identities. It was a really big thing not too long ago and a cool way to identify yourself because aspec identities can vary.”

And then I did remember what happened with all the ace “discourse” which was outright bullying and bigotry. I used to identify as ace and aro (now ace lesbian but anyway) and I legit wanted a small ace of spades tattoo to represent that.

And it partially faded from my plans as I’ve discovered myself differently and it just didn’t suit my taste, but also because it was such a shameful and “cringe” thing. The amount of hatred people have for ace folks is why I’m still so reluctant to acknowledge the ace part of my identity, much less explore it. If you want to talk about an entire group within a community that was completely obliterated due to both external and internal bigotry, talk to any ace people. If you can find them. Because many of us are back in the closet.

My ace identity in the past was way more a target of bigotry than me being non-binary and/or lesbian. I hardly even mention it to anyone because I’m so worried about reaction. The GSA at my high school fell apart due to aphobia from one or more of the “leaders”.

Almost every aspect of the ace community was under intense scrutiny. We used to loudly and proudly share awful (read: well thought out and clever) puns and we had learned to value relationships outside of sex. We had rings, we had flags that were on pins and everywhere. We saw ourselves in so many characters.

And now? I see a post about asexuality once in a blue moon. And it is entirely. 100%. Completely. Due to “LGBT ONLY” “You’re just straight!” “Queer is a slur!” “You don’t face REAL oppression” exclusionists WITHIN the LGBTQ+ community.

What’s awful is that it’s such a recent thing. Ace people have always existed. Ace people have always been included in queer spaces, even though we didn’t necessarily have the language. Then the community built up, especially online (where I spent most my time). Then in 2015, exclusionists started raising their voices, and they recruited people to be bigoted within the community. 2018, I barely knew ANYONE who still openly identified as ace because they deleted their blogs or went back into the closet.

And then the community that we’ve built up has been decimated. To the point that people don’t know about the card suits and being aspec. When that was one of the things 90% of ace people used to put in their bio (♠️♣️♥️♦️).

So yeah. This post really hit me with how much we aces have been erased. Brutally. I look back on the past five years of asexual identity online and it has been shattered. I follow a lot of queer centric blogs, and I see aspec stuff once maybe every month or two because we’re still scared of the exclusionist movement.

Fuck exclusionists for forcing us into shameful silence. If you think you’re a “good lgbt” because you’ve kicked out aces and made us feel unsafe and unwelcome, then I hope you have a horrible day. I hope you see the consequences of your actions. I also hope you get hit with some lovely black ace rings, leaving scars that are not even a fraction as harmful as what we’ve had to deal with.

[imfemalewarrior]

This is exactly how I remember it going down. Thank you for speaking up about it because sometimes I wonder if what I remember happening happened because fairly often it feels like I'm the only one around from Before.

-FemaleWarrior

[cultsrbad]

Arospec aspec mlm here open to talking about the language and community before if anyone needs info!

Throwback to the cake era, if I may.

We're still here! All aspec and arospec people are valid as hell!

[exvangelical]

someone has to tell christians there is no hell in judaism so they’ll shut up about old testament biblical “villains” going to hell

[articulate-anxious-atheist-deac]

Wait, really?

[exvangelical]

i don’t think so! obviously im not an expert, but i think sheol is where all dead people go, good or bad. i’ve also read about jews who don’t believe in an afterlife period (bc judaism is an ethnicity and a religion and that makes it a looooot more diverse than christianity)

but im a gentile who is still unlearning a lot of covert antisemitism i was taught by the church, so i could be totally wrong. if i have any jewish followers who would like to chime in i’d appreciate it!!

[cultsrbad]

Ethnically Jewish with some religiously Jewish family (mostly converts on the other side interestingly enough); there's not a hell in Judaism that I know of.

[cultsrbad]

I find it important to acknowledge all of my feelings about things that happened, even if they don't help my end goal.

Like the cult.

There were a lot of bad things.

There were some good things, too. I had friends there. I liked having an answer for everything. As much as I hate it now, I LIKED the fake science they taught us; I liked creationism and feeling like WE were right. I liked the way they explained we'd bring people to God and that we were warriors, I liked impressing everyone when I memorized all of 1 Corinthians 13 and I liked reading the Bible. Hell, I thought we didn't do it enough- in hindsight, that was probably because they also added some shit that wasn't in it at all, even though it already has some seriously sus stuff in it. I liked the feeling of community.

But there are reasons I never want to see the place again, too. That trumps the good.

I still sometimes struggle with the urge to seek out similar things, though. I learned to crave the bad I related to the good; being told how to dress, making people proud over things that were wrong, the gaslighting and abuse. I definitely crave trauma bonds. I sometimes miss the feeling of people asking what had happened when something went seriously wrong and they either heard things or I was visibly messed up from it; my heart clung to that bit of comfort.

I need to keep myself in check.

[hollowboobtheory]

contrary to popular belief the most fucked up part of jesus camp is not the speaking in tongues. it’s the part where the dancer girl says “i sometimes catch myself enjoying myself when i dance and that’s something i really need to work on, because i can’t dance for myself, only god” 

like it just breaks my heart every time. there are really people who teach kids it’s sinful even to take pleasure in doing things that you’d be doing anyway, because then you’re doing it for yourself and not God

[the-transfeminine-mystique]

I’ve seen these posts saying, in the words of one of them, “If your job requires you to go against your religious beliefs then perhaps it is time to change careers?” in reference to healthcare workers and government employees who want to deny services to lgbt ppl or others whom they condemn, and i just feel like those posts don’t attempt to understand internal logics at all

like, fundamentalist christian doctors don’t deny trans people medical care because they believe that somebody should provide the care but they just don’t want to be the one to do it. they deny the care because they don’t believe the person should receive care. Their refusal to provide care isn’t just “oops you’re in the wrong field,” as if they were a person with a peanut allergy working in a peanut factory. It is an intentional and calculated part of why they are in the field in the first place — to extend religious control and condemnation to the medical realm.

the pediatrician who spent an entire consultation telling one of my friends at 16 or 17 that he would go to hell if he kept choosing to be gay wasn’t just “not cut out for the job,” he was specifically in that job in order to do that particular thing. Kim Davis didn’t deny the gay couple a marriage license because she couldn’t personally do it, she denied them a marriage license because she thought that people like them should not get marriage licenses and that a clerk should deny them and by god she was going to be that clerk

Saying “if you can’t provide services then why are you in that job!!!” to fundamentalist christians almost always misses the point — that they are in that job specifically so they can selectively deny service

[cultsrbad]

Nobody:

My poor primary care doctor, constantly getting mychart notifications that I've switched my religion on the personal information tab: