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charlie // 24 // any/all // main: 100000worms

[bippus]

lol your kinda cute Not to be too aggressive or anything but I’ll rend you limb from limb

[dogmouthhorse]

[thathousekilledmasterchauncy-de]

[json-derulo]

having the Aviation Accident Investigations Autism™️ has actually done wonders for the way I process and respond to my own fuck-ups

[json-derulo]

And I don't just mean "oh, my little work mistake is actually nothing compared to a fiery crash that kills people," either. The reason commercial flight is so many orders of magnitude safer than any other form of transportation is because after every accident and incident, an independent regulatory body investigated it with the express goal of figuring out exactly what happened, why, and how to prevent the same thing from ever happening again—not to root out which person deserved the blame or the liability.

It's a simple, shockingly effective idea. It's also worlds away from how most people approach their own mistakes and the mistakes of others.

[json-derulo]

Because it’s never just one person’s fault. And even when it is, it still isn’t. 

The sharpest, best-trained pilots make worse decisions when they're tired or sick or stressed out, so there's two of them. The most dedicated and experienced air traffic controllers garble an instruction over the radio sometimes, so pilots are trained to always repeat clearances back to catch misunderstandings quickly. The best and brightest maintenance mechanic still overlooks a screw or misconnects a wire once or twice in her career, so aircraft systems are built with two or three or four layers of redundancy, and pilots are exhaustively trained to deal with failures safely. 

Everyone eventually has a bad day. Every component breaks down. Every computer gets a bad a Windows update and spirals into a reboot doom loop. If it’s possible for one person’s mistake to domino into a mushroom cloud of a fuckup, then that task is too critical to be one person's sole responsibility. The accident sequence starts with the design of the system—so how do you improve the system to keep it from happening again?

[json-derulo]

oh yeah. The “modern commercial aviation is the safest form of transport” thing only applies to planes, btw. A helicopter is a beautiful metal horse that wants to break its legs and die so so so badly

[tetheredlamb]

[anticurses]

literally what is up with this

[ryan-sometimes]

I love how Zohran Mamdani is wearing a suit everywhere. And if he has anything else he puts it ON TOP of the suit. A basketball jersey. A high-vis vest. All worn over the suit. He’s like the mayor character in a cartoon who’s always dressed as The Mayor. If I didn’t know who he was and he biked past me in NYC I’d be like holy shit was that the mayor

[mankillercalledbunny]

Not to bring the serious to a very fun post, but this reaction is exactly what Mamdani is working for with his image, because in a very real way the most effective way for him to be The Mayor is if he looks like The Mayor.

This is a man who is VIOLENTLY aware that when it comes to conservatives, he is a Muslim first, a Brown Man second, an Immigrant third, a Socialist fourth, and a human a very distant fifth, if considered at all. He was also a young adult during the Obama Years and will have seen Republicans rip Obama to shreds for wearing a tan suit instead of a dark one and use literally ANY excuse they could to try and degrade his image.

Despite the fact that a mayor who wears a T-shirt and jeans might "seem more approachable" in the eyes of the average American, Zohran Mamdani knows that someone with his profile fundamentally cannot get away with that the way his White colleagues can. He has instead put in the effort to look professional and BE approachable, because not only does it make it easier for him to reach and represent his constituents, it forces everyone, including both his opponents and establishment Democrats, to engage with the work he is doing instead of judging his image. The fact that he is always seen in a suit and is recognisably The Mayor is, while also something he has fun with, a deliberate choice to ensure he is as inarguably A Professional Politician To Be Taken Seriously. The added humour of e.g. the hi-vis is a bonus, only achievable because he works so hard to Look Like The Mayor.

[mankillercalledbunny]

Adding these tags from @haunted-stranger-garden bc they illustrate this brilliantly

[gazehoundz]

[dailymanners]

I really try hard to make a point not to watch shorts or reels, since not only are so many of them AI slop these days, but a lot of them are just pop psychology making extraordinary claims with no backing.

Unfortunately I have given in a few times and watched some, particularly ones with titles like "Five habits that make it so nobody takes you seriously" or "Stop these three common behaviors that make others lose respect for you", and it's all just trauma responses. Textbook examples of behaviors that people do when they have C-PTSD, particularly from abuse.

There's something so sad about how people who have already endured so much continue to be punished for what they've been through.

Behaviors like over-apologizing, having difficulty asserting your boundaries, freezing, and fawning need to be recognized for what they are: trauma responses, evidence of already enduring more than anyone should ever have to. They should be met with compassion and support, not judgement, cruelty, and condemnation.

[dailymanners]

The thing I don't think people realize is that trauma responses can't just be stopped or turned off like a switch.

Trauma responses happen from months, years, sometimes decades of your brain being re-wired by a horrible situation to do what it thinks will keep you safe. That takes a lot of work, usually with the help of a professional, to un-do.

Making videos shaming people, telling people they're not worthy of being respected or taken seriously due to behaviors that a) they have little to no control over and b) are the result of their brain being completely re-wired to keep them safe in a horrible situation, is honestly just rubbing salt in an already festering wound.

[dailymanners]

If anyone wants to learn more about these kinds of trauma responses, how they happen, how they actually serve an important purpose while we're trapped in traumatic situations, and why they're so hard to just stop or change, please check out Fawning by Dr. Ingrid Clayton. As soon as I started reading it I just wanted to buy hundreds of copies to pass out to everyone I know.

I dream of a world where people who fawn aren't judged as "weak" or "pathetic" just for doing a behavior their brain was hardwired to do to keep them safe and alive in very horrible circumstances, and where they can get compassion and support instead, and I think we'd be a few steps closer to that if more people read books like this and learned about fawning as a trauma response.

Trigger warning for this book though, it does describe the kinds of abuse people went through that gave them the fawning response, and those parts of the book can be harrowing to read.

[sacred-portal]

[superchat]

there was a great study a few years that went into the whole "ppl online are bigger jerks than irl cuz theres a virtual wall and no repercussions" and the researchers were expecting to see that be the case but it turns out that people who were really angry or argumentative online were also found to just be assholes in person and people who were pretty patient and nice online were found to be patient and nice in real person as well

and it just debunked that whole cynical idea that people will naturally be mean if theres no punishment for it

[superchat]

source another source

the researchers found that being online didnt make people more hostile, but that being online allowed already hostile people to dominate forum conversations, and the less aggressive people were much less likely to reply or engage, ending in just the aggressive people bickering at eachother

[milk5-deactivated20260704]

Spent the day with regirock. He's a fantastic guy. Great sense of humor and also 200 physical defense

[anxeious]

[herrbutch]

beanie baby divorce court top image of all time

they’ve got at least 7 zebras… incredible.

[jawpeople]

[seren-starlight]

Nobody really knows what makes a person go to bed

[midnightssea]

it’s amazing how women are able to navigate crowded rooms without ever touching a palm to a man’s lower back

[quendergeer]

you'd think occasionally men would need to touch other men like this to manoeuvre them out of the way but it never happens

[luetta]

something they never told me about adulthood: mimic keys will attach themselves to your keychain in the hopes you use them and they can have sex with your keyholes

[luetta]

bro thinks it isn’t fucking obvious

[luetta]

i left my keys outside for 5 fucking minutes are you kidding me