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I absolutely blame Facebook for this shift. Words cannot describe how freaking WEIRD it was in the mid-00s when there was suddenly this popular website where you were required to use your real, brickspace name and encouraged to post photos of yourself. Every single bit of Standard Internet Safety prior to then said that you should never ever ever do either of those.

ecstasydemon

the part of adulthood that no one ever warns you about is the amount of surfaces you need to acquire to put your things and trinkets on

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hungwy

Another reason why trains would be good is that most people are not good at driving

hemipenal-system

hey if you're transfem you don't have to call yourself amab just so you know. if you're transmasc you don't have to call yourself afab. if you're nonbinary you don't need to use either. no one needs to know. thats a thing that happened to you once. you wouldn't call yourself a walmart resident because you needed pasta one time and that was the only thing open

malinaa

what if we all explode

derring-do

This very production of Orpheus & Eurydice is now available to stream, free, for the month of June.

sashimi55

Human bodies are so weird like the upper half consists of every single vital organ and the lower half is legs

dambiex

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sztupy

you can't park that there mate

#where is identifyingcarsinposts?? is that an R32?

1percentcharge

I met Alex Hirsch today and he drew a little picture in my sketchbook

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3psi-lon

i keep forgetting what the second lotr movie is called so i keep calling it the twin towers 😭😭

thcpanties

Please do not shut up about trans women's blogs being terminated disproportionately. You have to care more about speaking out against this. You have to care more about the girls that have been termed to oblivion. You have to care more about the girls that haven't come back. You have to care more about trans women.

Don't let them get away with it!

puppetattack

please dont give up after the 5th blog in a day. or the tenth. we will always love you <3 we just need it in return.

themoonandmyman

Guys. Come on now. I don’t want to make things too serious but here’s something you really have to remember:

themoonandmyman

In light of everything, I thought I’d reblog.

sergle

i’m reading why does he do that and this last part has been ON FIRE, i am hollering in my house.

sergle

while i’m talking about this book again i should mention that, since it’s an abuse resource, Why Does He Do That is available to read for free as a pdf, and i’d highly recommend it.

chatteringfox

[Alt text: Is He Doing It On Purpose?

When a client of mine tells me that he became abusive because he lost control of himself, I ask him why he didn’t do something even worse. For example, I might say, “You called her a fucking whore, you grabbed the phone out of her hand and whipped it across the room, and then you gave her a shove and she fell down. There she was at your feet, where it would have been easy to kick her in the head. Now, you have just finished telling me that you were ‘totally out of control’ at that time, but you didn’t kick her. What stopped you?” And the client can always give me a reason. Here are some common explanations:

“I wouldn’t want to cause her a serious injury.”

“I realized one of the children was watching.”

“I was afraid someone would call the police.”

“I could kill her if I did that.”

“The fight was getting loud, and I was afraid neighbors would hear.”

And the most frequent response of all:

“Jesus, I wouldn’t do that. I would never do something like that to her.”

The response that I almost never heard—I remember hearing it twice in fifteen years—was: “I don’t know.”

These ready answers strip the cover off of my clients’ loss-of-control excuse. While a man is on an abusive rampage, verbally or physically, his mind maintains awareness of a number of questions: “Am I doing something that other people could find out about, so it could make me look bad? Am I doing anything that could get me in legal trouble? Could I get hurt myself? Am I doing anything that I myself consider too cruel, gross, or violent?”

A critical insight seeped into me from working with my first few dozen clients: An abuser almost never does anything that he himself considers morally unacceptable. He may hide what he does because he thinks other people would disagree with it, but he feels justified inside. I can’t remember a client ever having said to me: “There’s no way I can defend what I did. It was just totally wrong.” He invariably has a reason that he considers good enough. In short, an abuser’s core problem is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong. /End alt text]

bookwyrm42

First link was broken for me, this one works: https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

lesbian-sweeney-todd

What you must understand is:

1. Men are systematically privileged over women.

2. Men love to take advantage of that privilege while simultaneously denying that it exists.

3. This dynamic does not change when the men and women in question are trans.

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Men get very upset when confronted with this!

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👍

megacarapa

ok so this is another long shot but a few years ago there was a twitter post (in japanese i think?) that had measurememts for how to make this book stand thing out of cardboard that you could use to double up books and use up more space on shelves

back then i made a bunch of these but by now i lost the pic and dont know how to find the original post anymore

if it comes down to it i can just take one apart and get the measurements from there but i would be very grateful if anyone happens to have the original post or something similar??

megacarapa

don't mind how long it's been since i made this post, anyway i realized that i don't even need to take one apart to get the measurements when i can literally just unfold it and refold it /FACEPALM

so anyway here is the diagram for anyone else who is interested!!

this requires pretty big carboard pieces, if you have a really big box or something you can make it from one piece, but if you don't, you can also just make each of the pieces individually and then tape them together