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Savannah // Hella Gay // Hella Taken// ENFJ

[what-a-bastard]

Accepting identities I don't understand is actually extremely easy because I just go "this isn't about me" and move on with my life unbothered by someone else's identity, it's truly that simple.

[elizabitchtaylor-deactivated202]

simply the fact that different body types for women go in and out of style throughout the decades should be enough to tell you that women’s bodies are considered consumable goods under capitalism

[itsblosseybitch]

Posters for Glass Onion: A Knives Out Mystery

I’m not sure who made these posters, but I’ll edit this post when I find that information.

[clickbeetle]

before glass onion: idk like.. do we need sequels for everything? like i’m excited for it but i just don’t see how this’ll work

after glass onion:

[wizardshark]

The thing about being James Bond for 15 years is that you kinda forget that Daniel Craig has the fucking range to be anything

[fagulously-me]

A concept/date idea:

Having a sort of sleep over date with your partners/lovers, pampering each other with face masks and/or skin care stuff, ordering pizza and/or getting a bunch of snacks from the convenience store, wearing comfy pajamas and either having a karaoke night acting like total goofs, or watching movies until you all fall asleep cuddling🥰💞

[electropylon]

introducing you to the ✨absolute premium throuple dynamic✨: two delightful gay men very much in love and their queerplatonic bisexual soulmate

[leftsidebonfire]

I totally forgot that I kept going with the throuple Prompts

Here's a small doodle of Unaek and Luffy surprising Sanji with all the love he deserves and feeding into his praise kink

[fagulously-me]

A vibe😎💞

[polybrattycrisis]

Fun aspect of polyamory nobody is talking about:

Getting to learn your different partners intimacy styles. The sweet little things like how one will shower you with a thousand sweet gentle forehead smooches but then kiss forcefully, deeply and passionately. While another is very restrained about public pda, but then kisses so gently and tenderly.

[stimman4000]

you know when you’re splitting something with someone you love and you intentionally take the smaller/otherwise worse half so they can have the better one... yeah

[authenticstains]

[cipheramnesia]

Genuine question?? Im a 19 y/o lesbian and ?? I dont find p*nis attractive does that make me a TERF?

I’m happy you sent this ask, because it’s a perfect place to talk about how someone can get hurt, feel wronged, and become susceptible to extremist recruiting.

First off, treat this as a simple yes or no question, asked with zero surrounding context, the platonic idea of penis preference if you will. “I don’t find penises attractive” is not a sentiment that makes you a TERF. You’re okay not liking them. My nonbinary wife doesn’t particularly like them, yet they are married to me (who has one) and we love each other more than anything in the world. 

In fact, in the abstract, I don’t like ‘em much either, and I own one! Ridiculous looking thing, wish I didn’t have to deal with it. A general dislike of genitals doesn’t make you a TERF… not by itself.

Now, here is where the critical thinking comes in, because if you posted something like that on Tumblr or something, it has a different context. You might not even know! It could be a totally innocent mistake, and it happens, and some women either get criticized in ways that makes them feel attacked, or actually attacked because you never know if what you post online is hitting someone on a bad day or a good day. 

The context first of all is, without any clarifying statements, saying you don’t like a genital could imply you’re reducing anyone with that particular set of genitals down to their genitals only. And it could result in either someone telling you it sounds TERFy (if they’re trying to be gentle) or calling you a TERF (if they’re out of spoons) because that’s what TERFs do. Here’s where it becomes a recruit pitch.

You say “I don’t like penises.” This doesn’t mean you’re saying you dislike trans women (not all of whom have penises anyway), but if you get the above lecture/yelling, a radfem can come along and empathetically agree how unfair it is that someone made you hurt for saying you don’t like a genital, and it’s not fair to tell a lesbian she has to sleep with a male or she’s a TERF and- OH WAIT A MINUTE!

Hold up, it looks like they were just being nice but wait wait, they just slid cozily from “it’s okay not to like a penis” to “anyone with a penis is male.” See that? Like a sleight of hand, once you’ve agreed with that premises, saying “I don’t like penises” suddenly becomes attached to “and anyone with a penis is male.”

Alright now in context, going back this kind of equivalency is so common with radfems that at this point saying you don’t like a genital is what we call a dogwhistle. It’s a phrase which is seemingly innocent, and can be innocent, which has been so widely appropriated by a hate group that it carries extra connotations in a certain context. Contexts like posting on Tumblr, which happens to have a particularly large trans population.

Now you can’t know every single dogwhistle because that’s the whole reason they exist - so normal people don’t spot someone’s bigotry and it looks like a disenfranchised group is getting angry over an innocent statement.

And lastly, which you probably already know, but generally not being interested in something doesn’t have to equate to disliking anyone with that trait, or even not being attracted to someone with that trait. I bring this up because the difference between a lesbian who just generally doesn’t like genital and a TERF is that the TERF things anyone with a penis is automatically bad and a male and probably reading this right now thinks I’m saying you have to have sex with men or like penises, somehow, despite saying exactly the opposite.

You may have a general preference, but in practice I’m sure you’ve already found a difference between “I am physically attracted to how this person looks” and “Holy shit I am in love this person is amazing and everything about them is beautiful.” If you haven’t had that experience yet, I can promise you some day you will. Not necessarily over genitals, but some day someone will come into your life and you’ll love every part of them whether or not it’s something you normally find abstractly attractive.

Keep your heart open to love, keep your mind open to constructive criticism, and you’ll never be a radfem or TERF or SWERF or whatever. That’s all.

[cipheramnesia]

Because of this post as usual. 😘

[allofthenorth]

This is such a beautifully written, gentle, educational post, and I am infinitely grateful to @cipheramnesia for taking the emotional energy to write this. Especially the part about how dog whistles, by their definition, are meant to slip by unnoticed.

[cipheramnesia]

Sometimes when I get a couple radfem notes on this I reblog it, and get a larger volume of kind notes. I take this as a sign that on balance the world is kind.

[incorrectstudygroup]

[in the groupchat]

Troy: ahdhjfghjahj

Pierce: What is that?

Annie: It’s a keyboard smash.

Pierce: How do I do it?

Troy: Just press anything.

Pierce: 7

[showerthoughtsofficial]

Pinnocchio could tell us so much about the universe. He could randomly claim things like, “The Big Bang happened,” and his nose would confirm or deny our theories.

[shittyneet]

Pinocchio’s not omniscient, you stupid fucking redditors, his nose grows when he’s intentionally being dishonest.

[exeunt-pursued-by-a-bear]

things heating up in the pinocchio fandom

[retrogamingblog2]

Steven Universe Gem Nintendo Switch Pins made by Desnaa

[jayadan-deactivated20240228]

This is my favorite form of entertainment.

[wcreaf]

Sequel:

[beccaland]

Geek gatekeeping is a deadly occupation, and NOBODY has to do it.

Learn from the examples of the fallen, fellow nerds. Don’t be that guy.

[greenbeansinamug]

oh shit mr gaiman straight up murdered the person

[doctorthasmin-deactivated202410]

This still makes me giggle 😂

[injuries-in-dust]

This is right up there with those screenshots of a person mansplaning comic books to Gail Simmone,

[finnglas]

Sometimes you murder people on the internet.

Sometimes they run into your knife six times.

[randomslasher]

[randomslasher]

Oh God I keep finding more

[hypdom-deactivated20210221]

Oh this thread…. This thread… So good…

[hound-of-ulster]

[jabberwockypie]

Area Man Experiences Consequences, Whines About It

[unashamedly-enthusiastic]

If you're in the notes thinking this is really only about little origami stars

[jabberwockypie]

Red flags such as:

- Dismissing his girlfriend’s hobbies and interests.

- Talking her out of buying fancy paper because HE doesn’t think it’s important. (Why does it matter if she spends her money on something she likes for her hobbies?)

- Destroying a thing his girlfriend made, repeatedly

- Disregarding when she asked him to stop, because he just couldn’t help himself.

- Ignoring that this thing he’s doing clearly upsets his girlfriend

- Lying to her repeatedly

- That whole mess of homophobic nonsense in the update, and acting like he’s the victim when he actually experiences consequences.

Classic DARVO response (Deny, Attack, Reverse the roles of Victim and Offender).

- First he says it wasn’t him, must have been her roommates destroying her things.

-It’s not a big deal, they’re just little paper stars, why are you making such a big deal about this? It doesn’t matter.

- Trying to guilt-trip her about how she could have seriously damaged his computer with that glitter!  Why is everyone being so MEAN telling him he’s the asshole? And how dare she date someone else! Can’t you see how unfair and TERRIBLE she’s being to him? And he’s ALL ALONE for Thanksgiving because she’s just being so UNREASONABLE. (Totally ignoring that these things are all consequences of his actions.)

Reminder: You can break up with someone for ANY REASON. Even if it’s “not a big deal” - if they’re not respecting you, your belongings, or your boundaries, that is TOTALLY a valid reason to break up with somebody or end a friendship.