WHAT UP FAM

Hi, My name is Jay. I'm a 20 year old bi-asexual she/he that's autistic and suffers from mental illness ,but that can't stop this chaotic mess. I love video games, drawing, reading, and baking. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here for you. Have a great day! Also, I know my username is weird.

[sevdahalma]

when I say “Let me ask my husband”, one (or both) of these things is taking place:

1. I am in a loving, happy relationship where we value and respect each other’s opinion

2. I am using this as an excuse to get out of something I don’t want to do (sorry habibi)

what is not happening here: I am being oppressed

[oatmonger-deactivated20260529]

3. Brother I Have No Idea What Is Happening Let Me Consult My Trusted Advisor

[ocdwaffles]

One day I shall be that trusted advisor

"My liege you cannot attend that gathering, you have promised that evening to rituals of appeasement" (you promised you would rest and take some time just for yourself)

"My liege, there are worrying rumors about their trust and capability" (Last time they tried to plan something, it fell apart and you had to plan it last minute)

"My liege, you MUST attend to maintain diplomatic standing!" (You haven't seen your friends in a month and are saying you miss them every day, SAY YOU WILL GO)

[sevdahalma]

You know, I made this post with a very specific context (how people see me, a married muslim lady in a hijab, and automatically assume I’m oppressed) but all these additions are absolutely sending me and the notes are delightful so by all means, please continue

[karpad]

This Black History Month, reflect for a moment on the fact that George Washington Carver, famously "the inventor of peanut butter and more than 100 industrial uses for peanuts" wasn't, like, Doc Brown fucking around in his garage because he really liked peanuts but was specifically trying to introduce larger use of a nitrogen fixing legume into crop rotations against cotton monoculture which was destroying yields, livelihoods and the biosphere, and how most agribusiness farming now just destroys that topsoil on purpose and continues to grow a cotton monoculture (or soy or corn or whichever local monoculture is profitable) using petrochemical derived fertilizer, which is one element driving climate change

Daniel Hale Williams performed the first successful heart surgery. He also founded the first nonsegregated hospital in America because he was keenly aware of disparate health outcomes by race which is still a problem today.

WEB Dubois was a part of the delegations for the birth of the UN. His proposal to include in the charter that "the colonial system of government … is undemocratic, socially dangerous and a main cause of wars" was not adapted for the final draft. We might see inaction against colonial violence to this day as part of the failure of others to heed his warnings there.

I feel like so often when we look at Black History Month so much of it is driven by factoids but when taken as history in context its about a direct line from decades and centuries to what is happening right now.

[creekmotel]

[shuffled-bunny]

[calamity-pantheon]

rebloging to fuck up someones phone

[tall]

Has science gone too far

[echo-heo]

couldnt find the source but heres more of these. chinese zodiac

[midnightssea]

Excluding the crucial fact that office jobs pay you an income….if staying home to raise children and do chores and bake bread was really so much easier and more joyful than working in an office on some objective level, why aren’t men doing it? Why aren’t they chomping at the bit to be ~leisurely house husbands~ to a working wife? Why aren’t they stepping up to depend solely on someone else’s income in exchange for round-the-clock domestic labor, if it’s really as blissful and their propaganda suggests? Curious.

[midnightssea]

Thank you! This is such an important reminder.

[andhumanslovedstories]

The first time I watched Knives Out, I was in nursing school & wondered what I’d think about it when I was a nurse. Now I’m five years into my nursing career, plus with plenty of time in the home health speciality like Marta, and watched the movie again a few nights ago. My overall feelings about the nursing are actually about the same: I could quibble about details but overall the vibe feels right. She feels emotionally authentic. She feels like a nurse. She should have maybe done a respiratory assessment. But also that old man was absolutely so hyped to concoct a mystery. Absolutely jazzed to slit his own throat. Not a good partner in his own care. Patient who definitely wouldn’t use the call light appropriately.

[andhumanslovedstories]

And god can you imagine dealing with his family

[andhumanslovedstories]

You know that hospitalist note starts with something painfully diplomatic that just screams you will be walking into a war zone. “Harlan is an energetic and pleasant 85 year old gentleman with very engaged family support network actively involved in care”

[chewbacca]

NATIONAL TREASURE (2004) dir. Jon Turteltaub

[the-barefoot-hatter]

                                                                                                                            #deli lady was the real national treasure all along                                     

[jesterbots]

genuinely one of the saddest parts of this new era of the internet is how hard it is to rick roll someone now. with people's attention spans shortening so much, they wouldn't even get through the first few bait seconds before clicking off the video. like i saw a comment that ended with "btw i made all of this up" and the replies kept treating it so seriously because none of them finished the entire 4 sentence comment. and We're no strangers to love You know the rules and so do I (do I) A full commitment's what I'm thinking of You wouldn't get this from any other guy I just wanna tell you how I'm feeling Gotta make you understand Never gonna give you up Never gonna let you down Never gonna run around and desert you Never gonna make you cry Never gonna say goodbye Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you

[arowitharrows]

tbh I really dislike how aphobia tends to be discussed whenever there's some kind of incident that makes it visible to general society. The most common response seems to be some variation of "why would anyone hate asexual/aromantic people, they aren't even doing anything" and it just always sits wrong with me. It paints such a passive picture of our existence and feels like a comment influenced by the level of invisibility that aspec people have in society. Why would you be annoyed by someone who is practically invisible? Just go back to ignoring their existence, it's easy!

But despite the invisibility, aspec people are actually doing quite a lot of things that will piss off queerphobic, right-wing and religious people (and hell, even left-wing people). And the most obvious point is that we are actively not performing heterosexuality the way they want us to. People who's entire world view is "cis men and women should be in monogamous, heterosexual marriage and have (white) babies" are not going to lean back and say "oh but those asexuals and aromantics are fine". They will also hate our guts, and they will come up with all sorts of reasons, including insinuating we're all secretly into bestiality, or mentally ill, or not human, or attention seeking children. It's just plain old queerphobia, and like all queerphobia, there's no inherent logic to it which you can worm your way out of by "not doing anything".

And like, there's a lot more that aspec people do which people hate. Raising awareness about amatonormativity? People feel attacked, they hate it. Asexual people having sex? Or not having sex? People hate it! Aromantic people being in (seemingly) romantic relationships? People fucking hate it! Aromantic people having sex? Ohh people hate that!!

I guess the existence of aphobia can be confusing when you haven't spent much time thinking about asexuality and aromanticism, but in the end, these are identities that aren't heteronormative and they will be hit with the same or similar bigotry as any other queer identity. I just get tired of this response after seeing it recycled for 10 years without ever seeming to go any further.

[ladytemeraire]

For me it hits wrong because it's the exact same language people use to invalidate our identity. "Why do people who hate someone who isn't doing anything" is frankly the flip side of the same coin as "why do people who aren't into sex/dating need attention or a dedicated awareness day", just phrased differently. (See also: my vent post about JKR hating on ace folks that took off a few months ago.) It may come from a different intention, but it ends up in the same place: aspec folks are passive, they're basically Straight Lite (TM), so why do they consider themselves different?

[macabre-muses]

vader every time he came across 3po and r2 during the war probably

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

it does still make me insane specifically how many queer people lovingly embrace astrology. I went to a poetry workshop yesterday that was genuinely quite good but also included an option to disclose astrology designations during introductions and so many people broke out some variation of "I'm a [x] sum but I have a [y] placement and it SHOWS" girl no it doesn't. that's meaningless correlation you completely invented the causation

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

I'd say that rejecting biological determinism in favor of space gas determinism isn't the slay the astrology queers think it is but if I'm being completely honest I fear that many members of our community haven't even really rejected biological determinism so much as sprinkled a layer of glitter on it

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

yes that's how confirmation bias works

[within-stars]

People get their panties up in a twist about astrology because they think it’s people shoving themselves into boxes that are not pre-existing.

Most people who like astrology like it because it reflects things about themselves that they relate to that they have difficulty vocalizing themselves. And things like doing a chart reading can allow you to gaze deeply into yourself

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

yes that's how confirmation bias works

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

#wait wasn't that also OP?#is this the third such post now?#we shouldn't be pissing on the poor at all#“ok so we should only piss on the poor a little when there's no toilets free”

It's more than three. I've lost count but this is at least the fourth.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

#hi op of the Taylor Swift isn't bisexual there are many bisexual pop girlies post

[supreme-leader-stoat]

OP what wizard did you cut off in traffic to get cursed like this

[marmolita]

Haikyuu character thickness

Okay so since I was bored and did my time in hockey rpf fandom, I figured why not put together a spreadsheet using all the characters' stats to determine which Haikyuu character is the thickest? Which of these boys is meaty and thicc??? We all have our opinions but what does the DATA say?

First, I limited this to characters who had both weight and height listed. Then, I separated out pre- and post-timeskip. I got my numbers from the haikyuu wiki and did not double-check the manga myself. Thickness here is defined as weight divided by height.

If you want to see all the data, spreadsheet is here!

Top ten thickest pre-timeskip:

Top ten thickest post-timeskip:

*Note: I did not see a different weight for Hakuba Gao post-timeskip so I used the same one and he still wins lol

Top ten least thick pre-timeskip:

Top ten least thick post-timeskip:

Average team thickness stats pre-timeskip:

Biggest change in thickness pre- to post-timeskip (top 11 because they were tied):

ANYWAY props to Hinata for getting THICC during that time skip!

If you happen to look at my spreadsheet and find any bugs let me know!

[dysphoria-things]

godddd for the last time. a strong sense of justice in autistic people is not always a positive trait. its just a trait. a strong sense of justice does not mean that you are the most objective source on morality, it means you can’t let go of what you believe is right or should be done. autistic people aren’t morally superior or more socially intelligent than allistic people, you guys have GOT to stop acting like its progressive to decide a certain neurotype is the one everyone should default to.

[dysphoria-things]

a strong sense of justice can mean anything from unwilling to betray your moral code to harassing people for thinking differently because you believe you’re so right the other person HAS to understand. it can mean not giving up on what you believe in and it can mean believing something horrible and yet being unwilling to hear why youre wrong. ive had to call in sick because i heard a group of people disagreed with me on an issue i cared about because i couldnt process the fact that i was wrong and if i was put in any confrontational situation i would not be able to do anything but defend myself even knowing i was sort of wrong.

a strong sense of justice is not an exclusively positive trait. almost nothing is. everything is complex and nuanced.

[dysphoria-things]

[aiamare-art]

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yurikyuu!kiyoomi+atsumu age 12-22

[sailor-crusader-deactivated2025]

You have GOT to stop acting like "criminals" are a different breed of human that are more violent just because.

[thelawfulchaotic]

Criminal law is so bonkers disconnected from the reality of everyday life that things are crimes that people just Do.

Have you ever had on your person a prescription drug for someone else? Held for them, brought to them, picked up for them? If it was on the controlled substance list, you opened yourself up to a felony.

Ever pulled your sibling’s hair? Gave them a nougie? Hit them, tripped them, grabbed something out of their hands? You could have been charged with domestic battery.

Did you play with fire as a kid? Most people do, at least a little. Hope it wasn’t in a place with grass, because burning grasses is a felony here.

Your parents leave you in the car while they went into the store? Felony child neglect, these days.

Ever had a pet die from something that made them lose a lot of weight? I had a client convicted of felony animal abuse resulting in death even though the only veterinarian witness testified he didn’t know what caused the animal’s death and did not do a necropsy.

Ever thrown something at a car? Empty soda bottle, snowball, water balloon? Felony missile at occupied vehicle.

People can be convicted of brandishing a firearm for having it in a holster. For concealed carry of a firearm if it’s on the other side of their body from an officer observing (and therefore “hidden”). Got a knife in your pocket or a brass knuckle keyring self defense device? That’s a concealed weapon.

Did you know that child protective services safety plans are sometimes taken out as protective orders? My client didn’t, when she went to try to buy a firearm to defend herself against an abusive ex. She was under a CPS protective order to not have the ex around her children. Charged with felony fraud in firearm affidavit: attempting to buy a gun while under a protective order.

Had a kid convicted of arson for burning some variant of nerf darts in his room and not even trying to set anything else on fire.

I have seen convictions and charges for everything on this list.

And always remember, almost half (45%) of people are in prison for probation or parole violations, huge swathes of that number for doing things that would be legal and fine for you and me but are not fine because they’re on probation.

This is why overpolicing matters: because normal shit gets regularly criminalized for certain populations.

[thelawfulchaotic]

Forgot a big one! Have you ever shared painkillers or anti-anxiety meds or other controlled substances (obtained with a prescription) with other family members?

That is in fact drug dealing. The defense to it is “accommodation” — as in, I was accommodating someone, not dealing for profit — and accommodation, uh, slightly reduces how bad of a felony it is and does nothing else.

The person who is accommodated also has committed felony possession of controlled substance.

This is why people with Adderall prescriptions only use the original pill bottle. Because they could get charged with a felony at any point if they don’t, just because an officer thinks it’s not theirs.

[the-breath-in-air]

I work with kids who are on probation and a big one for then is about 'affiliating with known gang members.' Which is difficult to manage when you've been placed in a school for expelled students - many of whom are on probation for gang-related charges. Or...hey...not sure how a kid can avoid associating with gang members when their neighbors and uncles and siblings and parents whom they live with are also gang members. What precisely is a teen supposed to do when their mom is the one driving them around town at night to do shit?

I had a student get arrested and incarcerated for months because his probation officer found a bag of thc candy in his room. We're in California; he shares a room with an older brother. Everyone in that house uses marijuana. And now this kid is shouldering all the blame and guilt for that.

I had a student get arrested for talking back and being 'disrespectful' to his probation officer. An angry, traumatized teenager shouted at his P.O. and the result was him getting hauled away from school in cuffs.

Two students at my school got into a mutual fight - no one was injured. One was on probation and one wasn't. The one not on probation was suspended for a couple of days, and when he returned he's enrolled in our anger managment group. The one on probation was hauled away in cuffs and now he will spend Thanksgiving and possibly Christmas in juvenile hall.

I dont know what I'm concluding with all this except, yeah...so many people get labeled as 'criminals' as kids and it is damn near impossible to shake off that label once it's been assigned. The system we have is horrifyingly unjust.