DB

This might become a mental illness vent blog.  please know that even though i make jokes and complain I'm making an effort to get better/manage my symptoms, and i think that there's an important line between venting and hopelessness.  don't take anything here as an excuse to not work on your health, or a sign that things will never get better

[segamascott]

[free-my-mindd]

[vvolken]

"i would kill for you" "i would die for you" okay but would you forgive me if i forgot something important for the 51204th time in a row even though i tried my best to remember

[itsnotwhatimlike]

embarrassment has good bones

[dungeonmastersconsortium]

[homunculus-argument]

Hey btw, here's a piece of life advice:

If you know what you'd have to do to solve a problem, but you just don't want to do it, your main problem isn't the problem itself. Your problem is figuring out how to get yourself to do the solution.

If your problem is not eating enough vegetables, the problem you should be solving is "how do I make vegetables stop being yucky". If your problem is not getting enough exercise, the problem you should be solving is "how do I make exercise stop sucking ass". You're not supposed to just be doing things that are awful and suck all the time forever, you're supposed to figure out how to make it stop being so awful all the time.

I used to hate wearing sunscreen because it's sticky and slimy and disgusting and it feels bad and it smells bad, so I neglected to wear it even if I needed to. Then I found one that isn't like that, and doesn't smell and feel gross. Problem solved.

There is no correct way to live that's just supposed to suck and feel bad all the time. You're allowed to figure out how to make it not suck so bad.

[sapropel]

Sometimes your bad coworker will be like "I can't do anything right & I ruin everything I touch :(" and you can't even comfort them because like damn. Yeah. You really can't do anything right and you do ruin everything you touch☝️

[irredeemablemonster]

it would kill half of this site to understand that kids start jerking off and looking at porn the moment they hit puberty and get any kind of sex drive.

w-what do you mean kids arent sexless and pure beings??? i-i thought sexual thoughts only appear when you're 18.... or, no, 21......

[irredeemablemonster]

i saw smth along the lines of "minors shouldn't see porn, their brains are developing!!!"

this argument only makes sense if you

1. dont understand how any of human biology works

2. think of porn, depiction of the sexual act, as containing the primordial fucking sin, something that corrupts the minds of anyone looking at it

deeply fascist shit

[magicalgirlbait]

i need people to understand the fact that the stigma surrounding being a child looking at porn was the very first step into terrifying me into being unable to speak about the sexual violence i endured, which in turn allowed for it to continue happening.

[official-graveyard-posts]

Official graveyard post

[kiddieplushie]

”official graveyard post” so i want to remind y’all this was posted like a month and half ago, i was magicalgirlbait. ive had 8 blogs since then. tumblr really really doesn’t like it when victims talk about their experiences

[definitely-not-a-plant]

they really dont like it

[sighinastorm]

At this point, I'm thinking we need to find new ways to responsibly talk to adults about sex.

[changeling-droneco]

Okay big misconception thats common i just want to quickly clear up. Asexual kids are 100% masturbating as well, libido is not linked to sexuality at all. You can be very asexual but also have strong libido, and alot of even the asexuals that dont have much libido probably still masturbate from to time because it still feels good or at least interesting. I had basically no libido when i discovered asexuality as a young teen but i still experimented with things out of curiosity and wanting to know what the fuss was about. I maybe did it less then others my age but i was still doing things. Will there be some asexual kids who never touch themselves or at least with any frequency? Yes, but thats less about sexuality and more about general libido.

[apatheticobliviousbookworm]

Additional correction: masturbation is normal behavior in young children that can and often does begin during the infancy-toddler stage. Before puberty it shouldn’t be (meaning if it is, there’s cause for concern) related to anything sexual beyond involving genitals and it feeling good. Here’s a good article on the topic that explains why it’s normal and when there’s cause for concern (ie may be an indicator of abuse or stress) written to advise freaked out parents.

Young children and masturbation: should you worry?

Many parents are alarmed to find their young child engaged in genital stimulation. However, in young children, genital stimulation is not as

“Most children—both boys and girls—play with their external sex organs or “private parts” fairly regularly by the age of five to six years old.

By age 15, almost 100% of boys and 25% of girls have masturbated to the point of orgasm.

It’s important to remember, though, that children don’t generally associate the activity with sexuality or adult relationships until closer to puberty.

Genital play is often used simply as a form of self-comfort.”

[queeranarchism]

Important about 'until closer to puberty' is also that puberty generally starts between age 8 and age 13, and that's not counting the outliers. So a child that starts getting horny and masturbating to sexual content at age 8 can be on a totally normal developmental trajectory.

[tweetsongs]

re that last post a lot of people have said this more succinctly but truly sometimes you just have to push yourself a little. sometimes to make friends you have to play a version of yourself that is already friends with the other person. i have what one therapist called 'the worst case of social anxiety i've seen in a while' so like i get it but you have to accept that sometimes that's the barrier of entry! a lot of people will respond well to a moderate amount of familiarity and genuine enthusiasm and being willing to instigate social interactions. unfortunately you have to just do it.

[unification]

i know we're not supposed to say this but i literally love being alone and going on the computer

[hexjulia]

so hard not to become the most annoying person on earth if you're a little excitable and just learned a little about a topic literally no one around you has any interest in

[peach-pot]

conversations of amatonormativity and consent overlap a lot and should be discussed side by side more frequently. because when you live in a society that teaches you that you’re supposed to want sex and romance, that you may want to say no in the moment but you shouldn’t say no forever, any statements about consent get muddied. you cannot at once preach that consent is vital and “you can always say no” and also insist that people should give sex and romance a try, even when they express disinterest, telling them “eventually you’ll find the right person.”

[sexy-people-contests-2026]

My friend just sent this in the group chat, we got the new gay or European 2026 update

A rigorous diagnostic. 15 questions. One uncomfortable truth.

[gala-xyzz]

okay.

[sexy-people-contests-2026]

I got the reverse

[valtsv]

once you notice how the conventional oppressive ideal of The Family pervades every sociological concept including the fictional and hypothetical you really do start to feel a kind of face-peeling anguish about it all

[valtsv]

"mothers of this species abandon their young to fend for themselves from birth, and even attack and cannibalise each other regardless of age or relation, how heartless :'(" "females birth and rear the young while males defend the territory, as is the natural order of things" "this fictional alien species with no concept of gender sexuality or social hierarchy as we understand it nevertheless forms familial units comprising of mother, father, and child archetypes" "i spent years worldbuilding my fantasy realm but every culture i invented conforms to nuclear family ideals, except for the totally-not-a-racial-stereotype primitive tribes" "incest is a universal taboo" okay. cool. cool. no that's fine. it's fine. you've paved over so much interesting and valuable sociological discourse we could have had with an unimaginative negatively + punitively reinforced status quo but it's literally fine.

[caydencrypted]

the wisdom ive learnt is that becoming part of a friend group 1) takes a long time and 2) involves a lot of feeling awkward and left out at first. there’s nothing terrible about this but if you grew up chronically lonely or have any kind of trauma relating to social isolation this likely feels Really Wrong and activates danger signals. but both fortunately and unfortunately it’s just how becoming close to new people works most of the time

[nosimpincurly]

Not to brag but what a time to be childless

[lifespan-deactivated20260401]

if you start introducing nice things into your life it's a slippery slope and you have to be careful in case you start liking it when things are nice