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So here's a thing I feel like needs to be said about sexual alters in the DID community.
Sexual alters are allowed to have emotions besides just "horny"
Sexual alters do not "owe" you sex just because they're more sexual than the other alters in their system.
Sexual alters should not be degraded or treated like objects because of who they are.
Me: I can't have DID.
Also Me: Has constant amnesia gaps, during which my family and therapist has observed vastly different preferences, moods, voices, linguistic and artistic capabilities, etc.
Me: Nah....I'm just making this all up for attention.
Also Me: Constantly finds objects, clothing, drawings, writings etc that I didn't buy/make in my belongings.
Me: Heh,.....I must be really forgetful
Also Me: Constantly hears very distinct and different voices in my head that refer to themselves as different people and constatnly offer their opinions on my daily life
Me: I'm just schizophrenic, or i'm suffering fro ptsd with psychotic symptoms.
Also Me: Literally has people that take over my body and do whatever they like..
Me: No i can't........
Some things I've learned while dealing with a litany of mental disorders for the last few years (DID, OCD, GAD, DP, ADHD)
1-There will always be someone, usually family members, who will doubt or discredit your experiences for various reasons.
2-It's okay to cut people out of your life when they are unhealthy for you
3-Prioritizing your health does not make you evil
4-You will eventually find people who accept you for you.
Don't ever hesitate. Reblog this. TUMBLR RULE. When you see it, REBLOG IT.
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So, among other things, which I currently do not have the time to do delve into completely, I have been seeing certain persons claiming to be multiple, plural, or systems despite the fact that they never experienced any form of trauma. Allow me to say this in the most polite way that I can. By the very definition and process of how a person develops alters, it is impossible to do so without repeated trauma at a young age. Alters form when a child below the age of 7-9 experiences severe and repeated trauma to the point that they must distance themselves from the experience in order to survive. The brain reacts by forming amnesiac barriers which prevent the child from being able to integrate into one concrete state of awareness and personality. If the trauma happens after the ages of 7-9, after the child has already fully integrated, no alters will develop unless the child has already developed alternate states of consciousness. If no trauma happens, the child will never, develop alternate states of consciousness. Rather you prefer to be called alters, multiples, plurals, systems, or anything else, there is only one way for a person to develop alternate states of consciousness, and that is through trauma. You may not remember your trauma, and that is understandable given the nature of dissociation and dissociative amnesia. However, if you truly never experienced the necessary trauma, you DO NOT have alters. These disorders (DID and OSDD) are a very necessary coping mechanism, created by a child's mind in order to escape indescribable pain and fear. They are not a trend to hop on. They are not up for redefinition by people on Tumblr who want to be edgy or cool. They are not cool, fun, or anything to be desired. This is a very real, and terrifying problem, and it is already far too difficult to find help and support without those of us who are real victims being marginalized and stigmatized by others who just want to seem different. #dissociativeidentitydisorder #dissociation #ptsd #traumagenicsystem #endogenicsystem #trauma #did #dissociativesystem #dissociating #dissociativeamnesia #osdd #osddsystem #osdd1b #osdd1a https://www.instagram.com/p/CDfqnOVjHmHXj6ZiuXfCCUj-p1fd9YE65HuYl00/?igshid=qm2iirxefy5
Honestly if you’re female and you’re called for jury duty and during the elimination process you’re asked if you’ve ever had any adverse experience with a man (harrassment or rape or any other male violence) just fuckin lie and say no. Then vote that fucker guilty
Women survivors are barred from serving on a jury but rapists are not even questioned. There can be no doubt that this is a major reason rapists walk free. Men have never played fair. It is time for women to start beating them at their own game. Our lives depend on it.
As someone who wants to be a prosecutor one day… I agree.
OK NO. NO NO NO NO NO. I am a defense attorney. I am a woman. I am also a sexual assault survivor. THAT BEING SAID I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS POST ALL WEEK AND IT’S SOOOOO FUCKING WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS.
It’s wrong not for any bullshit rape apologist shit, btw, it’s wrong BECAUSE THIS SHIT WILL LITERALLY FUCK YOU OVER AND FUCK OVER ANY RAPE VICTIMS TOO. Here’s why:
(bear in mind this advice is gonna be MD specific since that’s where I practice)
1) FIRST THINGS FIRST. Don’t fucking lie. Don’t you dare fucking lie when you’re being questioned at jury duty. Why? OK well first: you’re swearing to tell the truth under penalty of perjury. What that means is yes, you will face criminal charges. Criminal charges which, btw, will keep you off of any juries in the future.
Here’s the thing, people (the law enforcement authorities and the defense counsel) WILL be able to find this out especially if you have ever filed a formal police report and/or spoken publicly about it. Yes, even on facebook. This ALSO means that if the fact that you lied about this is found out mid-trial it’s grounds for a mistrial with prejudice, if not a straight dismissal. Which means that hey, look, EVERYTHING HAS TO START ALL OVER AGAIN, THIS TIME WITH NEW JURORS.
2) The second thing is this: in many states, you don’t just get dismissed after answering affirmatively. The voir dire process in MD works like this:
A) prosecutors and the defense come up with a list of questions to ask potential jurors. These are typically a combination of blanket questions you would ask at any trial (ex: have you ever been convicted of a crime in this jurisdiction) and specific questions tailored to the hearing in particular (like the question above). Both attorneys get the chance to view each other’s questions and object to any particular questions that the other team may have.
B) So we’re at jury selection. Both attorneys argue preliminary whether or not questions get to be asked or not, submit the questions to the judge, and decide how to do the striking. (all at once submitted on paper, or alternating).
B1) “striking” means asking to get rid of a juror. A strike can be peremptory, i.e., you can strike for whatever reason you want and don’t have to justify it, automatically. Or you can have a strike FOR CAUSE. There are a limit to how many peremptory strikes/challenges you can have, depending on the jurisdiction, and the type of crime. And you may or may not have to justify those strikes and turn them into “for cause.”
B2) generally if, during a question, a juror answers in the affirmative, the judge will ask you to go up to the bench to privately discuss it with the judge, and both attorneys. In this case they will ask if you or somebody you know was a victim. They will also ask if the incident occurred in the same jurisdiction and possibly involved the same arresting officers. They will THEN ask you if you feel so strongly that it will affect your ability to be IMPARTIAL–that is, will you still be able to only consider the facts presented to you in the court, and be able to judge something as proven beyond a reasonable doubt or not, or will you be biased?
B3) If you say “I am so biased” then yeah, the judge will excuse you right away. But if you say “No I think I can do it. I can be impartial.” you’ll be asked to return to your seat.
C) The questions are now done. The attorneys then go through their strikes. Like I said, they have a limited number of the peremptory ones. And there are other limits too. You can’t strike jurors on the basis of a “protected class” (i.e.: race, gender, religion etc.) and anything that SHOWS that an attorney is doing so a can be objected to by the other attorney. There doesn’t have to be a “pattern” but that helps (i.e. striking three women in a row). Every time a juror gets called and somebody requests a strike, the other attorney can either object or not. So it’s up to each attorney to protect the jurors they want (and btw other than the questions, in MD, the info you get as an attorney is the juror’s name, age, job, and where they live, and their spouse’s job). If there’s a disagreement then the judge will hear arguments either way. If it’s a protected class argument, the attorney who has been striking has to come up with a different reason to justify and that’s got to be something UNRELATED to the protected class (ex: if you struck two Black guys in a row you can’t say “oh well I didn’t want THESE Black guys I wanted the other ones” because that’s still BASED ON RACE).
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3) SO HERE’S WHY IT’S SO FUCKED UP TO EVEN SUGGEST THIS SHIT AS A WAY TO “SOLVE THE PROBLEM”
A) as I said above, you don’t want to fucking lie.
B) also BEING A CONVICTED FELON, BTW, AND OTHER TYPES OF CONVICTIONS, DISQUALIFIES YOU FROM BEING ON THE JURY. So…convicted rapists? yeah, they can’t actually serve. THIS IS LITERALLY A QUESTION ON THE JURY DUTY FORM AND IS A QUESTION ASKED AT EVERY STAGE OF SELECTION.
C) ALSO, in a couple of the posts I’ve seen they’ve mentioned this question was only asked for women. I’m not sure really if I, as an attorney, would have phrased a question in a gendered way like this SINCE IT’S BASICALLY BEGGING FOR A CHALLENGE AS A PROTECTED CLASS OBJECTION. So fine, if it’s asked gender neutral? That’s OK, but as I said, you won’t get dismissed instantaneously (at least not in MD) as it’s not one of those automatic questions the court asks (i.e.: are you a citizen etc.). And so (again, in Md, Idk about other states) If you say “yes I can be impartial” then fine. Sit your ass down and wait for an attorney to strike you.
D) so if you DO have an attorney striking you, I would ABSOLUTELY object to any attorney who systematically struck ALL THE WOMEN from a jury panel. Because fuck that that’s a protected class that fucking SO DEMONSTRATIVE of a violation of the law. IT’S GENDER BASED. Whoever the prosecutor was who allowed a defense attorney to get away with that shit just wasn’t doing their fucking job.
E) And in terms of this post? about nobody caring? Fuck that if I was a prosecutor I would absolutely ask if any person (”PERSON” DAMN IT NOT JUST MEN BECAUSE THE WIVES/SISTERS/MOTHERS etc. OF MEN WHO ARE ACCUSED OF RAPE ARE ALSO FUCKING BIASED) had ever been accused of rape or sexual assault or knew somebody who did etc. That’s just good lawyering. It’s sloppy not to do so.
F) And as a defense attorney, NGL, I would want to know the answer too, in order to make sure to challenge those strikes.
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I get it. I fucking get it. And some of these things will depend on how fucked up your judge is and how good the other side is. But this shit about “OH HEY JUST LIE” FUCK ME NO. DO NOT FUCKING DO THIS.
I’m so fucking furious that people are spreading this like it’s a good damn idea and something that will work. Honestly this is so fucking stupid and dangerous to me that I’m suspicious–is this for real? Or is this somebody trying to false information troll people?
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DO NOT DO THIS. Answer your questions truthfully and let the lawyers do their damn job. Yes, it sucks, but at the end of the day, people in this country are INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY. And your job, as a juror, is to ASSESS ONLY THE FACTS AND ARGUMENTS PRESENTED TO YOU, AND TO SEE IF THE STATE WAS ABLE TO PROVE THAT THIS PARTICULAR SUSPECT DID IT. AND THEY DID IT BEYOND A REASONABLE DOUBT.
THe fact is, not all rape cases go to trial. And the ones that do, DISPROPORTIONATELY charge men of color (in particular, Black and Latino men). You cannot believe in equality, fight against racism, protect the constitution AND ALSo try to do this shit. It’s fucked up and completely inconsistent and yet another way to fuck with the justice system. doing this will probably allow more alleged rapists to go free than it will allow for equality in jury selection.
TL;DR: this shit is really fucking bad advice and not the way to actually go about doing things. stop giving people legal advice IF YOU AREN’T A LAWYER. ESPECIALLY IF THAT LEGAL ADVICE that will actually put them in jail, people.
Reblogging for this indepth and awesome reason to NOT FUCKING DO THIS!
That’s a whole lotta words to get to a point where you’re saying this is bullshit and you don’t believe it happens because you cannot possibly see such blatant sexism existing on a continuous basis.
You can’t strike jurors on the basis of a “protected class” (i.e.: race, gender, religion etc.)
If you think old men aren’t out there discriminating against women & minorities every damn chance they get I don’t know what you’re smoking. Systematic bias as well as individual bias is pretty damn obvious.
And that whole capslocks about convicted rapists not being able to serve. Fucking irrelevant.
The point is the male dominated law systems enable (white) rapists (good old boys club). Someone post that big ass chart from the US where only like 4 dudes out of a hundred ever serve time in rape/assault cases. The majority of these men get away with it. With help from other men. And systematic sexism, where women are discouraged from legal jobs, more likely to be not picked for jury duty (as the OP said), sexually harassed out of law school ect ect ect.
Playing by the rules doesn’t change shit. It won’t end sexism or make a dent in the good ole boys club.
reblogging for the last response.
I feel the diatribe by the lawyer was wild and condescending and so all over the place that I couldn’t really figure out what the point is. If you’ve never filed a complaint or charges, as many women don’t, then no one’s going to find out you lied. The rest of it is just “inside baseball” for law fans and doesn’t seem to have much to do with us.
There are few enough recourses for women to make a difference that withholding information about what kind of crimes you’ve been a victim of should be allowed. What business is it of theirs? That’s very personal. Very, very personal, and not everyone wants to be an open book. I know what she’s saying the law says, and I say let us have some power and control over how we conduct ourselves as citizens according to our consciences.
In all seriousness, you really think the police is going to spend time going through jurors private lives? Who has the time or money to do that? Also, telling women to play fair in a system stacked against them is just stupid.
Also, regarding the race/class issue, should their crimes not count as much because they are a minority? Are women hurt less? Or is it that these crimes are committed against women in their communities just matter less?
And last but not least, do you know any women who haven’t been sexually assaulted/ harassed??? Because I sure as fuck don’t.
Also, telling women to play fair in a system stacked against them is just stupid.
EXACTLY!
“Let the lawyers do their jobs” that’s the issue we’re having here
That response relies heavily on the idea that we trust lawyers and judges
So women get asked if they’ve had bad experiences with men, and I’m just here wondering if potential male jurors get asked “have you ever defended rape jokes, watched violent porn, victim blamed a woman?”””
“Also, telling women to play fair in a system stacked against them is just stupid. “
You mean the criminal justice system? Where men receive 63% longer sentencing than women for the same crime and similar criminal history? Where men are more likely to be convicted or arrested for the same action as women? Where men are more likey to be falsely arrested and falsely convicted conpared to a woman? Where men are much more likey to receive the death penalty for the same crime as a woman, especially in countries where women alone cannot receive capital punishment? How about in a state or country with gendered crime definitions that demand harsher punishment for male aggressors? Where female rapists and abusers arent put on trial, much less in statistics or even arrested, depending in your state or country.
The system is definitely not in against women. Not this system. Women benefit from these systematic inequalities. And the only reason it isnt recognized as misandry is because we as a society smdo not see anything wrong with inequalities (even severe ones) that target men for being men. Youre fine with it because you proudly hate and generalize men and you benefit. This dillusion is how you can say you support gender equality, while actively working against it.
“Have you ever defended a rape joke?”
Sure. Why not? That’s completely fine. People make jokes about crimes all the time. About child abuse, about kidnapping, about domestic violence, murder, etc. ever geard about #killallmen? That increadibly popular feminist hashtag about genocide? Either it’s a joke or a serious call to genocide. And it is often defended. The only reason you find rape jokes taboo is because you associate it with women and thus it is not allowed. Like real victims of murder/murder attempts, genocide, abuse, etc dont also exist.
“Watched violent porn”
Assuming the porn is of genuine acting and not real abuse, it’s no different than enjoying a movie with murder. It doesnt mean you would murder or that you approve of it outside of a fabricated story.
“Victim blamed a woman”
I mean youre over hear defending sending men to jail for being men so your bias is already clear. What you call “victim blaming” for women could just be (and is likely) minor suggestions for safety. Like locking your door at night or not getting blackout drunk at a stranger’s house. Or looking both ways before crossing the street. Anyone who brings it up will be accused of victim blaming like the aggressor isnt already being seen as bad. By you defending OP, you are yourself bictim blaming by saying the person you are falsely imprisoning deserves it for being male.
Honestly anyone defending OP is a huge sexist and has no business on a jury. This is the same mindset of racists who lie to put black people in jail. Except it isnt considered progressive or feminist to do it based in race.
An ACTUAL LAWYER comes in telling you how this works and why this is a bad idea, and the only response is “oh, so rude and demeaning! Such a bad response! All men are evil, all lawyers and judges are awful, everything is soooooooo stacked against us womxn!!!!!”?
Fuck. Off.
And also radfems and feminists condescend to people literally all the time, but when someone with actual knowledge tells them they’re wrong in a way they can’t dismiss as an entitled man, somehow she’s ‘condescending’.
And Ophelia think’s “nuh-uh! There’s totally bias!” is a counterargument. While ignoring how LSS pointed out that women can also be biased. It’s the usual radfem confirmation bias.
lightspeedsound > not all rape cases go to trial. And the ones that do, DISPROPORTIONATELY charge men of color (in particular, Black and Latino men).
Aren’t both groups of men less likely to be able to afford a decent lawyer? Aren’t black and hispanic dudes statistically more likely to be violent criminals in the first place?
Are you saying black/hispanic dudes are disproportionately likely to be charged overall? Or more likely to make it past grand jury? More likely to get convicted? What are the stats on plea bargains?
Oh, and it may interest you to know that a black woman has a better chance in court than a white man, IIRC. That’s how much the gender gap matters. And it’s even worse for rape cases. But society doesn’t like to talk about it.
Yet another example of feminists taking an area where women are privileged and trying to turn it into misogyny.
Radfems: “Why do people not believe whamman about rape?!?!?!?!?! reeeeee”
Also Radfems: “Lol just lie about whether you were raped or not. This is a good idea that will have no consequences.”
Listen guys, all of you. As a survivor, a man, an someone who understands the legal system due to studying it for four year, I can understand where everyone in this conversation is coming from. Just allow me to point out a few highlights.
Anytime that anyone for any reason tells you to straight up lie to the legal system, they are wrong. If you want to accuse a system of beibg flawed and biased and then try to level that out by straight up dishonesty then you clealry need to reasses how life works.
You had a legitimate lawyer give a very detailed explanation of why you should never do this, also explaining how these actions make it more likely to convict innocent men and less likely to convict real rapist.
Sexual assualt committed by anyone on anyone is a horrible, awful thing, and if we had our wya it would never happwn to anyone; but just like any other crime, if there isn't enough evidence to prove it, then no conviction will happen. Because it's just as unfair for someone to get away with sexual assault as it is for someone to have their entire life ruined by a false accusation.
A woman, of any race, can accuse a man at any time for any reason and even if he is not convicted, it will more than likely destroy his life. He will lost the trust of his family and friends, often his job, his marriage, his children, and sometimes years of his life will be soent in prison, all because of an accusation that won't be proven wrong for years, if ever.
Meanwhile any man can be sexually assaulted and his attempts to find help or justice will be treated as a joke. ESPECIALLY if the perpetrator was a woman.
I've seen the struggles my mother faced against inequality as single mother of four, and I would never try and pretend that those struggles aren't real; but when it comes to the legal system, especially in the areas of divorce, child custody, or sexual/physical assault, the statistics are overwhelmingly and unequally in favor of women regardless of race.
Thank you, that is all.
this won’t get 1% of the women’s version of this post.
the world we live in, and people in general don’t care about men. we are pretty much robots who aren’t allowed to show emotion. we’re taught from a young age that boys don’t cry.
fact is women are sexualised, men are idealised. because men can’t be raped because they’re big and strong right? right? yea, pretty much the idiots view of living.
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Sks support this idea or unfollow me i dont give 3 shits if i loose yall as followers, fuck off if you dont support this
you can unfollow me if you think that Men don’t have stigmas against them or get sexualized or are told they have to live up to a standard.
Women are not the only ones who can be victims of sexual assault!
Always ALWAYS reblog! This is really close to home for me as most of my followers well know!! Men can be victims just as well as women, and the illusion that ‘Its different for a man because he can defend himself’ is complete and utter bullshit.
I’m glad there’s none of the usual derailers in this thread.
This.
horror writers use the dsm 5 like a dnd monster manual
brain reversed some stuff when I read this. Anyway I’m diagnosing myself with flail snail
Ass a DM with DID. Can I start doing this?
So I'm being told that I'm supposed to trust people and start opening up; but the same people who tell me that want me to stay locked away and never front because I'm "self destructive" and "might hurt the system" so at this point fml I gues. ~Nicolás
It just occurred to me that I was very clearly mentally ill from a young age (like 6) but my parents didn't get me help until it became so severe that it was a problem for them because they'd get called out of work to come get me from school. That was at 14.
They knew for a solid 8 years that I was struggling with anxiety, OCD symptoms, dissociation, bullying, self-harm, and more.
They waited until I had so many panic attacks a day that I stopped eating and could not attend school or be left home alone to get me help. I.e. they waited until my mental illness became a burden for them.
I'm almost 30, and my entire life I never once stopped to question this until today. Like holy shit, do you think they could've gotten help when their kid was age regressing and displaying symptoms of sexual abuse? Maybe they could've gotten help the first time they saw evidence that their kid was injuring themself? Perhaps when they found suicidal poems among their kid's belongings it would've been a good time to get help?
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This!! My mother finally admitted to me yesterday that she never sent me to therapy because she was protecting herself. Because she was scared of learning what had happened to me. Honestly that's the first time she's even taken responsibility for her part in my trauma. I'm 20 years old.
Do they not deserve kindness if they don't read books? Or make a dozen typos and grammatical mistakes when writing? Are they not a human with emotions and depth and thoughts so intriguing? It may be something you're not used to, I know. It may not be something that's very attractive either but when did we become this race that needs someone to be attractive i.e conventional and doing things in the widely accepted and 'normal' way to be nice to them? When did we become these people? It's not just about people who's first language isn't English and who can't speak it fluently. There are people who know three languages perfectly fine but they still aren't very literary and they will reply to your paragraph long messages with a string of emojis. 🐳🌠♥️🦄🌺😋. But it's not random for them. It may mean something. They may be the kind of people who use the whale to let you know that cute things exist and you deserve to have them in your life and make you smile. The shooting star to send you luck, the red heart to send you love. The unicorn to add magic and whimsy to your burdening life and the flower to add something refreshing and heartfelt. The tongue-out grin smiley to say 'I know I can't write paragraph long replies but I care about you.' Maybe they would rather get on a video call or send your flowers. And even if they did none of that, they don't become less intelligent or valid or human. This culture of knowing everything you know or living under a rock. Of liking everything you like or being a freak. This culture of being a pseudo intellectual to fit in. It's not new, I know. It's just very annoying. I read and I write and I speak 2.5 languages fairly well. But I don't know how to drive. And I can't cook pasta well no matter how hard I try. And I don't know the first thing about sports. Any sport. I wouldn't like if people who knew these things and did these things well treated me like an idiot just because I didn't. There have been so many guys I've been on dates with or even friends who say they feel intimidated by me because of how well I articulate myself or that I am so humble because I am not a grammar Nazi even though I could be and I feel so sad really. It's because clearly they have had experiences where they were made to feel not enough because of something as stupid as language. Don't get me wrong. Language is beautiful. But there are several ways to express yourself. The bottom line is you don't need to make someone feel shitty because they don't read Dostoevsky or Murakami or write essays for texts. You treat people nicely just because they are people. Just because you are a person. That's really it. You need no other reason.
This!! Honestly. I can write literal essays peppered with so many synonyms and babblebedook phrases that it'll make someone's head spin; but I often dissociate and when I'm dissociating my words get all jumbled and I say stuff completely backwards so I seem like I'm illiterate. My baby sister is a beutiful speaker, she's witty, quick, never runs out of things to say, and her handwriting is beautiful; but she has dyslexia and struggles to read and spell properly. Please. PLEASE don't assume a person's intelligence by their linguistic or grammatical capabilities.
don’t ever feel bad for asking me to tag a trigger
i do not care what the trigger is
i will tag it for you
you have legitimate reasons to be triggered by it
and i am not one to question those reasons
so just send me an ask
anonymous if you’re scared
and i will tag it all the time in future
your wellbeing is worth twenty extra seconds of my time at least
don’t ever feel bad if i dont remember to tag it
i might be on mobile
i might be dumb
i might have forgotten
just send me an ask
anon if you’re scared
i’ll correct it
your wellbeing is worth twenty extra seconds of my time at least
I say this as a person with a decently smallish trigger that comes up often, but has been getting tagged more, and believe me,
I will tag it (as much as I can remember) because
👏No👏Trigger👏is👏too👏small👏or👏uncommon👏to👏tag👏
This is amazing. Honestly. Thank you so much for this.
Magical girl with an angel motif except it's biblically accurate. She gains more eyes and wings with every powerup.
i love this
evil villain: “i have you now! even if you transform your angelic powers won’t save you!”
magical girl: *transforms into a near uncomprehenisble form of biblibally accurate angels* magical girl:“ b̴̧͍̠̠̽͑ͨͬ̀ͨ̈e̴̷̩̪̟̯̒̉̎͋̎́ ̗̥ͣ̃͠͝n̡̪͇̣͚͖̹͕̤̉ͦ̑͛o̝̩̙͚̜͖͕͔͊̋͑̏̂ͥẗ̳͚̭͕̩͓̣͈́ͅ ̷̦̦̪̯̰͈̺̰̞̓ͬͯͬ̾̽͋͞ȃ̶̹͉̹̐ͭ̊͋ͪf̌ͣͬ̾ͬ͑̃̏̓҉̬͡r̳̤̠͉̒̍̇̓ͭ͗̾͜a̅̐͏͎̤̫͕͙̕ĭ̱̬͈̼͎̲̪̳̅͠d̝̘͚͍͍̰̰̿͌̕̕”
evil villain: what the FUCK
she screams "͍̰̞̯͖̪̗͉͘͜B̫̞̩̣̀E̡̗̮̬̫̫̲̭̦̘ ̟̰̪̣̼̖͎̬̯͘͢A̰̖̜F̩̤͙͙͓͙̕R̴̸̜̟̯͈͎̠̜͉A͚͍̘̦̟̥I̠̪̹D̨͔̪"̴͇̪͍̻̯̬̹̙͖́ before she smites you
This made even better by the fact that angels usually only revealed their true forms to prophets so the villian is either a prophet of God gone rougue or is destined to become a prophet.
