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[hermajestyimher]

I pray that one day you’ll wake up and realize you’re no longer at war with yourself.

That for the first time in a long while you’re able to feel comfort and ease inhabiting your own skin.

That you begin to fall in love with every crevice, surface and cell in your body.

That you no longer view yourself through the eyes of those who didn’t posses the depth to see and cherish your beauty, and not because it wasn’t there, but because it wasn’t meant for them.

That you learn to cherish every thing that makes you unique.

That you stop trying to perform to win the court of public opinion and start living your life for your own satisfaction.

I pray that one day you will give yourself the love you’d give to a loved one without conditions or expectations.

You deserve that.

[thequotespot]

“i think i’ve spent so much time trying to survive everything that i forgot how to simply enjoy things.”

[adviceformefromme]

Noticing that one week you skip the gym, pilates and your morning runs, and the next you’re on fire going from 0 to a 100. This doesn’t make you a failure, it just means you’re honouring your cycle. Your natural flow. Women have been conditioned to operate like machines that never stop, but that’s not who you are. Your body is made for rest and repair, especially during your cycle. Your energy levels come in waves, that you often can’t predict. You feel things deeply, life impacts you, and time is required to integrate and process, which might mean slowing down. But here’s the catch, this isn’t a period for guilt and shaming. It’s a time to listen. What is your body letting you know? How can I love and nourish myself during this rest period? What needs to be expressed? All pivotal questions to ask. Because to honour your creativity as a woman is to truly live in accordance with your natural cycles.

[borderlinereminders]

Sometimes growth looks like sitting with yourself and saying:

“Yeah, this hurts. I get why you want to lash out, shut down, spiral, give up. That reaction makes total sense.”

And then saying gently, though still being firm:

“But we aren’t going to act on our urges. We’re going to make a different choice. Not because the feeling isn’t valid, because it is, but because we deserve better than what our urges want us to do.”

This isn’t about suppressing emotions. It’s about honouring them without obeying them.

[soleauclub]

The Anti-Burnout Blueprint for Girls Who Do Too Much

by Soleau Club

Being that girl comes with a price tag, and it’s often your sanity. You’re juggling a job, a wellness routine, a social life, side hustles, lymphatic drainage, and trying to romanticize your morning matcha while somehow staying hydrated, exfoliated, and emotionally available. It’s giving... burnt toast energy.

Here’s your blueprint to stop spiraling and start thriving. No burnout. Just balance—hot girl style.

1. Rethink Hustle as a Season, Not a Lifestyle You don’t have to be in go-mode 24/7 to be ambitious. Hustle has a place, but it’s not your permanent address. Some weeks are made for boss moves, others are made for naps and recharging with a clay mask. Recognize the difference and stop making guilt your co-pilot.

2. Micro-Rituals > Major Overhauls Burnout thrives on all-or-nothing energy. Instead of a total routine reset (that lasts 3 days), try micro-rituals: a 10-minute walk while voice-noting your feelings, stretching while your serum sinks in, doing absolutely nothing while your phone is on Do Not Disturb. You don’t need hours. You need intention.

3. The Energy Budget Rule You only have so many energetic dollars to spend each day. Choose wisely. A soul-sucking brunch with your fake friend group? Expensive. Reading a spicy novel in bed after Pilates? Rich in serotonin. Make deposits into your joy account before you overdraft.

4. Protect Your Peace Like It’s Your Birkin Seriously. Your nervous system wasn’t built for 27 open browser tabs and being the emotional support human for everyone around you. Start saying no like it’s a skincare step—necessary and preventative.

5. Rest Is the Reset Button, Not the Reward Hot girls don’t earn rest—they schedule it. It’s not a treat after you’ve crashed. It’s a built-in ritual to stay sane, snatched, and spiritually intact. Add “do nothing” to your calendar. Then actually do it.

6. You Don’t Have to Heal Everything This Week Repeat after me: not every issue needs to be solved in one sitting with four podcasts, a journal session, and a reiki YouTube video. Sometimes you just need a nap, a good cry, and a smoothie. Healing can be cute, chill, and slow.

You can still be the main character without being the martyr. Burnout isn’t a badge of honor—it’s a sign you need to realign. The goal isn’t to do more. It’s to do less, better. And trust, the girl who knows how to rest is way more powerful than the one who never stops.

Follow @soleauclub for more elevated wellness rituals, recovery girl inspo, and anti-burnout vibes.

[soleauclub]

The Wellness Girl’s Guide to Not Hating the Gym

Forget what your ex said. Forget what TikTok bro science said.

You’re not at the gym to punish your body. You’re there to romance it.

Working out is not about shrinking yourself. It’s about stepping into your hot, strong, glowy energy. Period.

So if you're currently in your “I’ll just do Pilates at home and pray for results” era, babe... this one's for you.

Step 1: Rewire Your Gym Mindset with Main Character Energy

You’re not dragging yourself to the gym. You’re showing up like the main character in a glow-up montage.

Instead of saying “I have to work out,” start saying:

“I get to move my body like a woman who lives in St. Barth’s.”

“I’m not working out—I’m becoming art.”

“This is my pre-beach-date body sculpting ritual, not bootcamp.”

You're not surviving the gym, you're curating your next level self.

Step 2: Dress Like You’re Filming a Workout Collab with Alo Yoga

Hot girl rule: If you look cute, you’ll want to move cute.

Throw out the old sorority T-shirt. We’re going matching set, lip gloss, slick bun, and a tiny tote bag energy. Add a spritz of fragrance mist and watch your entire vibe shift.

Try this:

Matching seamless set (neutrals or pastels only)

Gold jewelry you can sweat in

Tinted SPF and lip balm with shine

Cute headphones that double as a vibe

When you look like the gym is your runway, the workouts hit different.

Step 3: Romanticize the Workout Like You Romanticize Your Matcha

Don’t just go to the gym—create an experience.

Curate a playlist called “Walking Away From My Ex Energy”

Stretch like you're in a moody French film

Do your glute bridges like you’re prepping for yacht season

Take slo-mo mirror selfies, sip water like it’s prosecco, and remind yourself: this is your show

Step 4: Find Your Hot Girl Movement

Spoiler: not every wellness girly loves lifting heavy or running miles—and that’s valid.

What matters is that it feels fun, feminine, and flowy AF.

Try these gym-friendly glow-up workouts:

Pilates with ankle weights (builds long, lean lines + that snatched waist vibe)

Cable machine glute days (booty pump without gym bro energy)

Incline walking on the treadmill while watching “Selling Sunset” (10/10 vibes)

Dance-based cardio for your main character moment

Stretching + breathwork in a corner like a zen heiress

This isn’t about what burns the most calories—it’s about what you’ll actually show up for.

Step 5: Post-Workout Glow Ritual = Non-Negotiable

You didn’t suffer through 45 minutes of sweaty goddess energy just to go home and scroll TikTok.

Make your post-workout feel like a spa day:

Shower with eucalyptus steam or a luxe body wash

Moisturize with shimmer oil or body butter that smells like your dream vacation

Ice roll your face, gua sha, or sip a collagen smoothie

Tell your reflection, “We crushed it, angel. You’re glowing.”

Here's the Wellness Girl Manifesto for Loving the Gym:

Workout = worship, not punishment

Looking hot makes you feel hot. Dress accordingly.

Music is your motivator, not reps. Build a vibe.

Move in ways that make your body feel expensive.

Romanticize recovery like a skincare commercial.

You don’t have to be a “gym girl” to feel strong, sexy, and powerful in your body. You just need a new mindset, a fire playlist, and a wellness-first glow-up strategy that feels so you.

xx,

Soleau Club

[soleauclub]

How to Be Social Without Becoming Overbooked

by Soleau Club

You don’t have to be the friend who’s always “so busy” just to feel connected. In fact, constantly overbooking yourself is the fastest way to feel resentful, burnt out, and weirdly disconnected from yourself.

Here’s how I’m doing soft, sexy socializing — without losing my peace (or needing three days to recover).

1. I Choose Vibes Over Obligations

Not every invitation deserves a yes. I literally ask myself:

Will this feel fun for my nervous system?

Do I actually want to see this person?

Would Future Me regret not going?

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hot girl no.

2. I Set My Social “Caps” Each Week

I decide ahead of time how many hangouts I actually have energy for that week. For me, it’s 2 max — 1 friend date and 1 group thing. That way, I’m not crowding out time for rest, workouts, grocery shopping in peace, or literally just vibing in my robe.

3. I Romanticize Small Moments of Connection

Not every catch-up needs to be a 4-hour dinner. I’ll send voice notes while on a walk, FaceTime a friend while making matcha, or walk to a cute café for 30 minutes of real talk. Low effort, high vibe.

4. I Say “Let Me Get Back to You” More

This phrase changed my life. You don’t owe anyone a real-time RSVP. I buy myself time to check in with my calendar and my energy levels. Spoiler: if they’re a real one, they won’t be mad.

5. I Don’t “Make Up” for Being MIA

I used to apologize for not texting back or not being free every weekend. Now I just show up when I can, fully present, no guilt. That’s hot girl energy.

Because friendship isn’t about constant availability — it’s about intentional connection.

6. I Protect My Weekends Like They’re My Hormones

Saturday and Sunday are sacred. If I book anything, it’s something nourishing: brunch with my favorite girls, a walk with a podcast twin flame, or a beach day where we all lie on towels and pretend we’re in a Sofia Coppola film. That’s it.

7. I Let Friendships Flow With the Seasons

Some friends are weekly, some are quarterly, some are annual wine-and-catch-up energy. I stopped trying to make every friendship fit the same schedule — and everyone’s happier for it.

8. I Trust That Saying “No” Isn’t Rejection, It’s Respect

Respect for myself, my energy, and the people I love. Because when I do show up, I’m not tired, checked-out, or secretly wishing I was home. I’m there, and I’m glowing.

You can be social and selective. Fun and free. A hot girl with boundaries is just a girl who glows longer.

Follow @soleauclub for more soft lifestyle edits, self-protective rituals, and dreamy living that doesn’t require burnout.

[hermajestyimher]

2025 is my year of healing. I'm tired of repeating the same patterns of behaviour that don't provide anything fruitful in my life. I'm ready to embark on deep journey of stitching the emotional wounds that trauma has caused me. I'm choosing to surrender and to let go of the pain. I'm breaking generational cycles of despair and sorrow. Life is for me to enjoy, not something I have to endure.

Prioritizing healing starts with changing your habits, forming new and healthier patterns of thinking that can build new neurological connections and rewire your brain, which in turn leads you to see the world through a different lens and bring forth better things into your life. I know that I'm not alone in this journey and that God will be walking with me through every step. This journey will be a marathon and not a spring, but I will eventually reach the end of the finish line, and I will be a better person for it.

[kiefbowl]

here's some more unsolicited adult advice as someone in her 30s who knows there are a lot of twenty somethings and teens that follow her: if you're trying to build a new habit you really want, and are struggling, you have to break it down to the smallest building block possible. If you're failing, you haven't thought small enough. I know it's possible to hear stories of people who just snapped into new life mode one day by "just deciding", but truly what's happening there is a confluence of events and experiences that force the brain into some sort of epiphany. You cannot will an epiphany. It'll never work. For most times of your life, you will need to build habits intentionally, and that means not working against yourself and to set micro goals. like laughably tiny goals. because once that easy tiny goal is met, you can build off it, tiny goal after tiny goal until you reach your big goal.

so for example, if you want to be a morning person that gets up at ass crack dawn so that you can work out, eat brekkie, shower, and get to work at a leisurely pace, and you're not that person because you will hit your snooze button 800 times, you have to get the big picture goal out of your head. think smaller. "I want to get up 15 minutes earlier than I normally do." If you can't do that, make it 5 minutes. "I want to cook breakfast every day" hell no too big. "I want to eat something, anything, before I leave the house" hell yeah, fantastic. When you go to the grocery store to make sure there are things in the house for breakfast, if you keep buying bagels and microwave sandwiches that you ignore, you gotta think smaller. SMALLER. What's something so easy to eat that you'll never say no to. Is it a yogurt? Is it a handful of grapes? Is it a hostess ho ho? is it hot cheetos? FORGET the big picture of the fantasy put-together woman preparing a full nutritious meal that you'd be proud to admit to. Think only of the smallest goal you can achieve. If you know you can't say no to an ice cream sandwich, put a ton of ice cream sandwiches in your freezer and have one for breakfast every day until it's so instilled in you that you gotta get up to eat something you can start diversifying.

It sounds like, from the lack of habit place, that must take forever. But really it doesn't take too long to form the habit once the discipline kicks in. the trick is that you have to give your brain something easy to become disciplined to. If it's too hard, think easier and smaller. No one has to know. Literally no one in the gd world has to know that for 4 weeks when you were 22 you had an ice cream sandwich for breakfast every day. who cares. If it gets you eating oatmeal with fresh fruit in a few months who cares. you did it, yay. smaller, easier. if you can't do it, think smaller and easier. smaller!! EASIER!!! You are not thinking smaller and easier enough. break your brain thinking how small and easy you can go. SMALLER. EVEN SMALLER, SIS.

[csuitebitches]

Everyone talks about leveling up and healing, but what comes after that?

I feel like I'm in a really good place right now. I've worked through my emotional wounds, I no longer attract toxic people, and I'm focused on making better choices to improve my life.

I've moved past the drama, the gossip, and the unhealthy relationships, and I'm genuinely happy about that. I have no desire to go back to any of that. But at the same time, life feels too calm.

In the past, it was easy to connect with people around me—whether it was bonding over shared dislikes, mutual crushes on unavailable people, or similar family struggles. But now, all of that feels shallow and trivial. If I don’t like someone, I just avoid them. There’s nothing to really talk about or bond over anymore.

What I’m really wondering is how to keep that sense of wonder and excitement from my younger years alive—the sense that everything felt fresh, new, and thrilling.

I’ve outgrown a lot of the chaos, but now I’m left with the challenge of keeping life exciting without falling back into old habits. And honestly, I’m not sure how to do that.

fantastic question and congratulations on the growth.

growth should never be left stagnant. What you’ve done well is cleared up your external environment that you were in. Now, focus on the actual growth - growth of self. keep in mind that sometimes a calm life can be boring especially when you’ve had a very chaotic phase. it’s completely normal and natural to feel that. Keep life exciting by taking on new challenges that help you positively and celebrating the calmness that comes with things. I don’t want you to simply chase goals, but enjoy the journey and the fruits of your labour.

keep your system 2 brain active : take on new hobbies, mentor people who could use your help, meditate, get involved in charity, travel, deepen existing connections, pottery, running clubs, learn a new language, team sports, performing arts. Find something that you’ll love to learn, and you’ll find similar people who are in that mindset. I don’t want you to associate loneliness = self growth. I’d rather you find people who are on your frequency so that you know what it’s like to have healthy relationships around you. When I reconnected with some old school friends who had also matured after many years…. I can’t tell you how much we enjoy each other others company now. We travel, we meet once a month, we host dinners, we support each other, attend each other’s engagements and weddings etc etc - having healthy friendships and relationships is so much more fun that toxic ones.

I also personally worked on my relationship with myself - going on dates with myself, working out, meditating and at times just sitting with myself in silence - I became comfortable with myself. I became my own best friend. I learned what I liked and didn’t, what I was like, who I really am.

[hermajestyimher]

P*rn, dating apps/hook up culture, and 50/50 normalization are the three main culprits as to why the men of this generation seem so different than men from previous ones, and why so many beautiful and accomplished women are unable to secure a relationship without settling. Men always had their issues collectively, but it was never to the degree that we see today, and it’s largely due to the normalization from an early ago to those three things.

The brains of men these days have been wired in a completely overly s3xualized manner. They don’t view women as people but as objects of strict desire and nothing else. Consumption of p*rn has not only given them unrealistic expectations of intimacy, it has influenced their s3xual orientations (see DL epidemic), and their social behaviour. Nowadays many don’t find regular girls attractive, which is why they choose to engage in “taboo” activities to feel some arousal. This leads them to becoming socially inept and to falling easy prey to manosphere content that only reinforces the objectification and dehumanization of women.

Dating apps then come in as an easy way for these men get the illusion of options, because while they might be generally not attractive, in the apps they get instant access to women they otherwise would never have in real life. And because many women have become desperate, by entertaining these men and giving them easy access to their bodies, the men no longer feel like they have to improve and work on themselves to attract a quality partner. It also gives them the idea that women are disposable because at any point they can ghost them for no reason and then swipe right to get another one. It makes them devalue access to us.

This easy access is then transferred to their expectations of relationships. They abuse the concept of equality to manipulate women into financially abusive arrangements where she’s expected to provide fiscally while also performing her feminine duties and taking care of a grown, able-bodied man. Naturally this continues to reinforce men’s lack of respect and gratitude for women in their lives, while increasing their own sense of self-importance, narcissism, ineptitude, and ungratefulness.

Obviously women are not responsible for the actions of men, but we do have the power to not reinforce and condone their sick ways. By deleting dating apps, standing our ground when we oppose 50/50 dating, and choosing to remain abstinent until marriage, we are taking the power dynamics back to our advantage. No, you are not unreasonable for not wanting to be with a man who consumes p*rn, or who wants to be sexually fluid with other men, or who views red pill content that dehumanizes you, or seems unwilling to provide things for you and cherish you in his life. It’s on for you to stand firm in your decision to only entertain the gentlemen whose mindset hasn’t been completely fried by modern societal trends.

The “male loneliness epidemic” that we hear so much about is entirely self inflicted (not that anyone cares when it’s women who are lonely), and it’s a direct response to women saying no more to men who exhibit the behaviours outlined above. Hold the line, because they either leave their toxic ways and get better, or they will doom themselves for a life of solitude. Either way, that is their responsibility to fix, not yours.

[resiliencewithin]

You’re tired. Burnt out. Exhausted. Stressed.

This lowers your capacity for emotional regulation.

You’ll cry more easily. Get dragged into low moods more easily. Simple little things where you’re like ‘dang, that shouldn’t hit so hard,’ will wallop you.

This will trick you into thinking you’re weak and can’t handle life. A loser.

Not so my friend.

It’s a signal that you need a nap, need to allow for more sleep at night, need to prioritize and scale back on what you can accomplish in a day, need to take a mental health day or even a leave.

Something’s got to give.

But!

It’s not your self worth.

[thesophistiicate]

what happens if you have no idea what your actual goals are? like, it's hard to work towards accomplishing something if you don't know what that something is

i’m assuming you’re looking at it like your goals need to be related to what you want to “do” with your life (career or big picture), but they don’t have to be! this is really common so don’t worry. it’s actually a wonderful, exploratory season of life that is sadly often tarnished by the pressure to have all the answers.

if you aren’t sure of the big picture yet, work on your life foundations. your goal can be your own self development, or smaller goals based on each area. for example i had a goal to exercise regularly, now that i do my goal is to get to an intermediate level with Pilates.

don’t forget about your hobbies and intellectual development too. if you like cooking you may have a goal to try a new recipe every week or a goal of levelling up so you can cook a more complex dish. or your goal might be to read all the books by one author or read one book outside your usual interests every quarter.

goals are just a way to stay focused on what you want. so don’t worry about figuring out the “big picture” (extremely common to not know what that is until late 20s/early 30s) and the best thing you can do is explore anything and everything that interests you without guilt or worry. goals don’t have to be super big or serious or heavy.

really your goal is to EXPLORE and HAVE FUN! ☺️

[expensiveity]

heal. your mom may never apologize to you, because she has conditioned herself to believe that she did right by you. she hasn't healed. heal anyway. your father may never apologize to you, because he can only see what he's done right. he hasn't healed. your family members may never apologize to you, because toxicity is what they were raised on. they haven't healed. heal anyway. that "friend" may never apologize to you, because he/she isn't sorry. he/she hasn't healed. if/when they reach their healing, they may seek your forgiveness. be so healed that it won't even matter. heal for you. you owe yourself that much.

[lovedisarms-deactivated20250422]

THIS!!!!!!! HEAL FOR YOURSELF!!!!!! NOT FOR THE SAKE OF OTHERS!!!!! BUT FOR YOU!!!!!! People often inquire how I have the relationship I have with my parents considering it all and my answer to that is my healing is not contingent on them, but rather myself. I don’t have to wait for them to heal, to reflect, to realize, and to act before I am able to. Of course it carries weight to know my parents won’t apologize for the past, and that it will always linger within our home and within our relationship, however: I am not bound by the actions or dare I say inactions of them. I owe it to myself to heal and to forgive and to stop centering the hurt people have caused me and to rather instead center my own wellbeing.

[adviceformefromme]

Your self worth cannot come from whether or not he flys to see you, messages you back, wants to take you out, or shows interest in you. 

Your value is in no way reflected by his actions. How YOU show up determines your value, your self worth. It’s never on them, it’s always on you. He decides to give you more attention, what all of sudden you feel worthy? You feel loved, chosen? This is not the correct energy. As soon as that attention is removed you feel like you’re not wanted, and not worthy? This energy has to be corrected. 

The focus a man places on you or not does not determine your value. Your worth. Your ability to receive love. 

Remember YOU are a vessel of love. This is who you are at your core. So take the microscope off him, analysing the actions of him, because while he might be giving you bare minimum, it's just a reflection of the bare minimum you are giving yourself. Here's the advice for today, do yourself a favour. Get your energy right for you. Focus on you. Let go of any ideas of him. ANY ideas. Just set them free. No fear, no hope. Nothing. Wipe clean. And POUR INTO YOU. This is the magnetism. 

[lovemakesyouwonder]

[wetheurban]

Say it with me:

Just because I read their message does not mean I have to be immediately available to them.