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@dragon-ace03
I hate you forced random pairings at the last minute, I hate you love at first sight, I hate you “they’re obviously more than friends”, I hate you pity for single people, I hate you virgin jokes, I hate you amatonormative/allonormative media
aroace culture is seeing someone who's just a little too pretty/handsome and questioning your entire sexuality
then remembering why you're aroace
then repeating the cycle at least every other day
although i know im definitely not allosexual that shit scares me
some pride ghosts for spooky season !!
Shout out to that specific brand of asexuality that’s like, “I want to fantasize about sex. No actual sex! Only fantasize!”
Welcome to the funniest set of memes I’ve ever seen thank you
Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself
Me: I am violently depressed.
Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!
Me: *signs up for yoga*
Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*
Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws
Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.
Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t
Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.
TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.
FUCKING THIS.
As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL
Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???
because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there. suicides actually increase when medicated. why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself. which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.
it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours. that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE
STOP ACTING LIKE THERAPY IS SHIT IF IT DOESNT WORK IN TWO SESSIONS
^This!!!!!
The stigma that therapy isn’t worth it if you don’t feel better after the first couple sessions is such bullshit. It took me 8 months to tell my therapist anything personal but I kept going because I wanted to get better. I thought it was bs too when she kept telling me to think about other things and to distract myself when I have intrusive thoughts (not exact words whatsoever). Now it’s 2 and a half years later and I can successfully switch from thinking about all the ways I could kill myself to the song Slippery by Migos and immediately start laughing. You need to let it help you.
I really hate how if someone has a romantic partner that’s clingy or overprotective of you, or vice versa, that’s considered a good thing because it shows they really care and love you, but if your friend was clingy or overprotective with you, or vice versa, it can be seen as annoying or people even assume someone’s just jealous. I can love my friends just as much, if not more, than a romantic partner, but the problem is they don’t want it. They don’t want platonic love because to them romantic love is better, so my love is expendable. That’s why it makes it so hard to listen to people talk about their significant other. Whether it’s good or bad about their relationship, I just can’t relate to it and instead it triggers all my fears and insecurities as an aroace, so it makes me angry that romantic relationships are so highly valued while friendships are seen as lesser. I just want someone to treat me like how I treat others, but I’ve always been told that the only person who could do that for me is a romantic partner. And I think that says more about how terrible people are to their friends and they ought to be ashamed of themselves for admitting that.
12th June 2016 - 5 years ago today 💔🏳️🌈
Screw it.
Aces who are heteroromantic, you are wonderful.
Aros who are heterosexual, I love you.
Don’t come at me saying you support aspec people if you can’t respect these identities.
Gender abolition, but make it:
clothes sorted by body shape and style, instead of gender
removing unnecessary gender markers from non-medical documents like a driver’s license
genderless bathrooms where the stalls have floor-to-ceiling walls for privacy
abolishing gendered toys, colors, professions, hobbies, etc.
they/them as the default if you don’t know someone
And NOT:
trans and non-binary people being barred from identifying with and expressing their gender
Dear teen girls,
Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.
Stop:
Yelling at him in front of his friends
Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like
Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you
Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him
Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend
Forcing him to spend every moment with you
Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws
Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake
Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want
Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want
Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you
Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes
Telling him you are the must thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love
Physically attacking him when ever you are mad
Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to
Invading his privacy by going through his phone
Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is
If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like shit. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy.
Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.
Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive.
!!!!!!!! My brother was abused by his babies mom and it started like this and escalated to child abuse and neglect.
You don’t deserve to be screamed at, ignored, or assaulted.
Not showing affection when she wants or not hugging her before class) or missing a phone call doesn’t warrant getting cussed out or hit.
Lol, I lost 5 followers from reblogging this. That’s fine, y'all can go
Whole lot of grown women do this too.
Just wanna throw these in too
Being passive aggressive with him when he wants to spend time with friends or doing other things
controlling when he’s able to go out with friends
Breaking up his friendships with other girls just because you’re insecure
Making him feel like his opinions in decisions that affect the both of you are irrelevant and don’t matter
SENDING HIS NUMBER TO STRANGERS TO TEST IF HE’S LOYAL OR NOT
testing him in anyway in general without his knowledge or permission (example: catfishing! it’s manipulative and weird don’t fucking do that)
taking money/credit cards without permission to spend on things without his knowledge ( had an ex friend do this constantly to her boyfriend and she’d always condone it because “he’ll get over it” )
guilting him for hanging out with friends/family over you and making him choose between you and friends/family
telling him “you don’t love me if you *insert harmless activity he wants to do here* “
being rude or mean to him in front of others to assert dominance or power over him
downloading apps to spy on his phone activity (yes, this is a thing “”regular”” people do) or snooping on his social media to see who he’s talking to
hitting him, slapping him, punching him, shoving him. literally how do people not understand slapping your male partner is bad. people tend to find this funny in media and society and its weird. KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT PERMISSION.
I come from a family of very forward and manipulative women and i see it in media all the time. it’s fucked and people need to not be accepting of young girls acting like snot-nosed, abusive shit heads that think they can get away with manipulation and cruelty because they happen to be girls.
and let me add this. ABUSIVE TEEN GIRLFRIENDS TURN INTO ABUSIVE GROWN ASS WOMEN GIRLFRIENDS WHO TURN INTO ABUSIVE WIVES.
if you have an abusive teen or young adult gf right now fellas, leave. don’t let her use you to get her shit right. you’ll be so fucked up by the time she gets it together if she ever does and believe that most likely she won’t.
Can i just add that ive seen young queer girls do this to their girlfriends. Girls can be abusers and you are right to leave.
Women/young girls can definitely be just as abusive. I knew a young man that got ran over and had his leg broken by his girlfriend because (in her words he annoyed her) He refused to press charges. Another young lady started to hit her ex boyfriend because he wouldn’t take her back because of the abuse. He called the cops on her and they literally started laughing at him because she was very petite in comparison to him. Anyone can be abusive and I wish more people understood that.
dammit I’d spam my blog if i reblog this more than once but dude this is really important.
Oh my god. This is so important.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
THANK YOU FOR SUPPORTING MEN! THIS MEANS SO MUCH TO US.
So I got hate mail for this.
No one is saying that women and girls that are victims of domestic violence can’t defend themselves. You have every right to defend yourself if you are experiencing abuse.
What we are saying is that women and girls that are not being abused by their partners should not hit their mates.
What do u do if it’s your mom
I’m so sorry you are going through this. You don’t deserve it.
Try contacting the domestic abuse help line for men and women: 1.888.743.5754
And help4guys.org has a compilation of resources and information that could help.
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!!!! MEN/BOYS GET ABUSED!!! ITS OKAY TO SAY SO!! JUST BC YOU ADMIT THAT WOMEN CAN BE ABUSIVE DOES NOT MEAN THAT MEN ALL OF A SUDDEN ARENT!!
ABUSE CAN GO BOTH WAYS
Indeed
shout out to ace and aro kids who are constantly bombarded with the opinion that sex and romantic love are directly connected to living a happy life.
Y’all are just reblogging this at the speed of sound tonight
Since it’s almost valentines day, and this message is about to get hammered in even more, reblogging this again.
IF YOU ARE UNMARRIED, DON'T HAVE KIDS, AND HATE YOUR PARENTS PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD HAVE A FUCKING WILL
this has been a public service announcement from your friendly neighborhood probate lawyer
Again:
1. The law doesn't care how long your parents and family have been out of your life
2. The law doesn't care about your long term friends or "found family"
If you don't have legal documents that say otherwise, your biological family calls all the shots.
This goes especially for LGBTQ+. Please do not get deadnamed in your obituary.
How to make a will.
How to make a living will (Advance Healthcare Directive) so you don’t get fucked over by biological family if you end up in a situation where you cannot make your own healthcare choices.
If youre trans, this video is a good ref to start with and she provides links and organizations that can help
