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🐧 god, it’s brutal out here. swiftie. chelsea fc. f1. charles leclerc, reece james and eden hazard enthusiast. alex karev, jess mariano, finn hudson, pacey witter and simon lewis are the fictional loves of my life.

[yesterdaysprint]

Barnard Bulletin, New York, November 22, 1938

[hope-ur-ok]

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I mean if you think about it clean and evermore are basically the same song emotion wise

[palmpetals]

hope girls grow up knowing that there are infinite ways of being a woman. hope girls grow up loving themselves for who they are.

[wetheurban]

Forgive yourself for the coping mechanisms you adopted during challenging times.

[drinkyourjuiceshelby]

For several days afterwards too

[thepeacefulgarden]

[wagnetic]

[Text: In recovery circles, I’ve heard this described as “going to the hardware store for oranges.” In this case the hardware store is your parents and the oranges are the love and support you rightfully wish they could give you. Unfortunately, the hardware store simply doesn’t stock oranges. And we save ourselves a world of hurt when we learn to stop going to people for things they aren’t capable of giving us.]

[into-the-weeds]

#oh I like this#but I like it better as a metaphor for a pattern of seeking out emotionally unavailable people rather than expecting kindness from parents#because you know that the hardware store isn’t supposed to carry oranges#I would say the thing about parents is more like expecting a grocery store that’s always out of oranges to have oranges next time#it’s not unreasonable to expect oranges from a grocery store#but this store will never have oranges despite this (via @wagnetic)

[dalniente]

I have to respectfully disagree with those tags. I see what they're saying and it still works from a metaphor standpoint, but the issue is they're ultimately still expecting parents to be a grocery store.

It is absolutely crucial to understand that parents are no different from anybody else. "A pattern of seeking out emotionally unavailable people" can very easily still apply to parents! They don't become grocery stores just because they're parents. And in this case, your parents aren't a grocery store. They are not "out" of oranges, the oranges were never in stock and they were never going to be.

It's okay if you thought they were a grocery store! Parents are supposed to be grocery stores. It is not unreasonable to expect oranges from something you THINK is a grocery store, especially when everyone else is saying "look at these oranges I got at the grocery store, which is my parents." But at some point, you look around and realize-- wait, what the fuck, MY parents aren't a grocery store at all! no wonder I can't get oranges here! And then you stop expecting the oranges entirely.

That's what this is really about, at its core. It's about modifying expectations, not finding new ways to explain why they're still reasonable. If your parents are a grocery store that's just perpetually out of oranges, then you still have reason to believe this time might be different. They COULD have oranges this time; they're a grocery store. Maybe this time will be different. Maybe this time--

No. It won't be. Because the place where you are looking for oranges is fundamentally incapable of giving them to you.

It isn't fair that you got a hardware store when everyone else got groceries. You deserved to have oranges too, all the oranges you ever wanted. You know you deserve this, just like you know parents are supposed to be grocery stores-- it's why you keep checking! But at the end of the day, the simple fact is, you got a hardware store. It sucks and it's not fair and it's okay to feel whatever way you feel about it, for as long as you need to, but at some point...

...you gotta stop going to the hardware store for oranges.

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so many boycotts are so easy to do by being poor like i saw a influencer in a high rise loft apartment on tiktok saying to boycott chanel and it’s like ofcourse baby i am twenty steps ahead of you, we are in entirely different brackets

[folkloregirlfriend]

[catboy-joyfriend]

i need infinite money forever so i can get everyone so so so many little gifts

[honeypleasejustkillme]

therapists saying you're surprisingly self aware is like being called a pleasure to have in class for adults

[evermoredeluxe]

Taylor for 1989 TV

[happinessoncorneliastreet]

@taylorswift 's messages for each of her re-recorded albums

[weare----thefoxes]

Full body CHILLS 😭

[theerastour]

it's been waiting for you

[o-wild-west-wind]

ofmd is like not comedy as in sitcom but comedy as in shakespearean where it’s psychological trauma and conflicts of violence but with dick jokes and the promise of marriage in the end

[theemporium]

tits? tits.

[tommyknards-archive]

OUR FLAG MEANS DEATH | 2.05

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