aroallo culture is being super self conscious about your sexual attraction in fear of being labeled a gooner, or feeling like one already despite enjoying other aspects of life and relationships just as much
i'm gonna be so real: porn addiction is not real. gooning was a specific fantasy kink that got wildly changed by hitting mainstream.
some specific comments re: porn addiction not being real:
there is no study that proves porn addiction "shrinks your brain" as a whole, and a few that suggest people who watch more porn have a smaller region of the pleasure center of the brain. there is not a known direction of that correlation: it may be that people with a smaller pleasure region are more likely to watch more porn, or it may mean watching a lot of porn shrinks that area. the effect of either is not well understood, and could have no impact. anyone who doesn't put nuance in neurological impacts is trying to sell you something, whether ideological or product based.
there are very, very mixed studies about the effect of porn on relationships. it is more complicated than "porn ruins your relationship" or "porn improves your relationship". broadly, it's thought to depend on a lot of context - ie, solo/mutual watching, secretive/open in a relationship about it, beliefs about porn, etc.
there is no evidence that frequent porn watching or masturbation decrease the ability to get aroused. there is some evidence it might increase it, to a degree. there is some evidence that especially among women who report feeling more shame about watching porn feel less aroused after watching it. this is thought to be about the shame, and not the porn.
there's a HUGE amount of money poured into trying to find negative effects, very few of which reputably find significant detriments. there's not a lot of money into studies about neutral or positive effects. headlines will say the most shocking possible interpretation they can, regardless of the methodology, peer review status, or funders.
there are studies that STRONGLY indicate that feeling addicted to porn or masturbation is most correlated with a background where you feel that doing those behaviors is inherently bad, regardless of actual frequency or use.
“There is no scientific recognition of ‘pornography addiction’,” Grubbs explains. Prause agrees: “Of the different ways to understand problematic pornography use – such as poor sex education, problematic behaviour, or compulsivity – ‘addiction’ is the least supported by science.”
that said, if you feel that you use porn to escape negative emotions without ever addressing them, seeking a mental health therapist and talking about your worries over avoidant behaviors is a good plan.
A common scenario to watch out for is using porn to drown out difficult emotions. This can happen with any pleasurable activity, such as eating, sleeping or gaming, where a person begins excessively relying on that activity as a way to cope.
“A healthier coping response might be to attempt to deal with the factors that cause the distress in the first place. This is opposed to just suppressing the feelings of distress by temporarily overpowering them with highly rewarding behaviours,” says Rowland.
in addition, if you find that you worry a LOT about how others perceive you, how porn is affecting you morally, ethically, religiously, or in community or relationships, or feeling like porn "contaminates" you in some way, it may be worth reading up on OCD and seeking an OCD-aware therapist (which is really, really not every therapist).