[inthaf]

halsey i would die for you. your lyrics give voices to so many people and this tweet says so much as well.

[389]

Kingdom Hearts

[dragon-in-a-fez]

under US law, it's illegal for anyone who's not a member of a recognised native tribe to own an eagle feather. the penalty is a $100,000 fine.

14 years ago when I had recently moved to Alaska, I went hiking with an Aleut friend, and she pointed to a feather lying on the ground and said "hey that's a bald eagle tail feather, you should grab it!" and I was like "uhh I'm very white and that's very illegal" and she went "they're fuckin everywhere up here man. I have 20." so she grabs it off the ground and hands it to me and says "there, now it's a ceremonial gift from an indigenous person."

and I'm like, okay, cool, I guess this is how we do things in Alaska. nice.

so I keep this bald eagle tail feather around for years. display it in my home among other cherished memorabilia from places I've lived and visited, etc.

on a whim, I have just now looked it up. there is no exemption to that law for a ceremonial gift from an indigenous person. the last 7 years I lived in the US, I was technically a bald eagle poacher.

probably a good thing I don't intend to move back there anytime soon. I wonder what the statute of limitations is on bird crimes.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

@freedomisscaryshit I'm fucking dying I think you forgot the word "feathers" in your tags?? or do you just wish you could grab whole ass eagles that land in your yard??

[emotional-support-husband]

As an Indigenous person, it continues to astound me that there are such strict laws (written by White people) in our name, laws against...picking up things just found on the ground. Like, stop pretending this is "for" us. We don't want this.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

so, for clarity, that's not what this is. the law against possessing feathers is an anti-poaching measure, derived from a North American treaty protecting certain migratory bird species from hunting. that treaty has an exemption for indigenous people to allow tribes that use eagle feathers in ceremonial or religious practices to continue doing so.

[chekhovs-raygun]

i used to collect feathers (illegally) as a teenager and the thing is that it's incredibly important for feathers from wild birds to be illegal to possess because it ensures that they never become fashionable to wear. the reason we passed the migratory bird act was because the american and european fashion industry was driving species to extinction in a timespan of years. not just decades. the ecological devastation of exporting birds for hats was absolutely insane and people were watching wetlands and forests and meadows just empty out in realtime. look at the wikipedia article for the plume trade.

the law against 'picking feathers up off the ground' means that you can't go shoot an eagle then sell the feathers on etsy by saying you 'just found them'. you can't own them no matter where they came from, which makes sure that they're not going to come from any birds killed and then secretly disposed of.

these laws, as harsh and ridiculous as they seem, saved flamingos, spoonbills, egrets, and all kinds of hawks and eagles from extinction. the minute these laws weaken and people can make money off killing them again, they're fucked.

[lizardlicks]

this is one of those "no actually this regulation exists for a reason" laws much like work place safety and building fire codes (that Republicans keep trying to roll back) and is written in blood just like them as well. it's just not human blood this time, and the fact that people actually cared enough about long term future over short term profit to get it put in place is nothing short of astonishing. That it didn't get put in place in time to save several species is heart breaking.

[vinceaddams]

"Stained glass" faille jacket by Freda Blackwood, 1970's or early 80's, via Kerry Taylor Auctions.

[vinceaddams]

There's more of them!!

Edit: And here's a 5 minute video from the same exhibition.

[bespangeled]

In the 1960′s Legally a woman couldn’t

Open a bank account or get a credit card without signed permission from her father or hr husband.

Serve on a jury - because it might inconvenience the family not to have the woman at home being her husband’s helpmate.

Obtain any form of birth control without her husband’s permission. You had to be married, and your hub and had to agree to postpone having children.

Get an Ivy League education. Ivy League schools were men’s colleges ntil the 70′s and 80′s. When they opened their doors to women it was agree that women went there for their MRS. Degee.

Experience equality in the workplace: Kennedy’s Commission on the Status of Women produced a report in 1963 that revealed, among other things, that women earned 59 cents for every dollar that men earned and were kept out of the more lucrative professional positions.

Keep her job if she was pregnant.Until the Pregnancy Discrimination Act in 1978, women were regularly fired from their workplace for being pregnant.

Refuse to have sex with her husband.The mid 70s saw most states recognize marital rape and in 1993 it became criminalized in all 50 states. Nevertheless, marital rape is still often treated differently to other forms of rape in some states even today.

Get a divorce with some degree of ease.Before the No Fault Divorce law in 1969, spouses had to show the faults of the other party, such as adultery, and could easily be overturned by recrimination.

Have a legal abortion in most states.The Roe v. Wade case in 1973 protected a woman’s right to abortion until viability.

Take legal action against workplace sexual harassment. According to The Week, the first time a court recognized office sexual harassment as grounds for legal action was in 1977.

Play college sports Title IX of the  Education Amendments of protects people from discrimination  based on sex in education programs or activities that receive Federal financial  assistance It was nt until this statute that colleges had teams for women’s sports

Apply for men’s Jobs   The EEOC rules that sex-segregated help wanted ads in newspapers are illegal.  This ruling is upheld in 1973 by the Supreme Court, opening the way for women to apply for higher-paying jobs hitherto open only to men.

This is why we needed feminism - this is why we know that feminism works

[galacticdrift]

I just want to reiterate this stuff, because I legit get the feeling there are a lot of younger women for whom it hasn’t really sunk in what it is today’s GOP is actively trying to return to.

Did you go to a good college? Shame on you, you took a college placement that could have gone to a man who deserves and needs it to support or prepare for his wife & children. But if you really must attend college, well, some men like that, you can still get married if you focus on finding the right man.

Got a job? Why? A man could be doing that job. You should be at home caring for a family. You shouldn’t be taking that job away from a man who needs it (see college, above). You definitely don’t have a career – you’ll be pregnant and raising children soon, so no need to worry about promoting you.

This shit was within living memory.  I’M A MILLENIAL and my mother was in the second class that allowed women at an Ivy League school. Men who are alive today either personally remember shit like this or have parents/family who have raised them into thinking this was the way America functioned back in the blissful Good Old Days. There are literally dudes in the GOP old enough to remember when it was like this and yearn for those days to return.

When people talk about resisting conservativism and the GOP, we’re not just talking about whether the wage gap is a myth or not. We’re talking about whether women even have the fundamental right to exist as individuals, to run their own households and compete for jobs and be considered on an equal footing with men in any arena at all in the first place.

[gehayi]

I was a child in the 1960s, a teenager in the 1970s, a young adult in the 1980s. This is what it was like: When I was growing up, it was considered unfortunate if a girl was good at sports. Girls were not allowed in Little League. Girls’ teams didn’t exist in high school, except at all-girls’ high schools. Boys played sports, and girls were the cheerleaders. People used to ask me as a child what I wanted to be when I grew up. I said I wanted to be a brain surgeon or the first woman justice on the Supreme Court. Everyone told me it was impossible–those just weren’t realistic goals for a girl–the latter, especially, because you couldn’t trust women to judge fairly and rationally, after all. In the 1960s and 1970s, all women were identified by their marital status, even in arrest reports and obituaries. In elementary school, my science teacher referred to Pierre Curie as DOCTOR Curie and Marie Curie as MRS. Curie…because, as he put it, “she was just his wife.” (Both had doctorates and both were Nobel prize winners, so you would think that both would be accorded respect.) Companies could and did require women to wear dresses and skirts. Failure to do could and did get women fired. And it was legal. It was also legal to fire women for getting married or getting pregnant. The rationale was that a woman who was married or who had a child had no business working; that was what her husband was for. Aetna Insurance, the biggest insurance company in America, fired women for all of the above. A man could rape his wife. Legally. I can remember being twelve years old and reading about legal experts actually debating whether or not a man could actually be said to coerce his wife into having sex. This was a serious debate in 1974. The debate about marital rape came up in my law school, too, in 1984. Could a woman be raped by her husband? The guys all said no–a woman got married, so she was consenting to sex at all times. So I turned it around. I asked them if, since a man had gotten married, that meant that his wife could shove a dildo or a stick or something up his ass any time she wanted to for HER sexual pleasure. (Hey, I thought it was reasonable. If one gender was legally entitled to force sex on the other, then obviously the reverse should also be true.) The male law students didn’t like the idea. Interestingly, they commented that being treated like that would make them feel like a woman. My reaction was, “Thank you for proving my point…” The concept of date rape, when first proposed, was considered laughable. If a woman went out on a date, the argument of legal experts ran, sexual consent was implied. Even more sickening was the fact that in some states–even in the early 1980s–a man could rape his daughter…and it was no worse than a misdemeanor. Women taking self-defense classes in the 1970s and 1980s were frequently described in books and on TV as “cute.” The implication was that it was absurd for a woman to attempt to defend herself, but wasn’t it just adorable for her to try? I was expressly forbidden to take computer classes in junior and senior years of high school–1978-79 and 1979-80–because, as the principal told me, “Only boys have to know that kind of thing. You girls are going to get married, and you won’t use it.” When I was in college–from 1980 to 1984–there were no womens’ studies. The idea hadn’t occurred in many places because the presumption was that there was nothing TO study. My history professor–a man who had a doctorate in history–informed me quite seriously that women had never produced a noted painter, sculptor, composer, architect or scientist because…wait for it…womens’ brains were too small. (He was very surprised when I came up with a list of fifty women gifted in the arts and science, most of whom he had never heard of before.) When Walter Mondale picked Geraldine Ferraro as a running mate in 1984, the press hailed it as a disaster. What would happen, they asked fearfully, if Mondale died and Ferraro became president? What if an international crisis arose and she was menstruating? She could push the nuclear button in a fit of PMS! It would be the end of the WORLD!! …No, they WEREN’T kidding. On the surface, things are very different now than they were when I was a child, a teen and a young adult. But I’m afraid that people now do not realize what it was like then. I’ve read a lot of posts from young women who say that they are not feminists. If the only exposure to feminism they have is the work of extremists, I cannot blame them overmuch. I wish that I could tell them what feminism was like when it was new–when the dream of legal equality was just a dream, and hadn’t even begun to come true. When “woman’s work” was a sneer–and an overt putdown. When people tut-tutted over bright and athletic girls with the words, “Really, it’s a shame she’s not a boy.” That lack of feminism wasn’t all men opening doors and picking up checks. A lot of it was an attitude of patronizing contempt that hasn’t entirely died out, but which has become less publicly acceptable. I wish I could make them feel what it was like…when grown men were called “men” and grown women were “girls.”

[drst]

Know your history.

[hedwig-dordt]

So this, too, is what they mean saying “make America great again” and/or the good old days.

[shatterpath]

REBLOG FOREVER.

[toooldforthissh--stuff]

I am 70. I remember all those things. I was a student nurse from 64 to 67 and we were not permitted to “finish” a bed bath on a male or insert a catheter in a male. Seeing male genitals might cause us “harm” or upset our delicate sensibilities. Imagine when we graduated and were “thrown” to the wolves. Imagine if you were a male patient who had to be the first to be “practiced” on by a graduate nurse. (Ha!) At the school I attended no student nurse could be married. Only one school in my city (Atlanta) would even admit married women and Male Nurses weren’t even thought of. What man would want to be a nurse when he could be a Doctor. In all my training I only remember 3 or 4 Women who were Doctor’s and a very few, (less than 5 or 6) female interns or residents (and this was a teaching hospital) and most of those were OB/Gyns and one was a pediatrician.

When I graduated and was going to get married I wanted to go on birth control pills. You needed to be on them for a least one cycle before they were effective. I won’t go into what hoops I had to jump through to get a prescription from my Dr. (a man, natch) but when i went to the drug store to get the prescription filled I ended up having to get my future husband to “accompany” me so the pharmacist “interview” him and see if it was okay with him for me to be on the pill.

Even when we went to get a marriage license I had to get my Father’s signature and we had to go before a Judge because I was not yet 21 (I was 20 and 9 months).

I could go on and on, getting a credit card in MY name, etc., but I will tell you that WE MUST RESIST.

[casper-the-friendly-being-blog]

The number of people I know who romanticize gender inequality is frankly terrifying. A world never existed in which the lives of women were simplified by benevolent men who saw to her every want and need. That was not a thing. A world never existed in which women were all ladies, men were all gentlemen, & everything was some great big cishet fairytale. Feminists aren’t a bunch of upstarts who want to destroy a perfectly wholesome and non-harmful system. Just…look at history. Look at the posts above. We. Must. Resist..

[rivergst-deactivated20191102]

About 8: The State of New York only added No-Fault Divorce as an option in 2010 (!!!)

[systlin]

I want to repeat here. 

This is what they mean, when they say “Old-fashioned values”

When conservatives start waxing lyrical about the ‘good old days’, this is what they mean. They are fully aware how much things blew for women, and they would like to return to that. 

[whatbigotspost]

At first I re-blogged this with no commentary added because it’s already so thorough and good.

But then I realized I actually do want to add something. This was written nine years ago. In the 9 years that have come to pass the white nationalist Christian fascism ultra right agenda of misogyny has had many victories.

In the United States just off the top of my head a very few examples: there’s no longer a legally protected right to abortion. Countless laws across our country police, how woman you must look or be to enter a public bathroom. We know with certainty the president and countless people around him are pedophiles and rapists. Women’s participation in the workforce has been rolled back to 1980s levels. The pressure to be thin is higher now than 10 years ago.

[aetherograph]

I was a preteen in the 90s, and a teen in the 00s. Girls were told to go to college and have careers instead of aspiring to “only” be housewives and mothers… and yet, on the playground, girls were still bullied out of sports and discouraged from active play in favour of “girl” games like make-believe, sandcastles, and maybe jumprope or hopscotch. I was severely punished for not being obedient and for getting angry and for being loud.

The only sports I was offered were ballet, tap, and gymnastics, all of which saw me getting bullied and discouraged by the teacher herself, because I was tall and going through puberty early, which made me bigger and curvier and hairier than the other girls. I was “never going to be any good” because I was “too big”.

Boys, on the other hand, did not get encouraged or taught how to do laundry, cook, or otherwise take care of themselves. Boys didn’t get support or permission to cry or “show weakness” i.e. gentleness and vulnerability. Boys didn’t get punished for violence. Boys didn’t get offered dance or gymnastics or anything girls were offered because it was “for girls”. Many grew up acting like their fathers, who were born in the 1950s and 60s.

Home Ec classes were sexist; but instead of making them required for everyone, they were simply shuttered. No one learned those vital skills now. Same with shop class.

We need feminism because we need to raise everyone the same way. Everyone needs to learn the same things. Boys need to learn it’s okay to cry, wear colours, be gentle, cook, have and want a nice clean house, nurture children and friends, and regulate their emotions.

In my observation and in my life experience, I have seen the vital need that feminism address that while empowering girls toward things is good, we also need to stop neglecting what boys need, and stop neglecting the things historically assigned to girls as universally bad. That’s sexist. Parenting has made strides in this regard; but there’s more to being an adult than raising children–for every gender. I think it far more vital to instill in people that learning to take care of yourself and your home is gender-neutral, that learning to repair and build is gender-neutral, that learning to socialise collaboratively rather than competitively is gender-neutral.

Feminists spent a lot of energy telling me I was supposed to want a college-degree-requiring career and leadership; and that’s all well and good, but if boys are taught to want a college-degree-requiring career and leadership and girls are taught to want a career and leadership, who is doing the laundry and the dishes? Who is doing the trades?

The answer to that first one, in my peers and I at least, was that tasks for taking care of yourself and your home were a punishment. That raises miserable adults that have unhealthily dirty homes and struggle to care for themselves, because they associate doing so with punishment. And they treat jobs (and often the people who do them) that clean and cook with contempt, and refuse to do them.

The answer to the second is, well, nobody! There’s a MASSIVE dearth of people going into the trades now, because millenials and Gen Z were not told trade school was an option. Lots of us–me included–would have benefitted from trade school! Lots of us, as with all generations, are better at trades than the college stuff! Yes, especially girls! Feminism means letting girls be good at the trades!

I am grateful every day for what feminism has achieved and I am angry at those trying to undo it; but I also think we need to stop ignoring what the patriarchy takes away from boys; and stop condemning “girl” things like sewing, cooking, cleaning, child-rearing, emotional regulation, social skills, etc. I also think the trades crisis does have something to do with feminism, in that feminism was so focussed on disproving “girls can’t do higher education” that it kind of didn’t leave room for girls who–not because they’re girls but because some people just aren’t–truly aren’t good at university subjects and are VERY good with their hands and with the skills and knowledge required in the trades! That is not a step down, that is not “for stupid kids”, the trades RUN the world, and being good with your hands and with hands-on knowledge is not stupidity, that is just a different kind of knowledge.

I know the patriarchy keeps trying to endlessly fight on the most basic shit imaginable and it’s exhausting to keep having the same conversation over and over, but I think it’s important that we talk about all the other issues. I think it’s unfair to burden girls and women with literally everything we have been burdening them with AND everything we burden men and boys with, while letting men and boys continue carrying their burden alone and telling them it isn’t a burden and not acknowledging the calibre of disaster it has been to ignore the issues sexism inflicts on them all this time. “Don’t centre men” has become “don’t talk to or about men at all” and it has been catastrophic.

So what is my proposed solution?

Teaching people competition from birth is, I think, one of the root problems never addressed. We raise adults that MUST win every conversation, must win every social interaction, and only have “win” as their political goal for whatever group they put themselves in. You can’t have equality when your values are to win, to be on top, to be the best.

We have to teach collaboration from birth. That requires massively restructuring education and child-rearing. Luckily, someone did all the work for us a long time ago, and gave us a blueprint.

Her name was Dr Maria Montessori.

That’s the solution, truly. You want equality? We have to start at birth, we have to start at school.

[euphoric-angel777]

Does a story die with its narrator?

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

everybody say thank you ao3

[anarchistmemedistro]

[bananonbinary]

in case anyone's wondering, the maximum ssi amount in 2026 is $993 a month. they cut that if you get any other money from any other source at all. like, if someone tries to give you money for christmas presents or you try to do some work for uber so you can save up for something, ssi will take it out of your monthly amount so you basically never go over $993. they really, really hate us.

[pingintech]

you very famously cannot marry if youre disabled and on ssi in america bc then you and your spouses income are counted as one income and any income over 993$ will result in you getting kicked off of ssi and youll likely be forced to repay every cent of ssi you ever received

[emoparamore]

hayley williams, nashville night 2

[bespangeled]

In the 1960′s Legally a woman couldn’t

Open a bank account or get a credit card without signed permission from her father or hr husband.

Serve on a jury - because it might inconvenience the family not to have the woman at home being her husband’s helpmate.

Obtain any form of birth control without her husband’s permission. You had to be married, and your hub and had to agree to postpone having children.

Get an Ivy League education. Ivy League schools were men’s colleges ntil the 70′s and 80′s. When they opened their doors to women it was agree that women went there for their MRS. Degee.

Experience equality in the workplace: Kennedy’s Commission on the Status of Women produced a report in 1963 that revealed, among other things, that women earned 59 cents for every dollar that men earned and were kept out of the more lucrative professional positions.

Keep her job if she was pregnant.Until the Pregnancy Discrimination Act in 1978, women were regularly fired from their workplace for being pregnant.

Refuse to have sex with her husband.The mid 70s saw most states recognize marital rape and in 1993 it became criminalized in all 50 states. Nevertheless, marital rape is still often treated differently to other forms of rape in some states even today.

Get a divorce with some degree of ease.Before the No Fault Divorce law in 1969, spouses had to show the faults of the other party, such as adultery, and could easily be overturned by recrimination.

Have a legal abortion in most states.The Roe v. Wade case in 1973 protected a woman’s right to abortion until viability.

Take legal action against workplace sexual harassment. According to The Week, the first time a court recognized office sexual harassment as grounds for legal action was in 1977.

Play college sports Title IX of the  Education Amendments of protects people from discrimination  based on sex in education programs or activities that receive Federal financial  assistance It was nt until this statute that colleges had teams for women’s sports

Apply for men’s Jobs   The EEOC rules that sex-segregated help wanted ads in newspapers are illegal.  This ruling is upheld in 1973 by the Supreme Court, opening the way for women to apply for higher-paying jobs hitherto open only to men.

This is why we needed feminism - this is why we know that feminism works

[galacticdrift]

I just want to reiterate this stuff, because I legit get the feeling there are a lot of younger women for whom it hasn’t really sunk in what it is today’s GOP is actively trying to return to.

Did you go to a good college? Shame on you, you took a college placement that could have gone to a man who deserves and needs it to support or prepare for his wife & children. But if you really must attend college, well, some men like that, you can still get married if you focus on finding the right man.

Got a job? Why? A man could be doing that job. You should be at home caring for a family. You shouldn’t be taking that job away from a man who needs it (see college, above). You definitely don’t have a career – you’ll be pregnant and raising children soon, so no need to worry about promoting you.

This shit was within living memory.  I’M A MILLENIAL and my mother was in the second class that allowed women at an Ivy League school. Men who are alive today either personally remember shit like this or have parents/family who have raised them into thinking this was the way America functioned back in the blissful Good Old Days. There are literally dudes in the GOP old enough to remember when it was like this and yearn for those days to return.

When people talk about resisting conservativism and the GOP, we’re not just talking about whether the wage gap is a myth or not. We’re talking about whether women even have the fundamental right to exist as individuals, to run their own households and compete for jobs and be considered on an equal footing with men in any arena at all in the first place.

[gehayi]

I was a child in the 1960s, a teenager in the 1970s, a young adult in the 1980s. This is what it was like: When I was growing up, it was considered unfortunate if a girl was good at sports. Girls were not allowed in Little League. Girls’ teams didn’t exist in high school, except at all-girls’ high schools. Boys played sports, and girls were the cheerleaders. People used to ask me as a child what I wanted to be when I grew up. I said I wanted to be a brain surgeon or the first woman justice on the Supreme Court. Everyone told me it was impossible–those just weren’t realistic goals for a girl–the latter, especially, because you couldn’t trust women to judge fairly and rationally, after all. In the 1960s and 1970s, all women were identified by their marital status, even in arrest reports and obituaries. In elementary school, my science teacher referred to Pierre Curie as DOCTOR Curie and Marie Curie as MRS. Curie…because, as he put it, “she was just his wife.” (Both had doctorates and both were Nobel prize winners, so you would think that both would be accorded respect.) Companies could and did require women to wear dresses and skirts. Failure to do could and did get women fired. And it was legal. It was also legal to fire women for getting married or getting pregnant. The rationale was that a woman who was married or who had a child had no business working; that was what her husband was for. Aetna Insurance, the biggest insurance company in America, fired women for all of the above. A man could rape his wife. Legally. I can remember being twelve years old and reading about legal experts actually debating whether or not a man could actually be said to coerce his wife into having sex. This was a serious debate in 1974. The debate about marital rape came up in my law school, too, in 1984. Could a woman be raped by her husband? The guys all said no–a woman got married, so she was consenting to sex at all times. So I turned it around. I asked them if, since a man had gotten married, that meant that his wife could shove a dildo or a stick or something up his ass any time she wanted to for HER sexual pleasure. (Hey, I thought it was reasonable. If one gender was legally entitled to force sex on the other, then obviously the reverse should also be true.) The male law students didn’t like the idea. Interestingly, they commented that being treated like that would make them feel like a woman. My reaction was, “Thank you for proving my point…” The concept of date rape, when first proposed, was considered laughable. If a woman went out on a date, the argument of legal experts ran, sexual consent was implied. Even more sickening was the fact that in some states–even in the early 1980s–a man could rape his daughter…and it was no worse than a misdemeanor. Women taking self-defense classes in the 1970s and 1980s were frequently described in books and on TV as “cute.” The implication was that it was absurd for a woman to attempt to defend herself, but wasn’t it just adorable for her to try? I was expressly forbidden to take computer classes in junior and senior years of high school–1978-79 and 1979-80–because, as the principal told me, “Only boys have to know that kind of thing. You girls are going to get married, and you won’t use it.” When I was in college–from 1980 to 1984–there were no womens’ studies. The idea hadn’t occurred in many places because the presumption was that there was nothing TO study. My history professor–a man who had a doctorate in history–informed me quite seriously that women had never produced a noted painter, sculptor, composer, architect or scientist because…wait for it…womens’ brains were too small. (He was very surprised when I came up with a list of fifty women gifted in the arts and science, most of whom he had never heard of before.) When Walter Mondale picked Geraldine Ferraro as a running mate in 1984, the press hailed it as a disaster. What would happen, they asked fearfully, if Mondale died and Ferraro became president? What if an international crisis arose and she was menstruating? She could push the nuclear button in a fit of PMS! It would be the end of the WORLD!! …No, they WEREN’T kidding. On the surface, things are very different now than they were when I was a child, a teen and a young adult. But I’m afraid that people now do not realize what it was like then. I’ve read a lot of posts from young women who say that they are not feminists. If the only exposure to feminism they have is the work of extremists, I cannot blame them overmuch. I wish that I could tell them what feminism was like when it was new–when the dream of legal equality was just a dream, and hadn’t even begun to come true. When “woman’s work” was a sneer–and an overt putdown. When people tut-tutted over bright and athletic girls with the words, “Really, it’s a shame she’s not a boy.” That lack of feminism wasn’t all men opening doors and picking up checks. A lot of it was an attitude of patronizing contempt that hasn’t entirely died out, but which has become less publicly acceptable. I wish I could make them feel what it was like…when grown men were called “men” and grown women were “girls.”

[drst]

Know your history.

[hedwig-dordt]

So this, too, is what they mean saying “make America great again” and/or the good old days.

[shatterpath]

REBLOG FOREVER.

[toooldforthissh--stuff]

I am 70. I remember all those things. I was a student nurse from 64 to 67 and we were not permitted to “finish” a bed bath on a male or insert a catheter in a male. Seeing male genitals might cause us “harm” or upset our delicate sensibilities. Imagine when we graduated and were “thrown” to the wolves. Imagine if you were a male patient who had to be the first to be “practiced” on by a graduate nurse. (Ha!) At the school I attended no student nurse could be married. Only one school in my city (Atlanta) would even admit married women and Male Nurses weren’t even thought of. What man would want to be a nurse when he could be a Doctor. In all my training I only remember 3 or 4 Women who were Doctor’s and a very few, (less than 5 or 6) female interns or residents (and this was a teaching hospital) and most of those were OB/Gyns and one was a pediatrician.

When I graduated and was going to get married I wanted to go on birth control pills. You needed to be on them for a least one cycle before they were effective. I won’t go into what hoops I had to jump through to get a prescription from my Dr. (a man, natch) but when i went to the drug store to get the prescription filled I ended up having to get my future husband to “accompany” me so the pharmacist “interview” him and see if it was okay with him for me to be on the pill.

Even when we went to get a marriage license I had to get my Father’s signature and we had to go before a Judge because I was not yet 21 (I was 20 and 9 months).

I could go on and on, getting a credit card in MY name, etc., but I will tell you that WE MUST RESIST.

[casper-the-friendly-being-blog]

The number of people I know who romanticize gender inequality is frankly terrifying. A world never existed in which the lives of women were simplified by benevolent men who saw to her every want and need. That was not a thing. A world never existed in which women were all ladies, men were all gentlemen, & everything was some great big cishet fairytale. Feminists aren’t a bunch of upstarts who want to destroy a perfectly wholesome and non-harmful system. Just…look at history. Look at the posts above. We. Must. Resist..

[rivergst-deactivated20191102]

About 8: The State of New York only added No-Fault Divorce as an option in 2010 (!!!)

[systlin]

I want to repeat here. 

This is what they mean, when they say “Old-fashioned values”

When conservatives start waxing lyrical about the ‘good old days’, this is what they mean. They are fully aware how much things blew for women, and they would like to return to that. 

[whatbigotspost]

At first I re-blogged this with no commentary added because it’s already so thorough and good.

But then I realized I actually do want to add something. This was written nine years ago. In the 9 years that have come to pass the white nationalist Christian fascism ultra right agenda of misogyny has had many victories.

In the United States just off the top of my head a very few examples: there’s no longer a legally protected right to abortion. Countless laws across our country police, how woman you must look or be to enter a public bathroom. We know with certainty the president and countless people around him are pedophiles and rapists. Women’s participation in the workforce has been rolled back to 1980s levels. The pressure to be thin is higher now than 10 years ago.

[aetherograph]

I was a preteen in the 90s, and a teen in the 00s. Girls were told to go to college and have careers instead of aspiring to “only” be housewives and mothers… and yet, on the playground, girls were still bullied out of sports and discouraged from active play in favour of “girl” games like make-believe, sandcastles, and maybe jumprope or hopscotch. I was severely punished for not being obedient and for getting angry and for being loud.

The only sports I was offered were ballet, tap, and gymnastics, all of which saw me getting bullied and discouraged by the teacher herself, because I was tall and going through puberty early, which made me bigger and curvier and hairier than the other girls. I was “never going to be any good” because I was “too big”.

Boys, on the other hand, did not get encouraged or taught how to do laundry, cook, or otherwise take care of themselves. Boys didn’t get support or permission to cry or “show weakness” i.e. gentleness and vulnerability. Boys didn’t get punished for violence. Boys didn’t get offered dance or gymnastics or anything girls were offered because it was “for girls”. Many grew up acting like their fathers, who were born in the 1950s and 60s.

Home Ec classes were sexist; but instead of making them required for everyone, they were simply shuttered. No one learned those vital skills now. Same with shop class.

We need feminism because we need to raise everyone the same way. Everyone needs to learn the same things. Boys need to learn it’s okay to cry, wear colours, be gentle, cook, have and want a nice clean house, nurture children and friends, and regulate their emotions.

In my observation and in my life experience, I have seen the vital need that feminism address that while empowering girls toward things is good, we also need to stop neglecting what boys need, and stop neglecting the things historically assigned to girls as universally bad. That’s sexist. Parenting has made strides in this regard; but there’s more to being an adult than raising children–for every gender. I think it far more vital to instill in people that learning to take care of yourself and your home is gender-neutral, that learning to repair and build is gender-neutral, that learning to socialise collaboratively rather than competitively is gender-neutral.

Feminists spent a lot of energy telling me I was supposed to want a college-degree-requiring career and leadership; and that’s all well and good, but if boys are taught to want a college-degree-requiring career and leadership and girls are taught to want a career and leadership, who is doing the laundry and the dishes? Who is doing the trades?

The answer to that first one, in my peers and I at least, was that tasks for taking care of yourself and your home were a punishment. That raises miserable adults that have unhealthily dirty homes and struggle to care for themselves, because they associate doing so with punishment. And they treat jobs (and often the people who do them) that clean and cook with contempt, and refuse to do them.

The answer to the second is, well, nobody! There’s a MASSIVE dearth of people going into the trades now, because millenials and Gen Z were not told trade school was an option. Lots of us–me included–would have benefitted from trade school! Lots of us, as with all generations, are better at trades than the college stuff! Yes, especially girls! Feminism means letting girls be good at the trades!

I am grateful every day for what feminism has achieved and I am angry at those trying to undo it; but I also think we need to stop ignoring what the patriarchy takes away from boys; and stop condemning “girl” things like sewing, cooking, cleaning, child-rearing, emotional regulation, social skills, etc. I also think the trades crisis does have something to do with feminism, in that feminism was so focussed on disproving “girls can’t do higher education” that it kind of didn’t leave room for girls who–not because they’re girls but because some people just aren’t–truly aren’t good at university subjects and are VERY good with their hands and with the skills and knowledge required in the trades! That is not a step down, that is not “for stupid kids”, the trades RUN the world, and being good with your hands and with hands-on knowledge is not stupidity, that is just a different kind of knowledge.

I know the patriarchy keeps trying to endlessly fight on the most basic shit imaginable and it’s exhausting to keep having the same conversation over and over, but I think it’s important that we talk about all the other issues. I think it’s unfair to burden girls and women with literally everything we have been burdening them with AND everything we burden men and boys with, while letting men and boys continue carrying their burden alone and telling them it isn’t a burden and not acknowledging the calibre of disaster it has been to ignore the issues sexism inflicts on them all this time. “Don’t centre men” has become “don’t talk to or about men at all” and it has been catastrophic.

So what is my proposed solution?

Teaching people competition from birth is, I think, one of the root problems never addressed. We raise adults that MUST win every conversation, must win every social interaction, and only have “win” as their political goal for whatever group they put themselves in. You can’t have equality when your values are to win, to be on top, to be the best.

We have to teach collaboration from birth. That requires massively restructuring education and child-rearing. Luckily, someone did all the work for us a long time ago, and gave us a blueprint.

Her name was Dr Maria Montessori.

That’s the solution, truly. You want equality? We have to start at birth, we have to start at school.

[olxwxa]

HALSEY and AVAN JOGIA attending the Gold Gala (May 9th, 2026)

[bryfrnd]

I nodded my head, as I lay on the bed. He said, "If I show you the roses, will you follow?" 🥀

[astrodidact]

[intheheartofman]

[wonderwanda]

I reblogged this yesterday, but I want to reblog it again. Diabetic ketoacidosis turns your blood acidic and will essentially burn you from the inside out.

The stories you hear of people dying from rationing, this is what happens to their body.

Affordable insulin isn’t just a right, it’s a necessity.

No one should have to die like that when it’s preventable with access to proper medication.

[inbabylontheywept]

People are so much more sad, and desparate, and lonely than you think. I have had three incidents in the last four months were a technician I was working with was being either dangerously unfocused (we work with high voltage), or just flat out angry with their coworkers, and every time when I just pulled them aside to say hey, this isn't you, you're nice, and you're competent, so something must be up - what can I do to help - they have responded by bursting into tears. One guy was struggling to get his wife moved into a care home, one guy just got served divorce papers, and the other hadn't slept a wink the night before because his daughter had the pukes.

I haven't spent my whole life responding to people being rude, or stupid, or dangerous with knee jerk compassion. It's a new habit. The first time I did that as the lead for my lab, it was because the guy genuinely was so good natured that I knew something had to be off. But the other two times were just me going, alright, lets see if it always goes this well, and so far, it has. I'm almost 30, and I just figured out that the #1 reason people are shitty are because they are going through shit.

I don't think you have, like, a moral obligation to respond to people being jerks with knee jerk compassion. But it has made my life so much easier the last four months that I would recommend trying. For your own sake. Please.

(I'll step off my soapbox now. Enjoy your Sunday.)

[halseyoungod]

"The Great Impersonator: Deluxe Edition" by Halsey is out now.

[anxietyproblem]

[lacquerheadd]

the king pretty princess of curses