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We’re indoctrinated from childhood with the idea that staying home sick is somehow suspect or lazy, and that morally superior people never have their productivity schedule compromised lol, when the reality is that going out in public when you’re sick is a terrible thing to do to immune-compromised and chronically ill people (and “healthy” people) and staying home is a good thing and a right we should all have, not only for our own sakes but for others’

starrypawz

This footage of Elmo after messing up a take on Sesame Street is peak relatable

sleepy-shark

In Elmo’s voice: “I only had three lines!”

hopefulmisanthrope

Doctors sound alarm about patients in their 30s and 40s left debilitated or dead by strokes. Some didn’t even know they were infected by cor

Well I don't love this.

justbeneath-thesurface2

I’m not going back out in the world until there’s a vaccine.

millerflintstone

I read this last night and it kept me up

stilljewelss

Reblogging because of the very important info at the end of the article - if you experience symptoms of a stroke, seek help IMMEDIATELY because even large strokes are treatable, but time is of the essence.

abner-krill

I just grabbed this from Google because the article didn't have any easy info on stroke identification. Remember the basics:

F- face, is it under control?

A - arms, can you raise them both at the same time?

S - speech, can you talk or are you slurring?

T - time is of the essence, go to a hospital IMMEDIATELY

This is scary stuff. Stay informed lovelies.

dogpantry

not to frighten any of you! but this is serious. this almost scares me more than covid-19 symptoms alone. strokes are no joke and 99.9% of the time, even with prompt tx, you’ll never regain function 100%. stay safe out there, guys.

bubonickitten

Just want to add, re: the T for time -- it doesn’t just refer to the idea that you need to get medical attention quickly (you do), but if you or someone else starts showing symptoms of a stroke, mark what time it is when you first noticed symptoms starting to appear. The gold standard for ischemic stroke (tPA) is a time-sensitive treatment. (It was cited as within 3 hours of stroke onset during my first aid class, but when I was doing a Google search to make sure I remembered correctly, apparently sometimes it’s pushed to 4.5 hours and there’s discussion on extending the window.)

But, point is, EMTs/paramedics/ER workers/etc. need to know what kind of time frame they’re working with so they can determine what treatment plan they should implement, so it’s good to pay attention to the clock.

ramdaughter

Another quick way to test for stroke is to ask the person to stick their tongue out! If it flops to one side of their face instead of coming straight out something is wrong!

futuremoji

Your sixth most recent emoji is how your guardian angel feels about you

futuremoji

#😳#whhat if we 😳😳😳😳

chesh-ires-deactivated20210426

also happy pride remember that:

cishet was coined to mean cisgender heteroromantic heterosexual

aces can’t be cishet, as they are asexual

aros can’t be cishet, because they are aromantic

aces and aros deserve to be loved, accepted, and understood

aces and aros don’t deserve the nasty things aphobes say they deserve

troll blogs love demonising ace and aro people by pretending to be one and y’all fall for it every god damn time

aces and aros aren’t confused, incomplete, or broken

aces and aros aren’t cringy

feel free to add onto this if you want

biggerb0at

it doesnt matter what you think if we should or shouldn’t be in because we have been in this comunity for a long time longer than you finding out about it.

katal0gue

The way that we learn about Helen Keller in school is an absolute outrage. We read “The Miracle Worker”- the miracle worker referring to her teacher; she’s not even the title character in her own story. The narrative about disabled people that we are comfortable with follows this format- “overcoming” disability. Disabled people as children. Helen Keller as an adult, though? She was a radical socialist, a fierce disability advocate, and a suffragette. There’s no reason she should not be considered a feminist icon, btw, and the fact that she isn’t is pure ableism- while other white feminists of that time were blatent racists, she was speaking out against Woodrew Wilson because of his vehement racism. She supported woman’s suffrage and birth control. She was an anti-war speaker. She was an initial donor to the NAACP. She spoke out about the causes of blindness- often disease caused by poverty and poor working conditions. She was so brave and outspoken that the FBI had a file on her because of all the trouble she caused.

Yet when we talk about her, it’s either the boring, inspiration porn story of her as a child and her heroic teacher, or as the punchline of ableist, misogynistic jokes. It’s not just offensive, it’s downright disgusting.

roachpatrol

the reason the story stops once hellen keller learns to talk is no one wanted to listen to what she had to say

how’s that for a fucking punchline

cookinguptales

Another part of the story that is often conveniently omitted is that Anne Sullivan, the “miracle worker” in question, was also a visually impaired woman (and abolitionist) who faced her own struggles finding accessible education. That was why she was able to teach Helen Keller and connect her with resources that would allow her to flourish in academia. When Helen Keller was railing against poverty-induced diseases that caused blindness, she was talking about things like trachoma which was what had caused her friend’s vision loss.

The fact that Sullivan is often portrayed as able-bodied in retellings of their story is indicative of the narrative that is most comfortable for an ableist society: that accessibility and equality are gifts bestowed upon the disabled by able-bodied heroes. Disabled children are never taught that they have the power to lift each other up, and that’s a crying shame.

joshsundquist

Bedroom-mirror “standup” about that time my health insurance company thought I had a weight problem

killorbekillian

“My health insurance company recently sent a nurse to my apartment to examine me, because according to their computer system, my body weight is very low for my height. Yeah, like, so dangerously low that they’re like, ‘We gotta send a nurse to this guy’s apartment.’ So she shows up at my door and she has a printout from the computer, and that says I am ‘potentially malnurished.’ And she’s like, ‘Do you think that you’re getting enough calories every day?’ I’m like, look, I know that I’m pretty skinny, but now that you’re standing here in my kitchen I think we can agree that there’s… a better… explanation… about this low weight to height ratio. Uh, but she has to interview me about my health history, and so I just tell her, okay, I had cancer 20 years ago, and she’s like, ‘Have you had any recent operations?’ I’m like, I’ve had two knee surgeries. And she’s like ‘Okay, uh, on which knee?’ …What? [Stammers] I’ll give you one guess.”

#video

muscleluvr4-deactivated20140223

“Hey, there are 0 letters in the alphabet, right?” “No, there’s 26.” “oh, sorry, i must have forgotten The Quick Brown Fox Jumps Over The Lazy Dog.. ;)” “What about R..” “How could i forget.. R u single..?”

dammitd

There’s an “R” in brown though

muscleluvr4-deactivated20140223

Hmm. it would appear that one of us is wrong, and that one of us… is yourself. there’s no r in brown. and thats final

pipasyrup

redd animal crossing doesnt even know if the art hes selling you is fake he literally just gets it from god knows where and is like “this looks sick” and then puts it on his boat

hghgvfghg

he doesn’t know what it’s called either. he’ll be like “check out this Proper Painting. This Fat Nuts Statue” and Blathers takes one look at it to tell you “that’s Michelangelo’s David. where did you get this”

gen-zee

aromoji

That’s why we keep getting hacked lmao

king-dykewarp-deactivated202106

its because schools are so caught up in violating students every rights to privacy that they are blatently disregarding thoes same kids safety. zoom allowes you to track eye movements. mousepad/mouse movemenst. the browser activitiy of the user. its horrifying and dare i fucking say litteral motherfucking spyware. its not a app its a fucking virus. its so horrifically easy to guess every facet of zoom that im guessing that schools just looked at the violation features and took them in without a second throught or trial. they disregard better functioning programs like discord because they are horrified that thoes programs would give students a sliver of privacy their instistance on using zoom is a very clear direct cause of schools horrific obsession with micromanageing every single facet of a students life. report the fucking app. get it taken down

simontesla

If you have to use Zoom, your best bet is to run it from the browser. The Zoom website will try to get you to use the app, but if you keep declining that, it will use its browser-based interface. Since browsers have much better security, they’re unable to do any kind of persistent monitoring and have almost no access to system activities. When you close the tab, you can be assured that it isn’t running.

https://arstechnica.com/information-technology/2020/04/security-tips-every-work-from-homer-needs-to-know-about-zoom-right-now/

king-dykewarp-deactivated202106

^^^^^^^ REBLOG THIS VERSION TOO

romcommunist

people are saying everything is a love language nowadays. and they right. love is in everything u fucking geniuses

thexfiles

Being a daughter is like *apologizes to your mother even though she's never apologized to you*

ineffablebadwolf

Me: *feels bad about something I said when I was angry a minute ago and apologizes*

My mother, after I tell her what she did to me was fucked up and it makes me feel like shit to this day: that didn't even happen

illusivesoul

Me, creating a character in any videogame:

sazandorable

About moderating and banning content on AO3!

Okay so! I haven’t had the spoons to do this for a while but I cracked and ranted about it on twitter which is… not… conducive to long rants, so!

This is a h u g e discussion part of the l o n g history that led to the creation of AO3, which older, more informed, and more articulate people have talked about at length and can be found around if you look (I reblog some of it in my AO3 and fandom history tags for the curious). So I won’t go into that here, nor into the practical reasons why it’s not even possible to put that system in place anyway.

Arbitrarily, or the purpose of this post, because it’s the biggest topic I’ve seen brought up lately, I’ll be talking about fic depicting underage characters in se*ual situations, but honestly I could hold the exact same conversation on literally any controversial content.

This is about why you, specifically, if you are a content creator and especially if you are marginalised and especially if you are queer and especially especially if you are sensitive to fiction depicting certain things… do not, actually, want a banning system on AO3.

What? Of course we do. There’s a lot of p*do shit on AO3 and p*do shit is gross. No one should condone that, wtf? It would be easy to do — just periodically delete the entire Underage tag!

What will happen if that is done is that people will re-upload and continue to write it, they’ll just stop tagging and you will run into it with zero warning nor ability to filter it out. Again, this is not a theoretical — we know this is what happens. When I was a teen, adult content (all adult content) was not allowed on FF.NET; it was everywhere regardless, and without tags. The exact same thing happened on tumblr when adult content was banned as well. It’s not a matter of “staff not handling it well” — it just doesn’t work.

To keep safe the people who need to be able to exclude that tag, that tag needs to exist and be used.

Well, shucks. A reporting system then?

A reporting system would operate in one of two ways:

-an algorithm, which would delete a lot of stuff we wouldn’t want it to delete.

-humans, which is… the bigger problem.

An algorithm sounds great. We do want it to delete everything.

Okay. What about the daddy kink fics between consenting adult characters? What about the fics featuring characters that are children in the canon but are adults in the fic? What about the fics about teenagers exploring their se*uality together, written by adults about the experiences they remember having or wish they could have had? What about the thousands of SasuNaru and Drarry and other shounen and YA fics that will get written, by teens or by people who remember being teens? What about the se*ually explicit fic written by teens who are se*ually active in real life? What about the fics about CSA as trauma, about healing from it? What about the fics written by survivors of CSA to cope about their trauma? What about the fics that clearly show that it’s evil and traumatic? What about the super dark, harrowing, but beautiful and artistic that I’m glad I read even though it fucked me up for days? What about the ones that were really shitty but also horribly hot?

Well, some of these are still not okay, but maybe some might be. It depends on how it’s written. We’ll have humans moderating content and deciding, then.

Okay.

The thing is, I don’t know which of the things I just listed were okay for you to be depicted in fiction and which were too much. Odds are I don’t agree with you. Odds are if I asked 10 people randomly picked off the street, not everyone would agree.

Odds are, even if AO3 arbitrarily decided on which of those are allowed and which are not, you would not agree with their choice, and you would still be unhappy with the decision. (Or you would be happy, but your friends wouldn’t.)

Odds are, different AO3 content moderators might not agree on whether a given fic qualifies or not — is it artistic enough? Does it show enough that these actions are evil and wrong? Can the author prove they’re a teenager? Can the author prove they are a CSA victim? Can the author prove that this is to help them cope with their trauma? The author seem to be functioning alright, they mustn’t really be traumatised!

You know what I mean! There’s absolute, objectively gross shit out there that is not artistic and should not be published.

I agree that there’s vile stuff out there that makes me sick and that I think is very clearly just ped*philic trash. But there is no way to, 1) stop those from getting published anyway, 2) take those down and preserve the safety of everything else.

If we start forbidding some things, there’s two ways to go about it.

One single, clear, arbitrary rule — for instance, absolutely no adult content featuring characters under 18 (leaving aside the fact that this would not even work for the reason cited above). So we lose all the stuff from teenagers, all the coming of age stories about adolescence, all the stuff from CSA survivors; people who need to write it can’t publish it anymore, and people who need to read it can’t anymore either (and as a cool bonus, they’re told it’s wrong and made to feel bad about it). Depending on whether the rules applies to characters that are under 18 in the canon, we lose entire fandoms.

Or, subjective moderation by humans, according to what they estimate to be gross.

Let’s assume all moderators can agree on what’s gross or not.

If there is a system in place to ban some underage works because “gross shit”, then that means other gross stuff can be taken down on account of being gross and harmful.

Yeah! Gross stuff should be taken down! Come on, surely everyone agrees on what’s gross and harmful.

Ah.

But the problem is.

Here is a list of things I have seen — with my eyes seen — called harmful to be depicted in fiction:

Murder

Non-con

Inc*st

Cannibalism

Torture

Self-harm

Mental illness

Drugs

Racism

K*nk

Non-negotiated k*nk, but healthy k*nk is ok

Spanking k*nk

BDSM where the woman is a bottom, but woman top is ok

Healthy depictions of BDSM

Unhealthy depictions of BDSM

Queer people doing bad things

Abusive relationships

Rival/Enemies to lovers

Redemption stories

A happy relationship between a 17 yo and an 18 yo

A happy relationship between a 20 yo and a 60 yo

A happy relationship between a boss and their employee, or a college teacher and a student

A happy relationship between a 14 yo boy and an older teenage boy, because that’s reminiscent of older men preying on younger gay boys IRL

Se*ual content featuring a character whose age is unclear in canon and some people headcanon them as being underage, some as being a young adult

Loving, consensual fluff between characters that are evil villains, because it romanticises them and their actions

Dark content shipping female characters

Fluffy content shipping female characters, because it’s misogynistic to act like lesbians are only soft all the time

Consensual s*x featuring a canonically asexual character, because it implies that all aces can and should still have se*

Fics about the same canonically asexual character hating s*x, because that erases the experience of s*x-positive aces

Shipping a character who is perceived by some fans as queer-coded with a character of a different s*x

The tendency to ship a black character with white characters

Fluffy drunk s*x, because that’s not actually consensual

Sleep s*x, because that’s not actually consensual

Trans characters not experiencing dysphoria, because that idealises the trans experience

Consensual s*x between adults that are not married

LGBT+ content, because kids shouldn’t see that.

I guarantee you: you, I, and 10 random people plucked from the street will not agree on what, in that list, is and isn’t okay to publish and consume fiction of.

So why should your taste be the one followed? Why should it be the taste of mods you don’t know? Why should anyone get to dictate? What if the mods think your OTP is gross and your NOTP is fine?

This is the slippery slope argument.

Yes, it is the slippery slope argument. Because we know it happens. Because we’ve been there, because I’ve seen it happen myself twice already and I’m not even thirty. Because we know people do complain loudly about all of these things.

And because the second there is a banning system in place, assholes will use the system to abuse it and get stuff they just don’t like taken down using the “it is gross” argument, and one day you’ll wake up and the beautiful fic that helped you come to terms with your abuse/trauma/identity/orientation/k*nk for feet will be taken down and wonderful vulnerable creative people will have been harassed out of fandom because they argued with 1 person who didn’t like their foot k*nk fic that happened to also feature, for instance, a CSA trauma backstory.

Again: not exaggerating. Not theoretical. It happens, we know it happens, AO3 was created literally because it happens.

I still fucking hate that stuff.

That is completely fine and normal. No one likes everything. Me too! Most of the dark stuff is niche and the creators know only few people will like it the same way they do.

(For the record, I get grossed out and triggered by fics about an asexual character who does not like s*x having s*x with their partner to make them happy. Deep in my gut everything screams that that’s fucked up, terrifying and harmful, how can people write that. But I recognise that there are people who love and need that, and I leave those people and their content alone.

OTOH, I read a lot of otherwise dark shit and I enjoy it in the same way I enjoyed, say, Hannibal, in the same way some people enjoy true crime documentaries, horror movies or rape fantasy kink. It helps me explore stuff that I like to see in fiction, in a safe, controlled way. I’m also asexual, 90% s*x-repulsed IRL, and, obviously, I would never abuse a child. For that matter, I wouldn’t kill and eat people, either, nor would I do 90% of the tamer k*nky stuff I read.

Of course, Hannibal was fucked up and lots of people probably think Hannibal was gross and should not have been aired — but as exemplified by the fact that it was created, aired and watched, lots of people thought it was fine, interesting and even fun to watch.)

You can and should curate your experience and protect yourself. The AO3 website now allows you to exclude certain tags, and people have developed tools to help with that such as plugins that save your filters or hide fics that contain certain words.

But no, it isn’t going to, and it shouldn’t, get banned.