Fireboaserpent

i will not take you seriously if you try to debate me while on anon / nobody is born evil / antisemitism = block / trans rights are human rights / i love you intersex people / fuck off SWERFs

[mareusu]

i agree that you shouldn’t shy away from consuming dark media because talking about sensitive topics through art is a good way to bring awareness and also just make you think, but i just don’t really know why you want to explore that stuff through shit like ao3 south park fanfiction. like go pick up lolita or something

[tide2k]

really good tags in the notes

[consistantly-changing]

[Image description: tags by silent--construct which say #this is generally my stance and why i wont label myself as proship or antiship and wont engage in the discourse #dark media is good for you and should not be censored but so is questioning your methods and engagement with it #"proship" can mean anything from "i am anti censorship" to "i am a groomer and dont want to be held accountable" #"antiship" can mean anything from "i do not like how darkfic can be used to groom minors" to "im dressing up puritanism in progressive lang #and then everyone argues with everyone forever based on their own internal definition of those two terms #not that this post is about shipping explicitly! it is about fiction engagement in a broader sense #but it is very much related due to both topics coming down to one's own personal accountability #and how they engage with dark media and media that makes them uncomfortable #i could go on and on but any more and i would just have to make my own post]

[dajo42]

it’s been ten years

[geniusoflove]

its been 12 years

[shivshivshivvyyy]

13 years

[pinkthinkspalistineshouldbefree]

14 years

[momperlman-deactivated20251022]

15 years

[dammmithardison]

16 years

[fruitsfag]

17 years

[virtualgirladvance]

loss is an adult now :D 🎉🎉🎉

[crabussy]

casually and with no self pity stating what you believe to be a benign humbling fact about your life only for someone to go "what? that's not true" is such an Experience. I THOUGHT I WAS BEING SELF AWARE. WHAT DO YOU MEAN I JUST HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM IN THAT AREA

[crabussy]

ahh yeahh I know I tend to talk too much but I just have so much to say haha! "what? you don't talk too much! I like when you talk!" INSTANT RELIEF I DIDN'T KNOW I NEEDED. OKAY.

[crabussy]

haha I know I sound like a girl but in my heart I sound like an effeminate gay guy "what? you don't sound like a girl at all! you sound like any of the queer guys I know" OH. ONE MILLION WEIGHT OFF MY SHOULDERS. HUH????

[meatgrinder-0]

[tboy-cock]

it never ceases to upset me when i follow a queer/trans content creator and then they randomly out that theyre transandrophobic. it just really fucking sucks

[tboy-cock]

update: the person who this post is about (mathew g, cis gay guy who might have a little gender about him but hasnt made any confirmation) issued an apology on his story following deleting the post in question. for context, the post he made was a skit where the punchline was that trans men do not experience transphobia (while trans women do). heres the apology:

now i obviously understand any trans man who still isn't comfortable with following him (i unfollowed and will not be refollowing as a result) and there are a bunch of comments saying "post this on your feed, not just on your story" which are all valid, however, i really do appreciate this, and heres why. the apology isnt beating around the bush at all. hes not trying to justify his actions, hes not trying to say "BUT OBVIOUSLY trans women have it worse", hes not just backtracking, he is fully posting what he did, what he did wrong, and taking accountability

and MORE CREATORS SHOULD DO THIS. so many creators, usually non trans men, will post something wildly offensive and dismissive to the real experiences of trans men, and when trans men are upset by it, they will double down and get defensive, and say "well trans women obviously have it worse," "it cant always be about you," and some even go as far as to move away from the content that they had been making previously and become an account dedicated to hating trans men. and these arent just transphobes and terfs, these are other queer AND TRANS content creators who amassed a following by being trans friendly, and then come out with something thats at best dismissive and ignorant to the experiences and struggles of trans men, and at worst are saying that we are inherently evil for being trans men (theyll just say men, but we're men because we're trans and transitioned to male, so it is effectively hate because we are trans) and shouldnt exist and should detransition or die. and we as trans men dont know when we folllow a trans friendly content creator, even if theyre trans themselves, if they are actually friendly to trans MEN. because a lot of people who are hateful to trans men will paint themselves as trans friendly, and then conveniently wont talk about trans men at all. i had never see mathew g mention trans men in any of his videos before this one. im not a devoted fan or anything, he mightve at some point, but this was the first time i have ever seen trans men mentioned on his page and it was just ignorant at best

but i think more content creators who call themselves trans friendly, and then accidentally (or purposefully) post something that is wildly offensive to trans men, should do what mathew did. take down the post, post an apology to trans men that doesnt downplay what they posted and how it affects trans men, listen to trans men, and be mindful of the actual experiences of trans men before posting about us in the future. and if you dont have any friends who are trans men, DONT POST ABOUT US. and also you should think about why you arent friends with any trans men, but if you dont know anything about us, just dont say anything

so all this to say, i will not be following mathew g again after this, as i am still very uncomfortable with the whole thing and im sure a lot of trans men feel the same way, but i do want to use his apology as an example of what you SHOULD do if you accidentally post something that is offensive and dismissive to trans men. take it down and issue an actual apology. things like "but obviously trans women have it worse" and "i didnt mean it like that so im sorry if it offended anyone but i didnt mean it" should NOT show up in your apology. and definitely dont double down and start making content about how much you hate trans men

[tboy-cock]

it never ceases to upset me when i follow a queer/trans content creator and then they randomly out that theyre transandrophobic. it just really fucking sucks

[tboy-cock]

update: the person who this post is about (mathew g, cis gay guy who might have a little gender about him but hasnt made any confirmation) issued an apology on his story following deleting the post in question. for context, the post he made was a skit where the punchline was that trans men do not experience transphobia (while trans women do). heres the apology:

now i obviously understand any trans man who still isn't comfortable with following him (i unfollowed and will not be refollowing as a result) and there are a bunch of comments saying "post this on your feed, not just on your story" which are all valid, however, i really do appreciate this, and heres why. the apology isnt beating around the bush at all. hes not trying to justify his actions, hes not trying to say "BUT OBVIOUSLY trans women have it worse", hes not just backtracking, he is fully posting what he did, what he did wrong, and taking accountability

and MORE CREATORS SHOULD DO THIS. so many creators, usually non trans men, will post something wildly offensive and dismissive to the real experiences of trans men, and when trans men are upset by it, they will double down and get defensive, and say "well trans women obviously have it worse," "it cant always be about you," and some even go as far as to move away from the content that they had been making previously and become an account dedicated to hating trans men. and these arent just transphobes and terfs, these are other queer AND TRANS content creators who amassed a following by being trans friendly, and then come out with something thats at best dismissive and ignorant to the experiences and struggles of trans men, and at worst are saying that we are inherently evil for being trans men (theyll just say men, but we're men because we're trans and transitioned to male, so it is effectively hate because we are trans) and shouldnt exist and should detransition or die. and we as trans men dont know when we folllow a trans friendly content creator, even if theyre trans themselves, if they are actually friendly to trans MEN. because a lot of people who are hateful to trans men will paint themselves as trans friendly, and then conveniently wont talk about trans men at all. i had never see mathew g mention trans men in any of his videos before this one. im not a devoted fan or anything, he mightve at some point, but this was the first time i have ever seen trans men mentioned on his page and it was just ignorant at best

but i think more content creators who call themselves trans friendly, and then accidentally (or purposefully) post something that is wildly offensive to trans men, should do what mathew did. take down the post, post an apology to trans men that doesnt downplay what they posted and how it affects trans men, listen to trans men, and be mindful of the actual experiences of trans men before posting about us in the future. and if you dont have any friends who are trans men, DONT POST ABOUT US. and also you should think about why you arent friends with any trans men, but if you dont know anything about us, just dont say anything

so all this to say, i will not be following mathew g again after this, as i am still very uncomfortable with the whole thing and im sure a lot of trans men feel the same way, but i do want to use his apology as an example of what you SHOULD do if you accidentally post something that is offensive and dismissive to trans men. take it down and issue an actual apology. things like "but obviously trans women have it worse" and "i didnt mean it like that so im sorry if it offended anyone but i didnt mean it" should NOT show up in your apology. and definitely dont double down and start making content about how much you hate trans men

[tboy-cock]

it never ceases to upset me when i follow a queer/trans content creator and then they randomly out that theyre transandrophobic. it just really fucking sucks

[tboy-cock]

update: the person who this post is about (mathew g, cis gay guy who might have a little gender about him but hasnt made any confirmation) issued an apology on his story following deleting the post in question. for context, the post he made was a skit where the punchline was that trans men do not experience transphobia (while trans women do). heres the apology:

now i obviously understand any trans man who still isn't comfortable with following him (i unfollowed and will not be refollowing as a result) and there are a bunch of comments saying "post this on your feed, not just on your story" which are all valid, however, i really do appreciate this, and heres why. the apology isnt beating around the bush at all. hes not trying to justify his actions, hes not trying to say "BUT OBVIOUSLY trans women have it worse", hes not just backtracking, he is fully posting what he did, what he did wrong, and taking accountability

and MORE CREATORS SHOULD DO THIS. so many creators, usually non trans men, will post something wildly offensive and dismissive to the real experiences of trans men, and when trans men are upset by it, they will double down and get defensive, and say "well trans women obviously have it worse," "it cant always be about you," and some even go as far as to move away from the content that they had been making previously and become an account dedicated to hating trans men. and these arent just transphobes and terfs, these are other queer AND TRANS content creators who amassed a following by being trans friendly, and then come out with something thats at best dismissive and ignorant to the experiences and struggles of trans men, and at worst are saying that we are inherently evil for being trans men (theyll just say men, but we're men because we're trans and transitioned to male, so it is effectively hate because we are trans) and shouldnt exist and should detransition or die. and we as trans men dont know when we folllow a trans friendly content creator, even if theyre trans themselves, if they are actually friendly to trans MEN. because a lot of people who are hateful to trans men will paint themselves as trans friendly, and then conveniently wont talk about trans men at all. i had never see mathew g mention trans men in any of his videos before this one. im not a devoted fan or anything, he mightve at some point, but this was the first time i have ever seen trans men mentioned on his page and it was just ignorant at best

but i think more content creators who call themselves trans friendly, and then accidentally (or purposefully) post something that is wildly offensive to trans men, should do what mathew did. take down the post, post an apology to trans men that doesnt downplay what they posted and how it affects trans men, listen to trans men, and be mindful of the actual experiences of trans men before posting about us in the future. and if you dont have any friends who are trans men, DONT POST ABOUT US. and also you should think about why you arent friends with any trans men, but if you dont know anything about us, just dont say anything

so all this to say, i will not be following mathew g again after this, as i am still very uncomfortable with the whole thing and im sure a lot of trans men feel the same way, but i do want to use his apology as an example of what you SHOULD do if you accidentally post something that is offensive and dismissive to trans men. take it down and issue an actual apology. things like "but obviously trans women have it worse" and "i didnt mean it like that so im sorry if it offended anyone but i didnt mean it" should NOT show up in your apology. and definitely dont double down and start making content about how much you hate trans men

[so-i-did-this-thing]

Oh man, oh man. I've been going through some ancient hard drives (New Years resolution) and found some of the oldest digital photos of myself. Enjoy what 20-25 years of age - with 15 of that being on HRT - does to a guy.

Age 23 vs 48, lmao. Back when I box dyed my hair a dark auburn. To be fair, I think all of us who lived it as young adults glowed up from the year 2000.

26 vs 48. Same coat, only it finally fits properly in the shoulders! I think I had just seen Matrix Reloaded and that was me playing around as my OC. 😅

26 vs 48. I'm still kind of scrawny at 20+ lbs heavier, but clothes fit so much better now.

Me at 28? Just starting to be able to afford the tweedy look. Man, I miss those shoes. I still have that coat, though no recent photos of it, so we'll close this out with one of my favorite pics of me from last year, age 48.

[bisexual-engineer-girl]

I know it's not great but I just broke the 27 minute 5k mark which beats my previous time of 28:30 from a year ago. I had more elevation too. Haven't run that fast I think ever in my life lol. Onwards and upwards!

[phaeton-flier]

Bear religion probably fucking rocks. You're a fucking bear, you're the deadliest thing on earth, once a year an endless supply of salmon just flings itself up the river to gorge on and then you nap for 3 months.

[phaeton-flier]

The most delicious food in the world is protected by tiny demons who can defend it from everyone except you. Your natural armor is thick enough that you can just eat the damn hive while they buzz around you. God's chosen animals right there

[theaudientvoid]

[centrally-unplanned]

Regular bears tell stories of angel bears sent by the Bear God, pure white and twice as strong as any normal bear could be, who rule the summit of the Earth and kill all who stand in their path.

And they are right, those bears exist and totally do that. Humans just have fake angels as a cope.

[theabigailthorn]

love the idea of bears being the chosen species actually. having a near death experience and glimpsing heaven and realising it's just full of bears, no humans at all, humans not ensouled actually, humans an accidental byproduct of God's plan for bears

[vampirebeverage]

I am fucking BEGGING transmascs (and everyone else) to not let the animosity of a VERY SMALL GROUP of very online transfems impact how you interact with transfems or think about transfems.

please, please, please remember that this "hating transmascs" and "kill all TMEs" bullshit is just a few edgy weirdos on the internet who enjoy saying inflammatory things for shock value.

transfems are not your enemy, and YES, you do actually need to unlearn transmisogyny. Not because you're transmasc, but because we live in a transmisogynistic society.

transfems are not a hivemind, there's no broader transfem consensus that transmascs are Evil Privileged Abusers, but the small group of people who think that way WANT you to believe that they are representative of trans women everywhere. they're super not. they really are just a handful of angsty people online looking for someone to pick on.

all trans people have more commonalities than differences. there aren't two distinct species of trans people from two different planets, there are just trans people with a wide diversity of experiences and walks of life. we are all affected by the same systems of oppression.

find community and mutual support with transfems. build solidarity and have conversations about how we can help each other. the only way we all get through this shit is together.

[mslovelyrita]

Finding out that the author behind A Series of Unfortunate Events is a Jew makes the sheer absurdity of the incompetence of the adults in the Baudelaires’ lives make soooo much more sense when you start seeing Count Olaf as a metaphor for antisemitism. How they repeatedly tell whoever their current guardian is who and what is after them and they just patronizingly tell them that they don’t know what they’re talking about or choose not to see through the very obviously thin disguise (a metaphor for dog whistles). The gaslighting. The willful ignorance. It’s so painfully familiar.

[hillsofspices]

so this is insane

Canada is failing the Jewish community and Jews are being targeted, Prime Minister Carney says

Prime Minister Mark Carney says Canada is failing Jewish Canadians and the community is being brutally targeted by hate.

[w0nderland42]

i get that americans love their cultural imperialism, but it really does piss me off that june is “international” pride month just because something happened in the united states.

in aotearoa, june isn’t our pride, it’s theirs. marsha p johnson and sylvia rivera are their historical figures, not ours. the phrase that “you owe your rights to Black trans women” is true there, but here we owe our rights to (mostly) Māori historical figures. i have the freedoms i do because of the legacy of an entirely different set of people operating in an entirely different context at entirely different times.

But because of american cultural imperialism, most queer people in Aotearoa don’t even know our own queer history. Carmen Rupe, Ngahuia Te Awekotuku, the Dorian Society, Gillian Laundon, Georgina Beyer, and the Wolfenden Association are some of our queer history. We should know their names! we should know what they did for us! but because of the power of the american imperial machine, we don’t.

our national pride month should be july, the month that the Homosexual Law Reform Act passed in 1986. our two largest cities hold their pride festivals in february and march, respectively. american queer history has very little (or nothing, depending on who you ask) to do with our queer history. anecdotally, from my own queries, queer youth in aotearoa know more about american queer history than our own.

anyway, happy pride, americans. i’m truly sorry that most of you don’t see the negative impact your nation’s culture has on the rest of the world. and to the rest of the world reading this, try searching for your own country and culture’s queer history, don’t accept the american narratives as your own. we deserve our own histories divorced from the cultural hegemony of the USA.

[hylianengineer]

There is one very important thing I need people without major dietary restrictions to understand: the distress caused by allergies, celiac disease, and other food restrictions is largely not about the food.

Do I miss some foods I can't eat anymore without getting sick? Sure, but that's not what really bothers me. What bothers me is being excluded from a huge portion of human social life of which food is a crucial component. What bothers me is the stress and social stigma of trying to figure out what I can safely eat. What bothers me is the amount of extra work and cost that is required of me to identify, obtain, and prepare safe foods. What bothers me is people treating my needs like a nuisance, as though I chose to be like this - as though their brief inconvenience to check an ingredients list is unreasonable, when I deal with this every day of my life forever.

I don't miss the food that much. I miss not having to worry about what I eat. I miss freedom. I miss when trying new foods and new restaurants was fun instead of a minefield. I miss not having to plan my entire life around the need for safe foods.

Food is such a basic human need, and a lot of people don't really need to think about it. When your danger foods can be anywhere and everywhere, suddenly your entire life revolves around avoiding them, and it massively sucks. You get used to it and it's not a big deal most of the time, but then you go to a new restaurant, or your office has a potluck, or you've been invited to a party and suddenly it feels just as miserable and exhausting as it ever has.

[inkskinned]

Every day I handle more money than I will ever make. Every day.

At the start of my employment, my boss showed me videos of people stealing, and we both had a chuckle about it. How silly they were! There was a camera overhead, and it’s not to watch the shoppers. See, we can’t actually stop shoplifters. They get away with it maybe nine out of ten times. But we, who are watched and tallied and witnessed? We are always caught.

At first it was hard to hold one hundred dollars bills. An amount I had never seen before. An amount that didn’t exist in my household. It’s normal now. Here is something that is not for me.

“What the hell, I’ll take another,” says the man, pondering our 200 dollar watches. What the hell. Total comes to 580 and not even a flinch in his face. I have been working for 11 hours today and made only 110 dollars. It will go to my rent. Today I work for free, it feels. When I get my check, I will have 35 dollars left for food and saving.

The six hundreds he hands me go into the cash register. For a moment, I imagine having money. Then I put it away, counting out his change.

I know for a fact we sell our products for double what they are worth. That I could be making commission. That they could hand me those 580 dollars and change my life and not even mark the difference in their checkbooks. He’s not the only sale they make today, but I am the reason they made it. He’s not the only one spending 600 dollars, but if I hadn’t spent two hours with him telling me about his life, he wouldn’t have spent any. I go home. I don’t own a watch.

I have watched and rewatched a video on how to make salmon four ways. My shopping list is always the same. Pasta. Rice. Tuna. If I can afford butter it was a good week. I dream of the world I will never walk in, where I can throw the best fish fillet in the cart with a shrug. I hold hundreds in my hand and look up at the camera. I put them under the cash drawer.

I go to work. I scrap together my savings. I eat my bowl of rice slowly. My manager takes a paid week off from work just for his birthday. He owns a yacht. 

I’m not worth the cost of a watch.

[inkskinned]

i wrote this while i was working at orlando’s walt disney world parks.

i was part of their college program. i moved to the state for it. they legally owned the building i was living in and still charged me rent. i ostensibly was being charged to work for them. it was a 2 bedroom apartment and they placed 6 adult women in it in forced triples.

as many as one in ten disney employees have experienced homelessness while working for the company. despite huge efforts to unionize, strike, or otherwise demand fair treatment; disney has refused to increase employee quality of life.

disney admits publicly that a good portion of their success is because the employees (“cast members”) are dedicated, passionate, and selfless. this is never reflected in pay. even “face” characters (ie those that are princesses etc) make barely above a minimum wage.

at the time that i worked there, i made $8.50 an hour. at one point i was asked to create a human shield around a bag because a bomb dog had alerted to it. for eight fucking dollars an hour.

i now work a very cushy office job. i have bought the salmon and cooked it all four ways.

i go to the store. i am nice to the person behind the counter. she looks up at the camera while she counts out my change. there is nothing fundamentally different about her and i.

we are both worth more than the watch, anyway.

[tboy-cock]

one time years ago when i had a twitter account tor a couple of months i had some cis gay "lgb drop the t" guys harrassing me, specifically accusing me of "fetishizing gay men" and being an "autoandrophile" whatever the fuck that means, and basically transitioning to fuck gay men. and like to be clear gay trans guys arent fetishizing gay men, sometimes dudes are just gay, but the thing is that im straight. im not attracted to men. like im not even a little bisexual. and like trust me i tried but im not attracted to guys. and i told them that, i was like "i dont even like guys," but they INSISTED that i was fetishizing gay men and just wanted to be gay, and i was like why do you want me to want to fuck u so bad lmao