Honestly? Abuse is NEVER ok. No matter what the person did or did not do does not warrant abuse. Saying someone deserved to be abused during childhood because of something they did as an adult is WILD. Things like Abuse, Stress, and traumatic experiences has negative impacts on a person that stick with them all of their life. They can get help to ease the symptoms the abuse, stress and trauma caused to make their life a bit easier, but it’s not just going to go away and they can’t just “get over it”. In the wizarding world there is literally no indication that they have any sort of mental health help. Also, Snape never had any kind of support system that could help him manage his life after the trauma he went through. It is understandable why he acted the way he did as an adult because he never was able to get the help he needed. Prolonged Childhood trauma can cause multiple different disorders. DID/OSDD, NPD, ASPD, BPD, HPD, C-PTSD/PTSD.. (for those that don’t know what those are: DID is dissociative identity disorder, OSDD is other specified dissociative disorder, NPD is Narcissistic personality disorder, ASPD is antisocial personality disorder and HPD is histrionic personality disorder, C-PTSD is complex post traumatic stress disorder, PTSD is post traumatic stress disorder ). These disorders are largely caused by prolonged childhood trauma like abuse, neglect/emotional neglect, stress, and other traumatic experiences at an early age. These disorders don’t go away. There is things to make them more manageable- easier to live with- but that’s about it. People that go through traumatic experiences will react in different ways. No one is the same, people’s brains process things differently. Trauma makes it hard to be that extroverted happy go lucky person. You don’t know if someone is going to hurt you again, you don’t know if you can trust people after it. Closing yourself off after trauma is a common defense mechanism. Dissociation, is common defense mechanism to cope. I’m not saying that having a disorder or going through trauma makes it ok to abuse or harm anyone (verbally or otherwise), however it is understandable why that person may act that way after going through trauma. Abuse is never ok regardless of disorder. Snape acted the way he did as an adult BECAUSE of the traumatic experiences he went through. He didn’t get the help that he needed so he didn’t learn how to cope in a healthy way. Saying he deserved to be bullied, abused, harassed, almost killed as a child because he “bullied children as an adult” is seriously wrong. No one deserves to be abused, bullied, harassed, etc. especially not as a child. If that’s how you’re thinking then please, go to therapy, seek professional help because that is not a good or ok way of thinking. Picture yourself in Snape’s shoes. If you were abused, bullied, literally had no safe place, no help, no support system do you believe you would act similar to him or be an outgoing, nice, person? If you were in Snape’s shoes would you want your trauma to be dismissed and told you deserved it all as a child because of your behavior as an adult? Which likely stemmed from that trauma in the first place?? No??? Then don’t say Snape deserved it. He didn’t. No one does. Fictional or otherwise, no one deserves that. People need to stop with the victim blaming. Stop dismissing people’s trauma even if it’s of a fictional character you don’t like. People relate to fictional characters, by dismissing one character’s trauma just because you don’t like them for whatever reason you could also be dismissing a real person’s trauma/experiences that are the same or similar to that characters. I know that you wouldn’t want your trauma dismissed or you to be blamed about it, or told you deserved it. So don’t do that to real or fictional characters just because you don’t like them. That’s not ok. That isn’t going to help or change the way they are.
