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― Margaret Atwood, You are Happy

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Problems

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Child: I have a problem

Parent: Well you CAN'T have this problem because I had this problem in the past only WORSE

Child: That doesn't make any sense. How is MY problem cancelled out by a problem YOU had?

Parent: DON'T SASS ME

Child: But-

Parent: YOU JUST ALWAYS HAVE TO HAVE THE LAST WORD, DON'T YOU?

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“Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom. But the personality formed in the environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative. She approaches the task of early adulthood――establishing independence and intimacy――burdened by major impairments in self-care, in cognition and in memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable relationships. She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she reencounters the trauma.”

— Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror (via omyt)

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+ They also play the victim

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Abuser: I never said that

Narration in my brain: here’s flashback #189 of them saying exactly that, he’s echo of their screaming voice when they said that, here’s memories of multiple implications of this they’ve made, oh and, they’re laughing as if they’ve won by lying

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Emotional Abuse:

1) They are always right

Somehow, you will always be in the wrong. Facts and events get twisted and you will always end up being the guilty party. Nothing they do is ever their fault. They will have one set of rules for themselves and another set for everyone else. They do not take responsibility for their part and trying to get them to own up to something will leave you disappointed and frustrated.

2) They blame others

As previously mentioned, emotional abusers are never to blame for anything that goes wrong. They will somehow always be the victim. They will steadfastly refuse to apologise for their actions and blame anyone else,anything else to get off the hook. You are wasting your time if you hope that your emotionally abusive partner will apologise and work hard to change his/her ways. Why should they when it’s not their fault?

3) Gas-lighting

This involves making you believe things that didn’t really happen or aren’t really there. For example telling you that they have told you about an upcoming party that you are 100% sure they never told you about. They will never doubt themselves. Instead they will roll their eyes and insist they told you leaving you to doubt your memory. They will push their version of reality on to you and you may end up feeling as if you are going crazy, not knowing what is true anymore.

4) They are critical of others but do not apply the same rules to themselves

Emotional abusers often have low self-awareness. This is often because they are more tuned in to others in order to control them and manipulate them. Apart from being quite controlling characters, they are known for their constant put-downs.

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pretty fucked up that cold drinks get hot while hot drinks get cold.. bitch stay at the temperature i put u at

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i think there's something so beautiful about postcards and how they say that yes i was in this beautiful place but i still couldn't stop thinking about you