FunkyFreshRay

It's not what I have been through in my life that makes me the person I am today, It's how I got through it that makes me the man I am today

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Please have patience and read. I promise it will help.

I can relate because I have been through so much. Not only physically, but emotiinally, maybe even mentally. What I share on this platform, I do it to help anyone that comes accross me know that I understand you. I feel for you. I want whats best for you. Regardless if you are a stranger or not. Sometimes I am told I care too much or trust too much but who will feel there are good people in this world if we are not one of them. I find myself caring more for others than I do for myself. I, me!, dont see it as a bad thing because I know there are people i come accross dealing with hardships, losses, depression, anxiety, as well as loneliness. I share what I share because even if you don't know me, trust me, I know you. There are times I try to share whats wrong with me with some who I feel or felt were close to me and instead of receiving a response of understanding and compassion, I do get the response of something is wrong with me but yet and still, that's why im saying what im saying. Its not for anyone to judge, categorize, or label me. Its my way of looking for support and understanding. Im not better than anyone else and those who react to me or even those of you reading this, must feel as if they are better than us because of the negative or ignorant response we get sometimes.

So what happens? We react or our response becomes one with frustration added because there is only so much we can handle before we are pushed over our limit and a lot of us have a high tolerance to take on the negativity we are faced with or shame we are put through. Then it turns into us wanting to keep whatever else may be bothering us, to ourselves. Why? Because we would rather suffer the consequences of helping others than the consequeance of opening up and sharing how much its hurting us to not receive the support or help we are NOT asking for. At times we feel it should come naturally but we realize it doesnt. I get it. There are a lot of people that do for others with expectations to give back or reimburse us. But what a lot people don't get is there are people that do what we do without expectations but we do believe in the saying, "do good for others without bragging, and the good will somehow comeback to you".

I mean, isnt it how its supposed to be anyway without telling someone, "now you need to do this for me?" Well, not in my mind or heart. Im sure a lot of you can relate. What's sad about it is that some people don't even realize how they are talking or responding to us, is hurting us more instead of helping. So I get you and at this point im sure you get me and realize I understand. I know it's hard to take advice from others who's intentions are to help you because in the moment you feel there's nothing they can say or do that will resolve the problems you may be dealing with now. Im sorry if a lot of you don't agree with me, but saying your problems are not my problems or that way of thinking, is very unnecessary. If anyone cares, we need to make them part of our problem and help do something about it because I can almost guarantee a lot of us have been there and in my case, im sure i have. Especially if someone helped create the problem and the solution they come up with is to avoid it or put it aside.

I need everyone reading or listening to this to understand im speaking to two type of people. The ones who are dealing with concerns that weigh upon us and the ones who we turn to for help somehow, but decide to mistreat, misunderstand, or pretty much show us it doesnt matter to yall what we are going through. Even though I am only 1 person to the world, you can become the world to me and so many others. That message goes for everyone. A lot of us are not trying to be tougher than you and if anyone believes that acting tough or like they own a situation with someone, they don't need to treat us as if or be quick to judge. No one knows what issues, concerns, or hardships anyone is going through. But its up to many of us to trust in others to do right by us and help us not feel like we are battling our inner struggles alone because what happens is, we tend to make bad choices when no one wants to take us seriously. Then doubt sets in and us questioning the why behind the good that we do and probably wanting to talk ourselves into not being the good we try to be because we end up getting stepped on or ignored.

So, if you are someone who gets called naive because you trust others, because you believe in others, because what you are told you believe are not lies because you feel there is no reason to be lied to, its not because you are what others call you as naive. Its because you believe in the goodness of others because of the goodness in yourself. Nothing is wrong with that. The problem becomes when others take advantage of that part of you to get away with the bad they want to do that's convenient for them.

There is a higher power that sees all you do and understands why you do what you do for others. That includes people like me that share words with you to help you feel you are not alone. There really arent much that words can do for many of us, but it is a start. You can share this with those that are not trying to understand you, are trying to break you without knowing they are, and also those who may be intentionally doing the harm to you.

Like I said earlier. Im only one person to the world. What I want you take with that message is, the more people that see you for who you are and not for who youre not, the more of a person you will become to this world or at least the world around you or you surround yourself with. Dont let no one break you and remind yourself they may not even know what they are doing to you. Dont allow the negativity others say to you hurt you because they may feel its a joke yet it tears you apart. Their reaction to you when you reach out to them being one of a heavy sigh or response of frustration, might be because they think because they are able to deal with it, doesnt mean you are able to. That's why you said what you said in the first place because for you being someone who becomes available for everyone, you feel you have no one available for you. I don't want to say its unfortunate that a stranger such as myself or others, become the ones that help you realize you do have purpose in what you do or you have reason in what you do or you are special because of what you do, and why, and being that we do live in a world full of doubt, ignorance, and inconsideration, it doesnt mean you need to stop being you.

There are people who want to help put you in a better place emotionally and mentally so you don't make impulsive decisions. I am one of those people who has been through emotional disappointments, physical disappointments, and mental disappointments. All I can try to do is help you understand I've been through what many of you are probably going through and I want to be the best version of myself for all of you. Even the ignorant ones. Keep your head up and know you have many resources available to you. Stay away from anyone who likes to add fuel to your fire and try to surround yourself with words of healing, support, and compassion. All that comes from the people you surround yourself with. I know its easier said than done but I am one who can honestly say it will all work out. The anxiety doesnt allow you to believe that most of the time and unfortunately there are some people that don't help you believe that but you know who can help or try to. You are surrounded by good people and you need to know this because the people around you are surrounded by good people because you are one of those people..

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Naive? No. Compassionate? Yes.

The quiet little voices tell me things, but I don't pay them much mind. I start to wonder if they mean anything. I've heard of people being considered "off" because there are voices they hear trying to tell them what they need to do. I mean, mine doesn't tell me what to do, so I'm on! Besides, they are little voices and quiet. I realized we all have them in some way or another. Sometimes, what we feel is right is interpreted as wrong by others, but in your mind and heart, it is right.

I have an interaction with someone and someone else takes note of it and Im told I trusted too much or didnt see their intentions in asking me for assistance. The words that gets said to me, the reaction to what I respond to isn't in my favor according to others. I'm pretty much feeling as if I'm a lesser person and maybe I am the one who causes harm on myself by being too available. Maybe something I did is causing this reaction to my acts of kindness or trust. I am very careful with what I do or say because I don't want to disrespect or anger even frustrate anyone. I guess I can say I suffer from something most people describe as naive or Im described as such but I am the way I am because i want to trust and help give others a reason to be respectful towards others aswell. I really don't know if it's bad to be that way but I want to believe everyone has good in them and if someone does act or react to me negatively, i do feel I'm the problem but the little voices I spoke of earlier, do try to tell me something else. I always say I didn't mean to do or say something with bad intentions because it is true. I know that may not convince others to do the same. I do things for others without any expectations. I do good because I just want to make a difference. I realize my intentions aren't what's being considered but the problem with that is our intentions can only be seen or known by us individually. No one else knows. There's a saying, "actions speak louder that words". I believe intentions speak louder than actions and in turn, actions speak louder than words. The problem being no one sees ones true intentions. They can only assume and most of the time the assumption is a negative one. I don't like to disappoint. There's enough of that going around and I am truly trying to help make a difference at least with those around me.

Friends and family have told me that being naive is not a good thing because i tend to believe lies. I do convince myself that when bad things happen because of what someone does or says, its because they happen when good intentions go wrong. That is how I see it but my thing is if I treat most people with a lack of trust, then they may get treated in a way they don't deserve to be treated. Maybe it was a mistake or wasnt meant to end that way. I don't want to believe people are intentionally cruel. If they did something on purpose to hurt or take advantage of me, they will at least see from people like me that there is good in this world and they can change for the better and not display the worst in them towards others. It may be because of something they may have gone through, have been put through, or pretty much experienced that didnt sit well with them. I can tell you that has happened quite a lot to me but I never let that change me or affect me. My being "naive" If you will, is what helps me keep my sanity because I do believe people are good or have that potential to be. I feel good about me when I do something good for someone else. Oddly, that is when the quiet little voices take their toll. I believe most people confused compassion, understanding, sympathy, and confidence in others as being naive. The comparison is not at all the same.

Now, I do see one bad thing about being me. I do believe mostly all of what I'm told because i dont want to believe someone will lie to me for self gain since I have everyone's best interest when I tell them something or intend to do something to provide some type of assistance. I want to believe everyone has good intentions but in reality, that's not the case it seems. I trust too much and I get myself in trouble for it. It has nothing to do with experience. I feel good when I do something good for someone else knowing I'm helping them through something but I'm led to realize I'm taken advantage of somehow but still, I do feel good that I was able to provide for someone else regardless of their intentions or lying trying to get something. Believing we will all get what we deserve is what motivates me when it comes to others doing harm to someone else. Whether it's with their actions, intentions, or whatever else. Its not the lack of experience or knowledge in me as to why i do what i do or think the way i think. All I can do at that point is feel good I did for somebody but there is only so much I can do to make sure im not being misled. Even that doesn't hold me back from doing what I feel is right for others. I can put myself at risk for the sake of someone else. Being the way I am probably plays a part when it comes to the disappointment but it's the good in me that gives me comfort in doing so.

The definition of NAIVE is showing a lack of wisdom, experience, or judgement. So when someone wants to call me naive, it's an insult to me because rather than jumping out with describing me or someone like me as naive, i define it as a way of trying to insult us. No one ever asks why am I the way I am before assuming being naive or maybe they don't know what the word means and gave it their own definition. So why am I the way I am you want to ask? I won't speak for everyone else who is labeled as naive but as for me, I am compassionate, trusting, sympathetic, empathetic, and understanding. Its not a lack of experience for me. It's experiencing too many people hurting and suffering because others won't give them a chance and they can't get any help no matter how hard they are having it. Yet, I see people that don't need help, taking advantage of opportunities. As for judging, I don't judge. If someone does bad to others or voices and expresses mal intent, then yes they will be judged because knowing they want to do wrong or harm intentionally, does affect me. As for my wisdom, being able to see the smile and satisfaction from others because I didn't give up on them, is what helps provide me wisdom. I don't lack anything when it comes to being considered "naive". I have a lot of heart though and we all need more people to show compassion and understanding and help lead us to a better place. Bad experiences can cause many people to take advantage because other methods may not have worked. What's wrong with giving those opportunities. It may be wrong to others to want to do so so, but at least it's an opportunity.

The expectation of, "maybe someday I will receive the same treatment I give to others.", never crosses my mind. I dont go on living expecting something from a certain individual i helped. If they want to provide something to me, I will no doubt accept, but never expect. People sometimes would ask me, "what do you want out of this?" Or, "am I going to owe you one?" No is my answer to that. I just want to help and be available. It shows others there are good people in the world. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." I will never treat someone the way I don't want to be treated. Can I be considered a yes man? I can be because I don't want to say no. Not because I feel I have to say yes. I just don't want to disappoint or reject anyone. We all need to feel some kind of hope. Is it insane to think that way? Probably but there are many that appreciate it and would. I can't let the bad paint the picture for me. It's not fair to everyone else.

I know I'm only one man compared to the world and some people may say I'm talking as if I'm going to impact so many but everything starts somewhere. Bad behavior started somewhere and it grew from there into selfishness, hatred, prejudice, greed, etc and that has grown and developed into what has turned many of us into today. I don't understand why good can't outgrow the bad. It's not like we all want to be treated with disrespect or hate. I can guarantee we all want respect and be surrounded by goodness. I believe there are many like me but might be holding back because of an experience they were faced with. That's where doubt will set in and make you think twice about wanting to help the next person or even do good by someone else. Then the question becomes, "I need to take care of me before I care for someone else." Not necessarily though...

Being naive is not intentionally trying to be a certain way. Anyone who considers themselves naive is most likely because they are called naive so we just believe it. If that's the word that describes people like us, I guess then so be it. It isnt a bad thing but for some reason it gets interpreted as unfortunate. The intention of being this way is with good intentions. I don't come out and say, "IM NAIVE!!!!" or plan it or say, "I want to be naive when I grow up." A way of being will always be translated as a negative behavior or problemsome for many but in reality, it's trying to do right by others and providing trust to others because of the compassion i want to believe most of us carry. It's not an excuse to be this way. It's a reason. Unfortunately, there are many who will take advantage of that type of behavior and they will or may get away with it, but I can only assume the risks taken without thinking about the risks we put ourselves in doesn't matter to the advantage takers because as long as they get what they are looking for, thats what matters to them. It turns them into SELFISH LIARS. Then that's who they are and spread that to others and so on. They need attention too as well as compassion and it's not sad for me to say. We all need and deserve it. We don't know what the next person has been theough in their life to want to act that way. It doesn't mean to give up on them. If that's the case, we all will eventually just give up on each other and give people more reason to describe others as naive when they just want to help somehow and not for personal gain. The negative will grow and the positive will weaken

It's hard to see the hurt one does to someone else because the feeling of getting what they were looking for is better than worrying about what was done to someone else. That worrying about someone else is what's called having compassion. I can only speak for myself but I am full of that. If you ever heard the phrase, "pay it forward." Maybe that can help some of you understand more the mind set we have or most of us do as compassionate individuals. I prefer compassionate and understanding over naive. Doing good things for others may come back you. The only difference is we do not wait for someone to "pay it forward" to us or for someone to do good for us or by us. We just do it without expectation, hoping the goodness spreads. Does it seem far fetched? Im sure it does but it doesnt hurt to want to believe I, at least, can make a difference. That is what alot of people don't agree with when it comes to being naive, I understand. I'm not naive. I'm just a compassionate, understanding, sympathetic person who believes doing good for others, whether family or not, will eventually help us change for the good.

I was speaking about intentions earlier and here is an example of you knowing your intentions of doing something and someone you're doing it for not knowing. Let's say you run into a helpless person on the street. You can say to yourself, "I want to help him or her because he or she needs to eat. Maybe even help them find a job." Or help guide them to a shelter with the location of it. Or you can help them because you feel sorry for them. You may say to yourself that those individuals don't care about anything but getting money for whatever they want like drugs, booze, or hopefully food. You're probably doing so because that's what most people are experiencing after they offer money. All I can say is keep the thought positive. No need to feel pity or do anything out of pity or not helping because youre scared of their true intentions. I'm sure some think you're doing it to actually help them because they want the opportunity. But we may want to think as long as they get it, they will do whatever with it and nothing good so maybe you won't even want to help at all. Having the right intentions, if you help, will help the cause and the purpose. Whether they notice it and do right by it is really up to them to decide to do good or not. It's up to them not you. You can only be responsible for providing them something that they can use for their benefit and needs and not for their addiction. The risk is always going to be there.

Speaking of risk, there are many risks with being "compassionate" or naive as many call it. In turn, it can and will relate with people who are considered or labeled as naive. People can sit there and make me feel guilty or bad because I may feel like I need to look out for me before I do anyone else. The guilt trip hits so hard that others get what they want from me and I lose what I need because of their selfish intentions. So my question is, is it bad to be naive or based on my definition, compassionate? Or is it bad being the person or people taking advantage of us being this way. Now that's an interesting circumstance. It almost feels as if the norm is to take advantage of others to get what you want, even what you need. It is a lot worst to be selfish, ignorant, inconsiderate, misleading, than naive, or as I define it, compassionate.

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Defending Selena Gomez

Message to Miss Gomez:

Hi Miss Gomez. I wanted to respond to the back lash you are getting for sharing your sorrow and hurt for the Mexican culture and immigrants getting caught up in this mess regarding deportation. People who are out there telling her........

"Why doesn't she do something with her money instead of crying about it?" , "she should get deported", and mostly backlash from right wing. What problems do you have with her sharing her hurt on social media and sorrow for her people who came here to make a living for the well-being of their family? This is the government doing this. Not money. Why don't you question the current president and not make it worse on her for feeling compassion for her people. It's like a lot of you don't understand. You are here because of your parents, grandparents, and even ancestors who came from another country to provide a better way of life for you.

Understand that everyone in this country came from immigrants or just trespassers who decided to take this land from Native Americans who are the true citizens of this land and country. If any of you were paying attention to your history class in 7th grade, you would've known that Mexicans had a lot to do with helping the U.S. in gaining freedom, which is what the Constitution explains what our rights are in this country as well as protective of those who are looking for a better way of living. Not all immigrants are criminals, and because they are here and undocumented, it doesn't make them criminal. They are also paying taxes as they work and earn a living working hard to care for their families. Jumping the gun and making white America think that the problems are the Latinos, African Americans, etc., is an assumption made by this administration or even party for their followers to believe and be misled.

The rage caused in this country for Latin or Afro Americans has a lot to do with the fear brought on by white America. I'm sorry if I offend a lot of white Americans, but a lot of you aren't the problem. Most of you are, though. Have we not understood that we are a diverse country coming together to help make a better living for our families who don't have opportunity where they come from who were made to believe they have or had opportunity here? Immigrants play a big part in our economies growth. But you want to believe immigrants are the problem because of what? Are they different from you? They weren't born here? I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news for you, but a lot of your homes that you live in, produce that you feed your families, farming, construction, and so many more dependencies you have to allow you to live well here, were built or planted and cared for by immigrants.

It's not just immigrants, though. It's the culture they bring from other countries that allow them, us, to work as hard as we do and cared for those we don't know. We have compassion for those we don't know but understand. The fear that this administration and its party puts on its people is where a lot of the reactions and actions from a lot of people come from. No one enjoys acting out of fear, but it's sad to know what turns the good against the bad a lot of you think are good, starts to paint us as the problem in this country.

No one speaks about the hate that is shared in this country by groups such as "Proud Boys," "Oath Keepers," "Boogaloo Bois," "Patriot Front," and so on. Not to get political, but these are far right groups that are led by racism and hate towards those that are not like them, yet they claim the right.....REPUBLICANS! Stop allowing division to take its course. Have you not learned from history that this has been the case since this land was taken over in the early 1700s? With all that, we have become as diverse as we are today. We are in the 21st century acting as if we are in the 18th. There is no time and place for hate here. Money seems to be what controls a lot of people here, especially in the Republican party. It's fortunate for many to become millionaires in this country, but a lot of them want to be responsible with having that power and not use it for their own benefit.

What happened to making money to make a living? A lot of us have the talent and knowledge to earn more than the norm, and I would never take anything away from them for getting where they got, but the intentions that come with getting to a level of wealth a lot of them are, seems disappointing when we find out what is driving them. No one is above any law, and no one has more power than the next person. The responsibility you bring with the power you seem to think you have or want to believe you know you have is what defines the person that you are. There is a right way and a wrong way. We are not stupid and know what the difference is. Dont be selfish with your decisions, especially when it comes to people in politics and us citizens of this country. We should know better..

Miss Gomez, i pray for you and your family as well as your country and its citizens trying to make a better living for themselves in this land of opportunity. I do hurt just as you are hurting as my wife is Puerto Ricsn, I am Dominican, and I have many friends from Colombia, South America, Central America, and we are all suffering as well. Never would we think that the U.S. of A. would ever turn out to be heading where it seems to be heading. You have a lot of our support and all of us together csn help make this country better than it's ever been because one thing I can tell you is, that it's never been great to be great again.

[funkyfreshray]

Once? Learn. But twice? Questions intention.

Mistakes are things that happen as an unintentional result of an attempted action that ends with an unfortunate outcome. Make a mistake once? You learn from it and know what not to do next time. Making that same mistake twice, it then becomes a choice as a motive as to why. Have compassion. No one deserves to be hurt intentionally in any way. We have a mind to think with, a heart to feel with, a conscious to help you understand right from wrong, and prayer to help you forgive. Everything happens for a reason. It's possible that there is something good to gain with our responses and actions. That's a mistake we should not afford to make. Let's not judge or label.

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Taking it personally is not how to take it. It's ok to be corrected.

There is no such thing as feeling good because someone proved you wrong. What we want to do is fight back or even have the last word. I don't like being put in a place of correcting someone because I know it's not well accepted by many, but the problem is that some people need to be corrected.

No one person needs to act as if they are bigger than anyone else. We are all not right all the time. Are we allowed to make suggestions? Of course. Is it for others to take offense to it? Not at all. It isn't for us to use that method to upset others because upsetting others is not necessary. Correcting respectfully is, though. We, as older people to our younger generations, look out for your best interests. Our intentions are good.

It is ok to listen. It is ok to give feedback, but the intentions you have by the response you give are what gets interpreted. We are not perfect. Not even close. Can we be wrong at times? Yes. Just have respect in those around you so you can receive it in return. Everyone won't agree with each other at times, but that's what makes us different. Dont take offense to it. Understand what we or they are trying to tell you with what is being communicated with you.

I'm not saying cause we may be older that we know better. Sometimes, the older need correcting too and understanding. We can all learn from each other. Never use frustration as a motive to your actions or reactions. I know it's easier said than done, but you will be impressed by the impact it will have on others.

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The bad things that happen to you are not a reflection of you or who you are.

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We can't please everyone, but the best we can do is try with good intentions..

As a leader, I was for 7 to 8 years in my position, I only hoped to set an example for my team, for my peers, for my leaders. Never once did I feel it would be acceptable to make fun of anyone, regardless of what others thought of them because of a metric or a number. It was mostly about their intentions towards the company but mainly towards the customers they were servixing. To join in poking fun or laughing alongside insults towards certain individuals sets a perfect example of what the intentions are towards the belief they're not good enough.

I dealt with those individuals personally and did my part to show them they have potential regardless of their past experiences with training or lack of ability to learn based on reading for example. A lot of us are hands on. Me included. Some may have hurt the metric to help me as an employee in my position to succeed but what was more important to me was given anyone struggling the opportunity to display that potential by becoming the guidance they needed to become successful in the job they were hired into and promote themselves from there. My failures were looked at as me being too or giving too many chances to my employees. I can almost gairantee they worked harder because of the opportunity given to them.

I see leaders way above my pay grade and responsibilities acting a fool and not showing ownership for their insults, actions, and intentions. My success, our success, never was made about our differences. It was about coming together, regardless of our differences, and making it work for our team(s) and the success of our office in turn our company. As simple as that. But yet that can't be the case for those who support this guy running for president and want to join the insults and disrespect of others.

I don't want to make this about me but I need everyone to understand why it is important to work together, even though what people think of you, hurts you. In my last year in the company, the team I led and the office I led as a temporary manager, became the number 1 commercial team in dade and Broward and the number 1 office in dade and Broward. Not for me to take credit for the success but we were all able to come together and focus. Was it based on the trust or the treatment of the leaders in that office? Only those employees can answer that. But in the end, it wasn't good enough because of how upper management saw me. An image was painted because I wasn't selfish and the employees matter.

I was about the numbers but I was more about making sure my employees were respected as well as them respecting others. FIRING PEOPLE is not the answer like the former president wants to claim. Calling our opponents names and insulting them is not supposed to help them win an election or a debate. Yet his supporters want to act like him and talk like him and turn the lies he shares with all of us as truths for most to believe because it came out of his mouth.

I can share numbers, newspaper clippings, and data from resources, and it still won't be enough for the majority of MAGA. I'm sorry it seems like I'm picking on you MAGA, but you are on a different level than Republicans. I speak about my time in a leadership role to help compare how we are acting to how many were acting within the workforce. I'm sorry a lot of you don't see that Biden or Kamala didn't fix what needed fixing sooner than needed, but even if they did, all this hate going around will still be the main focus. It took me 8 years, 19 total if you will, to became a temporary manager to help get our workplace to the top of rankings as a team out of maybe 10 between 2 counties and as a system out of 10 between 2 counties. It still wasn't good enough, so I understand what Biden and Harris are going through. It's like no matter what they do or try to do, it won't be good enough for a lot of people because they are focused on 1 thing, whatever that may be. I can only relate, and I want others to relate with me instead of judging me or others who believe in Harris and/or Biden vs. Trump, especially those who worked with me...

[funkyfreshray]

Biden accomplished, and his party will continue to, but why???

My problem is, why does his own party have to make it public regarding their thoughts and feelings of having him step down as the candidate for the Democratic party? Are they more concerned about winning and losing than proving that this party can continue to succeed and support as many people as they can, such as mid to lower class workers?? It really isn't about the president alone. It's also about his or her administration. Those conversations need to be had behind closed doors. Not make us look like we can't accept our own POTUS, who, by the way, has done an amazing job so far. What needs to be shared are the plans and ideas of continuing to help continue the success of this country. I'm sorry, Trumplicans, but America was never great. Maybe tried to be great but the people here weren't helping. You can ask Native Americans, African Americans, or anyone that was considered a minority here, yet we are supposed to be the country for the people, of the people, and by the people.

Facts, facts, facts

Numbers speak for themselves, not lies or word of mouth. Message for Democrats, Republicans, the government, Congress, etc. Own what you right and what you wrong. Stop lying to us and convincing us it's the other side's fault. If anything, it's our fault for not trusting but verifying what is said or who is accused of certain things. If Congress or the government is on top of this country, of course, the citizens are going to depend on you to tell us the truth and not convince us otherwise and definitely not talk negatively about others unless they provide proof and gets verified that what is being shared with us through social media or through speech, is true. You're the ones working to make this country better, yet it seems like you're helping make it worse. Any debate should include someone fact-checking whatever is shared by whoever is debating. Facts are important to be proven as well as lies corrected.

Religion and government

Allowing division, hate, lies, and mixing religion in with government doesn't go well. Whether it's one party or not, religion does not run this country. We the People do. Religion is something we as people follow and support in the privacy of our own home or church. Why are we depending on the Bible to allow us to share hate and lies and misconduct? Yet there are a lot of people judging others because of their culture or religion. What if Christians were mocked and made fun of or judged because of the actions of Trump followers and mostly calling their religion to support him. I can only hope that human rights are not being confused as religious rights according to the Bible. Yet we have a candidate saying he's not Christian but supports them and says if you vote for him, you won't have to vote anymore after 4 years. Do people not see what he is saying with that?

The Constitution, Bill of Rights, Declaration of Independance, Preamble, Amendmants to the Constitution, were written by the people of the United States and agreed upon the people of the United States. I thought love thy neighbor was a message to be shared with all. I thought the "Ten Commandments" describes what is right and wrong. I'm not trying to combine the two, but it seems that people will interpret anything to what's convenient to them. We, as adults, are not uneducated children being raised in the dark. We have common sense and common knowledge of what is wrong or right. It may not be the same for everyone, but no one deserves insults or abuse verbally or physically, even mentally and emotionally. I guess we can make a case for those who intentionally hurt others verbally and physically and are deserving of it, but no one is the law or above it.

People put a government and laws in place to help us follow right vs. wrong. That may be different for everyone, but again, we have common sense, and we shouldn't include religion in law making decisions. When it comes to the government and laws of the people by the people and for the people, it doesn't involve religion and its laws. There are many religions that are followed and practiced here. Each religion is right to them. It may sound unfortunate, but it is the truth. It's not for me to convince you of what religion anyone should follow. You want to be American, follow the laws of America. You want to run for president or any other seat available, do use religion to convince people or to be convinced.

Success is not measured by one specific quality.

President Biden is able to run this country. He knows the difference between right and wrong. Yes, his speaking may be off, or his age is a concern, but he's gotten stuff done regardless. The ones who don't know the difference between right and wrong are the people because of all the lies and misinformation out there plus the fact that people don't believe in reading to know what the facts are. They listen to what social media has to say without evidence or what who they support, which says without evidence. Democrats just embarrassed themselves in front of our country, making it public that they don't back the president that has done such good in the short time he's been president. A lot more than Trump did in his 4 years full of insults and complaining and not letting go of conspiracies even after he lost in 2020 til this day, even during his presidency between 2016 and 2020.

Alot of people want to sit here and focus on Bidens faults with speaking and age and just ignore what he's done for all of us in this country and ignore the exaggerating, untrue, violent comments as well as lack of knowing how to speak with truth. A lot of it is the opposing party trying to convince you. Not with facts, but with disrespect and insults, even lies. Biden has proven himself with what he's passed in his term and how it has affected the majority of this country. Not hurt us or turn us against each other. Is that what Republicans wants for the U.S.? To turn us against each other and push buttons to the point that It will cause reactions of violence and give reasons that prove we can't handle the back and forth when one side is pushing and causes reaction from the other?

Biden is one that has been theough a lot of loss in his life and he sits there to help improve our way of living and to help find a way to rid what holds us down. The immigration has been an issue since I could remember. No one is able to come up with a solution. Why do Republicans want to blame it on Biden? Our infrastructure. Biden is doing something about it. Why is that not recognized by Republicans. The economy is heading back up in the right direction. Why doesn't Republicans notice that instead of making false statements for their supporters to believe?

It's up to the people

We are the ones who can make a difference with compassion and acceptance of "We the People" in the U.S. of A!! Not the D.S. of A!! (Divided States of America). I have to sit here and remind people this country became because of the involvement of other cultures. The British, even though we had to start an American Revolution because of them, they did play a part yet Americans treated Native Americans, African Americans, Mexicans worse than they were being treated by the British before the American Revolution. I guess the action was based on greed and not the people? We need to set the example for this country because this country is about its people. Yes, there are some who have other intentions or reasons when it comes to committing crimes or acting out negatively, but that is true for all people here. Whether immigrant or citizen, it makes them no different than the actual criminal when it comes to certain behaviors. We have family and friends that don't agree with what we feel or think. Would you sit there and tell everybody how dump or stupid they are because they agree with your views? Of course not. I'm sure you will either find a way to agree to disagree or come up with a plan where both of you can feel comfortable with each other. Would you wish arm or cause harm or hurt on them? They can't compare to the public or strangers but they are people as well as your family and friends.

Our History

A lot of land here was owned by Spain, Mexico, and Native Americans. I know of a few areas owned by other countries such as Texas, was property of Mexico, Florida was property of Spain, and I'm sure everyone knows by now that the United States was originally inhabited by American Indians. Those are just some examples. The end result of the American Revolution ended up in continuing of slavery and continuing to push Native Americans aside, yet we fought a revolution in response to needing our rights. Or was "our" meant to be for white America. Not according to Lincoln and the then Democratic Republican party before he was assassinated and had a bill in place to pass, giving African Americans the right to be citizens if they were born here and free from slavery. Enough of a history lesson, but I'm starting to wonder why Republicans today want to control what's taught in school. Again, it's word of mouth, but it makes me think of the intentions behind the action that I shared with you here.

Intentions

There's a saying that reads, "actions speak louder than words." That is very true. But do you know what speaks louder than our actions or words? Our intentions. Unfortunately, we never know what one's true intentions are, and the only one who knows is the person acting or speaking. It is difficult to trust anyone, but we all have common sense and pay attention to one's words and actions. However, the message is being provided and ask the questions that will help you understand the why behind the words being shared as well as the action. Native Americans, African Americans, Mexico, Spaniards, as well as other allies played a part in building this country into what we are supposed to be based on the people and the suffering we were and still are faced with. That includes everyone. Minority or not. HATE AND VIOLENCE AS WELL AS INSULTS ARE NO REMEDY OR SOLUTION FOR ANYTHING ANYONE DOES NOT AGREE WITH!! It's almost like if Trump jumps off Trump Towers, his followers would do the same.

Is it a cult?

I don't get it. How can they not see the evil he is behind? Because it's a cult, and cults follow their leaders no matter how nasty he can be. For all the Trump supporters, look up cult leaders and what they made their followers do. It's the same situation here. Convince their followers what they are doing wrong, is the right thing because of a religion or reading in a bible that gets read and interpreted otherwise and misleads their followers into doing wrong towards others. Based on their interpretation of whatever religion and combining it with their mental breakdown or hate, it's easy to convince people of wrongdoing because, for some reason, that's what gets our attention. When someone running for president just goes up during a debate to insult his opponent and not discuss the economy and any solutions he will provide in his or her term if elected, what purpose do they have debating? That's all he did was repeat the same garbage he talks about regarding Biden and democrats. Is that what democrats need to do? Go up and insult or show hate towards Republicans? No, they are people too. But one side wants to try to declare civil war on our country and for what? Because they want the republican party to win the presidency?? It's not all Republicans though. It's the M.A.G.A. Trymp supporters. You are the ones causing the violence and uproar within our own country. You're not helping your parties image. No one can make everyone happy. If we work together, we can help unite and resolve our problems. We have other leaders or positions of power that can help us locally, and it isn't all on the president. Mayor's, governors, Police cheifs, etc. The factor is we, and they all have to be honest and not favor one side or the other.

Media, whether social or news

I don't understand why news media and how they report news or deliver the news in a way that gets us to worry. It's almost as if they question it even though they were the main ones question, for example, the president's ability to continue running as president with another term. The main ones causing the questions become the main ones to ask the wrong questions instead of trying to realize this was a decision made by the president. What we think is not the truth of whether or not it's the right decision. Wait until you speak with the White House or Biden's administration. Your job is to provide us the news and give us updates, but don't spin it into something that's not. Bidens' decision to drop out of the candidacy his one that we will eventually find out from him or his administration as to why. It's not for the media to scare us into worry or doubt, regardless of what the public has been sharing amongst each other or on social media. Speaking of social media. It's an easy platform to turn truth onto lies or just make up stories for the vulnerable to believe and cause confusion amongst ourselves.

I remember growing up and my parents telling me, "one thing you never do is talk politics or share what party you support." I see why now because it's a topic no one can convince anyone to support either side by discussion. We all have to experience the failures ourselves and the successes and decide for ourselves. It causes enemies within family and friends. We are also the ones causing friction amongst ourselves because we want to feel one side is wrong and the other is right. It's neither. Let them prove themselves through their words and their actions, truth and lies, proof and deception. We are all not helping ourselves. We have something called fact-checking. All of these social media apps should have some type of fact checking and the news needs to stop trying to focus on ratings and start focus on helping to keep us calm and collected until we hear from "the horses mouth" as they say, to find out what's going on instead of causing over reaction or anxiety.

Don't let lies, manipulation, or word of mouth convince you of anything. We all have ways to find out the truth behind everything. Is it easier to believe what someone you look up to or trust says? It doesn't mean you can't trust but verify. There's technological advancement out now that can also manipulate us like A.I., which is something Elon Musk used on his app to try to mislead people about VP Harris using A.I.

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It may not be as simple as this, but try to understand..

Unfortunately for a lot of you, this relates to politics.....

Two parties disagree on anything, one insults the other or paints a bad picture for us about the other and vice versa. Instead of working together and figuring things out to help our country full of diverse Americans, citizens, and potential citizens, one party seems they want to divide us more and the other seems to I guess act a little soft on many things. So, work together to help make things happen. We are all not one-sided. We all want what's best for the country we live in. Think of it like parents and their children. As simple as that. Mom and dad want to raise their kids right. The right way may be different to one than it is to the other parent. Come together to figure it out. Why is that so hard. We are the kids of America. We will have arguments, disagreements, and doubts. Being independent is like deciding whether you want to live with mom or dad and the child or children of the couple. I'm not painting any picture of who mom or dad is if you're trying to relate. It's about the individual running as our presidential candidate and not doing it selfishly or encouraging hate on others or violence to resolve the problems within our country, our home. We live amongst others. Whether you like it or not, that's what this country became because of American Imdians, African America, Mexicans, even Britain and Spain. They were all a part of helping to build this country. Understand that instead of hating on anyone. We are all unique, but I can agree we all want the end result to be peaceful, not mislead, not convinced of something that isn't, and not mislead. Truth is the only way for success here, along with compassion and understanding of all people, whether rich or poor, without greed....

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My view of life..

I was given a chance to continue life because something I was doing or my view of life, regardless of the hardship I faced, is helping me and many see there is goodness in this world or at least around them. I share that compassion or sympathy through my thoughts, words, or actions. I can interpret what I went through as punishment for any wrong I may have others may want to feel that way as well, but I do not. What I see was an unfortunate event I was faced with, and it did, for the moment, affect my view of life and what to expect, but that isn't and won't ever be the case. We are never punished for wrongdoings. If there is punishment, we cause it on ourselves with our decision how to respond, react, or deal with certain incidents. There is that "unfortunate event" that happens to many of us, and we may want to interpret our lives as what it isn't, but that's what it is when something unfortunate happens, an unfortunate event. Those events can not stop you from being who you are and continue living with that mindset and heart we honestly hold with good intentions. Keep your head, hope, and heart up. We will all be ok. Everything has a purpose, no matter how bad you may think it is. We all know our purpose, and that includes and involves the compassion, empathy, and understanding of others. What we are faced with may be an obstacle or an interruption, but keep living with purpose and reason, and we will all be ok. Just make sure it's positive, minus hate, judgment, or cruelty. You want to know what the true meaning of life is? It's what we interpret it as. It's different for all of us, but we need to keep our mindset and our feelings positive through the toughest of times...

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Thank you to everyone who got me to 100 likes!

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Sometines, we aren't who we are supposed to be because of others...

Do you want to know what makes us different? It's not only the color of our skin. It's not only our race. It's not only our ethnicity or our culture. Can those influence us and possibly our thoughts or feelings of others? Most likely, but they shouldn't. Those arent reason to hate or judge someone. Our differences should be based on our minds and how we think. Our mind is what convinces us to act a certain way towards others. Whether it's self convincing or someone else convincing us. Let our experiences help guide us if anything, and that alone isn't definite because not all people who act or look similar think the same. Especially when it comes to acting with hate, greed, or selfishness. You are what you feel or think, and what you may be convinced of really affects how you feel because of your thinking. The one thing that we all have in common is that we are all UNIQUE. No two people are the same. Everyone's experiences vary as well as our interactions. So don't judge a culture, a race, or a group of people because of, let's say, someone's actions. Dont tie it into the culture or religion. Although it may be an influence on them, think outside the box. There are many who want to help change that negative behavior and that way of acting or thinking that a lot of us display. This is all over the country, all over the world really. It's an example we ALL need to set for each other and especially our younger generations. No one defines you. You do though. Let's help make a difference for the better. Acting like the bad, whether through revenge or frustration, makes you like those individuals spreading hatred. We are better than that. No matter who you are or where you're from. Maybe it's easier said than done, but we gotta try. Know that having fear puts us on the defense. Whoever you are fearing might be on the defense themselves because they fear for themselves. Understand we have nothing to fear but fear itself...

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If we assume the worst, expect the worst, so it leads us to look forward to the worst

The biggest enemy our credibility has is perception brought upon the rumors or lies of others. We are made to believe what makes sense to us without validation because let's face it, we all want to believe the bad for whatever reason and are convinced of it because it is what wows us. A lot of us want to believe others have good intentions but, for some reason, misinterpret the positive actions to include negative intentions behind them. We are not all bad, and we all do not make decisions to intentionally hurt others. Yes, there are some that do and make it harder for us to trust ones intentions. Keep in mind that assumption takes a toll on what you are perceiving..

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Be a leader, an example. Dont abuse or take advantage of your title......

When it comes to working, I understand we all have RESPONSIBILITIES in our jobs and the higher the position, the more responsibility falls on us. This DOES NOT include having some type of a power trip thinking it allows our position of authority or our position of power, as some would describe, to abuse it and treat people like they are any less than what or who we may think we are. A promotion in a job (by title or pay) or being hired in a position of power or leadership does not mean we are allowed to threaten or speak to anyone disrespectfully or use that title to get our way. We are all people and should be treated equally. I get it there are rules and laws and regulations to follow, but there no need to throw threats or abuse your position to get things done. Workers, employees, citizens, or not, who act irresponsibly means we have to call for some type of support but not act on frustration or hatred or abuse of the power we think we hold. It shouldn't even be considered positions of POWER. It should be considered positions of TRUST, but we all need to TRUST we will get dealt with for not following protocol or instructions. If anyone wants to claim POWER, then claim responsibility, ownership, and trustworthiness.

With any promotion, any opportunity to take a job, an opportunity that includes leadership, manging, business owner, authority figure, etc., show responsibility with it. Not abuse of it.

At the same time, everybody should follow those regulations, laws, and rules provided by our employers, leaders, and officials. Not one person is above any law. Not even the law makers themselves.