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[thesituation]

i got an anon earlier that said it’s “sussy” [sic] that the “one time” i’m going after a pedophile it’s a trans woman which is cute bc anyone who was here at the time knows i went hard on toonimal too. who’s transmasc. you can’t say shit about me that isn’t 1. factually, provably untrue or 2. irrelevant

[thesituation]

also the implication that even if i hadn’t previously put tumblr pedophiles on blast that talking about THIS ONE in particular is off limits bc of her gender. that argument must hit so hard if you’re stupid 🔥

[garakgossip]

If the one time you encounter a pedophile they’re a woman or trans or both you still have a duty to raise a stink! you don’t wait til you can find another pedo first cmon now this is so ridiculous

[mortalityplays]

WASHING RICE. the thing we are talking about is WASHING RICE. PASSING WATER OVER RICE. an action that takes anywhere from 30-120 seconds. you 'DON'T KNOW HOW' to WASH RICE. you 'DON'T CARE ENOUGH TO LEARN' how to WASH RICE. the concept of IMMERSING RICE IN WATER has passed you by because you were not TAUGHT AS A CHILD.

[bastard-in-armor-deactivated202]

WHY. WOULD YOU PUT PINEAPPLE. ON PIZZA.... THAT'S DISGUSTING AND WRONG! DADDY'S GETTING ANGRY....

WHY WOULD YOU EAT STEAK RARE.... THAT MAKES YOU.... SICK!!! RRRAAARGH.....

How you sound making a big deal out of 1 person's cooking and food preferences that they're probably eating all by themself anyways

Also this isn't someone being maliciously willfully ignorant or maliciously lazy, it's someone going "I grew up eating and making it this way so I'm used to it like this and don't really feel a need to do this differently," why are you people being such assholes 😭 Yeah maybe a person's too attached to the familiar and being lazy about trying something new but... as you say... it is literally just rice! They'll probably try one day eventually anyway

[garakgossip]

If you’re used to not washing off the extra starch and like the sticky texture … idk why you’d change? People are weird about this, it’s not that deep. It ain’t even like washing chicken where if you’re doing it in a small sink you can splash raw chicken water everywhere this is legit just someone plug n playing their grains it’s fine.

[thesituation]

"universalism is a myth" they're literally so close to getting it 🤦‍♀️ trying to categorize people on a spectrum of "has a unique relationship to sex but special and totally different from Everyone Else" vs "has a unique relationship to sex but Not Special and homogenized to a point where we can literally call them allo" is such a weird and illogical hill to die on. what if the "sex is such a pervasive oppressive part of society!!" people actually understood that this means that sex is an extremely complex, individualized experience for everyone whether they're having sex or not and that there are countless reasons for non asexual people to abstain or have complicated feelings about sex (coming from a disabled lesbian virgin in her late 20s who has had my literal personal feelings on the matter of my own sexuality reduced to me just being ace by the ace and respectability-brained inclusionist lgbt people in my real actual life 😭)

finally someone who understands me and where i’m coming from. our wedding will be beautiful and we will not consummate it for many years

[myceliyolk]

reminder that "allies welcome" was once secret code for "those not out yet can still participate without putting themselves at risk", and for those who aren't out yet to comfortably exist in these spaces you have to let allies exist in those spaces too.

[meeks-peaks]

this is also important for queer people who don't know anyone else there. let them bring their friend, even if the friend is cishet. many would rather not go at all, rather than go somewhere alone.

[thesealfriend]

It is always better to let respectful cishets into our spaces than to try and police who is queer enough to be allowed.

[afniel]

Some of y'all really need to get comfortable fast with the idea that a healthy community generally contains peripheral members who aren't themselves in the community demographic, but are still socially part of that community.

Also, like, I realize this is currently Unpopular Opinion Material, but it honestly should be a freezing cold take: you can absolutely be cishet AND queer. Those aren't mutually exclusive things. Queerness works on so many more axes than just sexual orientation and birth-assigned gender congruency.

[brehaaorgana]

That's a cold take like when you get a hot pocket that is nuclear lava hot on the outside but as you keep biting in it turns out to be frozen in the center because both god and the microwave have abandoned this cause.

I swear to god words have to mean things.

If you include cisgendered-heterosexual people under the word "queer" then you're just using the word "queer" to mean strange/odd which is WHY it was used as a pejorative against LGBT people.

It just reaffirms the derogatory use of the word queer as in "freakish" and "abnormal."

Meanwhile the people who started the reclamation of the word queer were intentionally framing queer as not-straight.

Queers Read This! (1990) makes it very obvious being queer is antithetical to being a straight (cis) person.

There's an entire section railing against allowing straight people into queer spaces:

Why in the world do we let heteros into queer clubs? Who gives a fuck if they like us because we "really know how to party?" WE HAVE TO IN ORDER TO BLOW OFF THE STEAM THEY MAKE US FEEL ALL THE TIME! They make out wherever they please, and take up too much room on the dance floor doing ostentatious couples dances. They wear their heterosexuality like a "Keep Out" sign, or like a deed of ownership. Why the fuck do we tolerate them when they invade our space like it's their right? Why do we let them shove heterosexuality --- a weapon their world wields against us --- right in our faces in the few public spots where we can be sexy with each other and not fear attack? It's time to stop letting the straight people make all the rules.

Let's start by posting this sign outside every queer club and bar:

RULES OF CONDUCT FOR STRAIGHT PEOPLE

1. Keep your display of affection (kissing, handholding, embracing) to a minimum. Your sexuality is unwanted and offensive to many here.

2. If you must slow dance, be as inconspicuous as possible.

3. Do not gawk or stare at lesbians or gay men, especially bull dykes or drag queens. We are not your entertainment.

4. If you cannot comfortably deal with someone of the same sex making a pass at you, get out.

5. Do not flaunt your heterosexuality. Be Discreet. Risk being mistaken for a lezzie or a homo.

6. If you feel these rules are unfair, go fight homophobia in straight clubs, or:

7. Go Fuck Yourself.

Or we could just postmodern ourselves into "well, it's fine, queer means cishet people too! Why? Because it means the weirdos and freaks!"

I just. I feel like something has gone wrong in reclaiming the word queer in any way that isn't about centering LGBTI/2s people & our activism, and which includes cishet people.

We can and should have welcoming spaces for allies as a code word and also for friends and family of LGBT folks! but we don't have to call cishet people queer. It's. Possible to do both of those things. It's cool and great to have peripheral community members of support!

But that doesn't mean cishets are queer.

[pro-gay]

nothing but furious nods of approval at previous comment.

but I have a few things to say about a "healthy community of peripheral members". Cause the state of these uninformed internet politics spread by privilleged people is shocking.

These weed induced online essays that it is OUR community that needs to adapt to their oppressors and become more welcoming by making pride more "open" (and that this will somehow fix everything) leaking out in the world and being digested through the warped lenses of social media by young people who grew up in a safer enviorment and did not get first hand experience + people outside the community, now starting to become fact, and is honestly infuriating in how ahistorical it is.

I have been part of the Manchester Pride volunteer team for over 7 years. Over the years I've witnessed pride warping from an event of freedom, community and remembrance, to a music festival riddled with groups of straight people looking to get drunk. Majority of whom lead by an lgbt friend or acquaintance. In 2023 I had to disassemble a "safe sex information and free condom" stand so they can assemble a merch stand. That was the last time I volunteered for pride.

I have been thrown out of lgbt support groups for voicing discomfort about a cis straight person being in the room. I have been thrown out of gay bars for confronting a gay man after his group of drunk straight friends groped me.

I have had straight men come up to me and admit to my face they come to the gay village because there's lots of straight women there.

There's only one women-only bar in the village. cis straight women kept going in there, they lost their regular customers (the ones that are there not just for pride. you know. the community.) and it shut down a year ago.

Every LGBT person I know hasn't been to the village in years. We don't call it the gay village anymore. we just call it the village. it's no longer ours. Is this the healthy community your peripheral members were supposed to bring?

[smoqueen-deactivated20251108]

getting double teamed by Pharrell and Bruno Mars with a completely blank joyless expression

[estrogenesis-eeveeangelion]

retail

[thesituation]

the whole everest industry is so fucking stupid i honestly forget sometimes that there’s still rich jackasses paying to get escorted to the top of a mountain we absolutely are not supposed to be on just so they can get the extremely underwhelming and increasingly common title of “white guy who summited everest”

[thesituation]

please pleaseeee may the mountain and the sherpa community heal from this circus

[garakgossip]

Can we convince them to start trying for that one that’s actually the biggest mountain but 80% of it is under water? I’m picturing a Titan Sub kinda situation

[gatheringbones]

Common Lives/Lesbian Lives, no. 11-12, 1984

[tamamita]

[thesituation]

I definitely know who the “semi popular video essayist” referenced in that ask is, and while I totally understand why her blog makes people uncomfortable I hope you don’t use your platform to send people after her. She’s an autistic trans woman who’s been the victim of a really extensive hate campaign at the hands of transandrobros who obsessively catalogue her behavior in a way that seems very kiwifarms-esque to me. There’s not really evidence of her being a danger to anyone she mostly makes weird posts about wanting to fuck her dad, which like, is weird but not synonymous with pedophilia in my opinion. Not saying she’s totally innocent but she’s very open about the controversies surrounding her and I don’t think there’s a need to “bring attention to her” especially if you don’t wanna get wrapped up with transmisogynists.

yeah i looked at her blog after i got the url given to me in my ask box and decided to leave her be, her blog is pretty clearly just a virtual diary of someone who’s deeply deeply unwell and traumatized but not particularly dangerous (at least not anymore, idk what she’s done or said before bc i’ve never heard of her). itd do absolutely nothing for me to namedrop her & there’s far far FAR worse that i’ve seen on here

[garakgossip]

I feel like the bit where she said she can’t be racist because she’s trans really flies under the radar what with all the other awful stuff. But that bit for me is why all the “but she’s marginalised!” stuff falls flat. Yes. Shes marginalised. Shes also hurting other marginalised people! Her victim who came forward is also trans! She’s clearly keen to use her axis of oppression as a reason she doesn’t have to worry about being racist. I don’t think anyone should harass her, we should all unsub and block.

[luckynein]

Genuinely worrisome to have a poster on here running around asserting that transmascs have a “tendency” to rape transfems. What the fuck is going on

[garakgossip]

Genuinely think there’s people on here who’s problem wasn’t the existence of a binary “rapist or victim” gender war but with where the battle lines were drawn

[luxiomahariel]

me when i have never listened to trans men/mascs talk about their experiences with oppression

[luckynein]

This is how you know someone does not have the best interest of trans people.

We know trans men/mascs are violently victimized more than cis women.

We know trans men/mascs are paid less than cis women

We know trans men/mascs experience sexual assault more often than cis women.

We know trans men/mascs are marginalized more than cis women.

So, what purpose would someone have in making a graph that suggests trans men are treated as either cis men or cis women and trans women are treated as either cis women or “tranny”?

[luxiomahariel]

me when i have never listened to trans men/mascs talk about their experiences with oppression

[transfemme-shelterdog]

Not even a graph. But pedantic bitchiness aside:

Lmao. No.

1. Your "graph" says that trans women will never be seen as men. This is false.

2. Trans men are seen as trannies all the time. There was literally a post I dunked last week where someone calls transmascs trannies.

3. Trans men being seen as women isn't a good thing

4. Trans men are rarely seen as men. And the moment they need healthcare, they're outed even if they are 1000% passing.

5. Fully passing trans women aren't seen as the same as non passing trans men.

[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

It again amazes me that these people can see how the bar for "manhood" and "womanhood" is so high to the point where trans women are regularly seen as "faggots" and "trannies" when they're seen as their gender at all, but do not or can not translate that over to trans men the same way.

Identifying as a man or masculine but being just as oppressed as them in similar ways just breaks their brain. It's wild. They really build their whole identity around being The Victim TM

[well-within-electric-dreams]

i think its funny that being a woman is the midpoint between being a man and being a tranny

[garakgossip]

the idea that being a woman is the midpoint between being a man and a tranny implies the existence of a secret fourth thing

[dredsina]

Urban Design Lab posted these great pics of an architect's life before CAD ...

[queer-as-city-folk]

This could have been me in another better world, drawing with my friendses

[shitmystudentswrite]

Rooted

By this I mean that Wordsworth is deep in the ground, planted, like a carrot.

[shitmystudentswrite]

Birth giver

A young girl only sees other girls wearing skirts and birthing smaller humans so she too feels compelled to be an efiminate birth giver.

[garakgossip]

When I say I’m gay with a breeding kink I mean this

[palatialtoad]

Nobody owes you anything in terms of their own gender presentation. I do not owe you the ability to ‘tell’ what's in my pants based on how I present; and if you can ‘tell’ because I don't present with the total androgyny that you think defines a nonbinary person – regardless of the fact that everything about my physical body that you can see could also be created by plastic surgery or hormones or padding or packing – that doesn't give you an excuse to misgender me or tell me that you know what pronouns my parents used for me as a baby.

Take me at my word about who I am or shut up and leave me be, I don't want you pondering my genitalia. Fucking creeps.

(This applies to everyone, btw. Trans people, intersex people, cis people too. People in general don't want you thinking about their reproductive organs uninvited.)

[garakgossip]

Sandy O'Sullivan is the first nonbinary person I met who said it’s none of our business wtf they were assigned as, and it blew my mind wide open. I am grateful to them for the sense of self and privacy they gave me however inadvertently just by being loud and unapologetic about themselves.

[dailyccs]