queer positivity but enraged

Queer positivity posts except I'm bloody fed up with the -phobias and the gatekeeping.

[gayanger74]

It is a dark time for Queer and trans people in the US and all over the world right now. Regardless, I need people to remember that you belong here. Wherever you are, you belong. The world is better off by having you around. Living out of spite is the best way to fight asshole bigots who don’t want us around. Bite back. Stay alive, thrive. You deserve the space you take up.

[gayanger74]

Trans people don’t need to prove their existence to you!

We are here. That’s shown by the simple fact that WE ARE HERE.

Not a single law is going to change that.

[sweaterkittensahoy]

This conversation plays through my head any time I see a “queer is a slur” bullshit post on this site or anywhere, really.

(Homer’s Phobia, 1997 – guest star, John Waters)

[sweaterkittensahoy]

Someone just liked this, so I want to add an important note:

“queer is a slur” is a common tool used by TERFs to poison young queers against their own community. They teach young queers that using “queer” is against the rules because “queer is a slur” and then young queers repeat it because the elders in their queer social circle told them so.

Why? Because if young queers understand that queer is a loving and welcoming term for everyone who is not straight or does not match their birth sex, then TERFs lose all their power.

Because TERFs don’t just hate trans and non-binary people. They also hate bisexuals and pansexuals for wrecking their view that to be a wlw, you only live women with vaginas and to be mlm, you must only love men with penises.

But also, to reject the use of queer, you must reject intersex people because TERFs base their entire view on what set of genitals you have, and because intersex people don’t have textbook junk, TERFs don’t like them either.

And you must reject asexual queers across the board because so much of TERF defense is “I just wanna fuck a woman with a vagina or a man with a dick!” And if you have zero or minimal interest in fucking anyone, you wreck their arguments about what queer people want.

You know who else TERFs don’t like? Questioning people. Because to question your sexuality and realize you are straight is a loss for them. To question your gender and realizes it matches your birth sex is a loss for them. Why? Because to question either of these things means you examine who you are beyond a base level, and if you go behind a base level and understand even a basic sense of the confusing and difficult nature of sexual attraction and how it does and does not affect your gender, you can more easily see the holes in TERF arguments, which are all based on stereotypes of gender and sexuality.

The only reason the “B” makes it into the TERF acronym of queer culture is because if they left it at “LG” their hatred of the entire part of the community who is most comfortable using “queer” is a six-foot neon sign.

And to any bisexual TERFs I haven’t yet blocked who want to argue they are bisexual TERFs, so my argument about the use of “B” as a political abuse is invalid: The monosexual TERFs will have you against the wall in a fucking second. You are the sullied allies they put up with until you step out of line.

Lastly, the gay man in this episode is voiced by John Waters. He is a gay legend for tacky film and also an activist for queer rights. When his joke of the Baltimore Museum of Art naming a bathroom after him finally came true a couple of years ago, it was a gender-inclusive bathroom. And he brought his longtime friend and trans activist Elizabeth Coffey with him.

I am certain John Waters would tell you not to fuck TERFs in the same way he has said not to fuck people who don’t have books in their houses. And I am certain John Waters–an out and proud gay man known for his beautiful trash cinema and love and support of trans people–would tell you that queer is not a slur.

[bananonbinary]

literally we need to get rid of the stigma of questioning once and for all.

call yourself gay. call yourself ace. call yourself a lesbian today and a nonbinary bi trans man tomorrow. its fine. literally no community has ever been harmed by someone thinking that label might apply to them and then discarding it later. anyone who says otherwise is drinking the exclusionary kool-aid and isn’t worth the time it would take to argue with them.

[audacityinblack]

also: it’s okay to identify as cis after having spent time identifying as trans. you weren’t “wrong” or “brainwashed” for identifying as trans, and you aren’t “betraying” or “infiltrating” if you feel better identifying as cis. feelings change. minds change. you don’t owe anyone your identity and you don’t have to stay in a place where you aren’t happy or comfortable. i refuse to use the word “detransition” because discovering the self you love, while not always a linear process, is an ongoing one

[gayanger74]

Let’s try this again lads because apparently some people still don’t have it figured out

👏BISEXUALITY 👏IS NOT👏HALF-STRAIGHT 👏HALF-GAY👏

👏IT’S👏ITS👏OWN👏SEPARATE👏IDENTITY 👏

[sulfurandbrimstone74]

I don’t even have the energy to be mad at transphobes anymore. I just feel sorry for them.

Because trans people are some of the most talented, most caring, most expressive, most beautiful people I’ve ever come to know on this Earth, and it’s truly sad that those people won’t ever have the pleasure of loving them.

[fairytale-villain]

A good thread on whether “queer” is a slur and if it should be used or not.

[quarterinthequeerjar]

“If I am unashamed of being queer, you do not get to give that word BACK to the fuckwits who made it a slur.”

[dani-kin]

you do not get to give that word BACK to the fuckwits who made it a slur

[brinconvenient]

EVERYBODY WHO CAME OUT BEFORE YOU HAS TAKEN THE ROCKS AND BOTTLES AND MADE THEM INTO SHIELDS AND WINDCHIMES

Holy motherfucking shit. Don’t fucking come at me about Queer is a slur. I FUCKING KNOW IT IS. It was hurled at me like a fucking spear all through my youth. I know it’s a god damn slur. And it’s mine. You don’t get to take it away from me because you can’t take also away the scars it gave me while I was standing in front of my younger queer siblings in this community. 

[jenroses]

always, always reblog this one.

[kyraneko]

If my enemy swings a sword at me and I take that sword away from them, it’s my sword now. And the person telling me I can’t use it because it belongs to my enemy and I have to give it back to them sounds quite a bit like an enemy themselves.

[excalibelle]

^^ god that analogy

[serakosumosu]

@deadcatwithaflamethrower

[deadcatwithaflamethrower]

Yesssssssssss.

[dkgwrites]

This came around again, but it’s worth sharing and remembering.  You have the right to only accept certain words be used to describe you, but so does everyone else.

[stargazing-enby]

And that’s that on that.

[stargazing-enby]

Apparently I wasn’t done 🤔

[lymmea]

These are FABULOUS, OP, but can I suggest one to the riff of “QUEERNESS IS NOT DEFINED BY THE AMOUNT PEOPLE HAVE SUFFERED”?

[stargazing-enby]

Thanks! Here you go 🥰

Some other additions:

Inspired by @unicorn-in-the-library:

And because @surfs-up-roxy wanted an ace one:

I didn’t want to make the message ace-specific because I wanted to make a point of how all of the above include aspec people, but I tried to use an ace colour palette for the background :) I also think the message applies especially (even if not exclusively) to the ace community!

Hope you like these 🥰

[prismatic-bell]

@rockmarina possibly “all labels were made up at one point, stop being an ass”?

[stargazing-enby]

I played around with the concept a bit, I hope you like it anyway!

I feel like this also needs to be said:

[gayanger74]

Asdfghjkl you’re doing great thank you for your contribution

💚💚

[gayanger74]

A trans man wears a dress. He is STILL a man.

A trans woman wears a suit. She is STILL a woman.

Nonbinary and genderqueer folk are wearing traditionally masculine and feminine clothing. They are STILL nonbinary and genderqueer.

Gender expression and gender identity are not the same thing.

[gayanger74]

This is your friendly yet forceful trans reminder that you change your name as many times as you fucking want!

I don’t care if this is your 13th name change this week, if a name is simply no longer vibing, change it!

It’s your name, not anyone else’s. The only person who has to like it is you.

[just-crab-thoughts-two]

thank you i'm not sure if your applying this to genderqueer people but i didn't like my name a couple of times and my friend told me to make up my mind and i told her to piss off so.. yeah

[gayanger74]

I had to reblog this because this ABSOLUTELY applies to genderqueer people. I’m nonbinary myself in fact. If any of this relates to you, no matter who you are, it applies to you.

Good on you for telling that friend to piss off!

[gayanger74]

The A in lgbtqia does NOT stand for “ally.”

Allies, while important, are NOT apart of the community. They are supporters OF the community.

The A stands for asexual and aromantic

Saying that the A stands for ally is ace/arophobic

[gayanger74]

Some people don’t like being called valid because it feels condescending

Some people do like being called valid because it acts as a nice reminder of their worth

These two points of view can exist at the same time and don’t cancel each other out

[gayanger74]

Nonbinary people can use he/him and she/her pronouns if they want to

Pronouns don’t always equal gender and nonbinary folk don’t need to use gender neutral pronouns to be nonbinary

[gayanger74]

Bisexuality isn’t transphobic

Pansexuality isn’t transphobic

Labels aren’t transphobic, only people are

[gayanger74]

This is your friendly yet forceful trans reminder that you change your name as many times as you fucking want!

I don’t care if this is your 13th name change this week, if a name is simply no longer vibing, change it!

It’s your name, not anyone else’s. The only person who has to like it is you.