who are you? i love you too.

27 | any pronouns | just some guy

[blckgirlacid]

I need my weird alone time or I will explode

[queer-as-city-folk]

The entire world yearns for the collapse of America and it's empire

[beaft]

the phrase "but i didn't mean to!" in the context of causing harm is kind of redundant to me, because almost nobody means to cause harm. most of us just want to do the right thing. and i don't mean that in a wishy-washy "oh, we're all good deep down" way, i mean that even people who regularly do the most heinous shit imaginable will have a way of justifying it to themselves. the world is not populated by hollywood sadists and psychopaths.

[beaft]

actually i have been thinking about this some more and i want to add on to it:

abuse in caregiving professions (like teaching or nursing) is not solely a result of power dynamics. it's also because people who go into those professions often have a idea of themselves as Good People, and are consequently incapable of recognising or acknowledging when they've hurt someone else. instead, they mentally put 'people who have inconvenienced me' into the Bad People box so they can freely abuse them while maintaining their moral high ground.

i read ross greene a lot when i was working with "difficult" or "behaviourally challenged" children. his refrain is "kids do well if they can" - meaning, in short, that most kids act out only when the demands of a situation exceed their capabilities. punishing them for this is not only cruel but also completely pointless, because they also don't want to be doing what they are doing.

a teacher who believes that there are two categories of people - Good People who Mean Well, and Bad People who Cause Problems on Purpose - is not going to see it that way. they're gonna put themselves in the first category, and the misbehaving kid in the second category. and once they have effectively depersoned the child and placed themselves on a pedestal, the world becomes simple again. because abuse is something that only Bad People do.

[garfleas]

wigan kebab now that's what you call a butty i've been hearing about the wigan kebab for years and now i'm finally here at the trawlerman one of the best chippies i'm gonna go and try one lets go right mate i've been told to come in and order a wigan kebab but i don't actually know what it is you don't know what a wigan kebab is no butter barm meat and potato pie on you're in 'eaven carbs on carbs on carbs absolutely that's what i like to see d'y'want one yeah go on mate is it a popular dish 40 percent of people come and eat it's quick and good quick and ready and do they call it a wigan kebab or is it a pie barm or what do they ask for wigan kebab wigan kebab wigan kebab class go on then there you are enjoy lad wigan kebab that actually looks class that is sensational that is actually spot on mate i'm just lookin at the menu here so i can get a smack for 40p yeah so what is smack it's well born in wigan smack barm pey wet smack barm pey wet yeah it's a it's a cheap treat for a kid some grown ups get 'em but you're generally looking at 80p you've got some 'ot potater batter on salt n vinegar what's pey wet mate what's pey wet in wigan it's as good as gravy it's the water off the peas you get a few peas in as well yes you know you know it's free just moist your chips up while you smack i think i've got room for a little bit more mate can i get a smack barm pey wet no problem at all get your pey wet there you are man enjoy cheers mate smack barm pey wet gotta be honest the look of this pey wet is knocking me a bit sick it looks fuckin mingin let's see what it's chattin got a hefty dollop of pey wet there and it's actually quite nice there's no pea it's just wet but you can taste the pea a wigan akimbo with a smack barm pey wet and a wigan kebab and i don't know which one i prefer if i'm honest so that's the wigan kebab obviously a lot more meaty and no peas see the smack barm pey wet it's got more of a crunch i'm gonna have to go with the smack barm pey wet i'm sorry to all the wigan kebab lovers but it's gotta be the smack barm pey wet i think i've got room for a little bit more mate babby's yed go on what's a babby's yed steak pudding steak pudding steak pudding well reknown around 'ere our puddings are best and why is it called a babby's yed they favour 'em they've got very similar to look at so when you crack open a babies 'ead that's what it looks like inside yeah well don't don't do it so it's still babby's yed to go i've got to tell you something 'bout that the babby's yed actually comes with chips and gravy stuff as well you're messin' lad ugh three course wigan meal there you go cheers for that babby's yed cause it looks like a babies head and if you crack it now we're talking that's a serious pie that that is a serious puddin' so i've had a wigan kebab a smack barm and a babby's yed i'm officially a wiganer now do you want pey wet on that mate

[randomalistic]

Your artstyle is like your gut microbiome in the way its everything you consume and like and it also has all your bacteria up in it. Thats probably how that works

[fairycosmos]

person who genuinely hates themselves so much they can barely look anyone in the eye: i must remain humble lest my hideous ego spiral out of control

[powerbottombrucespringsteen]

Reflection from Mulan was so crazy she literally sang “If I were truly to be myself I would break my family’s heart” and 8 year old proto-gay me was like “I don’t know what you mean but I know what you mean”

[laterkiss]

i have [gestures vaguely] my tendencies

[sam-scribbler]

writing be like

[beautifulterriblequeen]

feeling that twenty minute gap lads

[animentality]

[alfgifu]

this reads like it was submitted to a local newspaper in the early 1900s

[doggirldick]

my problem with crosswords is there are always clues that expect me to know the names of singers or actors or sportsball players. um… i know the names of my friends :)

[depsidase]

[notmusa]

SCARED

[s3znl-gr3znl]

[elcorhamletlive]

Not to be a bitch but sometimes people engage with fiction in the most boring way possible, and nowhere is this clearer than in videogames. Like what you mean you hate a character just because they were kind of abrasive when speaking to the player character? "They were mean to me" and it didn't occur to you to wonder why? Like, what might their attitude toward you reveal about the world? About the social dynamics within it? About their own perspectives and backgrounds and personalities? Does it even occur you to ask? Would you only have liked them if they bowed to your presence and talked about how great you are? Like I'm sorry but you're so boring. How boring fiction would be if it cathered to you

[primaius]

[aggressionbread]

It sucks that the only way to begin is by beginning

[transexuality]

i love being a "the book was better" bitch

[ewaneneollav]

i love people so much that im trying to be one myself. its a bit crazy, i know…