couples counseling ruled. a hot disabled salt and pepper butch dyke saved my not marriage.
they’d literally get out a whiteboard and dry erase markers so we could diagram our fights. invaluable.
best tool in our toolbox they gave us:
if you want to connect but don’t have the spoons to design a ritual to do that, trade saying three things: the nicest thing that happened to you that day, the worst thing that happened to you that day, and something you’re thankful for that the other person did.





















