grow & glow

This blog started off as a glow-up blog, but as my journey progressed I discovered that a glow up is more about your mentality and healing than it is about physical appearance. I write about whatever is on my mind and share my thoughts with you on here. Everybody is welcome. I love you very much, lovely stranger. Lots of love, Lia.

[honigimohr]

“How dare you tell me ‘I am not like most girls’, when those ‘girls’ you refer to are my sisters and mothers, my friends, the very solace and the kindness I have sought when the worst things in my life have happened? How dare you assume I should take that as a compliment, and beam at you like it is praise when you are alienating me from the very core of my proudly female being? There are a thousand ways to tell me you love me, and making my sisters small to make me big isn’t one of them. Tell me you love me, but not because I am different. Tell me you love me, just because you do.”

— ‘You Aren’t like Most Girls’ | Nikita Gill (via meanwhilepoetry)

[glowbaeby]

omg wait babe!!! you look gorgeous today <3 have a nice day, i love u :)

[softheartedsuggestion]

you’re not selfish for wanting to be treated well

[glowbaeby]

girls don’t want boys. girls want clear skin and good grades.

[s6phir]

I hope you find yourself in the books you read

[glowithin-deactivated20220219]

[liftedandgiftedd]

open minds are attractive as fuck

[glowbaeby]

self love

Our societal view of self love is weird. I do think that nourishing your body and embracing all its “flaws” to spite patriarchal standards is indeed a good thing, but that is not what self love should be about. Self love for me means deep, unconditional love and healing, which starts with your inner child. 95% of the problems we have come from our childhood. From the love we didn’t get, our feelings that were not validated and the vainly try to get our parents to care for us, praise us, be proud of us. Not getting these fundamental needs met leaves a hole is us, that superficial self love cannot fill. You need to stop wishing for your parent(s) to change and start mothering yourself, as stupid as that may sound. It is okay to mourn for your parent(s), even if they are still alive, but not emotionally and/or physically present in your life. Recognize what they could not give to you as a child (kind words, appreciation, space for negative emotions...) and give those things to yourself. This is an essential part of healing. This is what self love should be about.

[witchesversuspatriarchy]

Saw this today. Reading ended up being my “quarantine hobby” so I especially am vibin’ with this

[glowbaeby]

nourish your body.

put oils in your hair.

feed yourself nutritious food.

expose your skin to the warmth of the sun.

sweat all toxins out. hydrate your cells.

nourish your soul

meditate. take deep breaths.

listen to music that makes you dance like crazy.

surround yourself with like-minded people.

make friends and create memories with them.

nourish your mind

read books. listen to podcasts.

let your mind wander freely.

never neglect your studies.

have meaningful conversations.

learn beautiful languages.

[glowbaeby]

read this if you don’t meet someones expectation of how you schould be

You know, i have tried all my life to make my parents proud. They expected the perfect child: pretty, good grades, lots of friends, does chores, etc. I have always been a people pleaser, because no matter what I did, I could never satisfy my parents. So I started to do everything that other people wanted from me, because I couldn’t stand disappointing more people, it made me feel horrible, as if I was a failure. People often took advantage of my anxiety.

But what I’ve come to realize is that when you live and behave the way other people want you to be, you cannot be yourself. You have strenghts and weaknesses, like every other person has and you won’t always be able to use your strenghts in a way that will please everyone. That is okay. Don’t live up to others expectation of how you should be, just be. Be yourself. Recognize your good traits and use them in a way that will benefit you. Not being what your parents, teachers, significant other, chef or anyone else want you to be is good, because it means you are YOU. Insecure people project their unfulfilled dreams to other people and want them to be what they couldn’t. Realizing this will make you free and leaves room to create yourself, independently. Living others expectation of how you should be is a cage, break out!

[cutekittensarefun]

[glowbaeby]

what no one tells you about selfcare

selfcare is not only bubble baths, face masks and drinking nice coffee.

sometimes selfcare means breaking up with your toxic significant other or a toxic family member.

sometimes selfcare means investing more money in fresh fruits and less in candy and takeout.

sometimes selfcare means reading more books and sitting less in front of screens.

sometimes selfcare means turning off notifications.

sometimes selfcare means motivating yourself to workout and sweat the shit out of you.

sometimes selfcare means facing your fears and stop procrastination to achive your academical goals.

sometimes selfcare means telling your friends that what they do is wrong & harmful and just be brutally honest to them for their own good.

sometimes selfcare means seeing a therapist.

sometimes selfcare means pulling yourself out of a depressive episode.

sometimes selfcare means to stop when youre exhausted and make a new plan.

physical selfcare is necessary, but mental selfcare should be your priority. your body doesnt follow where your mind wont push it. you need to leave your comfort zone because you know you deserve and can do better.

[glowbaeby]

eating well is a form of self respect

[bruwho]

[florial]

[yourvisionboard]

“The minute you decide you want better for yourself is the minute the entire universe begins to shift in your favour.”

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