The Way Out Is Through

Santa Cruz, CA

[mindblowingscience]

Its pretty incredible how accurate the science of astrophysics has gotten. New Horizons actually arrived 72 seconds early after travelling for almost 10 years straight to its destination.

[haithinkimfunnny]

Hello! The person who calculated the arrival time of New Horizons was Yanping Guo, mission design leader and one of the women who made up 25% of the New Horizons team. She configured the entire mission trajectory, including Jupiter and Pluto flybys. 

Women’s contribution to the sciences has a long history of being erased, so let’s not forget the women who made New Horizons possible! 

Kneeling from left to right: Amy Shira Teitel, Cindy Conrad, Sarah Hamilton, Allisa Earle, Leslie Young, Melissa Jones, Katie Bechtold, Becca Sepan, Kelsi Singer, Amanda Zangari, Coralie Jackman, Helen Hart. Standing, from left to right: Fran Bagenal, Ann Harch, Jillian Redfern, Tiffany Finley, Heather Elliot, Nicole Martin, Yanping Guo, Cathy Olkin, Valerie Mallder, Rayna Tedford, Silvia Protopapa, Martha Kusterer, Kim Ennico, Ann Verbiscer, Bonnie Buratti, Sarah Bucior, Veronica Bray, Emma Birath, Carly Howett, Alice Bowman. Not pictured: Priya Dharmavaram, Sarah Flanigan, Debi Rose, Sheila Zurvalec, Adriana Ocampo, Jo-Anne Kierzkowski.

(Credit: Michael Soluri for image)

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[profeminist]

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[rated-d-deactivated20230109]

 For more information, please visit www.whowillanswer.org. 

[tupacmadaddy]

[expect-the-greatest-deactivated]

Bruh

[phoenyxgreene]

What the hell?

[expect-the-greatest-deactivated]

Niggas out here trappin women

[foeyedcurls]

Then wonder how your ass got burned

[perpetualdaydream]

what the fuck…

[dynastylnoire]

I’ve had a dude do that before. that shit is terrifying. Dude went across the room like he typically would to get one. Came back and I didn’t know that he didn’t have one until he pulled out.

I FLIPPED. Cried all the way home. Cried for days. Got tested. Bought the morning after pill. Seriously, fuck dudes that do this. There should be laws against it.

[ithotyouknew-deactivated2015051]

There ARE laws against this. It’s called rape by deception or fraudulent rape and basically, it’s anytime the conditions of your consent are compromised. In a situation like this, you consented to protected sex. By having sex in a way you did not consent to, a crime WAS committed and he could be charged if any physical effects like pregnancy or STD occurred. Remember, ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY YOU DON’T CONSENT TO IS RAPE. 

[pardonmewhileipanic]

If a guy does this, it’s rape. Call the cops. Ruin his life since he has no problem risking yours. Make him fucking learn. Rapists belong in jail. Rape by deception is rape, not a funny “meme”. 

[enjorlove]

This is incredibly important for everyone to see!! EVERYONE

[mylastgame-here-deactivated2017]

yes YOU NEED THIS ON YOUR DASH EVERYONE

[unicornsandbutane]

y’all should see this, just so you know.

Call the cops.

HERE is a list of crisis hotlines for rape and abuse. Most of them are 24/7 hotlines. 

HERE is a list of crisis hotlines by state. 

In addition to giving you the compassion your rapist clearly won’t, they might be able to advise you on possible next steps: what to tell the police, how to get a test done.

Stay safe, everyone. 

[platinumblondeproblem]

This is so disrespectful. This is literally the conversation that fuckboys be havin with each other and giggling about. Crucify a dude that tries to do this to you.

[shamelesslyunladylike]

This is how men talk to each other about us. This is how men talk to each other about us.

[quietstorm-thundathighs]

Always reblog

[landmerbabe-deactivated20190210]

my time volunteering for a sexual health clinic and working for one has definitely made me aware of how often it happens.

to quote a counselor: “it happens all. the. time”

[lipatti]

am i the only person not affected by generalized positivity… like post it notes in bathrooms that say ‘you’re beautiful’ or posts that are like ‘smile! you are a beautiful sunshine flower!’ i’m just like … okay…

[audible-smiles]

I just heard a psychologist (Guy Winch) say that the people that positive affirmations help most are actually the people who have high or at least normal self-esteem. They really do cheer those people up!

But for the rest of us they run so counter to our general worldview (we’re fundamentally bad and deserve nothing) that our brain rejects them immediately as lies and uses that moment to remind us of how terrible and abnormal we actually are.

What usually works for people with low self-esteem is stuff like writing out a list of very specific things we know we’re good at, and revisiting it every day to write a paragraph elaborating on one of those things (i.e. “I’m a compassionate person and here are five examples”) to try to set our brain on a different track long term.

[princess-tia-beanie-deactivated]

That makes so much sense.

[micdotcom]

Watch: The way the country reacts to black actors in previously white roles only makes this worse.

[melanin-diary-deactivated201710]

[officialflowergirl]

settle this for me once and for all

is “chai” a TYPE of tea??! bc in Hindi/Urdu, the word chai just means tea

[505--503--4455-deactivated20161]

its like spicy cinnamon tea instead of bland gross black tea

[officialflowergirl]

I think the chai that me and all other Muslims that I know drink is just black tea

[childbully]

i mean i always thought chai was just another word for tea?? in russian chai is tea

[officialflowergirl]

why don’t white people just say tea

do they mean it’s that spicy cinnamon tea

why don’t they just call it “spicy cinnamon tea”

[breadpocalypse]

the spicy cinnamon one is actually masala chai specifically so like

there’s literally no reason to just say chai or chai 

[tvalkyrie-deactivated20200617]

They don’t know better. To them “chai tea” IS that specific kind of like, creamy cinnamony tea. They think “chai” is an adjective describing “tea”.

[startedwellthatsentence]

What English sometimes does when it encounters words in other languages that it already has a word for is to use that word to refer to a specific type of that thing. It’s like distinguishing between what English speakers consider the prototype of the word in English from what we consider non-prototypical.

(Sidenote: prototype theory means that people think of the most prototypical instances of a thing before they think of weirder types. For example: list four kinds of birds to yourself right now. You probably started with local songbirds, which for me is robins, blue birds, cardinals, starlings. If I had you list three more, you might say pigeons or eagles or falcons. It would probably take you a while to get to penguins and emus and ducks, even though those are all birds too. A duck or a penguin, however, is not a prototypical bird.)

“Chai” means tea in Hindi-Urdu, but “chai tea” in English means “tea prepared like masala chai” because it’s useful to have a word to distinguish “the kind of tea we make here” from “the kind of tea they make somewhere else”.

“Naan” may mean bread, but “naan bread” means specifically “bread prepared like this” because it’s useful to have a word to distinguish between “bread made how we make it” and “bread how other people make it”.

We also sometimes say “liege lord” when talking about feudal homage, even though “liege” is just “lord” in French, or “flower blossom” to describe the part of the flower that opens, even though when “flower” was borrowed from French it meant the same thing as blossom. 

We also do this with place names: “brea” means tar in Spanish, but when we came across a place where Spanish-speakers were like “there’s tar here”, we took that and said “Okay, here’s the La Brea tar pits”.

 Or “Sahara”. Sahara already meant “giant desert,” but we call it the Sahara desert to distinguish it from other giant deserts, like the Gobi desert (Gobi also means desert btw).

English doesn’t seem to be the only language that does this for places: this page has Spanish, Icelandic, Indonesian, and other languages doing it too.

Languages tend to use a lot of repetition to make sure that things are clear. English says “John walks”, and the -s on walks means “one person is doing this” even though we know “John” is one person. Spanish puts tense markers on every instance of a verb in a sentence, even when it’s abundantly clear that they all have the same tense (”ayer [yo] caminé por el parque y jugué tenis” even though “ayer” means yesterday and “yo” means I and the -é means “I in the past”). English apparently also likes to use semantic repetition, so that people know that “chai” is a type of tea and “naan” is a type of bread and “Sahara” is a desert. (I could also totally see someone labeling something, for instance, pan dulce sweetbread, even though “pan dulce” means “sweet bread”.)

Also, specifically with the chai/tea thing, many languages either use the Malay root and end up with a word that sounds like “tea” (like té in Spanish), or they use the Mandarin root and end up with a word that sounds like “chai” (like cha in Portuguese).

[drst]

Why is the “historical realism” thing always rape?

A couple weeks ago The Mary Sue announced they weren’t going to cover “Game of Thrones” any more after yet another female character being brutally raped. The thread is still being invaded by trolls periodically, and there are more than 12,000 comments on the article, which is a site record and probably an internet record. (12K comments because a single website said “We’re not going to recap or promote this show any more.” Baffling.)

Tons of trolls have thrown out the “but THINGS WERE JUST LIKE THAT BACK THEN!” argument ad nauseum. Which is total bullshit, of course. Now with the season finale of “Outlander” (which, spoiler, also included rape) the trolls are coming back.

I just want to ask, why is it whenever producers/directors/writers want to demonstrate “gritty historic realism” it’s ALWAYS RAPE? It’s always sexual violence toward women/girls.

You know what would be gritty historic realism? Dysentery. GoT has battles and armies marching all over the place. You want to show “what things were like back then”? Why aren’t we seeing 500 guys by the side of a road puking and shitting their guts out from drinking contaminated water while the rest of the army straggles along trying to keep going? Or a village getting wiped out by cholera? Or typhus, polio or plague epidemics? 

You want to show what it was like back then for women? Show a woman dying of sepsis from an infection she caught while giving birth. Show a woman coping with ruptured ovarian cysts with nobody know what it is. Breast cancer that the audience will recognize immediately but the characters think is some mark of the devil or some shit.

But no, it’s always rape. And we all know why that is. Because these douchecanoes that do this, though they’ll deny it, think rape is sexy. Because they can’t make a modern set story where women get raped in every god damned episode without being called monsters. So they use “but but historical realism!” to cover their sexism (see “Mad Men”) and misogyny. Then they tell us “That’s just how it was back then!” with the clear implication “Shut the fuck up bitch, because that could be you  and you should be thanking me that it’s not.”

[darthmelyanna]

Can we propose a rule for “realistic” historical fiction/fantasy? Twelve graphic cases of dysentery for every one graphic rape?

[drst]

^^ I like this idea.

[problematicselfie-deactivated20]

Maybe if high fantasy writers and creators weren’t all fucking hacks who’ve been riding JRRT’s dick for the last fifty years and insist on making every single god damn fantasy world they create a boring retread of Middle Earth based on the same three hundred year span of time in four countries of Western Europe they wouldn’t all have to rely on the same garbage logic to justify their garbage misogyny. 

[animatedamerican]

You know, they could deny that they find rape sexy, and they might even believe their own denials.  But the point is that they clearly don’t think of rape as something distasteful enough and disgusting enough to omit.

And you know what, I’m not even gonna insist on the dysentery.  Just this: if you’re going to include rape on the basis of historical accuracy, none of your female characters are allowed to have shaved legs or armpits.  And all of your characters have to have terrible teeth – yellowed and worn and crooked, because nobody’s getting braces or regular visits to the dentist – with at least a few teeth blackened or missing for every character over the age of thirty.

Of course, if your reaction to blackened teeth and hairy armpits is “ugh, no, sure it might be historically accurate but it’s gross, nobody’s going to want to watch that" and you don’t have the exact same reaction to rape, you might want to think about why that is.

[crisiswire]

Hillary’s Top Donor Just Bought The Onion — Started Publishing Propaganda Immediately

We can kiss the hysterical and honest satire of The Onion goodbye now that it's owned by one of Hillary Clinton's top sponsors.

When it was revealed in January that satirical news outlet, The Onion, had been purchased by Univision Communications (which is co-owned by one of Hillary Clinton’s biggest fans, top campaign donor, and pro-Israel fanatic, Haim Saban), it was if the world suddenly held its breath to see if the move would be the outlet’s downfall.

Now, it appears we have our answer. On Tuesday, an apparent attempt at satirical understatement in actuality proved to be nothing less than a blatant propagandistic fluff piece touting Clinton’s ostensibly stellar career.

[the-smiling-pony]

And so The Onion became a parody of its parodies.

[mrkenyon]

Oh, God, this is real.

The Onion is dead.

[ambris]

What the actual hell? O_o

[mioxenoblade]

what

[reversalsun]

Bernie Sanders is losing.

Hey people if you want Bernie to win you actually have to go to your state’s caucuses/primaries. Bernie is doing well, but the reality is that he’s not in the lead yet. Preach all you want about how much you support him, but if we don’t act and go out to declare we’re voting for him, he’s gonna lose.

The candidates aren’t chosen by internet hype. They’re chosen by solid support shown at the caucuses/primaries. All you need to focus make a quick Google Search to find where the caucus/primary will be held for your area. Find when it is and GO. Show the government that Bernie actually has support.

Minnesota’s caucuses are on March 1st. I’ll be volunteering at one, and I don’t want to see Bernie defeated by Hillary AGAIN – especially not while Trump is polling so high. I’m not kidding. Trump is winning states now.

Seriously, sitting on your ass hoping he wins won’t get us anywhere. Go out and declare support so he actually gets to the real election. If he doesn’t start winning states he’ll be forced to drop out of the running. Find your Minnesota Caucus

National Caucus/Primary Schedule

[crisiswire]

Hillary’s Top Donor Just Bought The Onion — Started Publishing Propaganda Immediately

We can kiss the hysterical and honest satire of The Onion goodbye now that it's owned by one of Hillary Clinton's top sponsors.

When it was revealed in January that satirical news outlet, The Onion, had been purchased by Univision Communications (which is co-owned by one of Hillary Clinton’s biggest fans, top campaign donor, and pro-Israel fanatic, Haim Saban), it was if the world suddenly held its breath to see if the move would be the outlet’s downfall.

Now, it appears we have our answer. On Tuesday, an apparent attempt at satirical understatement in actuality proved to be nothing less than a blatant propagandistic fluff piece touting Clinton’s ostensibly stellar career.

[the-smiling-pony]

And so The Onion became a parody of its parodies.

[mrkenyon]

Oh, God, this is real.

The Onion is dead.

[ambris]

What the actual hell? O_o

[mioxenoblade]

what

[godlessheathenhippie]

a person need not be wholly bad or terrifying to do great harm. A person can be decent in many ways, and still hurt someone - even someone they care about. A person living in a culture of rape can mistake violation for passion, and they often do. Each and every day. And this is why some of us are so very afraid. Not because of Roosh or a stranger in the bushes or some other human being that can be reduced to a concept. But because some of the people reading this have no doubt crossed lines and broken boundaries of consent without ever knowing they'd caused harm. Just as some of the people reading this will cross those lines tomorrow, or the next day, or some time after that. And the person they harm won't see it coming.

http://www.truth-out.org/opinion/item/34718-who-s-afraid-of-the-big-bad-roosh

[thexfiles]

if a marginalized group tells you that a word or phrase is harmful/toxic towards them and they wish you’d stop using it, it’s not an opportunity for you to flex your fucking debate skills

[micdotcom]

Watch: It’s your right to share your salary, not doing so could be holding you back.

[red-valentine-deactivated201902]

I actually went around asking in my last job what everyone got paid after I got my promotion to manager, thinking they were getting what I previously was. As it turns out the women were getting paid around 30% less than the guys at this resturaunt, with one of them being 20 and getting 50% less than a 22year old. FOR. THE. SAME. JOB.

I get that as a business owner you want to maximise profits, but don’t make that at the expense of other people based on their flipping gender or a years difference in age for the love of fucking god.

[tired-gay-deactivated20160526]

i wish there was more talk on tumblr about hypersexuality as a response to trauma, tbh. i see a lot of talk about asexuality and sex-repulsion due to trauma, but i rarely see people talk about the opposite. idk, its a difficult subject i suppose

[lilbittydragon-deactivated20241]

Hypersexuality as a result of trauma can happen because you start believing you’re not good for anything else but sex. Because you believe you can’t expect love without it. Because you believe sex is the only way anyone could possibly connect to others. Because sex is the only kind of intimacy you’re “any good at”. Because you don’t know how else to get attention. Because it’s easier to get sex than love. Because cuddling after sex is the only way you know how to get nonsexual physical touch. Because you’re high/drunk all the time. Because you have no libido/desire/attraction anymore and keep hoping that having sex will kickstart it. Because you’re good at sex and it’s the only way to get recognition and respect. Because you were told that you’re “bad at sex” and you feel ashamed and are trying to “get better at it.” Because you have flashbacks if you abstain from sex. Because you feel wordlessly desperate/scared/anxious if you don’t have sex for a certain period of time. Because you associate sex with danger and you don’t believe you’re allowed to be safe. Because you feel so bad so much of the time that sex/orgasm is the only way to calm down or feel good anymore. Because you’ve been re-targeted by other abusers/perpetrators who can tell you don’t know how to say no. Because you’re still with your abuser/rapist/perpetrator and the only way to prevent “worse” violence is to initiate sex. Because sex is physically or emotionally painful for you and you’re using sex to self-harm. 

Hypersexuality after trauma is way more common than anyone wants to believe, and it can happen for so, so many different reasons. These are just a few. 

[overpricedvodka]

Pray for Paris...privately.

Raise your hands if you or someone you know updated their profile picture with a transparency of Green Red and Black for Kenya’s flag back in April when this happened? Did tumblr change their icon? Did Spotify alter their frontpage?

My point isn’t to take away from the unfathomable grief being felt by people all over Paris, but Bandwagon Mourning is such a trite expression of this Western need to present an image of concern and compassion for tragedies that “unite” us when the victims are from “important” places founded by white people.  

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