"but aromantic people can still be in romantic relationships! i headcanon this character as demiromantic" okay then
where's the "do i really love them romantically? or did i just convince myself i do?
where's the "am i still really aromantic? what if it was just a phase? what if i'm normal, actually?"
where's the "what even is romantic love. what even is the difference being romantic love and platonic love. nothing is inherently romantic, it all depends on intent. but that can't be the only difference, can it? then people could just chose to be in love. but that's not how it works, is it?? "
where's the not being aro enough for aro spaces but being too aro for allo spaces
where's the "i keep falling for my friends and it keeps costing me friendships. help!"
where's the "what even is dating. how does that even work"
where's the not getting crushes. it's either completely fully in love or nothing
where's the being perfectly happy without a romantic partner, but also happy if you happen to have one
where's the needing unusually long to get over a relationship and detangle yourself
where's the "love at first sight is fake, it doesn't work like that"
where's the "i don't know you well enough yet to be romantically interested in you. i don't even know you well enough to know if i could be romantically interested in you"
where's the usual aro stuff. having difficulty with romantic relationships or situations without knowing why. not being able to relate when others talk about their crushes and relationships. advice always being either "talk about it" or "break up" if asked. feeling like there's something wrong with you bc you don't work like everyone else
demiromantic people are still aromantic. you can't use that as a cop out to write aro characters as if they're allo
- sincerely, a demiromantic person who'd like more accurate representation
