Something people are missing about the Ivypool's Heart excerpt
It is intentional that Ivypool is responding harshly to Dovewing. We are not meant to think "this is justified", we are meant to dig a little deeper and come to the conclusion "Ivypool was harsh to Dovewing but Dovewing was asking her to confess her true feelings" and "Ivypool is a grieving mother lashing out with unhealthy coping mechanisms" and "Dovewing is pushing Ivypool to confront her repressed feelings before she is ready so they can begin having a healthy conversation as sisters" are ALL true.
The fandom often thinks in black-and-white morality where one party is wholly innocent, or guilty, but the real world doesn't function that way. Ivypool is not evil for saying cruel things. She's coping with the loss of her child, that in a world where the afterlife exists, she will never be able to see again. Dovewing is not bad for wanting to communicate with her sister. Nor is she a baby; she can handle mean words thrown at her. Communication is what she wanted. Neither are responsible for another's actions, and each have their own ways of processing grief and trauma. To have a healthy conversation, sometimes people need to talk about difficult things.
I'm glad Ivypool is handling things badly and lashing out because that what her character would do. She's a mean person and she deals with her grief and stress through unhealthy coping mechanisms. When Hollyleaf died she blamed herself and essentially had PTSD from the events of OotS. When Bristlefrost died she also did what she normally does: represses her feelings until it bubbles from the surface.
Trauma manifests itself different ways and Ivypool is a fictional character who the authors are using to explore the concept of grief and trauma. There's no such thing as a perfect victim.
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