Neurotic Dreamer

Male | 19 | INFP | 4w5 | Pisces | Hi.

[hayden00rae]

Studying Online

I know for many the change to studying online has been really tough, I am included in this group. With so many distractions at our fingertips and the transition to Zoom based classes it can be super easy to forget deadlines, procrastinate, and ultimately fall behind. For those who need to maintain grade averages it is doubly stressful. Some tips which have helped me personally are:

* Maintaining a good sleep schedule and getting enough sleep - It can be super easy to stay up late even when there is physical learning, but now with everything online its even easier to fall into the early morning before sleeping. By going to bed and waking up at a reasonable time your brain gets into work mode easier in my experiences.

* Keep a journal - Keeping track of your work and deadlines is super important when there aren’t classes and schedules to keep your mind locked in. I personally keep a bullet journal to organize myself and make assignments easier.

* Eat Healthy/Drink Tea or Coffee - What you put in your body influences how your brain works. I know this is a standard tip but right now more than ever I think a good diet and some hot drink boosts are essential to keeping yourself focused on your work. 

* Talk to others - With isolation its easy to lose touch with your class mates but I’ve found that Zoom meetings with some class mates or messaging them keeps allows me to not feel as bad about not being productive at times. The reality is we are all struggling and being able to talk about it with people can make yourself feel less guilty and free up your mind to actually be productive when you get around to it. 

* Pomodoro Technique - Study 25 minutes then 5 minute break for three rotations then a longer 15-30 minute break. This has honestly saved me in this situation. Breaking down these big study tasks into digestible 25 minute blocks with a 5 minute break to stretch and breath has really kept me chugging along. This technique allows your mind to frequently detox whilst working and I find it allows for a much better academic mind frame. 

* Doggo - Playing with my doggo in my study breaks. Need I say more? Produces that good good dopamine. 

Feel free to reblog with any tips you’ve found helps at the moment with your distance learning. I know mine are pretty standard but they really work, so I’d highly recommend them. 

[hayden00rae]

YouTuber MBTI: Travel and Lifestyle - Beau Miles (ESFP)

Dominant Function: Extroverted Sensing (Se) 

Beau is an extremely action orientated person and constantly seeks out new physical experiences to break out of his comfort zone. His videos are based around him going on an adventure or challenging himself to try something new. He thinks very much in the now and in a podcast he stated that he thought most self-help gurus lacked an “everyday touch”. He seems to enjoy taking consistent action and doesn’t like staying still for too long. His demeanor is down-to-earth and he considers himself a realist. 

Auxiliary Function: Introverted Feeling (Fi) 

Beau seems to value going against the beaten path and consistently looks for ways to be different as lifestyle guru. His main motivation is to be an authentic, down-to-earth person whose identity is the “everyday lifestyle youtuber”. He likes to creates challenges which either have his own spin or are entirely new. He is a very emotionally intelligent person who appears to be in touch with himself and the identity he wants to build. He says that he asks himself if he is the person he wants to be on a frequent basis. 

Tertiary Function: Extroverted Thinking (Te)

Beau likes to challenge himself and achieve results when undertaking a new experience. His SeTe axis is very clear as he is extremely action >>> success orientated. He plans out his videos very well and enjoys completing the tasks which lead him closer to his destination. He values results and seems to have a very strong drive to achieve these results. 

Inferior Function: Introverted Intuition (Ni) 

Beau studied philosophy at University and seems to have a underlying internal view of how things work. Behind all of his adventures is a desire to express his ideas about life. However, it is very clear that this is his inferior function as he seems to dislike too much sitting and contemplating, instead preferring to act asap. He seems quite well developed as a ESFP as well as he is in his 40s and his Ni appears stronger than younger Se doms.  

(This is all my opinion and my own observations. I do not claim to be an expert on MBTI typings and this is just what I have concluded from my own understanding of the functions and the person I’m typing.)

[hayden00rae]

It might be quarantine but I encourage all of you to reach out to a friend and have some fun. It really helps the separation and loneliness. Just got off a discord call with my friends and we played Cards Against Humanity. Some of the best fun I’ve had since we were all last together. Connection is important 

[dying-poet-deactivated20200804]

tag yourself as types of people during quarantine:

type 1: self care queen, makes advice posts for other people, prolly knows how to cook rlly well, def has a good skincare routine going, bonding w their pets, goes for daily walks, picked up a new hobby to have something to do, fting with their friends all the time, does makeup to pass the time

type 2: actually knows the Fax about covid, reading a lot and listening to the news, sings the song when they wash their hands, actually takes online school seriously, maintains a routine to stay sane, podcasts playing all day long, works out every day, prolly like practicing doing their hair or nails

type 3: sleep schedule is gone by day two, has lost all track of time, microwave meals, binge watches tv while dozing off, tries to do some housework, really needs some sun tho, not rlly stir crazy but theyre Anxious, cant remember when they last washed their hair, animal crossing has Consumed them

type 4: set a lot of goals and has met None of them, losing it wo their friends, paces around the house a lot, listening to music 24/7, survives on snack food only, scrolling thru social media for hours at a time, "i didnt exercise before why would i now", probably has started talking to themselves

type 5: is dying but in a very fun sexy way, prolly had to move back in w their fam, fucking despises all of them, bitching 24/7, definitely developing a drinking or drug problem, ignoring onling school and actin like its still break, naps for dayz, has been wearing the same pjs for 6 days

[hayden00rae]

Type 4 oop 

[hayden00rae]

Figuring out what I want to do for a job is stressful man. I have been out of high school for 2 years now and am at Uni doing Psychology. In order to do the career I want to do I need to have pretty high grades to get into post grad study. Unfortunately my grades are nowhere near where they need to be and i’m struggling to stay motivated. Getting yourself set up out of school is hard guys, so don’t beat yourself up about it. I’m sure i’ll fall into something eventually but the idea of having to “accept” something I dislike simply because that’s what I ended up with is a disturbing thought. The world is a scary place... keep your head up and be nice ya’ll. We are all in this fuckfest together. 

[hayden00rae]

YouTuber MBTI: ASMRtists - Gibi ASMR (ESFJ)

Dominant Function: Extroverted Feeling (Fe) 

Gibi makes a lot of videos where she directly engages with her audience and she likes to involve her community strongly in her content (Patreon videos, Q&A’s etc.) She is very warm and makes an effort to give everyone in these videos equal attention. Whenever she hears nice comments or reads a question she tends to light up and actively show her responsiveness. She wants others to see that she is genuinely happy during her engagements with them. She effortlessly is able to make videos which involve a lot of personal attention and caring and she seems to be quite comfortable acting this way. Also, I notice that she tends to refer to other ASMRtists quite a lot when making her own content and makes sure that she is constantly engaging in the ASMR community.  

Auxiliary Function: Introverted Sensing (Si) 

Gibi seems to value organisation and often talks about the ways she organizes her projects and her life. She advocates a lot for structuring your life and being consistent with your habits (this is also Fe). She also tends to put an emphasis on details when she is talking and mention’s specific occurrences in the past which support what she is saying. This point is quite evident in her “Assumptions about me” video. 

Tertiary Function: Extroverted Intuition (Ne) 

Gibi seems to be able to come up with many creative video ideas, this is most evident in her characters for her role-plays. However, she only really seems to use her Ne when focusing on a specific goal and it doesn’t seem to fit into a higher position on her stack. She says she only really writes scripts or comes up with characters for her channel and doesn’t do much creative projects outside of ASMR (Si consistency). Additionally, her app Zees is an example of her coming up with a new idea for a platform to support the ASMR community (FeNe). 

Inferior Function: Introverted Thinking (Ti)

Gibi seems to have a bit of a trolling, critical streak at times. This is most evident at certain points her streams. She seems to look for specific facts or evidence which she can use to tease or criticize others, mostly during gaming. In her 16personalities video she said she related quite a lot to ENTP which could just be her inferior Ti monologue. However it is clear that this is her inferior function as she tends to avoid it in favor of her dominant Fe. 

Enneagram Type: 2w3 

Gibi seems to value being accepted and accomplished in the ASMR community. She appears to be very comfortable as the most subscribed ASMRtist and her app shows that she wants to bring others into a platform she has designed. It seems important to her that the ASMR community values her and recognizes her success. Type 2w3 is also a common enneagram for ESFJ. 

(This is all my opinion and my own observations. I do not claim to be an expert on MBTI typings and this is just what I have concluded from my own understanding of the functions and the person I’m typing.) 

[hayden00rae]

LOVE YOSELF HOMIE!!!

This is a reminder for anyone who reads this that they are valuable. Your worth is not defined by your value to any external criteria, it is defined by you. You are important and self-love should come before any self-judgement of competence. The world loves to make it seem like we have to be the “best” and if you live in a Western society then it seems like we always need to be better than the next person. That is simply not true and is a conditioned mindset to get us to work harder for people and companies that don’t care about us as individuals. I know life can be hard and we all need money, and to fit in to some extent. But don’t ever let it consume you. Take a moment right now while you’re reading this to open up Notes, Wordpad, grab a piece of paper (it doesn’t matter) and write down something good about yourself. I know it exists, even if its totally small and irrelevant, write it down. That thing, whatever it is; is why you matter. Positive self talk is a powerful thing and I know how hard it can be to be nice to yourself. I constantly put myself down and criticize myself. I understand that sometimes positivity seems illogical, useless, or impossible, but never give up. Writing this message is my rebellion against the negative self talk I've had today, and I hope it helps even one person just a lil bit. 

(This is not meant to devalue the seriousness of mental health nor claim that everything can be fixed by one thing. It is simply a positive message which I hope will bring an opposing force to all the bs out there. <3) 

[hayden00rae]

Stereotypes

There are a lot of stereotypes in life, and not just the typical jock/nerd stuff either. Everyday we are making assumptions and judgements about people with little knowledge of them. I think our brains just like familiarity and completeness, if we can create an idea of a person using what we do know about them then we can feel safe. I am guilty of this and from what I’ve observed most people are, it’s human. However I have been challenging myself over the past year or so to stop forming these ideas about people without getting to know them first. I believe everyone should get a chance at showing you their true selves, and I believe judgement based on things like appearance, rumours, a single social media post etc, hold little attributional value to someones character. 

I also look at myself and think about the way in which others might see me. I think about the judgements they may make after seeing me studying at the library, with a group of friends, or after seeing a tumblr post of mine. As a male INFP I have never really fit much into any social norm and even using INFP to define me only tells a little of my story. I am emotional, I like aesthetic pics, I listen to Billie Eilish, I obsess over romance, and I call my male friends ‘hoe’s; based on those judgements I think that most would assume I am either gay or bisexual, maybe trans. Truth is I am a 19 year old straight, cis male and I also like playing basketball, listening to rap music, and in the past I have been in your typical “male” friend groups (I have diverged from them now because of the toxicity). Who I am does not fit into any stereotypes based around sexuality nor gender. 

I was having a conversation with my bisexual girlfriend the other day and she was telling me about how some people tell her that she either straight (because she is with a male) or just gay and not come out yet. I think this conversation really brought forth all of my thoughts I’ve been having on stereotypes and how people often refuse to just allow people to be THEM. People don’t fit into the boxes we create, and we don’t know someone based off of the stereotypes we believe someone fits into. Of course this isn’t universally correct and sometimes people truly play into stereotypes to form an identity, I think I have been guilty of that at times. But at the end of the day I think we should all be striving to accept others for their true selves. We should try to allow for people to show us their heart before we stick a label on it. I think everyone deserves that chance. To show their heart. 

- Hayden. Written at midnight whilst sitting in bed listening to classical music, lamp on my bedside table on. 

[hayden00rae]

Oh wow guess I’m back

After some prompting from my ENFP friend wanting to make a blog I have found myself back here on Tumblr. I think it must have been like a year since I last posted but alas, henlo. I will use this blog for writing my thoughts, probably posting some lil story/poem thingymabobbers like I’ve have done in the past, probably reposting some stuff... I dunno. I’m back and I’m just gonna use this space to be me. Soooo yeah... um... I have realised I’ve ran out of things to say now. Well not really because my brain is a constant reel of random things but that wouldn’t make for worthwhile blog posting so farewell fellow travellers of life. 

[pr1nceshawn]

Tips That Can Save Your Kid’s Life.

[hiddlesherethereeverywhere]

THIS IS IMPORTANT 

When I was a child, from the time I was about four and could understand things, my mom told me and my brother that we should have a secret word. That way, if we were ever in trouble or felt unsafe and we didn’t want the people around us to know we needed her to come get us, we could let her know. So she let us pick the word and my brother and I chose the phrase “peanut butter cups.” (I’m happy to share the phrase now since both my brother and I are adults now). 

I used the phrase twice in my life. Once, I was at a friends house when I eight years old. Her dad got really drunk and was throwing things against the wall. I was really scared and I didn’t want to draw attention to myself on the phone when I called my mom to come get me because I didn’t know if he would get more violent if I asked her to come get me. So I called her and was calm and after a couple minutes I asked “Hey mommy, did you get me those peanut butter cups from the store?” And she said “I’ll be right there.” And she came and got me within minutes. 

Second, I was a teenager spending the night at a friends house. Her brother and dad were drinking and they started talking about things that made me uncomfortable - ie: what they liked to do to women. My friend didn’t seem perturbed and said that was normal for them and that I shouldn’t worry. But I was worried because they were really drunk and I was 15 and the only ‘woman’ around that wasn’t related to them. I went in my friends room, told her I needed to call my mom and say goodnight. Before I hung up with her I asked “Next time we go to the store, can we get some peanut butters cups? I’ve been craving them.” And she came and got me, just like that. 

Two incidents, one as a young child, one years later as a teen. Don’t discredit this stuff, it fucking works. My brother used it a few times too. Let your child pick the word and no never, ever, ever, ever get mad at them for using it no matter what it is. 

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DO NOT SCROLL PAST THAT.

[season4mulder]

Please reblog it can save a child’s life

[valtsv]

the dnd “roll to seduce the monster” joke was funny when it was just a joke slash creative out of the left field solution to avoid being brutally murdered by the DM’s horror of the week and fuck with everyone for laughs but as soon as people started using it as a legitimate counter-move to every threat it got annoying fast because nobody wants their carefully crafted campaign and planning/worldbuilding to be torn down in seconds by your horny bard oc and besides it’s weird and uncomfortable for everyone else playing the game

[entp-posts]

Shit ENTP’s Say #1

“Maybe I should just make a self centered MBTI blog?…”

*couple of seconds later*

“And that should be my first quote…”

[hayden00rae]

[hayden00rae]

[serious]

[mysimpsonsblogisgreaterthanyours]

[wattleandgum]

this period of the simpsons where homer is pretty clueless but still tries hard to be a good father because he does love his kids is my favourite, so many feelings

[bacon-art-blog]

GROSS SOBBING

[iggycamdon]

Something I really really liked about a few of the Homer/Lisa episodes in the earlier seasons of the show was how it paints a really sweet yet unconventional father/daughter relationship, basically in the way that Homer is a parental force to Lisa, so too is Lisa a parental force to Homer. 

It’s really highlighted in one particular scene in the “future” episode “Lisa’s Wedding”, where Homer has a nice conversation with her just before her wedding.

Homer: Little Lisa, Lisa Simpson. You know, I always felt you were the best thing my name ever got attached to. Since the time you learned to pin your own diapers, you've been smarter than me. Lisa: Oh, Dad -- Homer: No, no, let me finish. I just want you to know I've always been proud of you. You're my greatest accomplishment and you did it all yourself. You helped me understand my own wife better and taught me to be a better person, but you're also my daughter, and I don't think anybody could have had a better daughter than you-- Lisa: Dad, you're babbling. Homer: See? You're still helping me.

[hayden00rae]

How my ENTP best friend describes his thought process

1. Thinks about random shit

2. Thinks internally about the details of random shit

3. Tells people and makes friends through random shit

4. A month later remembers random shit

5. Realizes after doing the random shit or right before that it might not be a good idea 

6. Tells everyone else it's a bad idea 

7. Might feel bad about having a bad idea 

8. Forgets what I was doing and feeling

(Based off of his functions)