It’s An Older Blog, But It Checks Out

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[henlotheregeneralkenobi]

I wonder how reality will change in the next six months

[v-e-l-v-e-t-g-o-l-d-m-i-n-e]

Star Trek: Deep Space Nine

Emissary (1x01)

[brian4rmthe6]

[habaebiti]

It Doesn’t Matter - Aerial East

[strangerconnection]

im so good at experiencing symptoms of the disorders i have

[rhodarein]

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[junglejim4322]

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

[junglejim4322]

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

[junglejim4322]

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

[transhumanisticpanspermia]

When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it's gone by the wayside. Which sucks.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don't want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it's only a matter of time. Because if you're nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?

[armengoldira]

Roman aqueducts

[doodleoo]

[henlotheregeneralkenobi]

trust that our modern business practices were in part invented by the Romans, just like their military is the foundation of modern military (business is a kind of war btw)

[silkwhim]

4 dabloons

[silkwhim]

[orpheuslament]

dont know how to say this without sounding like one of those "people are too soft these days" motherfuckers but some of you are incapable of interacting with anything that does not coddle you & makes you feel Good about your own Goodness. if you know what i mean

[orpheuslament]

also i said it in the tags but i feel it needs reiterating: watching tv is not activism. fighting over fictional stories is not activism. attacking people for not interacting with fictional stories in a way you deem Acceptable is not activism. you are being annoying & i personally dont want to play toys with you anymore

[digitalbeachrave]

died and came back wrong and no one could tell the difference

[megamindsupremacy]

died and came back wrong but only to myself. died and came back and nobody noticed i died. died and people think i came back better. died and came back wrong only in a specific sense of "wrong". died and fought like hell to come back and everyone thinks it was easy. died and came back mentally wrong and physically fine and tearing myself apart from the inside. died and hiding everything that went wrong. died and trying so hard to show what is wrong and nobody notices.

[lycanr0t]

comic about determination and hope

part 2

[javarisx-fightingthosedemons]

[loonamoonland]

Montana, 2020

[silvermoon424]

She was so real for this

[haverst]

[ashstfu]

[funnier-as-a-system]

[ID: a social media post showing a close-up of someone's neck area without any identifying features. Text reads: january me would not believe the fucking life i have lived this year ./ end ID]