Why Your Childhood Memories Feel Magical (But Weren't)
I was in my parents' back garden a few years ago when I heard a blackbird singing in the old apple tree. Suddenly I was seven years old again, and that same patch of grass felt bathed in this warm, golden light - like something from a fairy tale.
But here's what puzzled me: I knew that garden wasn't actually 'magical' back then. I remember it being mostly weeds and patchy lawn. My mum was always moaning about the slugs eating her plants, and I must have spent most summer afternoons there complaining I was bored.
Yet now, in memory, those same mundane hours feel precious and enchanted. The wonky shed seems charming rather than falling apart and the overgrown borders look 'romantic', rather than neglected.
How does that happen? How do perfectly ordinary childhood experiences - experiences I knew were ordinary as a kid - somehow transform into something that feels magical decades later?
The Same Feeling, Over and Over
Once I started paying attention, I noticed something strange. That mysterious "glow" from childhood memories? I'd get the exact same feeling from completely different experiences.
When I hear certain pieces of classical music, there's this sense of connecting with something profound and timeless - the same feeling. When I visit old churches or historical sites, I get that same inexplicable sense that something deeply special exists within that place. In abstract artworks, luxury brands and glamour - again, it's identical.
There's now a word for this: hagioptasia. Basically, it's our natural tendency to see certain things as having this special, almost 'sacred' quality of meaning that feels so authentic, even when we know it is not.
Recent research looked at nearly 3,000 people and found that about 80% of us recognise this feeling from childhood. We're apparently hardwired to take ordinary stuff and somehow transform it into something that feels extraordinary.
Think about it - you probably have songs that don't just sound good, they feel inexplicably wonderful. Places that aren't just pretty, they feel deeply significant. Objects that aren't just mementoes, but feel strangely meaningful.
None of these things actually possess magical properties, but your brain treats them like they do.
So What's Really Going On?
The uncomfortable truth is that all that profound meaning we experience - in nostalgia, in art, in spiritual moments - is something our minds are actively creating. The magic isn't "out there" waiting to be discovered. We're making it ourselves.
Although this revelation may seem rather disheartening at first, an understanding of the influence of hagioptasia provides us with a very helpful tool indeed. Recognising hagioptasia for what it is doesn't need to diminish the magic, but can allow us to foster that magic more constructively - an insight, which helps us to distinguish between the magic worth pursuing and the illusions that lead us astray. And in a world full of manufactured 'specialness', that distinction might be more valuable than ever.
To find out more about hagioptasia, the supporting evidence, and why we possess such a natural trait, please see Hagioptasia: A Fundamental Perceptual Tendency in Human Psychology
Source: Why Your Childhood Memories Feel Magical (But Weren't)