OkCupid's Greatest Hits

The Story Yes, another tumblr of OkCupid messages. What can I say, it beat getting #yesallwomen tattooed across my chest. The messages you'll find here were all sent to me, and I've shared a few of my dating horror stories on the OkCupid profile I_Am_Legend. The Profile I_Am_Legend__ Top Posts The Writer The Banana Man The Misandryst The Kidney Stealer The Baker

[ithelpstodream]

[tnerdbean]

[clutches my pearls] Trans people in 1921?!??! But I thought trans people were trend of today’s youth!

[toadoasis]

I’d like to add my great great aunt Flora!

[socialistexan]

Y'all wanna know why we don’t see or hear about trans people from that era?

That’s because that picture was taken at what is known in its native language as Institut für Sexualwissenschaft, it is the place where the first trans healthcare was developed, where the term transsexual was coined.

Do you want to know what happened to the Institut für Sexualwissenschaft?

It was the victim of the very first Nazi book burning. Their teachings were outlawed and their books destroyed. Their leaders - such as Magnus Hirschfeld - were criminalized and exiled, if not outright murdered.

The fascists exterminated not just a generation of trans people, but they erased our history from the books almost entirely. It took us almost a century to get back to where we are now.

We’ve always been here, but our future is not guaranteed. We have to fight for our survival, because it’s happening again.

[ithelpstodream]

“it’s just a parking lot”

exactly. there’s nothing there. not a statue. not a plaque. nothing.

[irishfino]

[drives over hitler’s death site]

[nichtschwert]

Bloody amazing.

And you know what’s right next to it?

That’s right, the Denkmal für die ermordeten Juden, which translates to the Memorial for the murdered jews.

So if you wanna go have a look at the monument commemorating the victims of Hitler’s regime, you can park your car right on the spot he died and walk there.

Makes ya think, doesn’t it?

[bucketslutz]

Germany: *has a literal parking lot over Hitler’s death site and has the memorial for the murdered Jews right next to it*

America: *has statues and museums dedicated to people who believed slavery was so amazing and good they decided to make their own country and murder anyone who disagreed*

[imagesofperfection]

Women, the streets near the car park are named after:

Gertrud Kolmar - German Jewish poet murdered in Auschwitz

Hannah Arendt - famous German Jewish philosopher and author, her works on totalitarianism, authority and the nature of power, who fled Nazi Germany in 1933

Cora Berliner - German Jewish economist and social scientist murdered in Trostinets extermination camp

[withywindlesdaughter]

reblog this forever 

[garlic-slut]

It’s funny too cause people argue that you “can’t erase history” and that’s true. You can, however; choose how you commemorate it.

[catchymemes]

[ordinarytalk]

Hey, so we all remember this lady, yeah?

She’s cospaying the Resident Evil tall vampire lady now.

She’s also a bronze medal-winning Olympian with the Russian basketball team. Maybe go visit her instagram?

[inactiveaccount12345678]

@nye-eclipsion

[orteil42]

love drinking water while taking a piss every chance i get to remind myself of my status as, ultimately, just a loud little tube with opinions

[orteil42]

single btw

[amygdalae]

Keying/graffiti-ing someones car is old news now if someone cheats we go at their wardrobe with a seam ripper

yknow what? Fuck you *unstitches all your shirts and jeans*

[melyzard]

My mother did this to my father once. They got into an argument, my very pregnant and hormonal mother stormed off…except they lived in a tiny apartment so the only place to go was to shut herself into the closet for a good long sulk. And while she was sitting in there, fuming, she looked up and saw her sewing kit on the shelf, and all my father’s uniforms hanging right there.

So she picked one shirt and one pair of trousers, carefully, methodically ripped every third stitch out of every seam, and then hung them back up together so that he would be likely to pick them at the same time. This took her a couple hours, so by the time she was done, the anger had worn down. She came out, she and my father had a talk that ended in apologies, after which they were tired and went to bed. My mother swears up and down that she meant to warn my father about the sabotaged clothes in the morning, but he wore a different uniform set and they were both still feeling a little raw, so she didn’t want to bring up the fight again. She decided to tell him that night instead.

And then she forgot.

Anyway, about four days later, my father apparently came home roughly an hour after he left for work, his clothes slowly, gently shredding off his body, the most bewildered expression on his face. “Paula,” he said, his voice mildly shell-shocked. “Paula, my clothes are broken.”

My mother promptly burst out laughing so hard that she went into labor. And that’s the story of my birth, heralded by petty vengeance and utter confusion.

[memewhore]

[nashibirne-deactivated20240609]

Love him 💜 Always have, always will

[my-skin-is-darker-than-your-blog]

This is why I want to give birth at home with a BLACK midwife.

[courtneyjaee-deactivated2023072]

Hi, I’m a black midwife. Hit me up when you’re ready 😊

[metalheadsagainstfascism]

Black ppl especially black women should have black doctors.

-yinx1

[phinarei]

This is what I was talking about before. The patient had PROVEN heart issues and rather than do what would be done with a white patient, the other doctor was ready to let her walk out and die.

This lady right here is a doctor and she just said “fuck all doctors, we need to fix the system.”

We need more people like her and a fuck ton more POC of all kinds in medicine. But especially black people.

[inimitablebiscuit]

This living handbook should be a go to for doctors everywhere

Mind the Gap — Black & brown skin

[johnnythehorsepart2]

[wilwheaton]

Fuck yes this sounds great.

[smashing-yng-man]

[0ldmancopper]

So, I posted a rant a few days ago after a particularly rough night. And for better or worse Tumblr ate it.

But, the gist of it is that I have some sort of neurodivergence... that makes me fairly oblivious to any tonal cues when I am speaking.

So, often times I will intend to ask a very specific very benign question ....

And it will be taken by the person I'm speaking to as something very different than the literal words that I have spoken.

Which is really really really hard when I live with and love somebody.

Because I'm always caught incredibly flat-footed by the reaction and I don't know how to change my communication skills after five decades on this rock.

[i-am-legend-1111]

I grew up with a parent who has a very different communication style than I do. At some point I started to approach all communication as each one of has our own unique language. Even if we are all speaking English, we’re not speaking the same English. Different words and tones have different meanings and baggage for different people. For me it kind of took the pressure off? Like, if you’re trying to use not your native language, you get a little grace in making conversational missteps. I guess that doesn’t fix the problem of not making the missteps in the first place, but for me it has then led to more nuanced conversations about the language itself, which has helped me learn that person’s language better and generally make fewer missteps. It’s a lot of I’m so sorry, that landed differently than I intended, what did you get from that? Oh! Umm, let’s see, how can I say that differently so that it means the same thing to both of us. My partner has a lot of social anxiety, and when we first started dating he would get really stressed out about saying the wrong thing and just shut down. Modeling this sort of behavior/approach to language really helped him to not do that over time.

I hope that’s helpful! Sorry if any of it sounded patronizing. Communication is hard.  

[i-am-legend-1111]

12/10/2014

[i-am-legend-1111]

Let’s make a deal, we’ll judge you the way you judge us for the low low price of 25 cents on the dollar. Cash only.

[flirtyblonde]

I had this happen to me last night. I highly encourage anyone who uses Kik to block him.

[the-velveteen-buneary-deactivat]

who. does. this.

[ponysrantaday]

Grooooss. 

Signal boost to anybody that uses Kik to block this person. 

[femininewritings]

Reblogging isn’t enough. I know from personal experience how determined cyber stalkers can be. Sometimes, the only recourse is legal action. The woman being harassed should go to the police and file a report on this menacing psychopath. This isn’t legal. These are threats and intimidation. I believe this constitutes cyber stalking. In fact, she MAY be able to contact the FBI’s cyber crimes division:

http://www.fbi.gov/detroit/press-releases/2013/new-york-man-charged-with-internet-extortion-and-cyber-stalking

FBI articles on cyber stalking

MF thinks he can play? He wouldn’t be so big and bad-ass with a police or federal agent on his doorstep.

[onlyblackgirl]

men are disgusting.

[maghrabiyya]

i have no words i’ve been sat here trying to conjure up how i feel about this into a sentence but i just can’t.

[jadelyn]

He felt so incredibly entitled to have this girl perform sexiness for him on command, that simply declining to indulge him is enough for graphic threats and harassment.

Remember, men: women have no way of knowing which ones of you will flip your shit like this UNTIL ITS TOO LATE AND THE GUY DOES IT. Any one of you could be the one who hears “no” and turns into a murderous stalker. Can you blame women for not taking kindly to advances from strangers?

[i-am-legend-1111]

I owe you a thank you

I started this project because I was angry. A couple of summers ago I was sexually assaulted by someone I’d just started dating. I felt, for lack of a better word, icky, but I couldn’t face the word rape. If I used it, that would mean it had actually happened. I dumped him and tried to leave the whole thing behind me, but the feeling wouldn’t go away. By the end of the summer the icky feeling intensified until it felt like something poisonous had settled in my chest. And I couldn’t figure out how to draw it out. Someone mentioned in passing that writing about your experiences might be useful to someone. I latched on to that idea and wouldn’t let it go. I realized I had something I wanted to say, and that on OkCupid I already had the attention of the people I most wanted to hear it.

Up went the essay. Up went the screen caps of some of the horrible things men had sent me. I expected to be inundated by a bunch of misogynist trolls, but I figured that if I could just get 1 guy to understand, it would be worth it. Instead, message after message of I’m sorry, thank you, and all around general human decency came in. Each one I got chipped away at that poisonous feeling. I still got the angry/passive aggressive/ you’ve damaged my fragile ego crap, but by and large I was getting messages of support. Finally, I was able to talk about what happened*.

So thanks fellas, you helped. <3

(*Side note, one of the 1st people I talked to responded with “You’re the first person to tell me that this week.” This. Week.)

[profeminist]

Donate to the Planned Parenthood Action Fund

Folks, this is the time to walk the walk - volunteer, donate, do pro bono work for non-profits, whatever you can do, do it now!

#StandWithPP

[zuzu-and-friends-deactivated202]

i dont trust anyone who thinks trumps presidency wont be disastrous.

[rasec-wizzlbang-blog]

people opposing hillary: she’s crooked people opposing trump: he makes me fear for my life

[drowsyfantasy-deactivated201812]

Isn’t that also the usual dichotomy of it, though? 

men going on a first date: what if she’s lying on her profile page?  women going on a first date: what if he’s going to kill me? 

[philaprint]