I just left my husband alone with our two children for sixteen days. I was not worried about anything regarding the house, their food, or their wellbeing. I put all the appointments in the family calendar and my husband checked it and kept them. I literally did not worry about them. I missed them, and I was sad that they missed me, but I didnāt worry about them AT ALL. I need to impress upon you all that I missed their company, but was not worried for their welfare.
I also did no meal prep. I donāt even think I went shopping right before I left.
This is not about apples and oranges. This isnāt even about my husband. This is about the fact that this is apparently WEIRD.
Another mum at my daughterās school is leaving for ten days. Sheās taking her youngest (who is a very small baby) and leaving her husband with their two girls. She has been cooking for days preparing freezer meals. Sheās panicking and deputizing her six year old to remind him how to make school lunches. AND I AM APPALLED.
A) He is definitely not helpless. (Heās a doctor or something.) What gendered bullshit. B) THAT LITTLE GIRL IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR HER AND HER SISTERāS WELLBEING. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. C) Why is she married to this person and creating children with him if heās this big of an idiot?
While she was laughingly recounting this, the other mums were nodding and smiling sympathetically, like oh yes, I too have my caveman at home!! Such managing required! I was the only one who was like āDude, heāll be fine. Literally. He will be fine.ā I said it a lot. She was not convinced. She kept bringing up her older daughter. Sheāll be like a little mum!
Straight women, donāt do this shit. Itās gross. Donāt infantilize your husbands and then expect your daughters to pick up the slack. So fucking gross. So. So. GROSS.
