i can hardly keep my skin on

this blog description is slightly out of date • side blog for my health/disabilities • mainly depression anxiety trich • but also other shit • 1995 they/them genderqueer greyro greyace •

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

It can be easy to confuse the two, but you don't actually "wish you were more disabled", you wish your disability was taken seriously and was properly accommodated and that you had access to the support and resources you need - and that desire is so valid. You deserve more. But the sad truth is that no level of disability actually guarantees a sufficient level of support. So you have to work to separate your very understandable desire for more support from the incorrect assumption that other disabled people are consistently receiving what you aren't. All of us are getting fucked over in this society, and no group of disabled people actually has it easy.

[movementnudge]

Movement nudge, hand mobility! 🙌

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[ruffboi-mags]

1) do this even if you're under 40. seriously. I definitely should have been doing something like this for years and I only turned 40 a month and a half ago

2) if you're like me just now trying this going "oh god i've only done 15 and i think my hands are cramping" start lower than 30 and increase by 5 once whatever number you're doing no longer makes your hand cramp up. I can manage about 15 per exercise at the moment.

[creations-by-chaosfay]

If you're hypermobile, be especially gentle.

[persbaderse]

before my egg cracked, i had noticed that trans people were often pro-accessibility and up-to-date on the needs of disabled people, but i hadn’t seen any inherent connection between the two (other than the obvious minority-looking-out-for-other-minority thing). but now that i’m trans and medically transitioning, and i have to constantly repeat myself while talking to doctors and nurses, and explain things about my own anatomy to medical staff who should already know this, and having every single problem i might have blamed on my “condition” so nothing i say is taken seriously, all of the sudden i have a little sneak peak into the life of someone who has to deal with this all the time. like shit bro, being disabled probably sucks ass, someone should do something about this

[persbaderse]

happy disability pride month, we all deserve autonomy and respect and access to medication

[aidashakur]

[drinksomefuckingwater]

drink some fucking water

[zombie-luna]

[timidsketch]

I don't know whether or not this is true, but I'm reblogging this because we live in a world where the third search result when I tried researching the validity of this information was a link to an article about a weight loss product.

The second search result had included the slur "ob*se" in the title of the article.

There are seriously people who tell me fat people aren't oppressed. Meanwhile, trying to find information about how to keep a fat person from drying in a car crash is met with links to products that make dirty money off of how society views my body.

I immediately gave up trying to research this.

[squirreltastic]

The tiktok is correct. Basically it's about arranging your belt so it there is an accident the pressure is in your strongest bones.

[timidsketch]

"Seatbelt should be across your hips rather than your stomach for everyone, but i think it's more common for fat people to wear seatbelts over the stomach

Pelvic bones are strong and sturdy, and you're going to be MUCH less likely to injure internal organs and such when you suddenly slam into a nylon belt"

Text and photos by @thejacespace

I wanted to put both of these reblogs in one reblog chain since this is helpful information. Thank you both for giving more information than fatphobic Google did.

[mybigfatgaylife]

Thanks to everyone who worked on verifying this information.

[howldean]

“june is over so now it’s gay wrath month” blah blah reminder that july is disability pride month and is often ignored and disregarded!! funnel that wrath into advocating for your disabled peers and amplifying their voices

[quartzfinchfennec-deactivated20]

I can't believe this is even a debate but even if someone's disability is genuinely fully caused by their own actions they still deserve accommodation and community

Yes this applies to substance use yes this applies to reckless behaviour yes it applies to purposefully injuring yourself.

If someone disables or injures themselves on purpose to such a large degree then they need aid regardless of how you feel about their actions

[balaclava-trismegistus]

if i dont respond to a message from you i can basically guarantee its not because i dislike you. im just getting attacked by imps and shit all the time genuinely.

[iwait4youalexg]

Oh!

[doh007]

Thank you all, i needed further explanation - And i do find it might help me!

[infernalis-crypture]

I might start a fight with this but hear me out.

The sentiment of “you need to take responsibility for having X disorder” is often loaded. No; having a disorder is not your fault. You don’t need to apologize for existing, for being traumatized, or for being mentally ill.

But people twist that into meaning you also don’t have to care how you treat others because of it; and that’s where it goes wrong. You don’t need to take responsibility for having a disorder. You do need to take responsibility for how you behave because of it.

Having NPD doesn’t automatically make you abusive. But if your traits are maladaptive, you refuse to try to minimize harm, and you hurt people as a result: then yes, you are part of the problem.

And I say this as someone who was abusive when I was younger due to my traits.

I’m not saying:

“ASPD means you’ll kill someone”

or “NPD means you’re abusive”

But any disorder can lead to harmful behavior if unmanaged. Depression can make people abusive. Anxiety can make people controlling. Trauma can make people manipulative. DID can destabilize relationships.

None of that is a moral failing; but it is something you’re responsible for addressing. Sometimes harm isn’t intentional. But you still need the self-awareness to recognize when the thing hurting you is also hurting others.

I’ve been hospitalized multiple times. I’ve gotten in legal trouble. I’ve been at the ugly end of this spectrum and fought tooth and nail to be where I am now; and I still need help regularly.

So no, disorders aren’t your fault. But how you manage them, how you treat people, and whether you try to minimize harm absolutely is.

That applies to ASPD. NPD. DID. Depression. Anxiety. All of it.

Mental illness explains behavior. It does not excuse unchecked harm. And you cannot blame stigma when you receive real consequences due to your own actions.

[psychotic-tbh]

Stop saying…

“Psychotic/Schizophrenic” when you mean: unpredictable, unrestrained, unreal, etc.

“Bipolar” when you mean: polarized, scattered, fickle, unstable, etc.

“Delusional” when you mean: unrealistic, unreasonable, close-minded, stubborn, etc.

“[insert “R” slur in relation to intellectual disabilities]” when you mean: unreasonable, ridiculous, scatterbrained, immature, etc.

“OCD” when you mean: particular, neat, overbearing, etc.

“Narcissistic” when you mean selfish, abusive, manipulative, etc.

Note: I’m NOT saying that these are synonymous. This is also not an exhaustive list.

[squidish]

okayyyy listen up people 📣📣📣 everyone can stop calling anyone they hate a narcissist now!! we're all done we're moving on to the next new thing: talking kindly about mentally ill people. alright, thanks for your time. pass the message along.

[drinksomefuckingwater]

drink some fucking water

[concerningwolves]

that "I consent" "I consent" "I don't consent! (isn't there someone you forgot to ask?)" meme, but with me, any plan ever, and my chronic health issues

[covid-safer-hotties]

source

[wheelie-sick]

sometimes people experiencing psychosis and/or mania will come up to you on the street and talk in confusing or upsetting ways. your job is to either have a regular human-to-human conversation with that person or politely leave. your job is not to call 911. do not call 911. you might kill that person if you call 911.

[wheelie-sick]

I don't even have the energy to screenshot and respond to your tags- what the actual fuck is wrong with you? "the cops are scared and rightfully so" "mental health calls are the scariest for cops" OH so this isn't about the safety of psychotic & manic people this is about piggy feelings?

and no, actually, this is not USA specific and no, actually, people from other countries should not ignore this post. police violence and sanism weren't invented in the US and they are certainly not unique to here. if you (or anyone) thinks that this bullshit doesn't happen elsewhere then you are not listening.

[ominouszombienexus]

You can really truly respond to pretty much anybody with a standard "customer service script"

Like I can not express to you all how SINCERE I am that you have experienced "crazier" if you've had to deal with an irate customer, and almost exactly the same tactics of being just... friendly... will take you SO far

And the cops do NOT have that same capacity