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love is a flame –a.r.

kind of obsessed with rowdy as a euphemism for queer in cloudward ho. you're rowdy. you're too loud. you cause trouble. you make me uncomfortable. you're not being how i want you to be. you go places and you do things that i don't think are proper. you don't live how i think you should live. and you're so in my face about it. you're one of those..... rowdies. like come ON that's so good.

luulapants

25 ways to be a little more punk in 2025

Cut fast fashion - buy used, learn to mend and/or make your own clothes, buy fewer clothes less often so you can save up for ethically made quality

Cancel subscriptions - relearn how to pirate media, spend $10/month buying a digital album from a small artist instead of on Spotify, stream on free services since the paid ones make you watch ads anyway

Green your community - there's lots of ways to do this, like seedbombing or joining a community garden or organizing neighborhood trash pickups

Be kind - stop to give directions, check on stopped cars, smile at kids, let people cut you in line, offer to get stuff off the high shelf, hold the door, ask people if they're okay

Intervene - learn bystander intervention techniques and be prepared to use them, even if it feels awkward

Get closer to your food - grow it yourself, can and preserve it, buy from a farmstand, learn where it's from, go fishing, make it from scratch, learn a new ingredient

Use opensource software - try LibreOffice, try Reaper, learn Linux, use a free Photoshop clone. The next time an app tries to force you to pay, look to see if there's an opensource alternative

Make less trash - start a compost, be mindful of packaging, find another use for that plastic, make it a challenge for yourself!

Get involved in local politics - show up at meetings for city council, the zoning commission, the park district, school boards; fight the NIMBYs that always show up and force them to focus on the things impacting the most vulnerable folks in your community

DIY > fashion - shake off the obsession with pristine presentation that you've been taught! Cut your own hair, use homemade cosmetics, exchange mani/pedis with friends, make your own jewelry, duct tape those broken headphones!

Ditch Google - Chromium browsers (which is almost all of them) are now bloated spyware, and Google search sucks now, so why not finally make the jump to Firefox and another search like DuckDuckGo? Or put the Wikipedia app on your phone and look things up there?

Forage - learn about local edible plants and how to safely and sustainably harvest them or go find fruit trees and such accessible to the public.

Volunteer - every week tutoring at the library or once a month at the humane society or twice a year serving food at the soup kitchen, you can find something that matches your availability

Help your neighbors - which means you have to meet them first and find out how you can help (including your unhoused neighbors), like elderly or disabled folks that might need help with yardwork or who that escape artist dog belongs to or whether the police have been hassling people sleeping rough

Fix stuff - the next time something breaks (a small appliance, an electronic, a piece of furniture, etc.), see if you can figure out what's wrong with it, if there are tutorials on fixing it, or if you can order a replacement part from the manufacturer instead of trashing the whole thing

Mix up your transit - find out what's walkable, try biking instead of driving, try public transit and complain to the city if it sucks, take a train instead of a plane, start a carpool at work

Engage in the arts - go see a local play, check out an art gallery or a small museum, buy art from the farmer's market

Go to the library - to check out a book or a movie or a CD, to use the computers or the printer, to find out if they have other weird rentals like a seed library or luggage, to use meeting space, to file your taxes, to take a class, to ask question

Listen local - see what's happening at local music venues or other events where local musicians will be performing, stop for buskers, find a favorite artist, and support them

Buy local - it's less convenient than online shopping or going to a big box store that sells everything, but try buying what you can from small local shops in your area

Become unmarketable - there are a lot of ways you can disrupt your online marketing surveillance, including buying less, using decoy emails, deleting or removing permissions from apps that spy on you, checking your privacy settings, not clicking advertising links, and...

Use cash - go to the bank and take out cash instead of using your credit card or e-payment for everything! It's better on small businesses and it's untraceable

Give what you can - as capitalism churns on, normal shmucks have less and less, so think about what you can give (time, money, skills, space, stuff) and how it will make the most impact

Talk about wages - with your coworkers, with your friends, while unionizing! Stop thinking about wages as a measure of your worth and talk about whether or not the bosses are paying fairly for the labor they receive

Think about wealthflow - there are a thousand little mechanisms that corporations and billionaires use to capture wealth from the lower class: fees for transactions, interest, vendor platforms, subscriptions, and more. Start thinking about where your money goes, how and where it's getting captured and removed from our class, and where you have the ability to cut off the flow and pass cash directly to your fellow working class people

queer-as-city-folk

I mostly talk about transit and local politics but seriously do as much of this as you can, it really does help

subatoism

Love love love characters that present themselves as emotionally open social butterflies but the more you see of them the more obvious it is that they’re the most closed off fuckers in the story. Sure, they want to help you with your personal problems and messy emotions, but if you turn that shit back on them, they’ll shut down or deflect every time. Why are you sticking your nose in their business anyway? It’s not like it matters. They’re not a person, they’re just a role being played. They’re the guy who fixes things and saves people. Please ignore the man behind the mask, he’s fine. Everything’s fine.

dogrotpdf

how’s that house that raised you?

aesterea-archived

more on writing muslim characters from a hijabi muslim girl

- hijabis get really excited over pretty scarves - they also like to collect pins and brooches - we get asked a lot of questions and it can be annoying or it can be amusing, just depends on our mood and personality and how the question is phrased - common questions include: - “not even water?” (referring to fasting) - hijabis hear a lot of “do you sleep in that?” (we don’t) and “where is your hair?” (in a bun or a braid, usually) - “is it mooze-slim or mozzlem?” (the answer is neither, it’s muslim, with a soft s and accent on the first syllable) - “ee-slam or iz-lamb?” (it’s iss-laam, accent on the first syllable) - “hee-job?” (heh-jahb, accent on the second syllable)

- “kor-an?” (no. quran. say it like koor-annn, accent on the second syllable) - people tend to mess up our names really badly and you just get a sigh and a resigned nod or an awkward smile, maybe a nickname instead - long hair is easy to hide, short hair is harder to wrap up - hijab isn’t just covering hair, it’s also showing as little skin as possible with the exception of face, hands, and feet, and not wearing tight/sheer clothing - that applies to men too, people just don’t like to mention it ( i wonder why) - henna/mehendi isn’t just for special occasions, you’ll see people wearing it for fun - henna/mehendi isn’t just for muslims, either, it’s not a religious thing - henna/mehendi is not just for women, men also wear it, especially on their weddings - there are big mehendi parties in the couple of nights before eid where people (usually just women and kids) gather and do each other’s mehendi, usually just hands and feet - five daily prayers - most muslim kids can stutter through a couple verses of quran in the original arabic text by the age of seven or eight, it does not matter where they live or where they’re from or what language they speak natively - muslim families tend to have multiple copies of the quran - there are no “versions” of the quran, there has only ever been one. all muslims follow the exact same book - muslims have no concept of taking God’s name in vain, we call on God at every little inconvenience - don’t use islamic phrases if you don’t know what they mean or how to use them. we use them often, inside and outside of religious settings. in islam, it is encouraged to mention God often and we say these things very casually, but we take them very seriously - Allahu Akbar means “God is Greatest” (often said when something shocks or surprises us, or if we’re scared or daunted, or when something amazing happens, whether it be good or bad; it’s like saying “oh my god”) - Subhan Allah means “Glory be to God” (i say subhan Allah at the sky, at babies, at trees, whatever strikes me as pleasant, especially if it’s in nature) - Bismillah means “in the name of God” and it’s just something you say before you start something like eating or doing your homework - In Shaa Allah means “if God wills” (example: you’ll be famous, in shaa Allah) (it’s a reminder that the future is in God’s hands, so be humble and be hopeful)

- Astaghfirullah means “i seek forgiveness from Allah” and it’s like “god forgive me” - Alhamdulillah means “all thanks and praise belong to God” and it’s just a little bit more serious than saying “thank god” (example: i passed my exams, alhamdulillah; i made it home okay, alhamdulillah) - when i say we use them casually, i really mean it - teacher forgot to assign homework? Alhamdulillah - our version of “amen” is “ameen” - muslims greet each other with “assalamu alaikum” which just means “peace be on you” and it’s like saying hi - the proper response is “walaikum assalam” which means “and on you be peace” and it’s like saying “you too”

missandaei

As a Muslim this post is so very important and it makes me so happy that it gives the small facts and details that one might be unaware of or confused about.

aesterea-archived

more on writing muslim characters from a hijabi muslim girl

- hijabis get really excited over pretty scarves - they also like to collect pins and brooches - we get asked a lot of questions and it can be annoying or it can be amusing, just depends on our mood and personality and how the question is phrased - common questions include: - “not even water?” (referring to fasting) - hijabis hear a lot of “do you sleep in that?” (we don’t) and “where is your hair?” (in a bun or a braid, usually) - “is it mooze-slim or mozzlem?” (the answer is neither, it’s muslim, with a soft s and accent on the first syllable) - “ee-slam or iz-lamb?” (it’s iss-laam, accent on the first syllable) - “hee-job?” (heh-jahb, accent on the second syllable)

- “kor-an?” (no. quran. say it like koor-annn, accent on the second syllable) - people tend to mess up our names really badly and you just get a sigh and a resigned nod or an awkward smile, maybe a nickname instead - long hair is easy to hide, short hair is harder to wrap up - hijab isn’t just covering hair, it’s also showing as little skin as possible with the exception of face, hands, and feet, and not wearing tight/sheer clothing - that applies to men too, people just don’t like to mention it ( i wonder why) - henna/mehendi isn’t just for special occasions, you’ll see people wearing it for fun - henna/mehendi isn’t just for muslims, either, it’s not a religious thing - henna/mehendi is not just for women, men also wear it, especially on their weddings - there are big mehendi parties in the couple of nights before eid where people (usually just women and kids) gather and do each other’s mehendi, usually just hands and feet - five daily prayers - most muslim kids can stutter through a couple verses of quran in the original arabic text by the age of seven or eight, it does not matter where they live or where they’re from or what language they speak natively - muslim families tend to have multiple copies of the quran - there are no “versions” of the quran, there has only ever been one. all muslims follow the exact same book - muslims have no concept of taking God’s name in vain, we call on God at every little inconvenience - don’t use islamic phrases if you don’t know what they mean or how to use them. we use them often, inside and outside of religious settings. in islam, it is encouraged to mention God often and we say these things very casually, but we take them very seriously - Allahu Akbar means “God is Greatest” (often said when something shocks or surprises us, or if we’re scared or daunted, or when something amazing happens, whether it be good or bad; it’s like saying “oh my god”) - Subhan Allah means “Glory be to God” (i say subhan Allah at the sky, at babies, at trees, whatever strikes me as pleasant, especially if it’s in nature) - Bismillah means “in the name of God” and it’s just something you say before you start something like eating or doing your homework - In Shaa Allah means “if God wills” (example: you’ll be famous, in shaa Allah) (it’s a reminder that the future is in God’s hands, so be humble and be hopeful)

- Astaghfirullah means “i seek forgiveness from Allah” and it’s like “god forgive me” - Alhamdulillah means “all thanks and praise belong to God” and it’s just a little bit more serious than saying “thank god” (example: i passed my exams, alhamdulillah; i made it home okay, alhamdulillah) - when i say we use them casually, i really mean it - teacher forgot to assign homework? Alhamdulillah - our version of “amen” is “ameen” - muslims greet each other with “assalamu alaikum” which just means “peace be on you” and it’s like saying hi - the proper response is “walaikum assalam” which means “and on you be peace” and it’s like saying “you too”

missandaei

As a Muslim this post is so very important and it makes me so happy that it gives the small facts and details that one might be unaware of or confused about.

idk-my-aesthetic

Early season 1 when Aang is talking to Roku instead of being chained up sokka katara and zuko are thrown into a cell together

Zuko: oh spirits this is bad. Fuck fuck fuck my father’s going to kill me

Sokka: wtf??? How is this bad for you?? Ur the prince?? Like we’re w/ the avatar obvi this is bad for us but why the fuck are you even in the cell??

Zuko: I’m banished, idiot. By going into fire nation waters I’ve committed treason and greatly disrespected my father! He’ll be furious with me!!

Katara: ur his son I’m sure it won’t be that bad

Zuko: the last time I disrespected him he burned half my face off

Katara and Sokka: *horrified silence*

Sokka: oh my fucking spirits that’s awful

Zuko: what? No it’s not. It was my fault

Sokka:

Katara: *repeatedly under her breath* wtf wtf wtf wtf-

Sokka:

Sokka: zuko I cannot stress enough how much that was not your fault

Zuko: yes it was I spoke out of turn and disrespected him in front of his whole war council. He had every right to punish me how he saw fit, including banishing me

Sokka: he banished and burned half your face off just because you talked out of turn??!?????

Zuko: I mean I insulted one of his generals but the man was planning on sacrificing an untrained unit for no reason! It would have been a massacre! Quit judging me!!

Sokka: tui and la what the fuck

Katara: ok. zuko we’re adopting you now

Zuko: what?? No you’re not???

Cue zuko going along with them when aang busts them out bc he has no other options, having to stay with them cus they’re lowkey kidnapping him/he has no other option, and our boi slowly joining them/realizing what happened was fucked up. Also katara introducing him to their dad as “sokkas boyfreind slash your new son and my new brother”

jezebelgoldstone

oh oh oh oh oh oh my gods I'm not sure I've ever wanted a fic so badly in my life oh my gods And Zuko being all confused like you were not there? I had not even told you the entire story before you formed an opinion? How tf can you say it wasn't my fault? Katara: *deep breathing* Sokka: Okay so. You are like. MAYBE one or two years older than me. You are barely an adult, if that. Your father had no right - Zuko: What does my age have to do with it? I was an unruly child! How else was I going to learn? Katara: Zuko I'm going to ask you this once, and then I'm going to need you both to pray that I don't somehow have some Waterbender version of the Avatar state: your scar looks like it's been healed a while. How long ago did this happen? Zuko: A bit over two years ago? Why? *Five minutes later* Aang: Wow, guys! What happened? I couldn't find you but then I could hear you both yelling from the other side of the island!

idk-my-aesthetic

Djdhdjjchchd I love this addition

Also, 2 days later while zuko is still lowkey being kiddnapped Aang is in the woods foraging a little bit away from camp and just hears this being yelled:

What do you mean you didn’t fight back?!??!?

You were thirteen????

You were kneeling????

He said WHAT!?!????!

Aang is. Very concerned.

It’s quiet for ten minutes before sokka yells:

“Holy shit no one knew the avatar was gonna come back when he banished you!!!”

Zuko haz no idea how to deal with ppl being upset on his behalf

delta-fox-deactivated20230308

Aang and up finding out what they were talking about. And he gets so pissed he threatens to go straight to the fire lord, avatar state activated, and fight him right then and there for doing that to a child

They stop him of course

But Aang still wants to do it

tikki-tok

Aang: All life is sacred

Zuko: Yeah my Dad scarred me when I was 13 I deserved it though

Aang: . . .

Aang, arrows glowing: Most lives are sacred

shadowqueendiangelo

PLS I am BEGGING someone write this fanfic (or a bit of it) and TAG ME

daisydandy

Lunar Witch 🌙

e-e-e-s-the-avatar

The Blue Spirit putting out firebending with a bucket of water is the absolute funniest thing ever done in avatar combat. It just is.

thequantumqueer

katara: *kicks zuko’s ass without even blinking* zuko:

finding-flight

I literally just watched this episode, and I'm sorry, but there's one thing funnier:

Zuko couldn't speak during this whole fight/escape in case someone recognized his voice. Can you imagine the frustration he must have felt having to go through an entire fight without yelling? Zuko???

sweetiepie08

Especially while dealing with Aang’s shenanigans?!?!?!

One of my favorite parts of rewatching the episode is imagining everything that must have been going through Zuko’s head during that escape.

lunangels-moved

Aang: Wait! My friends need to suck on those frogs!

Zuko, trying not yell out of anger and confusion:

art-and-writing-knox-me-down

It gets funnier when you think that he could absolutely, no problem go through a battle without yelling once, as seen here and yet chooses to be a dramatic gay and holler at the top of his lungs at every opportunity.

e-e-e-s-the-avatar

That says a lot about how he firebends vs how he fights with the dao blades.

He actually can't, at this point, fight without yelling if he's using firebending. In The Firebending Masters, he says he's been relying on anger and rage to fuel his bending, so yeah, in every firebending fight, he's drawing on rage and hyping that up by yelling. Someone has pointed out that after he finds the original source of firebending, he stops yelling all the time - I haven't checked that personally but it does seem accurate.

But he doesn't need to draw on fury to firebend hen he's the Blue Spirit. He can fight in total silence when he's working with a weapon he's more in touch with, when he doesn't need to draw on hate or anger to fuel it.

fesenmoon

you left the village boasting of how you’d slay the forest witch, but like every other fool before you, you’ve come back sworn to her service.

citruslucy

read crier’s war by nina varela for some good f/f enemies to lovers content!! 🗡️🔥

taylor-swift-deactivated2015032

prismatic-bell

Can we just stop and talk about this for a minute?

Thresh doesn’t make an alliance. Thresh doesn’t waste time liking her. Thresh knows that either he must kill her or she must kill him for one of them to win.

But this is the only way he can repay her for protecting Rue when he couldn’t. It’s the only way he can repay her for honoring Rue when he couldn’t. He honors her by sparing her friend, the girl who would have died for her.

The revolution really doesn’t start with Katniss.

It starts with Rue.

yourloversstaymyage

SOMEBODY FINALLY SAID IT

silenthill

This is exactly the point I’ve been trying to make for years. Okay, so the revolution gets it’s kindling with Katniss. She volunteers, well that’s new, she rebels in the display of talents by shooting the apple. This triggers her perfect score, okay. These aren’t really “Revolutionary” though.

It’s not even revolutionary when Peeta professes his love, because, let’s face it, the rules of the game haven’t changed. They’re still just two kids who would have to KILL each other to win. Without a doubt, it would bring some interest to the games, so the Capitol makes propaganda about it. The “Star Crossed Lovers” in a game of life and death.

But what changes the game is Rue. Right away from her introduction in the books we know Rue is going to be somewhat of a big deal. She was compared to the most important character to Katniss, Prim, so that’s a huge indicator. She’s small, young, she’s what Prim would have been.

So Katniss instantly feels a subconscious pull toward her.

When they meet in the trees, Katniss could have killed Rue easily, and Rue probably could have pulled a sneak attack or alerted the Careers of Katniss’s presence. Instead, Rue points out the Tracker Jacker nest.

Then it escalates, Rue and Katniss become an odd team, they’re an alliance, which is never new in the Hunger Games, as forming teams and then betraying them at the end seems to be a common, but there’s is different. It’s close, it’s sisterly, protective.

And then Rue get’s impaled. Katniss kills her first tribute with ease after that. Comparing it to hunting game. Katniss holds Rue, she cries, and then she sings. She sings for Rue a song of promised safety and warmth, something completely absent in the arena.

And this is where the metaphorical canon fires. Katniss could have left Rue, the hovercraft would have been along to pick her up, but she can’t. She’s morally obligated to love this girl as much as possible. And this is where the revolution starts.

She honors the dead. She honors a dead tribute from a district she’d never seen, a person she’d known for only a short period of time. But she throws away Hunger Games norms. She rejects them completely.

In the Hunger Games you’re supposed to kill mercilessly and leave the victims for the plain box they’re shipped home in.

Katniss gives Rue a funeral in the Games, she decorates the body, she makes it look like Rue is sleeping. Like no harm had come. Katniss just ignited the coals that Rue had placed.

Rue’s District sends a parachute. Homemade bread.

Then Thresh kills Clove and distracts Cato by taking his bag.

The fire is going now, and the actions in Catching Fire are even more obvious.

The Speech for Rue. Peeta’s painting. Everything eludes back to this one little girl who became Katniss’s family.

So the revolution never started with Katniss, she was just the tinder for Rue’s ignition.

Rue was the real Mockingjay.

luke-biwalker

Also, who’s four note whistle is constantly attached to the trailers?

Rue’s whistle.

Rue is omnipresent in the books and movies, and I absolutely love it.

sourcedumal

The rebellion was started because the innocence of a black girl was defiled.

That is a powerful statement that a lot of people gloss over for this book

pancat-n-sausage

ARE YA READY KIDS? it’s blue team aftereffects time!

the first time diana grew moss, akko immediately panicked and thought it was greenman’s disease. she didn’t want her friend to decay! but a very long and arduous examination revealed that the condition was not greenman’s at all – diana’s body was merely reacting to the lack of sleep caused by her overachieving nature. diana never wants to be seen sprouting, now, and sucy and amanda never let her live it down. sucy even purposefully angers her so she can harvest her annoyance-fueled leaves and mushrooms.

aftereffects can indeed be managed, and diana wouldn’t leave her room until she mastered this. (”A witch who cannot control her own magic is no witch at all,” she once retorted.)

most people assume that hannah and barbara have learned to control their aftereffects like diana. but the truth is that most of their aftereffects go unnoticed because they’re rarely visible. the two have long gotten used to sharing thoughts, emotions, and experiences, and even welcome it at this point. hannah can recite night fall’s plot in its entirety thanks to how often she accidentally tunes in to barbara and lotte’s book club meetings.

storybookprincess

suddenly remembered this poem as i was making breakfast this morning & frantically googled “poem remembered to buy eggs?????????” & somehow managed to find it & it utterly knocked the wind out of me just as much as when i first read it