Part of the Problem

edge (he/they) | 27 | queer + nd | im the dirty proshipping/darkshipping freak in ur dni

[invisibleoctopus]

AMAZING SHIT IN MY TOMODACHI LIFE LTD GAME TODAY

me when john egbert (not doing post canon stuff in there, i also have roxy as a girl) got a crush on sollux and then the same gaming session sollux's crush on terezi changed into a crush on EQUIUS like equisol was my otp back in the day. rip solrezi i kinda only ship them platonically anyway. also aradia has a crush on sollux just wanted to throw that out there

and then equius and sollux started talking about this fucking canned piss item i made and im like. ok this game has to know about my old fics somehow what is THIS

[invisibleoctopus]

how far removed does beyond canon need to be from andrew hussie in order for reading it to be morally justifiable and has beyond canon reached that point. asking for a friend

[invisibleoctopus]

still asking

[invisibleoctopus]

i had stopped asking which was a FUCKING MISTAKE BECAUSE GIO JUST POSTED ANOTHER FUCKING THING AND NOW IM CONFLICTED AGAIN ESP SINCE I WENT AHEAD AND READ THE MOST RECENT UPD8 FOR BEYOND CANON AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I HATE MYSELF I HATE MYSELF I HATE MYSELF I HATE MYSELF I HATE MYSELF I HATE MYSELF

[invisibleoctopus]

can moral ocd make you a worse person

is my moral ocd making me a worse person

can moral ocd make me a WORSE person can it make me a worse PERSON

[ftmtftm]

I'd like to ask for some help from any intersex followers I have (or any intersex folks who come across this post!)

I've been struggling a lot to find proper terminology for intersex issues in my research because Google is all gunked up and Tumblr is just as hard to parse through.

So, if anyone could point me in the direction of any good literature by intersex authors or any good online resources (especially that define terminology) that would be incredibly helpful!! I'm still doing work myself but any sort of direction would be wonderful!

(tl;dr I want to be a better ally to intersex folks in trans feminist conversations about sex/gender and approach my own theory with intersex experiences in mind better! So, any and all resources would be appreciated!)

[ipso-faculty]

Glossaries and terminology 📋️

Intersex terminology masterpost by @intersexfairy

Media and style guide by IHRA

Intersex variations glossary by InterACT

Other Basic Things To Know 📣 (tumblr posts)

Some common misconceptions addressed by @skelejon

"Please stop acting like being intersex is just 'cool quirky genitals'" by @identitty-dickruption

"People need to understand that some intersex people find out late" by @none-gender-left-man

The Social Model of Intersex by me

"Unfortunately, most intersex people are not told outright that they are intersex" by @genderpunks

Tumblr intersex polls without votes from non-intersex people by @queercripintersex

Intersex PSAs for trans allies 🏳️‍⚧️ (tumblr posts)

PSAs for perisex trans people by @moonshinedyke

Please remember AFAB/AMAB doesn't mean "typical anatomy" by @asocial-and-antisocial

"God I wish perisex trans people would stop tokenizing and fetishizing intersex people and our bodies" by @chaos-in-one

How to talk about transition goals without being intersexist by @identitty-dickruption

Examples of casual intersexism from trans people by @hiiragi7

Exercise: Exposing intersexism in yourself by @hiiragi7

"having issues with the term transintersex is not terf rhetoric" by @hiiragi7

"In the United States, the people that are actually getting targeted with genital mutilation and nonconsensual hormones are intersex kids, not trans kids" by @trans-axolotl

"I’m begging people at this point to realize that hate towards intersex people isn’t just. Fucking misdirected transphobia" by @theforesteldritch

Make "space for ipsogender, intergender, and/or ultergender folks" by @queercripintersex

"When there's an actual discussion happening about biological sex and how it's actually super complicated, it hurts to get excluded [by trans people]" by @queercripintersex

In polls about gender, give options for intersex-specific genders rather than "intersex" by me, replying to @asocial-and-antisocial

"Those are intersex animals, not trans or nonbinary" by @heckacentipede with a reply by me

On supporting intersex people who want to go on HRT by @thehmn

"Perisex trans people have been the front of people being intersexist to me" by @oy-gayvalt

[edited to add links in purple]

"intersex trans people who can’t go on HRT for any reason are no less trans" by @identitty-dickruption

An experience of being objectified by trans people by @genderpunks

Academic Literature 🎓️

Holmes, M. (Ed.). (2016). Critical intersex. Routledge.

Horlacher, S. (2016). Transgender and intersex: Theoretical, practical, and artistic perspectives (pp. 1-27). Palgrave Macmillan US.

Orr, C. E. (2022). Cripping Intersex. UBC Press.

Davis, G. (2015). Contesting intersex: The dubious diagnosis (Vol. 10). NYU Press.

Reis, E. (2021). Bodies in doubt: An American history of intersex. JHU Press.

Lock Swarr, A. (2023). Envisioning African Intersex: Challenging Colonial and Racist Legacies in South African Medicine (p. 245). Duke University Press.

If you don't have access to a university library, copies of those and other intersex books can be accessed via the @intersexbookclub discord!

Non-academic literature 🧙‍♀️

Intersex #OwnVoices books by Bogi Takács

[invisibleoctopus]

my mom and the rest of my family being like "why are you so irritable all the time" maybe it has to do with the fact that im a trans person who came out almost a decade ago and im still pre-everything except social transition

[invisibleoctopus]

all this time i was just. assuming it wasnt covered? based on all the fearmongering about trans people in politics and about how bad things are here (florida). but the day after i posted this i had therapy (yes im in therapy again) and my therapist told me to call and i finally called and the guy on the phone said my primary care could prescribe it so i already had an appointment soon so i'll ask then

[invisibleoctopus]

I KEEP ACCIDENTALLY PRESSING REBLOG NOW INSTEAD OF REBLOG but anyway an update on this

asked my primary care doctor about this and she referred me to... the gynecologist?? i mean i think thats mostly because ive been on and off spotting for like 2 months and i gotta get that checked out but still ive never heard of a trans guy getting sent to the gynecologist for hrt and my doctor specifically said it was also for that so. idk if she knows what shes doing

[invisibleoctopus]

a little life update: as expected the gynecologist couldnt prescribe me T but at least i did get told where i actually have to go, as if i didnt already know i had to go to an endo. not that im all that surprised my primary care doctor didnt know where to send me but thats what its like being trans

also im still scared the insurance guy on the phone that one time was wrong/misinformed and the hormone therapy is only covered for like. cis men with low T. i would expect nothing else from florida.

health tmi under the cut: gynecology edition

also not sure whats going on with the spotting but it turns out i have a thickened lining in my uterus that i have to get a biopsy of cuz its cystic so that wont be fun (i chose to go under anesthesia for this)

googled it the other night and its called endometrial hyperplasia and apparently its caused by *googles again* a lack of progesterone compared to estrogen. and yes they list obesity as a risk factor cuz apparently thats a risk factor for fucking everything

[invisibleoctopus]

at my dad's place (for my half-sister's high school graduation) and i cant sleep for shit because theres little lights on, my other sister is snoring right next to me, and worst of all the air freshener keeps going off

[invisibleoctopus]

deleted my reblog of the jeff bezos post with the "worst person u know made a great point" image because idk if it was ACTUALLY a great point or just something that sounds good but actually isnt a good idea for xyz reasons i didnt think of

[invisibleoctopus]

you know this country's fucked when jeff fucking bezos of all people said the bottom half of americans shouldnt pay federal income tax (source)

[invisibleoctopus]

the Disease: trust me bro THIS TIME punishing yourself will make you a better person

[so1987-deactivated20230102]

who’s gonna tell tumblr that executive dysfunction is more than Not Doing Things?

[so1987-deactivated20230102]

okay

these are the executive functions. impairment of these functions is executive dysfunction

[dailypattondoodles]

Oh.

OH

[lurlur]

Girl, help. None of my executives are functioning

[invisibleoctopus]

hm. shouldnt have gone on tumblr today. oh well now i know for next time i think about opening this app

[fireleaptfromhousetohouse]

[deep-state-partisan]

[apolladay]

Is there a song you like that has your name in the title? (e.g. Jolene, Arabella, Agnes, If You Seek Amy, etc)

yes, and i like it bc of this

yes, but i like it bc I just like it

yes but i don't like it

no but my name is in the lyrics and i like it bc of this

no but my name is in the lyrics but I like it bc I just like it

no but my name is in the lyrics but i don't like it

no but i know an artist with my name and I like their music bc of this

no but i know an artist with my name and i like their music bc i just like it

no but i know an artist with my name but i don't like their music

i don't know a song or artist with my name

some other nuance?

Is there a song you like that has your name in the title? (e.g. Jolene, Arabella, Agnes, If You Seek Amy, etc)

yes, and i like it bc of this

yes, but i like it bc I just like it

yes but i don't like it

no but my name is in the lyrics and i like it bc of this

no but my name is in the lyrics but I like it bc I just like it

no but my name is in the lyrics but i don't like it

no but i know an artist with my name and I like their music bc of this

no but i know an artist with my name and i like their music bc i just like it

no but i know an artist with my name but i don't like their music

i don't know a song or artist with my name

some other nuance?

Voting ended onMay 23

[sleepy-seal]

im being so serious when i say this but we need to bring back the "my genitals are none of your business" "if gender is whats in my pants then my gender is some loose change" mentality from the late 2010's because too many people on here are openly flirting with exclusionary people who spout enbyphobic rhetoric. stop caring about what people's agabs are you assholes. they literally mean nothing. they're not a zodiac sign or indicative of people's character. you are not wholly pure or wholly evil because of your assigned sex. you're just a person.

[ash-and-art]

"what genitals do you have?" Is sexual harassment regardless if its from a security guard or a chronically online furry

[spacecat-nova]

[self-loving-vampire]

Problem #1 regarding child abuse is that a lot of people seem to struggle to imagine normal, respectable-looking parents and other authority figures ever doing it despite the statistics so instead they do the stranger danger panic and completely overlook some of the greatest threats.

Problem #2 is that even when people understand, even if in an abstract way, that parents can be abusive they just... don't seem to actually register that as something that can apply to real life. It's just hypothetical to them and doesn't actually guide their ideas of how to prevent child abuse.

Problem #3 is that even after overcoming the above biases a lot of people have a very narrow image of what abusive parenting is where they imagine like... people doing violent things basically out of sadism and without provocation. They don't seem to think it's "real" abuse if the victim did something that "justifies" punitive violence, like disobeying the parents.

In fact, most people think parents have a right to do a whole lot of awful things to their children beyond just hitting them, like violating their privacy, controlling their access to information, and deciding what/when/if they eat, among other things.

[self-loving-vampire]

Only the countries in red have banned child corporal punishment.

You might notice that for starters not a single one of the top 5 most populous countries in the world (representing 45% of the world population just by themselves) has a ban.

Globally speaking, most of the children in the world live in places where it is legal to hit them (up to 86% are not protected by law as of last year, according to UNICEF) and even where they have legal protections there is the matter of social acceptance and enforcement.

[self-loving-vampire]

We can't even get people to stop making "cute" memes about how "la chancla" and "el cincho" ostensibly fix children.

We are not even close to escaping this hole.

[evilsoup]

i remember there being a couple of posts on here that got fairly popular presenting not hitting your kids as like a "white people thing (derogatory)". Literally woke apologia for hitting kids.

[enjolrasofficial]

as someone living in a country where it is in fact forbidden to physically punish your children the first thing my mum taught me was that it is not only important that the parents know it is illegal but also that the CHILDREN know. as a small child or even as an older child who gets punished physically the chances that you actually know that what's happening isn't just Wrong but also Officially Illegal are slim to none. so i've been witness to her going up to parents who were threatening or hitting their children more than once. every time she told them very politely "hi sorry, i hope you're aware that it is illegal to hit your children. should i call the police or will you stop doing that on your own?" and the parents would look super pissed off but the kids would look very suddenly very interested. especially older sisters always seem to take the information that it is in fact okay to call the police if being hit by their parents very seriously. and one time my mum did call the cops. on our neighbour. never saw that guy again but his son to this day comes over to say hello every time he's in town. so be kind to your children. protect other people's children and help them protect themselves too.

[the-real-seebs]

protecting children from violence: much more radical than it really ought to be at this point

[beatricemeganblood]

its devastating when someone, in good faith, draw a trans woman who looks like me: tall, scruffy facial hair, wide shoulders, far apart boobs, big nose and then the trans community dog piles them in the comments saying its evil to depict such a negative stereotype like that.

like actually fuck off fuck off fuck off FUCK OFF FUCK OFF!!!!! and then theyll fight me when i reply with my pov! like christ lets all just chill the math out please for the christ of love

[beatricemeganblood]

im sick of this shit.

pull urself together and learn how to talk about women without getting distracted by how much u want to fuck them. grow up or get the fuck out, creep.