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My playlist to get me to actually live my life:

(Be an active participant goddammit)

Could have been me -The Struts

I'm Born to Run - American Authors

I Lived - OneRepublic

Sunburnt Shoulders - Bea and her Business

The Heights - Thomston

Unwritten - Natasha Bedingfield

More - Moana Soundtrack

Lucky - Lucky Twice

Eyes Shut - Years & Years

Rooftop - Nico Santos

Stronger than ever - Raleigh Ritchie

Avancer - RIDSA

Bucketlist - Enno Bunger

Born to be Alive - Bea and her Business

It's Time - Imagine Dragons

Take a Walk - Passion Pit

Another Day in Paradise - Quinn XXII

King of the World - Playyard

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succubusboyfriend

practicing self care less out of self love and more for the sheer logical reasoning of it’d be kinda stupid of me to expect myself to be able to function without proper maintenance

succubusboyfriend

“oh i don’t deserve rest and relaxation, i haven’t done enough, i haven’t earned it” and my car’s breaks don’t deserve break fluid because they aren’t breaking well enough to earn it. that’s what you sound like!!!!!

kiefbowl

I saw on insta this morning a reel of a woman who's been hosting a dinner party for friends for the past two years show snap shots of the parties each month for the last year. and I'm interested in that in general, I'd like to start hosting more. so I go into the comments and there are just some rank ass ppl saying things like "oh so you're rich rich" and "some of us don't have money." Is it fun living so miserably?

kiefbowl

maybe this is abstract but I think this is fallout from phone addiction fr. it's easy to say "well I'm burnt out at the end of the day" about scrolling on your phone rather than doing hobbies if you're so addicted you'd be doing it anyway. and it will suck up time. you will lose skills. and I'm not saying this on a high horse, we're all struggling with it right now including me. But if you're not deliberately working on distancing yourself from phone addiction, you will spend your life watching other people have lives and think that the only barrier is your own unavoidable situation in life. girl I think it's you actually. you can make some sandwiches and ask some friends over.

kiefbowl

this as well

petewentzisblack1312

the reason men are getting more conservative is very simply that as a class, as a socioeconomic group, their power is being threatened by womens civil rights. its the same reason for the broad surge in right wing politics. its called a backlash and its also why most civil war monuments are from the era of the black civil rights movement and not actually from the civil war.

recherchen-und-archiv

Man kann ja über die deutsche Literatur sagen was man will aber Märchen haben schon sehr damit gekocht, dass der standard Abschlussatz "Und wenn sie nicht gestorben sind, dann leben sie noch heute." geworden ist. Großartige Anreihung von Worten. Ja, I guess wenn sie nicht gestorben sind, dann leben sie noch heute. Kann man nichts gegen sagen. Waren sie glücklich bis ans Ende ihrer Tage? Wer weiß! Aber solange sie nicht gestorben sind dann leben sie noch. Logischer Rückschluss oder so.

abbiistabbii

The Germans really cooked making "Hobbyless behaviour" an insult. It is both devastating, applicable to a wide range of people and behaviours, and doesn't resort to swearing.

Man ranting on the internet about the Superbowl halftime show or complaining that something is "woke"? Hobbyless Behaviour. Girls mocking another girl for not looking right? Hobbyless Behaviour. Mindless vandalism? Hobbyless Behaviour.

It is more powerful than "get a life" or the English "You're Sad" because it gets to the central point of the matter, and that is wonderful. Danke, Deutsch.

girlbr0thers

Faux leather was the worst thing ever created

girlbr0thers

Lets take a material that can last decades with the right treatment and care and fucking replicate it with the most dogshit ugly flimsiest animal extinction microplastics smells bad unsexual rips in four days garbage disgusting saran wrap we can think of. Ostensibly for vegans.

fucktoyfelix

Lines of thought that seem Normal but are actually rooted in extreme puritanism:

-Seeing the nude human body is inherently traumatic -Sex scenes in art are pointless -Wearing kink-related clothing in public is the similar to performing a sex scene in front of unwilling participants -Depicting female characters expressing sexuality is always degrading -People's sexual fantasies are always an endorsement of the behavior they want to see in real life -Sex work is more traumatic and coercive than other types of work The goal is to treat sex as just another thing people do. That is a much healthier attitude than hiding it! It's not uniquely traumatic, it's not weird to talk about it or include it in society.

crplpunkklavier

we bought a shirt at a thrift store that says "best mom in louisiana" for some reason (as a reminder we are in midwest germany) and now my spouse keeps walking around the house wearing it and saying shit like "WHO STANDS BEFORE THE GREATEST MOM OF LOUISIANA?"

parabins

tumblr isn’t considered a social media because everyone on here is just talking to themselves

parabins

yeah i agree

byjove

I don’t buy store bought cards, I always make cards. Which is far more expensive. And I am bad at art. And I am at an age where it is not endearing to be bad at art. My loved ones are getting not-so-great collage cards from their 25 year old son/nephew/grandson/cousin.

bethanydelleman

The real problem with both "Persuasion" 2022 and Mansfield Park 1999 is that they didn't just change Anne Elliot and Fanny Price, they turned the main characters into people to whom the story could not happen. I do not believe that "Anne" 2022 would have been persuaded to give up Wentworth by her family. She's just not the kind of woman who would be. There was no reason for her and Wentworth to not get back together almost the moment they saw each other, because her personality was so different that them staying apart was illogical.

Jane Austen, whose personality was bestowed on "Fanny" 1999, would probably not have survived at Mansfield. She'd have been sent packing to Portsmouth years ago. She would have gotten in a fight with Mrs. Norris. Fanny Price's personality is just as vital to the story as her being pushed down by abuse. A different personality would make her into Jane Eyre and Jane Eyre famously did not get to stay with her wealthy relations long term.

So often, the events of the story are very tightly tied to the personality of the characters, which is why alterations to the character ruin the story. P&P 2005 gets away with making Darcy shy and Elizabeth more angry because that story can still be achieved with those traits. It's less interesting than canon Darcy's arrogance and snobbery, but it works. A snarky Fanny Price makes the story fall apart. Anne Elliot despising her family makes her story illogical.

You cannot just take a completely different person, throw them into a story and expect it to happen in the exact same way. It wouldn't.

mothermara

remember to bury the dead with a phone, everyone. these days the ferry terminal at the river styx wants you to download a fucking app

recoveredcombatsister

its a real shame we cant talk about gendered socialization as the violence that it is without some fuckass rocking up like "and thats why trans women arent women!"

recoveredcombatsister

like children gendered as girls are fed less and given less opportunities to play and make messes, and children gendered as boys are offered less help and given less emotional support, and this is hurting them! but no actually we need to stop trannies from using the womens washroom

toloveviceforitself

The thing missing from the transphobic analysis is that children gendered as one but perceived to conform more to the other (or to "fail" at their gendered socialization) tend to get a sampler-pack of the worst of both, plus a bunch of outright abuse on top.