[ostolero]

[memes-hoarder]

[kurtwagnermorelikekurtwagnerd]

sometimes trans reddit is good

[byjove]

Republicans will be like “censorship sucks why can’t I say every slur in the English language” and then say “let’s remove every book referencing racism and being gay from every public library”

[willgrahamscock]

homophobes are so weird why are you thinking about gay people while proposing?

[depsidase]

another option:

turning it into a windows 95 logo is also acceptable.

[wizardshark]

hi yeah i know ive been on this medication for 8 years but i need-- yeah. yeah 3 more months please. I'll call you in 3 months to beg for 3 more months, thanks. Bye. Love you.

[acecroft]

Ready or Not (2019) dir. Matt Bettinelli-Olpin and Tyler Gillett

[keepcalmandcarriefischer]

Okay so you guys seem to have a name for just about anything and everything so I have a question. There is a specific type of guy that I have noticed existing, and I feel like there should be a term for guys like this, but I'm not sure what it is. I will describe him and you tell me if you know a guy like this and/or what he is called:

He dresses nice. Nothing over the top or flashy, but nice. His outfits work. Nothing is ever wrinkled or stained. Not the most expensive things but nothing from Goodwill either.

He has a girlfriend, but you never see her.

Gay men don't care one way or another about this guy.

Straight women find him nice, but aren't that attracted to him.

Bisexuals of every persuasion want this man to fuck them into next week.

He does not ever want to fuck the bisexuals regardless of their gender.

[keepcalmandcarriefischer]

There was once a video presenter for a YouTube channel I watched back in the day. He was clean and fit and once in an interview he talked about the surprising amount of fanmail he got from bisexual men that he had to let down because he is a straight man in a loving relationship with his (conveniently off camera) girlfriend.

The other is a co-worker of mine that I had a crush on but did not pursue due to married reasons. I attempted to play wingman for my bisexual female friend, but she got shut down when we discovered that he has a girlfriend that we have some evidence for but none of us have actually met

[keepcalmandcarriefischer]

Bi-nip? Hmmmmmm.... Bi-Nip....

I like it. I'll put it to a vote

Shall we henceforth call this category of man "Bi-Nip" ?

Yes

No

Abstain

Voting ended onJul 19, 2024

[keepcalmandcarriefischer]

By the way, I accidentally only set the poll for 24 hours, so please reblog until the LGBTQ+ Council see's it and weighs in

[thelostswede]

[blueartistic813]

TONIGHT

[lakeffectqueer-deactivated20240]

TONIGHT

[scretladyspider]

Tonight!!!

[mika-meowz]

TONIGHT!

[fandom]

TONIGHT!

[luxion912]

TONIGHT

[ruffboi-mags]

Tonight!!! Tonight!!! Tonight!!!

[anxietyproblem]

[mysillycomics]

[mysillycomics]

[unsolids-your-snake]

I see tons of radfem commentary on how kinky sex is degrading to women and it's always about the female submitting to a male.

I'm really curious about what radfems think about females domming (assuming a submissive male partner) and what they think about submissive lesbians, because I never see commentary on that.

The most common thing I see said is that submissive women are traumatizing themselves, fetishizing violence, conditioning themselves to accept violence, teaching other women and girls that it's okay for a male to direct violence at a female, conditioning males to get off to violence, etc. But as a female switch with a male partner, that's never been my experience ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

But if it's true of submissive women with a dominant man, idk why it wouldn't be true of the reverse, or with lesbians. At this point I'm genuinely curious what the thought is on it

[sickofthis666]

Well Id say its different because:

- In case of a femdom with a male sub, the femdom tends to still be wearing sexy lingerie/bondage gear, something appealling to men usually. Also a femdom will never have as much physical power over a male sub than a male dom over a femsub. The unbalance of strengths is not negligeable.

- in the case of lesbians, since they're both women, the sub can defend herself more easily if things go wrong.

[unsolids-your-snake]

I'm not awake enough for this but- what lol

I didn't set out to just go ham arguing bc I really DO want to know what the thought is. But there are such bad misconceptions here that I can't let it sit.

Below a cut for length and subject matter

1. You may be thinking of like professional dominatrixes who wear costumes as part of their jobs. Otherwise, in people's relationships, costumes or lingerie can be worn for fun, yes, and are most typically chosen to be attractive to the partner because you are both trying to get off. For doms, wearing something fancy can enhance the power exchange. Personally, I'm usually either in what I wear in the house - a floppy T-shirt and my husband's boxers, or nothing, because that gets the job done 🤣👌

2. The power exchange is based on choice, not on a contest of strength, and is enforced by the sub's choice to behave as directed. This includes when force or contests of strength are part of the scene, as their use must be negotiated before beginning and the sub may stop the scene at any time.

3. As far as lesbians being safer, look up the DV rates among lesbians and laugh with me. They very much demonstrate that you don't need to be strong enough to break someone's spine with your bare hands in order to harm them. I could hurt my much stronger husband just by dint of being youngish and able-bodied. There are entire martial arts forms predicated upon incapacitating larger opponents with lesser strength. It's very important that I mind his safety even though I am weaker- it doesn't matter that he can defend himself, that doesn't excuse a lack of care and doesn't make it less horrible to cause harm. Frankly this should be true for everyone regardless of sex, kinkiness, or strength.

Overall if something "goes wrong" you're supposed to defend yourself with a safeword and your partner is supposed to stop and move to aftercare. If your partner is straight up assaulting you midscene, you may be physically restrained or affected by an endorphin rush or exertion and less able to move, etc and not adequately able to defend yourself if you were stronger or of equal strength. The power exchange is very, very real because of these things. So trust and respect are absolutely fucking foundational before anything begins, frankly exactly like it should be for vanilla sex, which also typically involves a strength difference, as most folks are straight.

Overall kink works off of the same principles that vanilla sex should work off of ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[up-north-values]

[unsolids-your-snake]

I can't emphasize enough that making decisions on what's safe or appropriate based on the idea that the situation will devolve into a life or death struggle is not only apeshit insane serial killer logic-

but it ALSO relies on the destruction of the idea that civilization is founded on, that a human being is a thinking animal and must choose to limit their strength and cause no harm unless necessary. And that, given that that is the case, the greatest risk in a situation like this is not that someone will be assaulted or murdered by a malicious actor.

The greatest risk is very much that someone will be careless, selfish, or disrespectful and will cause harm to their partner without really meaning to, which can destroy a relationship and cause psychological damage even though the harm itself was small. That's because trust and respect are so necessary for these things that even a relatively small violation of them, and a relatively small harm caused, is a very serious problem.

Yes, this is true for vanilla folks too. It's true for everyone. It's true anywhere there is trust. It's true in all of civilization, as we must all trust each other to limit our actions and avoid harm.

This type of logic is inhuman.

[diogenesofsin]

I just reflexively laugh at "a femdom will never have as much physical power over a male sub than a male dom over a femsub." because I have a hillbilly cousin (literally she lives in hills) who is about a decade older than me and made a living as a professional dominatrix for a bit.

And she was, is, and shall forever remain a BEAST of a woman.

Like, being physical was just a part of her daily routine. She didn't work out or anything. (to my knowledge) she just lived the kind of life where moving a medium-sized tree out of the road was a routine occurrence. And was the kind of person where physicality is the first solution.

She was probably 300lbs and zero fat when I knew her. My mother would invite her over to hang out get some food and help with the yard work because my cousin was more-physically capable than my father, and my father is not a small man.

I don't think I've ever seen a man who would have more physical power than this woman, not in person certainly, and the only ones who might would be people who are like, sports players, or visit the gym regularly.

If you think it's not possible for a woman to be MUCH more physically capable than a man than you have a PAINFULLY small view of women AND men.

[unsolids-your-snake]

...is she single? 👀💖

[yourtoradorasextendedwarranty]

@unsolids-your-snake being horny on main for a "Beast of a woman" aside xD

Kink is and has always been something that should be delved into with someone that you trust. Are their "Kink parties" and what not? Yes. But that does not change the fact that you are your own protector in a lot of different cases. If you do not trust the person you are doing kink with, or in the context of Dungeons or otherwise, the people near you, you should not be participating in kink with them.

Same for vanilla sex. And trust has a range. I'm not saying you have to trust them with your life. But you should at least trust them enough to know that they respect your boundaries, and that they value your safety. It pisses me off when people get into relationships or sometimes not even then, and just decide they they want to hop into BDSM stuff right away. TEST THE WATERS with a person before that. And Subs. Please. For the love of god.

IF A DOM DOES NOT DISCUSS A SAFE WORD WITH YOU PRIOR TO PLAY>>>>>OPT THE FUCK OUT

That is a red flag that the Dom is not experienced, probably does not respect you, or does not plan to mind your boundaries. And/Or is a person pretending to be a Dom and thinks that being a Dom is something like, "If I'm rough/aggressive enough I'm a Dom". Please stay safe out there.

[starshapedfruits]

hey um hate to tell you this but we put bugs in your boyfriend. yeah he's completely corrupted. you should probably put him out of commission and debug him. sorry for the inconvenience.

[kaity--did]

Hey what’s the weirdest, morally neutral parenting hack thing you do? For us our 2.5 year old refuses to take any kind of medicine so we mix her meds in sugar free root beer and call it magic root beer

[deadmomjokes]

I do a lot of what I call Reframe and Rename. Literally it's just calling the Hated/Dreaded Thing something else that doesn't carry the Evil Associations. Yes it will sound dumb at first and anyone who overhears is gonna think you're nuts, but you can't let the child know you think that or they'll see through it.

It's not time for a shower (evil herald of bedtime or going places), it's time for Inside Rainstorm (fun defying the laws of nature playtime).

It's not "you have to ride in the shopping cart today so mama doesn't lose you in the crowded store" (cruel affront to autonomy), "let's do Buggy Racecar Obstacle Course today" (powerful chaotic zoomies time).

Soup or stew (wicked disgusting food that will surely kill us all) becomes "veggies and glorpy sauce" (mysterious and fun!).

"You want some meat/beans/tofu/[insert actual food name here]?" = meltdown freakout "You want some protein for your big ol' muscles?" = holy crap she actually just ate a protein of her own volition

When in doubt, just describe the thing, preferably in the most bonkers way possible.

[hannagoldworthy]

Calvin and Hobbes by Bill Watterson for December 31, 1985 | GoComics.com

Calvin: I'm not eating this green stuff. Yecchh! Dad: Good idea, Calvin. It's a plate of toxic waste that wil turn you into a mutant if you

There’s always a Calvin and Hobbes comic for every parenting situation lol

[naceless]

The homoerotic relationship between a sword and its scabbard

[naceless]

The sword that cuts all but its scabbard. The scabbard that consumes none but its sword. The sword that is dulled by its scabbards protection but would fall to disrepair without it

[naceless]

The scabbard that cannot kill yet is soaked in blood all the same from holding its sword

[elalmadelmar]

Your NFTs Are Actually -- Finally -- Totally Worthless

New report from industry researchers finds that 95 percent of the once-hyped crypto assets have hit rock-bottom valuation

95% of NFTs are worthless, and most of the most expensive ones are priced between $5-100 where they were once drawing millions US$ apiece

Not a moment too soon, and fully deserved 😎

In conclusion-

[wanderer-chronicles]

...which is hilarious because I keep getting Pandora ads for some NFT based Fantasy Football betting league. With blind draws and auctions.

[saintofpride201]

So what I'm hearing is they've always been a scam, well IMAGINE my shock