Deactivated Old Blog

Hi, I'm Jaden! INTP-T, Logician. I prefer the Ne/Nem/Nir/Nirs/Nemself pronouns, but They/Them pronouns are okay too. I'm 24 years old and Bigender (Androgyne and Female - depending on situation), as well as Autigender. ;) I'm an Aromantic Androphilic Demisexual Common Nighthawk Therianthrope. I have a mixed SOUL of justice and integrity (it's a Undertale thing). I'm interested in a lot of different animated stuff, but HTTYD, Frozen, Danny Phantom, Voltron Legendary Defender, She Ra and the Princesses of Power, Legend of Zelda, Zootopia, Undertale and some anime (I've watched Your Lie in April, Wolf's Rain, My Hero Academia, FMA and FMA Brotherhood) are a few favorites. I'm especially into Undertale right now. :) I like the original Naruto series, not Shippuden. I will try to make sure to tag other stuff, but unfortunately my memory isn't the greatest, so sorry if I slip up in tagging it. I usually reblog, but I also post my original fanfictions and stuff from my life in the real world once in a while. Feel free to follow me, I don't bite! Much. This is a NSFW blog sometimes, be cautious. I'll make sure to tag triggers.  My Deviantart: http://happily-joyful.deviantart.com/ My FF.net: https://www.fanfiction.net/~Jadensfanfics

[jaden-s-fandom]

I'm done with this site.

Any friends can still talk to me on Discord (get to know me, if you like: Jaden-the-ASD-brain#1364), but I really don't need to read the crap that comes from this hell-site. I'm also pronouncing myself female in gender. I'll still use the name Jaden, but now it really will be a pen-name, for my coding and writing accounts. Umm--- Edit, Oct 6, 2021- Evidently it's harder to change habits than I thought. I'll still be going by they/them or ne/nem online. Mostly because I like the anonymity XD I am supposed to be following biblical principles. The bible says, in Romans 14:8, version The Voice(all of the verses in this post will be in that version): "For if we live, we live for the Lord. If we die, we die for the Lord. So in both life and death, we belong to the Lord." That's my creed. I belong to the Lord. Not many in this site believe in God in a way that agrees with this sentiment- many just go along with whatever the crap of the day is. I honestly don't need it anymore. If you want to follow Christ? Pray and ask him to forgive you- Pray before your bible, ask him what he'd like to show you. I read my bible every night, but not before asking him what he would like for me to see. If he doesn't respond right away, then I go to the new testament- Mathew Mark Luke and then John. I read and reread. At first I was just reading from front to back. Let me give you some advice, Christians of Tumblr- don't do this. All you'll do is find the things that YOU need or want to see, not that God wants you to see. The point of the Bible is it's the written word of God. If you don't ask God beforehand what he'd like to show you, it's basically useless- like reading a math book grades ahead of where you're at. You need someone to explain the concepts in a math book way ahead of your level. Same with the Bible. Teaching the word of the Lord is not teaching the Bible- it's teaching that God came down as Jesus, 100% God and 100% a man, and died for YOU. For everyone to be saved from having to keep making blood sacrifices. He sent his first-born only son, for US. ALL OF US. And he loves each and every one of you. Doesn't matter what you've done. Doesn't matter if you're gay, trans, non-binary. Doesn't matter, he still loves you and wants you to come to him, and pray and talk. He might know everything you're about to say, but he still wants you to do it anyway. It's about working through your problems, issues and traumas, not his. And he understands how you struggle, because HE STRUGGLED TOO. Because he was a man. A person. Same as you. I get you've been told this a thousand times, Tumblr. I get that probably no one is going to care to read all of this. But. I just felt like I needed to say it. Even if you don't change from being non-binary, or trans, or homosexual, it doesn't matter. Not really. He'll still love you the way you are. The church might not, because that's their judgement issues to work through. The Bible says in Leviticus that "If a man has sexual relations with another man, they have participated in a detestable act." It also says in Deuteronomy, "A woman must not wear men’s clothing, and men must not put on women’s garments. The Eternal your God is horrified when anyone does this." But see- this is in the old testament. America started by following the Bible, so they need to follow the same laws as Israel does. HOWEVER. Again, Jesus died for our sins. So it shouldn't matter if people start out as homosexuals or trans or non-binary- Because God will work in them, if the churches would just accept them and pray for them, too. I go to a small community country church rather than a city church- it's a half-an-hour away from my second story apartment in the city I live. This church accepted me with open arms- I even told a friend that I was non-binary, and he told me what he believes, and we all got along great! He didn't judge me. That's what a lot of churches are missing. If you can find a church that doesn't judge for who you are at the time, you're golden- and you can work through it like I did. I'm a Christian- did

you know that that term used to be derogatory in ancient biblical times? We took it back, and used it with pride- because we are all Gods children. It means "little

Christ." It's accurate, I think. We did with Christian what we're doing with the term "queer." Don't you think it's time to welcome everyone with open arms? Welcoming someone doesn't mean taking in their ideologies and ideas and just agreeing with them. It means letting them come to the Lord on their own time and letting them be while praying for them, and God will do what Jesus knows best- HEALING. I am leaving- not because I don't want to minister to people, but because I honestly don't think Tumblr will change its ways. It's always been an extremist platform- Twitter and almost every other place (except maybe for Reddit, at least there you can pick and choose what communities you're in) is just as bad. I'm taking a step back to communicate with people who actually want to listen, rather than screaming at the walls of people and them screaming back their crap, and then taking in their idealogies into myself. It's just- not healthy for me. Any friends I have can find me on Reddit too- I'm Techy-Nature on there. Feel free to contact me on there or on Discord. I'm done.

EDIT: The ETHERTALE dev blog will still be active however. That I actually need xD

[the-stove-is-on-fire]

Deadpool introduces Danny Phantom to the 4th wall.

3am lemon run 🍋 (as one does) in socks n’ knock off slides with your informally adopted son/human nightlight. 

[jaden-s-fandom]

Crap, now you're making me want to write something meta with Danny and Sans from Undertale lol

[artist-refs]

Phoneme Chart by TheEndIsNearUs

[crazyhamlet]

This is a nice chart! Lipsync is one of my not-so-secret passions. I also hate front mouths. They’re harder to inbetween, I find, and they’re not used nearly as frequently. Here’s some ¾ mouths I made.

These are the basic shapes I was taught, and I use. Standard lipsync shapes;; 

You have your closed mouth to open, to clenched teeth, to oohs, and your (often optional) F, L, and TH mouths.

Tips!

Your top teeth don’t move;  I mean, stylistically it happens sometimes (Gravity falls does it fairly well, as much as I haaaaate that), but your lipsync will prolly look better if they don’t.

My clenched teeth (SH) mouth is always a bit wider than my biggest AH mouth. It adds variation and helps your shapes blend more nicely. Conversely, my biggest AH mouth is narrower than my SH mouth and my closed (M) mouth.

My L mouth is a tiny bit more closed than my biggest AH, and not as closed as my second biggest AH. It fits between them nicely so that if you have to go from an L to an AH mouth, like you would for the word “Like” or “Love”, it doesn’t pop or look weird.

My R and oo mouths move forward on the face a bit, it adds dimension, and if you leave it all in the same place and have the mouth just shrink into a circle it miiiight look weird.

Aaaaand I think that’s it?  Never go from a SH mouth to a TH mouth, it’ll pop and look weird…uhhh;   Also! It’s alright to skip some shapes;; So below is a lipsync I made using the above shapes;

It’s clear what they’re saying, the mouth is moving nicely, but there’s only one problem. Veeeery rarely do they give you enough time to use all the mouths you want to make it move nice. Voice actors talk fast to fit everything in and holycrap do we hate  love them for it.

So here’s a fast one.

Those two gifs should start at the same time, and notice that the second one stops while the first one is still saying “doing”. I not only cut out the mouth between the biggest AH and the clenched teeth, but I combined the word “Are you” into, like, 3 shapes. I also trimmed some inbetweens overall. The lipsync still reads, though! You can still tell what they’re saying even without audio (which would help it a bit, haha~) Cutting out that stuff ended the lipsync a whole 14 frames sooner (more than half a second!). It doesn’t sound like much, but with 24 frames per second and dialogue moving at the speed of light, you don’t have time to dilly dally. This isn’t a preschool show;; Aaaaaand I think that’s it. Liiiipsyyyyyync~~~ Now to go back to actual work and stop talking about things most ppl don’t care about;

[worldhero]

I AM CRYING TEARS OF RELIEF BECAUSE I NEED THESE REFERENCES FOR MY SENIOR FILM’S DIALOGUE~

[worldhero]

Reblogging this again because I’ve been using this reference for the last 2 months to help with my lip-synch in my film, and I’ve just tested one scene where I used the reference…And my mouth-drawings have improved tenfold ever since.

To the OP who made this chart…I wish I could hug you right now because you helped make my film look much better. c8

[crazyhamlet]

This post makes its rounds every so often;; I’m glad people are getting use out of me not wanting to do the actual work I had!

[acuaticamber06]

Holy crap do I need this!!!

[jaden-s-fandom]

Helpful!

[thefallenbibliophilequote]

Y'know what, fuck this bullshit. I need to know y'all are actually against it.

Reblog this if you will NOT use or support Post+.

I hope to make @staff see how that is total bullshit. Tumblr will die without writers/creators.

[jaden-s-fandom]

yep.

[postplus]

Post+ is coming soon

What’s Post+?

Oh, thank you for asking this totally unprompted question! Tumblr’s Post+ is our new tool that allows creators to make some of their posts exclusive to paid supporters and allows people to support their favorite creators. It’s an optional way to support and encourage your favorite creators on Tumblr, and it’s all done in the existing post form with the existing tools you all know and love.

Why Post+?

Creators are the backbone of Tumblr—whether they’re GIF artists, illustrators, comedians, cosplayers, or just really good shitposters. Since our founding, we have always believed in empowering the world’s creators to show off their best work. Post+ now gives these same creators the ability to earn money from their work.

Post+ is optional, right?

Right! Post+ simply gives creators the freedom to pick and choose which posts they want public and which posts they want only their paid supporters to see. Creators who use Post+ have the ability to choose how much of their content is free and public. Post+ is an optional program—the creator has the power to decide if they want to participate or not. The creator also has the ability to choose from a select set of predefined subscription pricing structures for their supporters.

Can I have it?

When Post+ fully launches, it will be available for anyone who wants to use it. Right now it’s still in its beta phase of testing. We want to make sure that everyone’s experience with Post+ is without any hiccups or bugs. We’re working with a very limited number of creators who are testing it out for us. But! If you want to get notified when more beta testing spaces open up, please sign up here.

Anything else?

If you want to stay up-to-date on all things Post+, give @postplus a follow. It’s where we’re posting FAQs and answering your questions. If you want to give feedback, fill out this survey here. Thanks for your patience, Tumblr.

[staff]

The communities that make up Tumblr are built by artists, writers, GIF artists, shitposters, illustrators, and other creators sharing their talents with the world. It’s a place where the world's creators can put their best work in front of an incredible audience. The tools that we built are built for creators and artists to do just that. Over the years we've watched countless careers born here, books launched, talents discovered. Tumblr connects people to their audiences and allows them to pursue their work in a greater capacity. We want that to be achievable for everyone on our platform.

Post+ is a move toward this goal—making sure creators who dedicate their time and effort to producing content have the choice to be paid for some of what they do, if they decide it makes sense for them.

Right now, we’ve got our beta testers and a world of feedback to incorporate, which is exactly how things get made and get better.

We do, however, want to address the main concerns we are hearing:

Fanfiction & Copyright Infringement

Basically, the process works the same as it always has. And yes, the following information is coming to you straight from a lawyer:

We fully support Creators sharing their fanfiction and fanart on Tumblr. We encourage sharing creative work of all kinds on the platform.

Fanfiction and fanart are frequently considered fair use and we support our Creators’ fair use rights. Monetizing fan work does not necessarily mean that it isn’t fair use.

Any content posted on Tumblr, both free and monetized, should follow our Terms of Service and Community Guidelines, which prohibits infringing the intellectual property rights of others. Whether a piece of fanfiction meets the requirements for fair use varies depending on the work. Intellectual property rights holders are in the best position to decide if they think a fanfiction or fan art violates their rights. If they do, they can use the normal Tumblr DMCA process to identify content for removal. Creators can also take advantage of the normal counter-notification process if they believe the content was misidentified as infringing.

Using the block feature and Post+

Post+ creators will be able to block subscribers in the final Post+ product launching later this fall, and resulting from our beta feedback. At the moment, testers of the Post+ beta will need help from Tumblr Support in order to block a blog that has become a paying supporter.

We will continue to answer questions over the next few weeks over on @postplus

As always, our priority is the people who make up this weird blue universe, and we’ll keep working to make sure we’re serving you as well as we can.

[jaden-s-fandom]

Ouch. The cringe.

[as-warm-as-choco]

A master post of Thomas Romain’s art tutorials.

There’s not enough space to post all of them, SO here’s links to everything he has posted (on twitter) so far : 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12. 

Now that new semesters have started, I thought people might need these. Enjoy your lessons!

[jaden-s-fandom]

Useful!!

[undertalethingems]

It's let Papyrus say fuck day! I wannna see you doodle it because of your magnificent skills!

so, the funny thing is...

while i totally support the folks participating in this momentous day...

i don't swear myself. it's just. not a thing for me :"D

so uh.... i'd have to come up with something else riotous for papyrus to do, and i've just been too busy...

so i got nothing for you guys today, but i hope you've enjoyed the offerings from everyone else who's participated ^^

[jaden-s-fandom]

I don't swear much either. Definitely this is valid. ^_^

[randomstuff7739]

shoto in the strawberry shirt, because he’s very pretty and i love him (also because a twitter mutual of mine asked for it ,,)

the shirt i based it off of is under the cut :)!!!

it’s a nice shirt ❤️

[jaden-s-fandom]

This is so cute!!

[luxielle]

Pre-Quarantine vs Now:

This has been going around & I love it ~

https://picrew.me/image_maker/296093

02/2020 vs 06/2021 RIP

tags, if ya wanna: @gureishi @quirky-and-kind @agentbee606 @truth-be-told-im-lying

[truth-be-told-im-lying]

I feel like the big bulky sweater (that I wear constantly now) also accurately represents the weight I have gained on top of the sleep I have lost. Not just quarantine, but life in general has not been kind in the last 16 months.

I'm not dead yet, though. 🤣

I'll tag @little-butterfly-writes @starry-starry-night24 @nanoko-aishino @sensetenou @mrs-han and @welookateachotherandlaugh if you wanna play! No pressure if you don't, of course.

[sensetenou]

Haven't gotten a haircut or my roots redyed so I had to edit the pink into the second picture💔 God I really need to get my hair dyed again

Tagging @marshmallowprotection @amysteriousmessenger @amee-racle @littleaipom if you'd like to continue this, no pressure tho!👉👈

[amee-racle]

thanks for tagging me! ^^

my shirt and blazer were different colours but eh

I cut my hair shorter and I don't wear uniform anymore lol

@randomstuff7739 @pili-art @blastlight

[randomstuff7739]

evolution …..

@mysterioussusu @onewholeagarjelly @lifebitches @jaden-s-fandom .. ! and whoever else wants to ,,

[jaden-s-fandom]

Sorry I'm late! I had to move over to my desktop for this one-- I am terrible at using phones for internet lol

Here's me before and after quarantine! I tended to be more girly and also more annoyed, now I'm more happy to spend time with my family and friends rather than wanting to play on the computer all the time. :)

I tag @mark-my-words11, @lanethehuman and @limegreencasefiles

[dynamite5ftjewishbitch]

Fun, someone said the words “prior authorizations” around me and now I’m pissed off at 730am on my day off. I go off on this rant all the time. ALL THE TIME.

[wayfaringmd]

Oof. This man gets it.

[fromthemindofatwentyorotherlycan]

Every time I have to send a fax to a doctor saying "hey this med needs a PA" I get violently angry.

Hint: if your PA gets denied call your insurance and ask for the credentials of the person who made that call. Usually they will approve it instead of admitting they hired some 18-year-old with no relevant training or experience to scan for buzz-words and just deny everything

[jaden-s-fandom]

Noted.

[writing-prompt-s]

You’re closing up the tea shop, when suddenly a ghostly figure floats through the door. “Who are you?!” you shriek. “Apologies, you’re normally gone by now. I’m the manager of the night shift.”

[jaden-s-fandom]

You blink in response, then back up as the ghostly apparition floats past you, heading up the stairs towards the camera/observation room. You blink again, and again, watching this random ghost just- float up the stairs. How...? Then you have a thought- "Who hired you?" You ask, just as the ghost is disappearing behind the bulkhead. Suddenly, the ghost's head appears to be sticking out of the wall, and you jump and shriek again. "Hey! No need for that, I'm not alive, after all." The ghost smiles, sharp canines and bright green eyes flashing in the semi-darkness of the teashop. You abruptly close your mouth, still shaking. "H-how- Did you get here? Why are you here?" "A teen's gotta make money somehow, right? I figured working here would be a good way to earn some cash to spend on stuff." The ghost just- went through the wall while he was talking. Welp. This is something you definitely don't see every day. "Uh-" You hesitate, then offer, "Want to sit down? I can make us some tea-" Then you cringe. "Can you even drink anything?" The ghost ponders, floating five feet up with his belly towards the ground, head in his hands, and feet up behind him. "Well. I guess there's only one way to find out, huh? I've never actually tried to, at least not-" He stops himself, then clears his throat. "You can make some for me, and we'll see." You look at him somewhat curiously, then head over to the kitchen of the place. Then, you take out one of the old, large, black earthenware teapots, and put it on one of the burners to boil. It boils quickly, so you put two green tea packets into it, turn off the burner and let it sit for a few minutes. After it's done percolating, you grab a couple tea cups from the same set, and masterfully pour two cups full of green tea. Finally you grab four sugar packets and make your way over to a small table near a bookshelf. The bookshelf is positioned in such a way as to make this little corner cozy (it also blocks the window, so no people can see the ghost floating around the shop) and you've always enjoyed small, cozy spaces. The ghost, while you were making the tea, was floating behind you the entire time, watching you. It creeped you out a bit, but I guess he was just interested in your skills, maybe? He was silent the entire time, just watching with glowing eyes. It unsettled you a bit, at least until he followed you over. He pulled out your chair, letting you sit down before he does. You put the tea down next to you, trying to make a good impression, but he takes the cup and flies over to the opposite end of the table, sitting down there and watching you out of the corner of his eye while he takes a sip. Somehow, he manages to not make a mess of the place- he actually swallows it?? How does he still have organs if he's a ghost?? Your jaw drops. He puts the cup down, and stares at it in surprise. "Uh. I didn't expect that to happen." He blinks in bewilderment. You close your mouth, and swallow. "Me neither." His eyes glaze over, the glow in them going dimmer for a moment while he ponders this new development. "Uh--" He shakes his head. "Wait- I think I understand why I can do this. Technically Ghost Hunger is a thing, but I usually eat ghost plants. Normally this means I can eat things with ectoplasm in them- and you didn't put any of that in there, I know- Otherwise it would be glowing- So, I guess that means I can eat human food, but it probably doesn't do anything to my hunger. It just goes through my system and- well, you probably know the rest, heh." You nod. "...Comes out the other end?" "Yeah. Though we don't need to expand on that." You nod once more, then take the sugar and put it in your tea, mix it with a plastic spoon, and drink it. "Oh hey! I forgot about the sugar!" He takes two and dumps them in both at one time, then takes spoon from me and mixes it in, then hands it back. "Smells great, uh..." I realize neither of us know the other's name. "Oh! Sorry! I'm y/n l/n! What's your name?" "Phantom. Danny Phantom."

[anxietyproblem]

[jaden-s-fandom]

It's sad how accurate this is,,

[luckystarchild]

Focus on one project at a time? Finish a project before starting another? Blasphemy.

[jaden-s-fandom]

This is a MOOD

[rabs-stuf]

Please read this as my life depends on it’s success.

Hello to everyone reading this.

I’m currently struggling to make ends meet due to some issues. I had to leave my home in 2019 due to domestic problems and since then, I’ve been struggling to stand up on my feet. Things did start to get better at the beginning of last year when I got my first job but it was short lived as I was let go due to the impact of Covid. Things have gotten worse since then. I was in an accident earlier this year which has ensured that I can’t even apply for any jobs, at least for the next 4 months. On top of that, to survive, I had to borrow money from loan sharks which I now have to return. I’m very close to being homeless as well and currently have barely any money to get by.

As such, I will be eternally grateful if you all could help me with donating anything you can towards my cause, so that I can get back on my feet. I need about $4900 to help me keep a roof over my head, pay off the loan sharks and to survive for the next 4 months - until I can start applying for jobs.

P#yP@l: [email protected]

Update (1): It’s been nearly a week and I’m devastated that I’m yet to receive a donation. Not that I feel entitled to receive it, just that my calculations were already based on the worst-case scenario. So, yeah, feeling a little down-er than usual.

Not sure if this helps or not, but I’ve created a fundrasing page as that was pretty much the last thing I could do. I plead again to anyone reading this - please consider donating anything you can spare towards my cause.

FYI, if you are reading the fundraising page and wish to donate, please do it via P#yP@l itself as the ’bank transfer’ method will delay me getting the amount by a month and for some reason, I was not able to set up P#yP@l on the page. Have added it in the description though.

Update (2): Looks like the last post has lost traction, something I really can’t afford to happen. I’ve already got about $338 from kind donors but unfortunately, that’s barely 7% of my goal. I’m in desperate need of any help you can provide as I’ve just been given a deadline by my landlord, to come up with at least $950 by the end of the month (arrears due). If not, I’m getting evicted with nowhere to go. Please understand that I am not trying to guilt anyone into donating. I’m just extremely exhausted and under a lot of anxiety and being given deadlines is not helping.

As such, I request everyone reading this to help me reach my goal by reblogging or boosting my post as much as possible. A donation is appreciated even more but only if you’re able to spare any amount without it affecting you and your daily life.

I am thankful to all of the people who have helped by reblogging my posts. I’m especially grateful to those who have donated.

Update (3): So, my account got terminated and with it, all the traction I was getting from my previous posts. No idea what happened or what I did wrong. Support team weren’t particularly helpful with their vague explanation - “for spam or using your blog with the primary purpose of affiliate marketing”. If you have an idea of why this happened, let me know.

I’ve, of course, asked for a second chance but from what I’ve read online, that seems unlikely or likely with a long delay (something I can’t afford).

As such, I’d appreciate it if you all could do the same as you’ve been doing all this while since my life is now at the hands of kind people like yourselves.

Goal: 464.80/4900

[rabs-stuf]

Update (4): Just wanted to reach out again as this site has shaken my confidence (account terminated without warning even though it was restored). It’s just made me even more anxious than usual and if such a thing were to happen again and if I wasn’t able to get it restored, then I don’t know what I’ll do. I’m definitely not in a position where I can afford for that to happen as the consequences of me not reaching the goal are something that cannot be put into words.

As such, I request everyone reading this to help me by either reblogging or boosting or donating (only if it doesn’t hurt your finances) as much as possible. I am sorry about the repeated requests as I never intended to intrude or be an annoying part of your day to day life. It’s just that I’m not sure what else to do. In fact, if it wasn’t for the kindness you guys have shown, I highly doubt I’d even be here to post this. You have given hope and I’m thankful to everyone for that. May God bless you and your family.

Goal: 751.80/4900

[rabs-stuf]

Update (5): Seems like this post has lost traction, again 😔. I hate to request this of you again but I’m sad to say that I’m left with no other option. So, here I go again.

To anyone reading this, if it’s not a bother, could you please reblog this post? If you have anything to spare, please consider donating. In the situation I’m in, even a dollar makes a huge difference (I wish I was joking). For my immediate goal, I need $200 more to cover rent for this month.

Immediate Goal: $950 achieved.

Overall Goal: 4311.60/4900

[moringmark]

[lemonsharks]

I needed to see this today

[jaden-s-fandom]

This is so sweet and I love it. 😁

[meangirlnurse]

TWENTY EIGHT? IN AMERICAN YEARS?

[meangirlnurse]

something is deeply wrong with dog rescue people

[johnwaynegayscene]

[meangirlnurse]

[meangirlnurse]

[headspace-hotel]

I feel like having to specify that you can’t block their emails and phone calls or accuse them of harassment is a little bit oddly specific.

[jaden-s-fandom]

Okay, so I have a horror story with a local "Pet Allies..." This was in Arizona, and I don't live there anymore- keep in mind this was at least 5 years ago. I might edit this later. I'm not entirely sure about all the details, so bear with me, please. So. I've been volunteering at this Pet Allies place for years, as well as volunteering during school. One day, I come back from school on the bus. The bus has to slightly swerve to avoid a dog, and not just any dog, a 10 month old Rottweiler that lives two doors down from my trailer home. The dog (almost a puppy, but big enough to be a threat really) is running around without a leash and without anyone outside watching her, so I tell the bus driver that I'm going to go and see if I can knock on the door of the owner's house to get their attention and bring the dog inside. The bus driver nods and closes the door behind me. My younger brother heads home while I head over to the yard. Mistake number one was getting annoyed not at the dog, but at the owners for not taking care of their fricking dog. I headed purposefully over, trying to keep the dog in my vision, but as soon as I turned around to go up the stairs and open the door, "Snap!" The dog not only bit me, but I had to limp the rest of the way up the stairs and practically fell into the owner's door. She came running, I was bleeding, and she yelled at the dog to get inside (the dog listened, and, with a tucked tail, ran inside). She asked if I wanted a band-aid, I was like "uhhh, I think I need more than a band-aid, I'll be back though..." (obviously at this point the blood-loss was making it hard to think- of course I wasn't coming back, but we sure as hell called the police after I managed to limp/crawl home) I yelled for Dad at first, then I realized Mom and Dad either weren't home or were sleeping so I yelled for my younger brother Ben, and he came out and helped me up the stairs to our porch. I didn't feel any pain, but boy was it hard to think. At first I tried to get Ben to get our parents, but he said they weren't here. I said, "Okay, go get Null." (For the sake of privacy, I'm omitting his name. We'll just call him Null.) Null was our across the street neighbor at the time, and he was the one who called nine-one-one and my parents, who quickly came home and took me to the hospital while the police confiscated the dog for the time being- to put it in quarantine while they figured out if she had gotten her rabies shot. The nurses cleaned out my bite, wrapped it in a tight bandage, and I could think again by the next day. And boy did it ache. I was on crutches for the next two weeks after that. The first week in we had to go to court to settle what would happen with the dog. By this time the dog was out of quarantine as far as I know- so it was back with the owners. I didn't want to put the dog down, but I sure didn't want it with the same owners either. The courts don't really communicate with the law enforcement very well, though, so we had another incident (Thankfully Dad was with me, and he knew how to deal with aggressive dogs and taught me how to never turn around in their presence, and how to not be afraid or annoyed, just neutral) before they finally ended up taking the dog and the owner, the owner on charges of growing weed in their home. You see, once the law enforcement finally decided to get involved (we had to get video evidence of the dog displaying aggressive behavior- it shouldn't take that much just to get police to do their freaking jobs) but to their credit, once they did they took care of it swiftly. She was arrested (as was the husband- he was obviously in on it too), the dog was taken to Pet Allies, and everything was fine, right? WRONG! I had been volunteering for Pet Allies before this, and they had put the dog that had bit me up for "dog of the week" online, and they didn't put the dog into the cages that were for dogs who bit people. When I arrived, this prompted one of the board members (who is now the director- ugh) to call up one of the volunteers and say that "She might

sue us,so kick her out." or something to that effect, because I was immediately but politely evicted off the premises. Even though I was trying to make a short trailer and interview about the plight of rescue dogs. That would give them needed exposure about their animals at the High School I was attending. I didn't intend to hurt anyone, but Pet Allies sure hurt my feelings with the board member's actions. I can see where they intended to give the dog all the chances it can get- but if that were the case, they would have gotten a trainer on the premises, they would have put the dog into a place where she was safe from hurting others, and they would have let me make my documentary trailer- while keeping me safe from any more harm. I also understand that they didn't want to be sued- but srsly? I couldn't sue them if I tried. And I didn't intend to sue anyone who didn't deserve it- and even if they did I would hesitate on passing judgement, because that's not even my job. That is the law enforcement's job, and obviously I wouldn't call them unless out of an emergency. And they wouldn't even have an emergency if they had done their due diligence and put the dog in the right cage- and maybe don't put a dog that bites others up for dog of the week? That doesn't make any sense.🤔

[imjustlo]

I think we need to normalize the idea of marrying friends. I don’t mean in a “the best romantic relationships come from the best friendships” type way, though I do believe that’s true. I mean in a “I have zero romantic feelings for you, but I would totally spend the rest of my life committed to a future where you are my primary partner and maybe even raise a family together” type way.

Like, I don’t think it should be an aromantic-exclusive option, or a plan B when you and your best friend are still single at 40 and want to take yourselves out of the dating market.

I’ve heard it mostly as that backup plan, that “if I don’t find anyone, I’ll just marry Trish haha”, and I don’t think that’s even what I’m talking about normalizing. That’s a secondary outcome, seen as “giving up” on finding “real love”, and even if a pair of friends go for it, it’s plagued with this general feeling of “sub par”.

What I mean is that marrying a best friend (or having a committed intimate or emotional platonic relationship) should be seen as just as worth doing as marrying someone you’re in love with. It should be normal for teenagers to try as many committed friendships as they do romantic relationships. It should be normal for someone to say “this is my best friend and if everything works out, maybe we’ll move in together later” or “Trish and I have been roommates for two years now. We’re considering adopting soon, or Trish might carry a child!”

And as an aromantic person, it shouldn’t be strange for me to say “I prefer friendship to romance”. People should hear that and nod their heads like “that’s understandable. John feels the same.”

Hell, I see so many people expressing that they prefer their friends’ company to their romantic partner’s. “My friends understand me better and I think treat me better” and they’re expected to go home to this person, to marry and have kids with this person. It’s bizarre to me. Your platonic feelings for your friend aren’t inferior to your romantic feelings for your boyfriend, and if one of them treats you better than the other, I think you should probably rethink which one is your primary partner.

I also find it strange that it’s not more common in poly spaces for a friend to be considered a legitimate “partner”. In a world where friendships were just as likely to bloom into life partnerships as romantic relationships, I think polyamory would be much more commonplace. “I committed to Josephine about a year ago and now we own a home, but I fell in love with Joe about six months ago and we’re all trying to make it work.” Josephine shouldn’t have to worry about her partner leaving her for Joe just because their bond is romantic and therefore the “sensible” relationship to choose over the other.

I’m just ranting at this point, but I reiterate: committed friendships should not be seen as strange and “sad”, but as a legitimate option for a lifetime commitment. Not just for aromantics like myself, but for everyone. It should just be normal.

And not to be presumptuous, but I don’t think I’m alone in this thinking

[jaden-s-fandom]

This is such a mood. I definitely wish this was more normalized too- If it was, maybe- I wouldn't have so many broken friendships after realizing I couldn't marry someone I didn't love romantically... I mean- I honestly didn't know this was an okay thing to do. My parents are friends forever- they don't hate each other- but my Dad is aromantic and hates/is terrible at anything to do with romance. My mom, on the other hand, is completely infatuated with everything romantic. I honestly don't know what happened between when they married for love and when that love fell apart on my dad's end, but I feel like my mom would be so much happier if she just embraced polyamory. My older brother is poly too- she hates it, but it would be so much easier if she could stay friends with my Dad but still look for love elsewhere. That way she could have a father-figure and love interest, but in separate men.