Self Recovery

My personal journey in getting over my depression and recovering from ED. Broke adult who sucks at adulting.

[roycohn]

what's annoying is that in a better world the widespread availability of glp-1 medications might have actually led to a depoliticization of thinness and just like major structural changes to the way we think about body politics, where we could all realize that the size and shape of your body is in no way a reflection of your moral character, and that so much of what the diet and gym industries have characterized as "willpower" and "hard work" is actually just predicated on the whims and quirks of biology, and that losing weight is neither a moral achievement OR a betrayal of any ideological movement, but rather just a personal choice between an individual and their doctor that many people can now more easily make with the help of advancements in modern medicine. but unfortunately we live in the world we do, so we're in hell, and i guess the whole "what someone chooses to do with their body is between them and their doctor" point, these days, legally, is....well don't piss me off

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

maybe y'all didn't notice but fat people who don't hate ourselves sure did notice that people were obsessed with shitting on fat people in the late 90s and early 2000s (conservative political time) and now are again (fascist political time), coincidentally while the market for weight loss has become a 90 billion dollar industry due to glp1s.

you are not immune to propaganda. it makes some people a whole hell of a lot of money for you to hate fat people and fear becoming (or staying, I think like 70% or something of the US is fat) one of us.

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

a lot of the fearmongering over fatness comes from studies directly funded by the weight loss industry...i think people don't really realize or think about the fact that research can absolutely be influenced and skewed by its funding. there is also research that shows that an amount of the negative health outcomes for fat people come from anti-fat bias. if you go to the doctor with concerns and the doctor simply tells you to lose weight, your problem is neglected and you may not even bother going to the doctor with the next problem.

every fat person you know for the most part probably has a story like this, of medical neglect. many of the stories i've heard personally are when the complaint or the doctor wasn't related at all, like being told to lose weight at the ear nose and throat doctor or at the dentist. it's straight up just bias. it's such a thing that in the show Shrill it's portrayed, when Aidy Bryant goes to the gynecologist and her doctor suggests she get gastric bypass.

the studies on health and fatness are simply not that black and white and there is basically no research that shows that more than an incredibly tiny minority of people can lose weight and keep it off for more than like 2 years. bodies have set points that they gravitate towards, it's not a personal failure. this also is how the weight loss industry succeeds so well - repeat customers.

some of the harm associated with fatness is also due to weight cycling, which is very hard on your body and is even worse if you get off a GLP1, which according to a recent study causes weight to be regained at a rate that is 4x faster than without taking a GLP1.

you don't have to hate yourself. you don't have to hate other people for their body type either. it makes me so sad to see the thinspo tag going around again in 2026 a lot like it was back in the day.

some resources to learn more here:

https://www.reuters.com/article/business/healthcare-pharmaceuticals/feeling-fat-may-be-worse-for-you-than-being-fat-idUSTON079061/

The Healthiest Weight Could Actually Be 'Overweight', Huge Study Finds

A study spanning almost four decades and involving more than 100,000 adults in Denmark found that those with an 'overweight' body mass index

there's so much crazy shit once you go down the rabbit hole. for example, BMI was not invented by anyone with a medical background. it was never meant to measure individual health.

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

U.S. Weight Loss Industry Grows to $90 Billion, Fueled by Obesity Drugs Demand

The U.S. weight loss industry reached an unprecedented high in 2023, estimated at $90 billion, largely driven by surging sales of the widely

Body fat supports your health in surprisingly complex ways

Evidence is mounting that our body fat supports everything from our bone health to our mood, and now, research suggests it also regulates bl

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

just gonna reblog this forever because i love fat people and we deserve fuckin basic human dignity and respect regardless of our weight

[woodlouseandbird]

my therapist suggested i imagine my intrusive thoughts in the voice of donald trump bc i do not possess an ounce of respect for him or trust in his competence. going thru it today so i made this. hope this helps

[ill-crawl-home-to-her]

no this is genius actually

[moved-to-the-somberlaiin]

[audhd-space]

Reposting this because I need to materialize it somewhere.

[injuries-in-dust]

[weirdcultstuff]

I love being an adult because you know what actually happens when you run your car into a curb and scratch up the bumper?

Nothing. You get it fixed, or you don’t. Whatevs.

You know what actually happens when you are depressed or sick or on your period and don’t cook dinner?

Nothing. You still get to eat something, nobody scolds you, it doesn’t have any real bearing on your future success, and you don’t get soft shunned for a week by your family.

You know what actually happens when you break stuff, forget stuff, get sick, fall asleep, are rude, miss a flight, don’t know how to do XYZ thing on fixing cars or canning food or whatever, lose things, get lost because you can’t read a map and forgot to charge your phone, buy the wrong groceries, plant the wrong plants, not make your bed, make your bed wrong, jump on your bed, sleep on your bed, eat crackers in your bed, have emotions literally anywhere?

Nothing.

Nothing happens.

No one is mad.

No one can hurt you, and if they do there are laws saying they can’t and that it’s an actual crime with legal consequences.

All there are are outcomes and different paths and different problems and different situations and you just bumble your way forward into dealing with those and that’s it. That’s the whole thing. It’s not the wrong choice, having problems isn’t indicative of your inherent badness or inadequacy or lack of applying yourself. It’s just life, and it’s happening to literally everyone.

I’m not even kidding.

You just do stuff and nothing bad happens. Walk around existing? Nothing bad will happen. Wild.

You can cry. In public. And the most likely outcome is not that you will get taken away to receive the beating of your lifetime, it is that people will mostly ignore you and some will be kinder to you. 🤯

[randomslasher]

On Saturday I got pulled over because it turned out I’d been driving on expired tags for a year and hadn’t even noticed.

I got told to “take care of it soon please” and let go with a warning. Today I went to the DMV and paid a $5 late fee along with the 2-year fee for registration, got new plates and stickers and that was that.

A year late. No big deal. No one was shocked or appalled. It was just a thing that happened and then I took care of it. No biggie.

Turns out, people expect you to make mistakes because they’re people and they make them too. More often than not, you can just fix them and move on.

[theriu]

Thank you for this lovely positive post!

[kendrixtermina]

No one ever yells at you just for entering a room, especially not when you just want to get food or tp. 

You can pick what brands of stuff to buy!

You can cook all the foods without raisins, or leave out any other ingredient that you just don’t like. 

[kylenesusan]

You can have people over. You can be loud! Or you can stay inside for days and not talk to anyone. You can have ice cream any time you want! You can decorate your living space with all the weird stuff you love! You can decide not to decorate at all and embrace minimalism.

You get to choose who and what enters your home!

[autopygmalion]

My question now is “why is it okay and Normal to treat children this way to the point where having things not be a big deal and not being scolded for stuff and not being made to feel like you’re bad or not living up to someone’s idea of what you are, is all part of being an adult?”

[secondbeatsongs]

somehow instead of saying "as a treat", I've started using the phrase "for morale", as if my body is a ship and its crew, and I (the captain) have to keep us in high spirits, lest we suffer a mutiny in the coming days.

and so I will eat this small block of fancy cheese, for morale. I will take a break and drink some tea, for morale. I will pick up that weird bug, for morale.

I'm not sure if it helps, but it does entertain me

[sockdreams]

We often eat pie at work...for morale.

[eerian-sadow]

"As a treat" implies a special occasion, a temporary state. "For morale" makes the joy essential, because you have to have good morale to keep going.

[recomvery]

One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

[newlyy]

Pamela Anderson choosing to wear no makeup (not “natural” makeup, not a “no-makeup makeup” look, but actually no makeup on her skin) to events and letting her wrinkles and age spots be clearly visible is actually groundbreaking and anyone who paints it as not a big deal, or worse, as somehow an attack on some other group, is a moron

[unsentimentaltranslator]

It’s especially meaningful that she’s doing it because she was SO sexualised and SO disrespected for it when she was young. This is a very clear condemnation of the objectification of female celebrities, by a female celebrity with extensive personal experience of that objectification, and anyone who feels uncomfortable about it deserves to be uncomfortable. Let that discomfort motivate y’all to stop defending the indefensible demands that women are singled out for.

[ms-newvegas]

Some examples of Pamela Anderson wearing no makeup— SAG Awards this year, Pandora ad, and something else I don’t know

[gwinny5k]

The worst trick a childhood anxiety disorder pulls is, you spend your early years being applauded for being so much more mature than your peers, because you aren’t disruptive, you don’t want any kind of attention, you don’t express yourself, you keep yourself to yourself - this makes you a pleasure to have in class, etc etc - and you start to believe it’s virtue. But you’re actually way behind your peers in normal social development, and who knows if you can ever catch up.

[deliciousstomach-deactivated202]

Never heard a truer thing in my life.

[bogleech]

holy shit wait you mean being just morbidly terrified of doing anything wrong ISN’T necessarily the same as being “well behaved?!”

[themuditaendeavour]

Convenient children =/= healthy children

[tinyhatonapumpkin]

Convenient children =/= healthy children

Felt like that needed emphasis

[childrensrightsrehumanrights]

This is why teaching children to be individuals is so important. If someone is too scared to be their whole self they should be helped not congratulated on their fear

[traumasurvivors]

I just wanted to say that it's completely valid to not work on some of your triggers, and avoid them instead.

There are no set rules for triggers.

For me, I worked on triggers that popped up in my daily life where avoiding them was going to be near impossible to do. I worked on these ones because it improved my quality of life. Some of these triggers I eliminated, and some of them I learned to cope with.

I had one trigger where I was triggered by a really specific spot, and instead of facing that trigger, I've just decided it's better for me to avoid that area.

Figure out what's right for you, and it's okay if it's different than what's right for other people.

[pawberri]

I saw some snippet of a callout post for an autistic trans woman where they list social faux pas she committed, and I think we allistic people should all feel 100x more ashamed of not telling people in the moment how we feel about what they're doing. I think its extremely evil and cruel to not only lie to an autistic person and blame them for it but also to feel justified shaming them for your behavior. And it's currently the social norm to do that

[pawberri]

Everytime we as allistic people sit and force a smile or sigh and act subtly grumpy or otherwise lie to an autistic person's face about how we feel about what they did it is in fact Our Fault that we are enduring whatever the autistic person is daring to try and share with us. You can literally say something out loud directly. The literal structure of our social existence will always traumatize autistic people unless you can give a fuck enough to consider it isn't their fault that you didn't communicate with them

[pawberri]

Even I couldn't understand this until my wife was in tears because I had internalized the idea that it was her fault that people were uncomfortable in a conversation where no one told her they were uncomfortable and blamed her for it. Allistic people punish autistic people for so many Percieved slights, or even decide together afterward what exactly the slight was and then make their collective judgment behind the autistic persons back. Not only do we get the benefit of communicating nonverbally through obtuse social cues the autistic person can't parce, we then get to say that we weren't going behind their back because we all did those social cues they are too disabled to understand Right in front of them. No, what you did was choose to suppress your feelings and then reap the social benefits of being in on the discomfort.

[victusinveritas]

[victusinveritas]

There's more:

[stuckinapril]

Floored by the fact that not feeling like shit really does boil down to just eating well and drinking lots of water and keeping screen time to a minimum and making lists and not obsessing over any one thing and reading books and like not putting things off and letting them fester forever. Self help books will never tell you this but sometimes it just is that simple

[silk-fleur]

probably the best advice I've ever got was from my grandpa when I moved from my town and started a university, he told me to leave the house everytime when I start to feel down, just to go to the park, a supermarket, a bookstore, to even drive in a bus or tram, just be around other people because staying at home all the time kills you; and you know he was right

[youwillbeokayy]

there are times in our lives in which we occupy some sort of a liminal space. a transitional period.

and it can be weird. it can be weird and scary and confusing and you may feel lost and unsure and hesitant because sure, you’re taking steps, but you’re not quite sure where you’re going. you don’t know what your destination really looks like yet - and that’s okay, because at least you aren’t where you used to be. progress is progress, no matter how small, and im proud of you for it. and you deserve to be proud of yourself for it too.

the path will become clear for you in due time. all you have to do is continue walking, one step at a time.

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

— Arthur Miller, The Crucible

[theambassadorposts]

[officialfist]

“Be in your mate’s corner, ask twice” damn

[foreboding-monolith]