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2026 nonbinary name survey: results

While the big annual survey continues (until 13th August), I'm here to give you the results of the nonbinary name survey!

This is on the blog because it's technically a side survey for fun. The survey ran from 5th July to 3rd August, and there were 11,340 usable responses. You can see the spreadsheet of results here.

The required opening checkbox was intended to make sure that everyone fit the usual criteria:

Yes, I confirm that I don't really fit into just one of the two boxes of "always, solely and completely a woman/girl" or "always, solely and completely a man/boy".

Top 20 names

Alex (1.8%, 204 people)

Jay (1.22%)

Sam (0.90%)

Charlie (0.87%)

Robin (0.85%)

Rowan (0.73%)

Ash (0.71%)

Max (0.59%)

Lee (0.56%)

Eli (0.55%)

Kai (0.55%)

Moss (0.51%)

Quinn (0.50%)

Wren (0.50%)

Aster (0.49%)

Jamie (0.49%)

Kit (0.47%)

Jack (0.45%)

Morgan (0.44%)

Ari (0.43%, 49 people)

Here's that top 20 as a graph, for the visual-brained folks:

The gender intentions of 18 of the top 20 names was "gender-neutral"; the two exceptions were Eli and Jack, where people were more likely to be aiming for something more masculine.

Here's the last name survey I ran, in 2023. The design was quite different, but the top 4 were the same names in the same order. The top 10 are the same names in a different order, but with one change: last time Kit was in the top 10 (this year it's at #17), and this time Lee is in the top 10 instead (last year it was #20).

This time I gave participants three slots to enter names. 20,118 names were entered in total, of which 2,358 (about 12%) were entered more than once. 22% of participants used all three slots, which seems like a lot to me, and maybe if I do this again I should provide more slots.

There were 8 names in the top 100 where people entering that name were more likely than not to be keeping a birth name:

Hannah (93.8% of Hannahs were keeping a birth name)

Elizabeth (93.3%)

Emily (91.3%)

Anna (86.8%)

Sarah (84.4%)

Emma (84.2%)

Laura (80.8%)

Claire (75.0%)

On the flipside, there were seven names entered over 20 times that were exclusively chosen by the participants themselves:

Aster (56 participants)

Rain (39)

Crow (29)

Niko (25)

Nyx (24)

Elias (22)

Briar (20)

Here's a graph of the gender intentions of each name:

Of the names that were not given at birth, here are the gender intention options and their top 3 names in each:

Gender-neutral:

Riley (74.2%)

Quinn (70.2%)

Sasha (68.8%)

Nonbinary:

Echo (50.0%)

Moth (35.3%)

Mars (34.1%)

Feminine:

Luna (64.5%)

Alice (34.3%)

Willow (30.3%)

Masculine:

Oliver (75.6%)

Alexander (70.6%)

James (65.9%)

Which means, this time, we have achieved our goal and discovered that:

the nonbinariest name is Echo! (24 people, 0.21% of participants.)

the most common name among nonbinary people is Alex, with an incredible 1 in ~55 nonbinary people going by this name.

And finally, despite the stereotype that nonbinary names are all three characters long, the most common number of characters in all names entered (including every name entry counted individually, and including names entered only once) is 4 or 5. Here's a graph:

As promised, the full spreadsheet of results doesn't contain individual responses, and any name entered only once is left out of the list. This is because names are identifying information and I don't want to risk anyone accidentally outing themselves due to having a very unusual or unique name.

Here's the results spreadsheet link again. Enjoy!

[ Take part in the 2026 Gender Census before 13th August 2026 ]

Changelog:

2026-08-03: Updated "Gender intentions" graph due to dramatic miscount of blank entries. I was including the blank cells from people who hadn't even been taken to that page and hadn't seen the question!

2026-08-05: Name counts and ranking order were correct but I used the number of names entered to calculate the percentages instead of the number of participants, because those two numbers were right next to each other in my spreadsheet and I picked the wrong one by accident. I have corrected the percentages in the list and elsewhere, and the graph and its alt text.

#names #enby survey #look Jamies You're on there!

creekfiend

relational trauma has to be healed relationally. the best way to practice having relatively "safe" interactions with ppl is joining a hobby group/club/whatever. I've recently joined like ten Fancy Leather Bag groups on fb out of deep curiosity and interest and the communities ppl will build around literally everything I swear to god. I've seen multiple ladies in these purse groups being like "thank you everyone in this hobby for getting me through my chemotherapy" like ... sometimes we dismiss the middle aged purse lady demographic but you know what they have got is a functional community where they support each other that just happens to be centered around purses. having now read many posts from these groups for several weeks I can see that the object being collected IS important, and is certainly the superifival draw into the space as well as something that provides an immediate shared interest, the actual benefit of localish hobby/collecting spaces is largely community and social support.

those of us who are Very Online Only could stand to learn from this sort of thing I think. it doesn't have to be purses it could be anything. but like. (gestures at the purse ladies who are getting each other through chemotherapy) Shared Interest Facebook Group And/Or Subreddit has it for you. i think.

creekfiend

this is actually my first step of learning emotional regulation. yes yes, restful sleep and physiologically appropriate exercise and getting outside and eating nutritious meals. these are all good. but also MEET. YOUR. SOCIAL. NEEDS. you need the relational foundation to cushion you while you work on these skills! i know it's really scary because we all have relational trauma but that doesn't mean we don't have a need for social connection and support!!!

creekfiend

I used bag collecting as a rando example, but collecting objects is of course only one of many, many ways to participate in this sort of community -- a bunch of people have great suggestions in the reblogs and replies here, so I'm compiling some of the most common ones: fiber crafts (which have communities at every level of creation from shearing the sheep to spinning the yarn to knitting or weaving to sewing a garment, etc,) community sports/rec groups (often have classes available before you participate in any competitions depending on the sport,) religious study or activity groups (if you are a member of a religious community, which not everyone is. for example, I'm Jewish, and a ton of Jewish community centers will have a ton of programming to participate in,) book/reading groups (doesn't even have to be a Discussion Group thing, local libraries often have stuff where you can go and read to kids or something, which involves a little less putting your own opinions out there,) gardening (and subhobbies; many people will focus on a very specific thing within gardening like 'breeding orchid' or 'maintaining a community vegetable garden' and there are sub-communities for all of them,) aquarium design/fish keeping/other related stuff such as maintaining bioactive terrariums, buy nothing groups on FB, local gaming store activities (mine have all kinds of participation opportunities like TTRPG nights or classes on painting miniatures,) trading card stuff, local music groups such as drum circle/community choir/etc, local theater groups (you can ease into communities like this by attending a lot of the events before trying to audition or volunteer your time directly,) bookbinding/zinemaking, cooking classes, ceramics/pottery/other art classes, jewelrymaking/beading, language learning (often has the knock-on benefit of putting you in the orbit of immigrant communities in your area!) dance classes, martial arts, kink/leather/queer clubs/communities, addiction/mental health support/grief groups, writing groups, general community-tending (literally you can probably find a group of older folks who do things like get together and pick up trash in green spaces! people will get together and do anything! it doesn't have to be Your Passion!) volunteering with youth groups (such as scouting, big brother/sister programs etc,) camping/hiking/outdoors groups, okay I'm out of ideas atm but there are so many more, this is not at all comprehensive!!!

Ways to get involved in any of these can involve networking with a group online or signing up for a class or auditioning or whatever! Some of them you just gotta talk to your neighbors! Which I know is also easier said than done for a lot of us with relational trauma! Some tips I have for integrating into new communal spaces in a way that feels safer (to me) than the ways that have not served me well in the past:

* Signing up for something officially is often super scary for me. I'm not really ready for that yet in my life, bc it feels like a lot of pressure, and at this stage I REALLY need to be able to case the joint and sniff everything out to make sure it feels safe before participating myself. You can often check things out by attending events, like craft fairs or performances, but there's also tiers of participation with many things. Lots of stuff doesn't involve official membership or signing up for classes if you're not ready for that. Some things just have informal zoom meetings, which is less scary than in person ones, bc you remain in your own space + can leave at any time. Physically putting myself in a space that I do not have control over is VERY hard for me, and I am also pretty sick such that I am housebound most of the time, so I end up lurking a lot on local community pages on FB (other places such as reddit also offer this opportunity depending on the community) and getting used to who participates and in what ways, veeeery slowly working up to interacting directly by liking comments or leaving friendly but trivial replies to other people's posts. It will behoove you to learn how to engage in what people call "small talk" in a way that does not feel painful to you. I phrase it that way because I know this is not always intuitive for many autistic people, but I personally have found that viewing things like "how to have a pleasant and surface level interaction with a friendly stranger" as a puzzle to solve has helped me a lot. Because the thing is, surface level is safer! Surface level chat is a "free" action that nevertheless can earn you goodwill points and builds up your interaction history with someone. Which brings me to my next point:

* Biggest mistake I have made as someone with REAL bad relational trauma when trying to make new friends or join new groups in the past is feeling compelled to immediately sus out who is "safe" and who is not. Problem with this is that it often takes the form of putting a LOT of pressure onto people who are essentially strangers to understand and accept your Entire Deal Right Away! This makes people really uncomfortable!!! It often results in people feeling like you're trying to force them to Prove they aren't 'a bad guy,' which is a TERRIBLE feeling. My solution is not to throw away the whole idea of wanting to determine if someone is 'safe,' but to very consciously think about specifics: safe how? What can I trust them with, given the amount of information I have of them and the interaction history we have built up? What am I expecting from this person? If I don't know them well enough to know if I can trust them with my Whole Deal, DON'T PUT MY WHOLE DEAL ONTO THEM. Not being able to fully trust a person is not an indictment of them nor does it render them "unsafe." Not being able to fully trust people you do not yet know well is NORMAL. Its hard because many of us with relational trauma are not getting our social needs met, which can result in a level of desperation in social interactions that can be off-putting to people who do not know us. And someone being off-put by you is value neutral; not everyone immediately likes everyone else. Time is key. Going slow is key. Remembering not to treat people like Potential Enemies (even if your trauma is making you feel like they might be!) is key. Thinking about what YOU can provide to THEM, as well as the other way around, is key. Not expecting total and perfect one-to-one reciprocity is key -- communities of many people are a really ideal way to practice lower stakes relational interactions because the amount and type of participation each person brings can be in flux and slack can get picked up by various people at various times depending on their capacity and circumstances. Be curious and interested in the other people. Think of them as full and complex people who have their own stories and experiences and view getting to learn about those experiences as something exciting. Don't necessarily approach each new relationship as though you EXPECT these people to eventually get you through chemotherapy, so to speak -- that is the knock-on benefit of the relationships you build up after a history of mutually enjoyable interactions over a span of time. Even if you do not build a "getting each other through chemo" level relationship with any given person or community, it is good practice to have and a good way to get non-scary social interactions under your belt, which will help you heal your relational trauma, which will etc etc. Eventually this snowballs in a way that is noticeable and interactions start to become less aversive, they start to become exciting and rewarding, you start to have an easier time dismissing difficult or unpleasant interactions as not the end of the world, etc.

Practically speaking, it's absolutely true that some hobby and community spaces have drama or unpleasantness. It can be hard to tell which ones have more or less of that (or who is participating in a hierarchical authority-seeking way and who is there to make genuine connections) from the outside, which is why I think going slow is important. You can get a sense of who is engaging with people in a way you don't care for and simply choose to spend more time with the people who are. Or, you can decide the group doesn't seem to have the vibes you need and excuse yourself from the space BEFORE you get involved in any potential blow-ups. I cannot say enough for going slow and being *cautious* but not *suspicious*. I often feel suspicious; I now endeavor to never make that suspicion the problem of any of the other people in a space, because it is an impediment to making genuine connections.

Go in with a plan on how to care for and honor yourself if you are mistreated: Many people have noted that it's possible to incur further relational trauma in hobby/community spaces and that's absolutely true. Unfortunately that's a risk that comes free with being a social animal. Be aware of this and don't deny it or squash down any feelings of discomfort, but have a set of boundaries at the outset about what you'll tolerate and what will make you bounce. Once you're more deeply embedded, think about what kind of thing you're comfortable addressing with other people. In determining if a community is relationally safe, its really important to pay attention to how harm is addressed -- if the answer is "not at all," that's very important information, because harm happens in every relationship and community and it is important to be able to express and work through that without huge blowups happening. I look for people who are really casual about this, which sounds weird, but like... people who do not see "there is an issue" as a Scary Indictment of themselves or their space are the kind of people I wanna be around. I wanna be around people who remain levelheaded and chill about repairing ruptures and who see it as Normal and an expected part of participating in social spaces. This part isn't ALWAYS true, but: a lot of times I find that a certain kind of older woman is really good at this. It can be hard to pick up on when you are just getting started but over time you'll learn the little clues in people's interactions that let you know they're not going to be reactive or explode if someone tells them something they don't love to hear. Older people often have more *practice* maintaining long-term positive relationships, simply because of the amount of time they've had to do so, which I think can be really helpful if you're a young person.

I also look at the structure of the group and leadership. Is it really rigidly hierarchical? is leadership really authoritarian? These will not be spaces that help heal relational trauma. I look for spaces that don't make newcomers run any sort of gauntlet or prove themselves. This doesnt mean they all immediately have to accept every single new person or deny the knowledge or expertise experience has lent them, just that no one is trying to Dominate you simply because you're new. Look for spaces where people are excited for newcomers and excited to help people participate and learn.

Ummm.

I can't think of anything else now but feel free to add stuff if you have other tips you have found helpful for safely participating in new communities as someone with relational trauma! :)

#as someone often housebound I'm in a few discord communities #and I tend to like those that have clear rules that are neither too restrictive nor.. lackluster #and where there's a clearly stated way to address problems or ask for clarification #that's obviously something specific to online spaces #and I also monitor how moderation reacts to rule breaking #the more welcoming communities seem to be.. humanising

pinniposting

“get a job” nope im splashing in da pool

via

deathwarlock

meet me under the pier we are going beast mode

#video #seals #audio is splashing #q

creekfiend

Ok finally the rupture and repair post!!!

Rupture & repair is the most important thing to be able to do in a relationship, imo. Ruptures are not always one person acting in a way that directly causes harm to another person (they can also involve more than one person; we all have experiences of friend groups rupturing;) more frequently they are patterns of unaddressed hurt that build up over the course of a relationship when communication is poor and conversations about harm and disconnect are focused on saving face and avoiding the feeling of guilt. This is very hard to train yourself out of, in my experience, particularly when one has relational trauma. Conflict can feel like the absolute end of the world, and admitting that anything you did might have hurt someone you care about is like putting your hand on a hot stove. It's easy to respond reactively and defensively when having conversations that involve conflict, disagreement, frustration, or anger. Or even when someone is simply giving you the information "this thing you did hurt me," because when you are relationally traumatized (most people are to some degree imo) that feels like an attack. And "feels like" is not meant to be dismissive here -- the way our nervous systems respond to perceived threats is VERY real and physiological. That's what makes these patterns so hard to change. Often this means that one needs some degree of stability and safety in order to do this with the least amount of pain, but I have found ways to hack the way I think about it which allow me to reframe how I experience receiving this information, and I think this might be useful to others as well.

Most people want to have genuine, trusting and positive connections with their friends & loved ones. Most people do not want to have dysfunctional and conflict-filled relationships wherein nothing can ever be productively discussed. Assume your goal is that you want to hurt the people in your life the least amount possible, and be able to respond to the hurts that do inevitably occur in such a way that it does not weaken the relationship. You also want the other person to do the same; you want this to go both ways. You want to feel safe being able to talk to the people in your life about the impact their behavior has had on you without getting attacked or guilt tripped or punished.

In order to repair (and ultimately reduce!) interpersonal harm you cause, you have to know when it happens and what specific behavior has caused it. The only way to get this information is directly from the people who have experienced the harm, which necessitates those people being comfortable giving you that information. When people do not feel comfortable giving you that information in the moment in a way that allows for correction and repair, you are likely to only find out about the ways in which you are harming people when those people leave. In general, we don't want the people in our lives who we care about to leave. Therefore it is beneficial to proactively try to ensure that the people in our lives are comfortable coming to us with this information. If you are successful doing this, it has the knock-on benefit of modelling for others that these conversations are not scary, and in fact build trust and intimacy when done with care.

So, how do we create a relational atmosphere which lets the people we care about know that we can be trusted not to punish them when they share this information with us? This is the tricky part! It involves a lot of trial and error, and of course our own behavior is not the only factor; most people with relational trauma will feel an aversion to being honest with someone who has hurt them simply based on past experiences, and this often will be true regardless of who they are interacting with. I pretty much only interact with fairly profoundly traumatized people, so this part is important for me to keep in mind. I don't just want to make the experience of sharing this information feel safe, I want it to feel rewarding. I want to behave in ways that encourage it. Again, there is the knock-on effect of modelling this behavior for others: responding gracefully and productively to conflicts shows other people how that can be done, and shows that the results are preferable to trying to make every conflict into a Dominance Battle, which encourages them to try to do the same. If you get two people who are both genuinely trying to do this with one another, you can really speedrun the process of unlearning conflict trauma! So my first piece of advice is: buddy up! Find people who you trust who want to practice this with you.

That all said, here is my personal process, which is geared towards asynchronous communication but which has some utility for phone or in person convos as well:

1. Upon receipt of information, monitor my body. Typically receiving information that my behavior has hurt someone will trigger some pretty Big Bad Feelings; I have learned to identify the specific physiological reactions my nervous system triggers when this happen (for me it's usually a feeling of like, my chest feeling "empty" often combined with that sinking in the gut, I frequently feel a weird "disconnect" behind my eyes, my heart rate picks up and my breathing becomes tighter, etc.)

2. If the aforementioned things happen, take a moment to close my eyes and breathe deeply a few times.

3. Immediately thank the other person for telling me and let them know I need a little bit of time to think about what they have told me before responding. It helps me to have a script for this ahead of time so that I don't accidentally inject my statement with any of my Big Bad Feelings.

4. Having disengaged for the time being, I do all the stuff I usually do to put my nervous system back into parasympathetic mode: have a snack, listen to calming music/sing, curl up with a comfy blanket, ask my partner to hold me (coregulation is sooooo. helpful.)

5. Often I will brainstorm about the situation with my partner or another trusted friend. It's important to do this in a way that isn't just bad faith sniping about the worst possible framing of what the other person is telling you or reacting to, because that can be very tempting, especially when you haven't practiced this a lot. I usually go with, "here's a brief description of what I thought I was doing/saying and the context. Here is how the other person received it. Here is how I am feeling about that and some of my theories as to why those feelings are coming up right now." Talking things through with someone is only helpful if that person is willing to challenge you/won't feel pressured to "take your side"! Its very important to have that kind of person in your life.

6. Speaking of taking sides: I consciously remind myself, repeatedly, that this is not a battle. There aren't sides. My goal is preserving and strengthening my relationship with this person. My goal is responding in such a way that they do not regret providing me with the information they have given me.

7. I usually draft some thoughts in a notes doc and periodically update it over the course of a day or two while I process the situation. Important to keep the other person informed about how this is going so they do not feel they're being ignored -- I will usually say something like "hey just checking in, I'm still thinking about what you said earlier and I really want to make sure I take the time I need to respond with the care it deserves" and give them a rough ETA for when I think I'll be able to do that.

8. I edit/polish my response and send it. Responses can be apologies or not; sometimes the other person is not asking for one, sometimes the context is such that one is not required, but it's smart to read up on how to apologize well and apply those techniques to your reply, even if it is not technically an apology. It's possible to come to the conclusion that you did not Behave Badly and still say "I'm really really sorry that my words hurt you," or "I really regret how that interaction went," etc, and it's important to follow it up with a description of what you think happened wherein you restate and validate their experience of the interaction or behavior. Its important too to stay curious in the reply: "I think in the future it would be better if I handled situations like this in this other way, what do you think?" and so on. This step is more vague than the others bc it truly depends on the situation/context/other person. If I have genuinely Behaved Badly vs a miscommunication (and this is one of the things I reflect on when I am Taking Time: to me, having Behaved Badly means I have acted out of step with my values in a way that I want to globally correct. Miscommunications etc mean I want to correct my behavior *with this person* going forward, because I have been given information about how they are receiving my behavior that shows me that it is not effective in maintaining trust. The distinction is important bc it determines what work I do internally) then I will be specific about that: "that was really inconsiderate of me, I prioritized my own comfort over being fair to you about your experience, because it was easier for me," etc. With miscommunications it will often look more like "I was trying to say x, but it's clear I didn't do that successfully; thank you so much for telling me that so I can adjust how I do things in the future and I'm very sorry I hurt you." <- even with miscommunications wherein you have not actually acted counter to your own values, it is important not to do the Bad Apology "sorry you felt that way" thing!!! Bad Behavior vs Miscommunication is a distinction I find helpful to make FOR ME in my own head. It's not one that needs to be expressed to the other person.

9. Ideally, in this response you're also modelling how you want the other person to approach this discussion: thoughtfully and with care and curiosity for your feelings and experiences. Don't be defensive about behavior you don't want to defend. Keep in mind that this is not a personal attack and you're not under threat. This is a chance to prove to someone that they can trust you. It is an opportunity.

10. None of this addresses that sometimes people with relational trauma will object to your behavior and demand apologies and behavior change as a power play or attempt at coercive control. Those situations are tricky and responding to them depends a whole lot on your relationship with that person. Remember that the point of a response/apology is not to grovel and fawn; it is to repair. This makes it important to keep in mind your own boundaries. Sometimes people in my life who are also working on healing relational trauma will share information like "seeing you say x made me feel y" and they're referring to, like, behavior wherein I assert my right to do something like "express frustration," and in those cases I will usually say "it makes a lot of sense that you'd feel that way; here is where I'm coming from when I make statements like that" and then express curiosity about where the feelings are coming from. These situations aren't the same as someone saying "the way you treated me hurt me," but they're ways you can troubleshoot trauma responses with friends with similar experiences without anyone feeling Bad for their reactions, if that makes sense. I hope it does, I know a lot of this is kind of vague.

Crucially: you can't be saying any of this to placate the other person. You have to actually synthesize the information they give you and apply it to interactions and behavior going forward. This is the part that ultimately proves you are trustworthy.

Something that's also helped me get better at this is practicing how to let people know they have hurt ME in a way that's kind and productive! Often I can shape those sorts of statements in such a way that encourages a thoughtful rather than defensive response (reiterating that I understand why they behaved a certain way while not downplaying the impact it had on me, saying that I know it might be tough information to hear & that I understand if they need to take some time to process it, etc.) which also gives them a model for approaching me about any harm I might do them in the future. It's collaborative!

That's all I can think of rn. If anyone wishes to add thoughts or expand on anything based on their own experiences please feel free to do so; obviously this account is based only on my own, but I really hope it provides at least some framework for how people might consider approaching these things in their own lives.

#communication #collaborative relationships #yeah I think I'm trying to do basically that #if not so.. in focus?#like it's more fuzzy in my mind and my approach #maybe this can help me make it clearer and more focused #if course I'm trying to make my relationships constructive and strong and respectful

creekfiend

anyway I should have this t shirt and so should @thebibliosphere

thebibliosphere

It’s a legitimate need tbh

#art #T-Shirt #I'll take two

makomoriz

no i don't. cheers

artisanmoon

“so many stories” where are the stories i want the stories

#... no?#I'm not even aro or ace #I just have hobbies and interests

uptowngirl-31

Mehrzweckeier ist jetzt offiziell das jugendwort des volkes

#jugendwort der Herzen

nonlynear

sorry about me. or youre welcome. depending

#:3

idionymon

Wish I was a late bronze age girl

I would have my homeland invaded by the sea peoples. I would be lain siege to by the sea peoples. My cities would be sacked by the sea peoples. I would make bronze tools and pottery. My shores would be invaded by the mysterious sea peoples. I would be mustering my armies to fend off the sea peoples.

screaming-weevil

#xd

vincentpriceofficial

I think for a lot of people “I am completely helpless and powerless” and “I am completely powerful and in control” are both basically comforting fantasies because most of us live our lives in an in between place where we have enough agency to be responsible for our actions but not enough agency to have true control over our lives and the tension between power and powerlessness in the day to day is psychologically wearing and exhausting

#yeah

anordinaryseal

#seal #comic #art #eyes #play

baked-fish

I hate to say "some of you don't go outside," but fucking Christ, dude

hunbunqueen

Ouuhh I see the water it’s right there on the post,, I’m so thirsty ouyghhhhhw just one sip for me ooouuuuuu

baked-fish

Girl, what are you talking about? Are you feeling alright?

beneaththegildedmoon

Btw the heat *is* why we see water that's not really there, but mirages aren't exactly hallucinations so much as optical illusions:

It's just the changing density of the air refracting light weirdly, so it looks like there's a reflection of the sky on the ground, which our brains often interpret as a pool of water. It can also happen upwards instead of downwards, especially at sea, when the air is much colder near the surface and a warm front appears above it:

Which, btw, is one possible explanation for ghost ship sightings, so that's fun :)

rainbowgod666

Yeap. That's how the Effetto Fata Morgana gappens

ausefulblogforputtingthingsin

If you drive on a straight road in the summer you can see mirages pretty easily.

Here's Fata Morgana

#.. have those people never seen that in real life? nor photos? before #maybe I'm getting old

wouldyoueatthisfood

Would you eat this?

I would eat this

I would not eat this

I have eaten this (positive)

I have eaten this (negative)

Remaining time: 1 day 13 hours

Food: German potato salad

Ingredients: red potatoes, bacon, apple cider vinegar, sugar, Dijon mustard, salt, black pepper, garlic, parsley

#.... where is the vegetable stock?#I can excuse the lack of gherkins #I can excuse the bacon and sugar #I can welcome the garlic and probably the mustard #and replacing the chives with parsley is okay if my sister isn't there #but no vegetable stock?!?!? that's not a real potato salad!#also where's the (spring) onions?#so yeah I'd eat that but it's not a real German potato salad #but at least there's no dairy in it

hellenhighwater

This may sound silly, but i LOVE how you've set up the guest room. Stunning decór aside, the basket with guest items is quite kind and considerate. It's got a charger and everything. I just think it's very cool that you've made the guest space so welcoming, and I hope you have many fun times with loved ones who get to use it.

Thanks! I visited a family friend once as a college student and she had a guest basket waiting for me, and I was obsessed--it was such a thoughtful hosting gesture.

Obviously there's no one-size-fits all way to do this, but I love that it's something you can put together even if your guest is crashing on the couch. I try to stock mine with a mix of items that are commonly-forgotten items, toiletries that someone staying over unexpectedly might want, and a few little treats. Also permanently stored in the guest room are several extra blankets, a window AC unit (my house does not have central AC, so this is good for summer nights), a small space heater, and a portable fan, so whoever is staying over can get the temperature to what they like.