a love story starring a pure-hearted nutjob of a male virgin

[unadulteratedhideouttrash]

[muttsandmustelidae]

haha yeah man female dogs are bitchy and female horses are bitchy and female cats are bitchy and female ferrets are bitchy and female rats are bitchy and female guinea pigs are bitchy and female birds are bitchy and female rabbits are bitchy and female everything is bitchy. lol! isn’t it so funny how you think that! isn’t it so silly that this is your perception of literally every species! haha! i’m sure there’s nothing to unpack there! i’m sure you’re 100% accurate and unbiased in your conclusion that female animals are just inherently evil! i’m sure you have very normal thoughts about human women too! teehee! isn’t everyone laughing! isn’t it so goofy!

[storybookprincess]

probably my most powerful interpersonal communication hack is to, whenever possible, ask either/or questions rather than yes/no questions

for example, when chatting with coworkers, i’ll often ask if they have any fun weekend plans. but let’s be real - we all feel like friendless losers when someone asks that question and we go “uhhhhh… no.” so instead, i phrase it as “so, do you have anything fun planned over the weekend, or are you just going to enjoy having some time to relax?”

phrased like this, there’s rarely any awkwardness. you’ve presented two options & given both equally positive connotations, so your conversational partner has an automatic “out,” so to speak

but it works for higher stakes conversations too!!!! my mom was saying this weekend how she and her neighbor both like walking around the neighborhood & that she wanted to suggest they take a walk together sometime, but was worried about how to approach the conversation

so i said “how about you just say ‘i’ve noticed we both like taking walks! would you be interested in going for one together, or do you use walks for some precious alone time?’”

now Walking Neighbor has an automatic “get out of jail free card” if she wants to say no!!!! which means my mom doesn’t have to worry about the conversation being uncomfortable, because she’s set it up to go smoothly

either/or questions rather than yes/no questions. it is really like magic

[some-stars]

this is a great technique specifically when you're asking someone a question and worried they'll feel pressured to say yes when they don't want to. if you preload the no as an option, that indicates to them (especially if you can also use nonjudgmental/affirming tone, body language, and phrasing) that it's acceptable to you for them to choose it. this is basically the Walking Neighbor example in OP, but i want to be explicit that this is a really useful way to avoid guilt over unintentionally pressuring people, if that's something you worry about. phrasing asks like this has reduced so much of anxiety about "what if they're only saying yes because they feel bad telling me no?" when i make it clear that saying no to my ask is socially safe, i can trust someone's yes.

(the walking neighbor example works so well because you haven't just offered them a "no," you've cast that "no" in a really positive light--it's not them denying you something, it's them doing self-care in a way you respect! people almost always feel better if the negative/passive option can be recast as positive/active, because western culture is so judgmental of passivity and not Maxxing every second of every day.)

[galesong]

This is crazyy good for her

[mxtxremix]

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[busket]

he's gonna die one day soon and it wont fix everything but it'll feel great and the whole world is gonna fucking party together

[busket]

no it applies to one man and you know exactly who I'm talking about

[kitschlet]

hey, does anyone know where i can buy a pride flag besides amazon or walmart? like any queer people selling them?

[kitschlet]

by the way y'all i did find a good place to get a pride flag! i got one from this etsy shop BiProducts, which supports a free nonprofit quarterly publication by and for bi, pan and queer women, and they sent it to me with a really sweet handwritten note

[kitschlet]

#the reason i needed one was of course so i could hold it up in the crowd at a figure skating event

forgot to update with the thrilling conclusion of this story. here is a montage of ME, kitsch, at the 2025 world figure skating championships (you do have to turn your brightness up. and maybe zoom in.)

[kitschlet]

okay i started writing a post on how you can keep following figure skating after the olympics and i will finish it if people want but i worried i was getting too bogged down in unimportant details, so here is the QUICK AND DIRTY VERSION:

watch the world championships from march 25-29. a lot of competitors skip worlds after the olympics, but ilia malinin and alysa liu have said they will be there.

check out your local summer skating tours/shows. in the US and canada we have stars on ice (US link, canada link). if you live in an east asian country like japan or korea you should also have local ice shows. this will be your chance to see your faves perform live!

in the fall, watch the grand prix series, starting (usually) with skate america. these are 6 international competitions held in six of the major figure skating countries (USA, canada, france, japan, china, and finland). top six skaters from the GPs go to the grand prix final, which is lowkey the best competition of the year.

following the grand prix series every country holds their respective national championships, and then you have the european championships, four continents championships (basically for everyone but europe), and the world championships.

these competitions will be streamed by your local figure skating broadcaster (peacock in the US). you can also find them on the SkatingISU youtube channel, but it's geoblocked anywhere that already has a local broadcaster. you can use a paid VPN set to some random country in eastern europe, or a classic skating fan hack is to download the browser opera, enable the free VPN in the settings and set it to europe.

the full schedule for the season and detailed streaming info can be found on SYWTWFS. i highly recommend subscribing to their google calendar to get all figure skating events on your calendar in your own time zone!

enjoy!!

[kitschlet]

yo since this is getting some notes again just want to update that since i wrote it, alysa has dropped out of worlds! but kaori sakamoto has confirmed that she's going!

i guess if you like alysa you'll have to watch the grand prix series in the fall and get invested in the whole figure skating season... oh nooo.....

[kitschlet]

hi just wanted to jump on here and say worlds starts tomorrow! the first event is the women's short program, which starts at 6:30am EST, but worlds is a LONNNGGGGGG competition and there is no shame in not watching all of it. if you're a new FS fan, six warmup groups can feel like a lot (and even if you're not a new fan... even when i was at worlds in person last year i skipped some of the rhythm dance. it's just a lot)

if you want to make sure you won't miss your faves, you can check the start order, schedule, and live results HERE! (if you click "time schedule" you can see when each skater will compete).

side note, that isuresults website design has not changed at all in the 16 years i've been a skating fan and i find it so comforting. i hope it's exactly that charmingly web 1.0 forever

[ashenmind]

“none of these words are in the bible” is definitely one of my least favorite tumblrisms

like in increasing order of annoyance, you are simultaneously

unfunny

wrong

christian

[kitschlet]

if you notice me on here a lot more it's because i just moved across six states and i have quite literally no friends (so far. i mean i'll make some it's just only been like a week and a half)

[kibumkim]

[maelwife]

Check out this website I found while I was researching where to buy a giant toothbrush

GreatBigStuff is a brand name and registered trademark associated with and describes a unique line of products that are oversized replicas o

[maelwife]

These are my favorite products

[maelwife]

[creekfiend]

a friend's coworker was just diagnosed with immune itp bc he showed up at the ER with bruises and they took his blood and the platelet count was zero. as in none. white blood cells normal. platelets Zero. and apparently his immune system just ate them

as always the human immune system is not beating the "overactive HOA that explodes the whole subdivision bc someone put up a basketball hoop in their driveway" allegations

I really hate that it can just be looking around and go "hmmm I don't like the cut of this guy's jib" and the guy is YOUR OWN BLOOD

I was also reminded recently about the eyes having "immune privilege" meaning your immune system isn't really supposed to Go There bc your eyeball tissue is so delicate that inflammation and higher temperatures would destroy the tissue. so your body is just like. "don't look over there. nothing to be concerned about. nothing to see here" about. your eyes. to prevent your immune system from EXPLODING THE SUBDIVISION

human immune system fascinating (derogatory)

[creekfiend]

the recent thing where they think that maybe the rise in autoimmune disorders in ""developed"" countries may be due to the fact that our immune systems evolved to deal with a constant parasite load and we don't really have that. so they're just sort of attacking other stuff instead. and then the idea to try and solve this using WORM IMMUNE PROTEINS. is very delightful to me. it's like pretending to throw a ball for your dog. LOOK BOY! WORMS! GO GET IT!!!

[fittingoutjane]

True about the worms. Unfortunately, this fact has drifted into the popular understanding of science in a dangerously distorted way: People think it's just "germs" rather than specifically parasites. They think that minor viral infections help keep the immune system tuned correctly.

In fact, that's completely wrong. Our bodies did NOT evolve to endure anything remotely like the constant onslaught of viral pathogens that modern humans endure. It's the combination of few to no parasitic infections and far too many viral infections that increases the incidence of allergies and autoimmune conditions.

But over and over again I hear, "Oh, all these allergies are because we're too clean nowadays, let the kids get colds." Which is like trying to put out a fire by pouring gasoline on it.

[creekfiend]

oh yes absolutely, people don't understand the difference between 1. parasite load (thing you actually probably don't want your kid to have) 2. exposure to everyday bacteria and fungi present in our environment (good!) 3. exposure to potential food or environmenttal allergens like peanuts etc (also good!) and 4. exposure to viruses (NOT GOOD ACTUALLY)

[the-tenth-arcanum]

🗣🗣🗣 free youtube premiere of the national theatre the importance of being ernest announced!

nationaltheatre

[true-bluesargent]

the thing is is that you'll be like. 11 years old and someone will tell you that you have to shave your legs. either it will be your mum or a friend or a mean girl in the p.e. changing rooms telling you how gross it is that you have hair on your legs. so then you ask your mum about it and she says yep you have to take this razor blade and drag it across your skin under running water and just hope you don't cut yourself too badly and you have to do this every single week and maybe more frequently than that and you have to do that for fucking ever. the rest of your fucking life. because the hair that grows naturally on your legs is gross and ugly and people will laugh and boys won't like you! of course boys have hair on THEIR legs. but that's normal and even attractive and it's just not the same for you. and a few years later they'll say well you obviously should also be shaving your armpits. and then it's your arms and then it's that you have to wax your upper lip and pluck your eyebrows and ewww why do you have hair on your fingers and your toes.. you need to shave that too. and then suddenly you need to buy spray that will make invisible hairs on your face visible so that you can shave that too! and it's expensive and time consuming and difficult and it HURTS but they just say beauty is pain babe! and you're not allowed to say that maybe if beauty is pain then you don't actually want to be beautiful

[true-bluesargent]

and i'm so fucking tired of girls who do shave being defensive when this topic comes up because then i have to say well of COURSE it's your personal choice whether you want to shave or not! no offense! maybe it makes you feel empowered! you do it for YOURSELF! because that's bullshit and i actually DO think you should stop shaving your legs because it's not fucking empowering it's insane. if you give it more than a minute of thought it can't possibly be empowering. you're in a PRISON!!!!! and i was in the prison too okay and i know it seems hard to break out but i promise you it's not. and the more people we can break out of the prison the easier it gets for everyone else i swear to god. please