KrissyTransMom

A trans woman in her early 50s • Under 18 DNI Ask are open • pan and poly • will block empty/creepy blogs

[krissytransmom]

Me...

I figured that putting a little bit more detailed information here would be helpful for people. Know that I post all kinds of stuff. Stuff I like, stuff I am passionate about, stuff I am horny for, and stuff that makes me mad.

I am a transgender woman.

While looking back I can see the signs all the way back to age 8, I did not crack my egg until Summer 2022 so I am relatively new. On HRT for 7 months. I love it and will talk you ear off about how wonderful it is. I am mostly out at this point. My immediate family are supportive, my extended family are mostly supportive. My job is trying to be supportive, but is nervous and not really sure how to I think. I legally changed my name and gender in the States so I can talk about that process too if you like.

I am married.

My wife is super supportive of my transition. I am crazy lucky. We have been together for more then a couple of decades and even though it has turned into more of a deep intimate friendship, we both love each other very much

Well I have to re-write that... turns out that what I thought was being supportive was keeping me around because I did everything for her. I cooked, I cleaned, I worked, I paid all of the bills, I drove her wherever she needed to go. Basically I have been emotionally abused and used for 3 decades.

I am poly.

I have a lot of love and hugs and snuggles and kisses to give!!! I have a wonderful girlfriend/pet and working on training a pretty dolly to be part of my polycule too

I am in my early 50s.

I know some people around here like that idea -winks- and others do not. I know that when people are pretty young (20s) I am reluctant to be one that starts anything teasing because of social norms, but I actually HATE social norms. -giggles-

What I lights me up

I love snuggles and caring. I like hypnosis. I am a hypnodomme to two pretty girls. I can be submissive but only to certain people. I am super lucky and have a special Kitty in my life that owns the keys to my mind and is also one of my best friends. She is my owner and I am her pet, but she likes for me to play with others too.

What turns me off

Referring to me in male terms. | Making it all about sex. It feels strange saying that sex is a turn off, but I need some connection with someone before I can want to run my nails or teeth over someone's skin -smiles- | sissy/degradation/misogyny

I still have a lot of privilege.

I may be a fat transgender woman but I know I also still have a lot of privilege left to me. I am white, older, educated, have a stable job, neurotypical, able bodied and have a supportive family. I try to use it for good. I still have my limits of knowledge and power, but I usually know when to shut up and let others speak and I know to try and speak up when others cannot.

I am a big proponent for mental heath. (TW depression, anxiety, self harm)

I spent most of my life hating myself and believing I did not belong in the world. Even though I did not actually understand I was transgender until a couple of years ago, that pain of not fitting in and hating yourself was there. I will happily talk about hitting rock bottom, reaching out for help, doing the hard long work of healing and finally learning to love myself. I will try in the future to tag these somehow so people can skip them.

[kirinandvlindertje]

“transition poses some ethical questions. Such as, from what age should you be allowed to irreversibly change your body.“

This of course completely ignores the fact that puberty makes irreversible changes to your body. But let us just rephrase the question: “from what age do you gain bodily autonomy?” Now it gets very easy to answer: From the moment you’re fucking born.

[puppyprivilege-deactivated20151]

I’m sorry, I’m reblogging this twice in a row it is that important

[numinous-queer]

Stand up and say it again for the people in the back row. 

[drtanner]

This is all completely true and correct, of course, but on the topic of changes that irreversibly change a child’s body, prithee, go and talk to a fucking ballet dancer.

If you start ballet at 16, you are too old to ever expect to be able to do it seriously. If you start at 12 you’re too old. If you want to do ballet as a serious thing, as a career, you need to start at like eight years old or even younger, because your bones and joints need to be trained while they’re still flexible in order for you to be able to perform many of the required motions and stances of ballet. In particular, you need to be able to perform turnout of the hips, but all of your joints in your legs and feet will be affected, and this irreversibly changes your body.

And yet! Nobody talks about this as a negative thing! Little girls say they want to be ballet dancers, and if their parents have enough money, that’s what they get to be! Does it cause problems in later life? Yeah, sometimes! Often, even! But nobody talks about that because it’s a thing for cis people to do and so naturally it’s all fine!

Go and talk to a fucking ballet dancer.

[roni-not-tyler]

I was a ballet dancer (among other styles of dance) for 10-11 years, starting at age 6-7ish. I loved it, but not enough to make a career out of it. Dance was just a way to exercise is a fun way.

By the time I was done dancing at age 18, I had been through physical therapy for 3 separate issues caused by ballet. The worst one was because of how my hips and muscles developed and it cause discomfort in my knees so bad that I couldn’t walk very far without pain, much less climb stairs. One time at a pt session, a neighboring patient, who was elderly, said I was “too young to be here”. I was in middle school so I rolled my eyes. It was/is funny to me.

I am 23 now, and I still get stiff in some places, and I’m sure it is related to dancing as a kid. I snap, crackle, and pop like Rice Krispies.

I have no regrets because ballet and was a big part of my life. I just know that it will have long term effects on my body and there is nothing I can do to change it.

I didn’t know that ballet would affect me physically the way it did, but I still did it. If somebody wants to transition and goes in knowing and wanting the changes they will experience, then they should be allowed to do it.

[drowsy-corpsegirl]

The Dom should be praised too

[drowsy-corpsegirl]

Take care of your doms. Praise them. Make them feel cared for and loved. Or you don't deserve them.

[drowsy-corpsegirl]

This applies doubly, x10 tbh, to transfemme doms. You NEED to be nice to her, you NEED to let her know she is doing a good job. That transfemme dom might have a lot of issues with her self worth, she may have been used up and left a discarded husk so many times.

Sorry but I got sick of scrolling through the notes on this on desktop and seeing all the red usernames marked by shinigami eyes reblogging this.

I'm a transfemme dom and I'm proud of it. Take care of us. Love us.

[drowsy-corpsegirl]

And then no one reblogged this version

[krissytransmom]

I am a trans woman domme and I am very fortunate that my pet does a really great job of making sure I am cared for.

[2pretty-2butch]

As usual jen giving us the real take

[krissytransmom]

I think if I ever see this and do not reblog it then I must be dead.

[daughter-of-sapph0]

tranny isn't your word, it belongs to trans women

[pollsforadults]

Spin the wheel. Now, imagine you're on a first date with someone who says they`re a [result]. How does this affect the odds of a second date?

100% guarantee I'll want a second date

It's significantly more likely

The odds don't change

It's significantly less likely

There wont be a second date. Absolutely not

Voting ended onJun 13

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(anon submission)

[analog-delight]

i think you should have to come out as cis or straight. stop assuming it's the default and everything else is a deviation.

[analog-delight]

you can reblog this btw. make cis people feel uncomfortable about assuming they are "normal" and we are "other". make straight people feel uncomfortable assuming they are "regular" and we are "deviant".

[cortexcollapse]

Wouldn't it be intoxicating if your hypnotist could create different versions of you inside your own mind?

Imagine them being able to summon whichever version they're in the mood for just by calling her forward. If they feel like being a gentle handler, they draw out your eager little puppy self. If they want to experience the thrill of possession, they awaken the toy version of you, the one that is pliant, responsive and waiting to be used. If the house needs tending, they simply switch on the devoted maid within, ready to serve with enough proud to make a professional maid jealous.

All those selves already exist inside you… they just choose which one gets to step into the light.

[krissytransmom]

This is exactly what I am hypnotically training my pet to be. To be able to pull out of her the modes that I want to play with. A cute nuzzly girl, a silly little brat, a mindless bimbo, slave girl trained with named poses, cow ready to be milked and bred, all of this and more am I teaching her to become. I love it, she loves it. gods owning a girl is so beautiful.

[maidslime]

Saw a post that said "if you call yourself a misandrist then I know you're weird about trans women who don't pass" and like. Those are women. Like if someone is a piece of shit to non passing trans women that's transphobia. Not some made up oppression for the men. Trans women are women. Stop trying to claim otherwise.

[hauntedfragmentgeode]

Queer unity has been trying as hard as possible to downplay any possible transfem issue. Pay gap adding up to thousands a year? Not a big deal. V coding? Never mention it. Trans women are much more likely to be sent to an early grave than their male counterparts? Stop bringing that up. Trans people collaborating with kiwifarms? Just internet drama.

You know what IS an important issue? Getting called a fucking birthday boy. They get all hands on deck about it. They will write VERY long posts about how important it is you not use it, and that anyone who does must be punished as severely as possible

There's only one explanation. The lives of trans women are so worthless to them, so fucking disposable, that a trans man getting invalidated is actually more important to them. That's how these people, who demand we view them as family and allies, who think we should be ready to die for them, view us.

I know people who treat house flies with more respect than that.

[carriebeepo]

forever reminded of this fucking yt reply i got in a thread abt transmisogyny, this kinda attitude is so common. even when you do bring up shit that disproportionately or exclusively affects transfems the response is "what abt me" or downplaying it

[claire-the-apocalypse]

"Damn, v-coding sounds terrible... I hope they don't do that to trans men, too!" Because obviously it's *bad* when it happens to trans women, but oh dear god, THINK OF THE TRANS MEN that this might hypothetically happen to in a different situation!! I'm going to fucking cry. Trans women are so unvalued, these people look at the reality that trans women have to wake up to every single day, and they respond with "yeah, it's terrible when the sex slave gets raped. That must really hurt! But god, imagine if a HUMAN was raped instead? HORROR!"

[celestedarlings]

I <3 lifestyle kink

I <3 kink that doesn’t end after a scene is over

I <3 kink that helps structure a relationship and how I show love for my partner all the time, not just in the bedroom or during sex

I <3 kink that can’t fit into the BDSM 101 classes because all of its edges resist being blunted for beginners

I <3 kink that isn’t all playing pretend, kink that’s playing with the true and messy parts of ourselves, where the power dynamic is deeper than the roleplay and rooted in something very very real

I <3 lifestyle kink and the way that deviants fall in love

[krissytransmom]

I love it too!

This is exactly what my pet and I have settled into. I love her so fucking much and she is also my 24/7 property. I love how the dynamic and the relationship is so intertwined that it is almost impossible to see where one ends and the other begins. I love my pet so fucking much and I cannot wait to see her in a few days!

[maidslime]

Saw a post that said "if you call yourself a misandrist then I know you're weird about trans women who don't pass" and like. Those are women. Like if someone is a piece of shit to non passing trans women that's transphobia. Not some made up oppression for the men. Trans women are women. Stop trying to claim otherwise.

[interestingmistakes]

Reblogging this manually. Op doesn't want credit for fear of being terminated.

[puppetattack]

hi its puppet again.. 8th time in 48 hours now? idfk. its so tired. it made FIVE posts on its last blog and it got deleted the second it checked its asks this morning :(

please. its a homeless and disabled trans women, living purely off tumblr donations. this is all it has. sigh.. paypal here if you can help, as always.. rb to help n stuff..

puppet loves you.. it just wants to make any connections and chill but they dont even give it enough time to check its asks at this point.

please be nice to it...

[tamamoland-with-a-gun]

happy pride month everybody my friend is being specifically targeted by staff and the rest of these kiwifarms rejects because they smell blood in the water and are desperate to get a kill to their name

[komorebigold]

Uhhh. How'd that happen?

[More Comics]

[komorebigold]

Made a tumblr exclusive edition of the comic. Just for the haha funnies... not any other reason.

[enbaluka-tokyo-drift]

[catboybiologist]

After some years of HRT I've been left with this deep, low simmering rage. Because what do you mean it was always this easy to be happy

[catboybiologist]

I take a shot once a week, and even if that was too much, I could do it as pills, and so many of my problems just evaporated overnight.

And not one person thought to bring it up.

When I was talking about how horrifying puberty felt. When I was cutting myself. When I was in inpatient care. When I attempted suicide. When I talked for YEARS in therapy about how dissociated and trapped I felt in my body. When I felt like I never truly fixed something that was deeply wrong about me that started at puberty.

Not one person said it was a possibility. No one thought "hey, maybe this kid should go to someone trained to identify dysphoria". No one mentioned that trans people weren't some weird other group of people. It didn't have to be pressure. It didn't have to be "forcing" me. Just mentioning that trans people exist and it could be me. That it was possible and it was easy. No pushing, just laying the option out there.

HRT is treated like this last ditch option. This horrific, mutilating thing that I GUESS we can give to you if you have NO OTHER options. Because did you know it's permanent? Did you know you'll be on it for the rest of your life? Did you know the health risks? Did you know it'll make you infertile? Did you know that it's deviant? Did you know that it's an alternative lifestyle for other people?

No one said it was okay to WANT it to be permanent. Or noted that most people are reliant on the medical system in one way or the other anyways (and it's not even necessary for HRT). Or that the health risks are the normal parts of having that hormone, even in cis people of your gender. Or said it was okay to not want kids, or mention that you can just freeze gametes. Or acknowledged that the "deviant" people are just people, living their lives, that have been violently pushed out of "normal" society.

I grew up in an area that Republicans mock for being a kind of "woke central". And even then it's just. Not treated as an easy option. It was never on the table if you don't specifically already know you're going through gender stuff, and no one will help you get to that point. At which point, it's still treated like the last ditch option. Did you know you can be a feminine man? Did you know you can slap a "she/her" in your twitter bio and be done with it? Did you know that you're oh-so-valid without it? Did you know that you shouldn't take HRT? Maybe don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't ta-

When you've been in it a while, HRT is the easiest, most casual thing in the world. Just pop a shot on a Saturday as part of your "everything shower" routine and you're done.

Anyways. Support trans kids always and forever.