I'm a huge nerd. I love Disney, Supernatural, Doctor Who, Harry Potter, Marvel movies (haven't gotten into the comics yet), Star Wars, Star Trek, and so much more.
Worse, it's our asbestos. It's being put into things we're going to have to keep using long after everyone has to finally accept it was a bad idea, in such a way it will be almost impossible to remove.
Radium suppositories and asbestos might both be in museums but the radium's in the exhibits, the asbestos is in the walls.
my dad (Maori) works on a ship with all Maori/Tongan/Samoan fisherman- and one Aussie guy called Jake.
And that wasn't done on purpose just sort of how it ended up, but Jake recently got an injury so they put him on a Different boat just for a little bit (a sit in the wheelhouse and scout type of boat, instead of the main fishing one) and he only got back to my dad's ship today and he was apparently like Shaking. He was Traumatised.
Dad said Jake kept pulling him aside and going "They were all yelling on there, but in a MEAN way" "They didn't clean... Like at ALL"
Jake experienced what a boat full of old school Aussie fisherman is like. That is the norm Jake. You just happened to be on the all Island boy boat on your first go out. "It was time for dinner and they had FROZEN nuggets" Jake that's what they have on ships that are out at sea for months at a time.
On my dad's boat they are eating fresh fish and coconut milk Ceviche. They're grilling steaks on an open bbq on the deck that probably is not regulation. All the guys have their own special knives to prepare sashimi every couple days. Everyone is happily doing their own work so they can clock out early and set up a movie on the deck. Jake did you genuinely believe that's what every boat was doing.
Local Australian man is fed fresh juices and smoked fish for first time- refuses to go back to beef jerky boat life
jake that first night when they served a freezer tray tv dinner and not an overflowing plate of fish that's probably going for conservatively like $40-$80 bucks a kilo but the guys decided Eh we'll catch more let's just fry it up:
Wait im Crying I just realised his name is Jake too- he's also so much shorter than them, all the Samoan boys are like over 6'5, Jake is the shortest guy on the boat, Pandora is Real. And my dad is uhhhh Cliff Curtis
once you learn about pseudoscience you're forever doomed to get angry when people talk about like. love languages or stockholm syndrome. but forced to stay quiet lest your lose your mind trying to correct millions of people
I started using Head and Shoulders ten years ago for itchy scalp and dandruff, and then for ten years I have not had itchy scalp and dandruff, so I thought âwhy do I still buy shampoo to combat itchy scalp and dandruff when I do not have itchy scalp and dandruff,â so I stopped buying the shampoo for itchy scalp and dandruff and can you guess I have now? Can you predict what currently afflicts me? Itâs alright if you canât because apparently I fuckin couldnât either
Cutting something out of your life because you think you donât need it any more only to realize that it was in fact working as intended and preventing a problem that will return should you stop doing this is a good experiment to run periodically with something small like dandruff shampoo, lest you start to think it would be a good idea to do this with like letâs say public health and the social safety net and vaccines
I had a liver transplant when I was 14 and like six months later I was chatting with my surgeon and he said âthereâs gonna come a time, probably when youâre a teenager, where youâre gonna think, âI feel great, why am I still taking all this medication? I havenât needed it in years.â and youâre gonna want to stop taking all this medication. Guess whatâs gonna happen then? Youâre gonna go into rejection and your liver is gonna start failing, and youâre gonna be dying again, and weâre gonna have to find you another liver. So donât do that.â And I said âwhy the fuck would anyone do that?â and he said âpeople are stupid.â
every once in a while when I get annoyed by a pharmacy or donât wanna get out of bed to do my drugs I think âugh, this is dumb, why do I do this?â and that conversation slams into me like a truck and I remember that I am, in fact, stupid
If women donât conform to beauty expectations, theyâre paid less.
âMadison, who works a customer service job at an airport spa, has an employee handbook that says âmakeup should be well maintainedâ and âhands and nails must be well manicured.â She says the few men she works with just ignore these guidelines âbecause theyâre meant for women but [it] doesnât explicitly say that.â Her wages ($13.25 per hour + 15% retail commission) do not include additional pay to purchase manicures or makeup. During her interview, her now-boss commented on how nice her makeup looked and how well her shoes matched her purseâcomments that make her feel like she needs to keep up that kind of appearance even though she already has the job.Â
Itâs well known that a persistent wage gap exists for women workers in the United States, a gap that becomes even wider when race, industry, age and geography are taken into account. But less frequently discussed is the often silent expectation around appearance imposed on women workers, which has its own financial costsâknown as the âgrooming gap.â The grooming gap refers to the set of social norms regarding grooming and appearance for women, including the time women workers must spend to conform to these norms and the material consequences it has on their lives.Â
Weâve all heard the common advice to âlook the partâ at work. For men, that can often just mean business casual clothing and a short haircut. For women, it can mean hours spent each week on makeup, hair styling and curating an outfit thatâs both attractive and professional.Â
The rules are usually unspoken; even when employers do not explicitly require workers to wear makeup, for example, women workers often feel required to wear it anyway.Â
Theyâre not wrong: Sociologists Jaclyn Wong and Andrew Penner found that physically attractive workers have higher incomes than average-looking workers, but that this relationship is eliminated when controlling for grooming in women. In other words, if you purchase the right clothes, makeup and haircut, higher wages are more within reach. Itâs true that men need to abide by certain grooming rules, too, but they are less complex, less expensive and less time consuming. Menâs haircuts, for example, often cost much less than womenâs haircutsâregardless of hair length. The grooming gap essentially constitutes a pay cut catch-22: If women donât conform, they are paid less; if they do conform, theyâre expected to use those higher wages on beauty products and grooming regimens.Â
Grooming costs for women can be extremely expensive; the global beauty industry, valued at $532 billion worldwide, directs aggressive advertising toward women to convince them they need to purchase a whole host of products to have a chance at being beautiful, well-liked or successful. The industry relies on maintaining impossible expectations around womenâs looks so it can continue to rake in enormous profits. One 2017 study found the average woman puts $8 worth of product on her face each day; another found the average woman spends up to $225,000 on skincare and makeup during her lifetime. And then thereâs the âpink taxâ: Studies confirm that, 42% of the time, products marketed to women are more expensive than comparable products targeted to men.Â
The grooming gap also results in a loss of free time: 55 minutes each day for the average woman, the equivalent of two full weeks each year. Sara Nelson, president of the Association of Flight Attendants-CWA (AFACWA), says that, in her industryâa workforce that is 79.3% womenâthe expectation around appearance literally âinterrupts your sleepâ: Flight attendants get minimal rest between flights, and that rest time is further shrunk because they are expected to appear âperfectly coifedâ before their next flight. Nelson says that all of her grooming tasks took 30â40 minutes each day (more than two hours in a five-day work week). Madison agrees: it takes her 45 minutes to do her makeup and style her hair before her 7 a.m. shiftâand she wakes up at 5 a.m. to get it all done. Prior to this job, Madison says she worked at the beauty department at Target, where she spent $200 on products every other week.Â
Restaurant and hospitality workers are perhaps hardest hit by the grooming gap, as they rely on tips to survive. When I was a barista in 2010â2011, the only official dress code rule was to wear closed-toed shoes, for safety. Still, I knew I had to show up looking pretty to pay the rent; I made less than $10 an hour and I needed the tips.
Katie, 36, a veteran bartender and server in Fort Smith, Ark., says at her current job, itâs âunderstoodâ she should wear makeup. At a previous restaurant, a manager even told her and her coworkers they would âmake better tips if [they] wore makeup.â
âBased on my own appearanceâweight fluctuations, makeup versus no makeup, jewelry versus no jewelryâthereâs a definite difference,â Katie says. She adds that she was passed over for the most lucrative bartending shifts at her previous job after overhearing her managers say they wanted âcuter girlsâ to bartend instead.
Multi-billion dollar industries also market fad diets and anti-aging products to women. Both Katie and Jeeva, 24, a bartender and member of UNITE HERE, the union representing hospitality, hotel and airport workers, worry about aging. âAs you get older, as a female bartender, your tips can go down,â Jeeva says. Katie says she âhope[s] to leave [the service industry] in the next 10 years, before I get too ugly.â
The grooming gapâs effects are compounded for women of color. According to Restaurant Opportunity Center, restaurant owners look for workers who are âclean-cut, [have] good hygiene or a professional appearance, all potential code words for race.â For instance, Black women spent $473 million on relaxers, weaves and other hair care in 2017, in part because of racist ideas that natural Black hair is not professional or attractive. Black workers annually spend nine times more on hair and beauty products than other workers.Â
For transgender women, too, there can be an added layer of work, stress and self-consciousness. Autumn, who transitioned while at her current publishing job in Washington, D.C., says she quickly realized how much time and energy it takes to perform femininity for work. She used to spend 20 minutes to get ready in the morning, but now takes at least 45 minutes. Autumn adds, âI have to do things that cis women donât have to⊠[but] itâs gotten easier with time and practice,â like tucking and dealing with facial hair. Because she presents extremely femme, Autumn says she hasnât dealt with enforcement around her appearance, but other women workers around the country have been disciplined and even fired for appearing insufficiently feminine. Women workers have suedâand wonâover gender discrimination that manifests as attractiveness discrimination.
Nat, a trans woman who works at a union in the Washington, D.C., area, says, âI didnât feel like I was allowed to be a woman if I liked masculine things. It delayed any kind of self-reflectionâ about gender and identity âfor such a long time.â
At work and in the world, all womenâcis and transâfeel the pressure to conform to normative standards of femininity and attractiveness. But the solution to this problem isnât to throw away all the eyeshadow or take out a new line of credit for weekly manicures. The solution is to organize together.â
I know that this is an Off Topic Tuesday post, but this can be tied into my blog theme. I don't know how many people are aware of the unconscious biases they have in regards to how differently they treat someone based on appearance, how those who are able to meet the standards of being conventionally attractive are afforded more kindness, and general good treatment, than those who can't or won't, and this is especially the case for women and other marginalized people.
I remember in secondary school a friend telling me how differently she was treated when she showed up to school with glasses, no makeup, and a sweatshirt vs contacts, makeup, and a more "feminine" outfit. She said it was like night and day.
On the days she showed up to school in glasses, no makeup, and a comfortable (but androgynous/unisex) outfit, she said she was ignored and dismissed so much more. People were more likely to treat her like she was boring, annoying, unintelligent, and like she had nothing worthwhile to contribute.
However, when she came to school with contacts, makeup, and a more "feminine" outfit, suddenly everyone was so much nicer to hear. People wanted to talk to her, people treated her like she was funny and intelligent, people asked her what her opinions were and valued her contributions to the conversation.
Of course, in both scenarios she was still the same person, with the same intelligence, the same humor, the same mind. People just valued her differently based on how well she adhered to beauty standards. I don't think anyone was doing this consciously, which is why it's so important to talk about this and be more aware of this. Check our unconscious biases.
Or, recently another friend of mine shaved her head. Her hair wasn't super long before, but it was long enough to fall into a range considered "feminine.
In her words, after she shaved her head, she said "it's like the whole world has gotten a little colder, like someone turned down the temperature a few degrees." And she didn't mean that literally.
She talked about how after shaving her head, there was a total 180 in how customer service workers treated her. Before when she had hair, cashiers and servers would smile at her and make a little chit chat, but after shaving her head all she gets from customer service workers (including from the very same ones who would smile and be kind to her when she had hair) is a cold and dismissive attitude.
She said she also doesn't receive the small acts of kindness and general politeness she received from strangers before. When she had hair, strangers might have held a door for her, or picked up things for her she dropped, those sorts of things. But after shaving her head she no longer receives any of these small pleasantries, just an air of cold contempt and dismissal from most people around her.
Again, I'm not sure this is even consciously done, but unconscious biases can be pretty powerful, and result in people (especially women and other marginalized people) being punished for not fitting the standards of being conventionally attractive.
In an interview he said that the boys always ended up breaking their costumes bc they would fight each other, but the girls Got. Into. Character. and were amazing creepy little aliens.Â
most of the notes were just like "this is why we should communicate better and just say it" but i feel like this person elaborates a bit on the deeper root of this problem
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