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Lance • 29 • he/him genderqueer • i mostly reblog shitposts but there’s some politics/feminism/queer liberation stuff here too • no radfems • free palestine

[what-you-let-in]

AAAAHHHHHH I STILL HAVE TIME TO POST FOR THE WEBCOMIC DAY THING

hello!!!!!!!!! i have a webcomic called “what you let in” on comicfury! it’s about an astronomy post-doc researcher whose life goes to shit and then some spooky shit happens. i jokingly will pitch it with the comp title of “what if twilight was in college and had the general vibes of gone girl.”

i just wrapped up the prologue and i’ll be starting ch 1 in a couple weeks, but here’s a link to read it on comicfury! you can also follow me on bluesky!

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here are some of my fave lines/panels from the prologue:

[lance-like-alot]

i made a webcomic!!! pls check it out i worked rlly hard on it :3

[itssquidbian]

feminist retelling shoulsnt be the woman does some girlboss shit femist retelling is she does the same stuff except u actually give a shit abt her perspective and thoughts and feelings as a human being this time

[bigtimetommy]

me after ants find me asleep at the picnic

[laeffy]

Good morning. here is my current favorite reddit thread

[effemimaniac]

sorry for the delay in responding to your message. I was walking around the house with unclear intentions

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

a deeply underrated part of the gay taylor swift conspiracy theories is that if they're right and she really has spent over a decade sending subliminal messages based on minute details for people to decode then she's uuuuuh. I mean she's insane. she's jigsaw. she's the riddler. her dad bought her career because if she didn't have music to distract her she would have started building deathtraps.

[7dmom]

Some fake things that aren't real are low key really importsnt

[starrynet]

[haridraws]

last day of pride month, almost my T anniversary, feeling very overwhelmingly positive. Here’s a comic about gender I finally made from some very old notes

[daily-spooky]

[bourtange]

republicans: homeless people should be ground into sausage and fed to schoolchildren

democrats: persons experiencing houselessness should be ground into sausage and fed to schoolchildren

[txttletale]

this post posits a utopian world where either of these parties would support feeding schoolchildren, making it a masterclass in "hopepunk"

[busket]

they've been arguing about malgendering on twitter so here's the truth from me, the arbiter of truth (jk but ive been talking about malgendering long before it became a popular buzzword and heres my understanding of it)

malgendering is a form of transphobia wherein a transphobic person uses their victim's correct gender to harass or demean them. it is meant to be the inverse of misgendering, where a transphobe uses the victim's incorrect gender to harass or demean them.

misgendering towards trans women can be as simple as "youre a man." but malgendering is more insidious, like someone saying "you really are a girl" when she makes a mistake in order to insult her intelligence. the phrase "you really are a girl" is positive when removed from the context of the trans woman making a mistake and the transphobe's sarcastic tone that implies shes stupid in an misogynistic way.

if a trans man does something like standing up for himself against an unfair situation or asks for better accommodations/treatment, and a transphobe wants to use that to imply he is selfish and entitled, they might say "trans men really are men" which again, is a true statement on its own. but in the context of the situation, its clear the transphobe is using the stereotypical worst qualities of men to insult and undermine someone's very identity.

malgendering can be any severity of harm, just like misgendering. my mom slipping up in the first months of my transition and accidentally calling me "she", and a bigot shouting "YOURE A WOMAN YOULL NEVER BE A MAN" at me are both examples of misgendering, but one is much worse than the other and its the same with malgendering. being told "trans men are the men of the trans community" as an insult is annoying and rude but not a big deal. however, right now ICE is torturing trans men in concentration camps by forcing them to do pointless and grueling labor. and when they become exhausted, theyre told "I thought you were a man. if youre really a man this should be easy for you" these are both examples of malgendering. one is a microaggression, the other is literal torture.

malgendering happens equally to both trans men and trans women, its not something that is unique to anyone because it is a form of transphobia. the strategy is that if a transphobe tries to make a trans persons life as their true gender so miserable and unsafe, detransitioning seems like the safer and happier option. its psychological torment, moreso than the plain and obvious insult of intentional misgendering. so dont let it happen, call it out when you see it and dont be fooled by transphobes trying to erase the context and be like "what!! what i said was true!"

[littlescratches]

For my own understanding, let me try to boil down your explanation into a one sentence definition:

Malgendering is the action of maliciously burdening a trans person with the stereotypes about their true gender, with the intent of making living as said gender seem less favorable.

Does that catch what you're trying to say? Because from your post I'm not sure of the intent bit.

[busket]

yes! the transphobic person may not be aware of their intent and not even know what they're doing, most of the time theyll deny that they are being tranphobic because they think theyre 'affirming" someones gender. it serves as an easy way out and often malgendering is more like a dogwhistle, only some people can hear it. but yes, that is the "purpose" of malgendering.

[busket]

and you could argue "well thats just sexism. treating a trans woman like shes stupid or slutty because shes a woman is just misogyny. treating a trans man like he must be entitled or predatory because hes a man is just misandry" yes and no, because the context matters.

saying these things to a trans person with the knowledge that theyre trans has an underlying implication: "you wouldn't be bad if you weren't trans". when you tell a trans men that all men should die and you hate all men, youre telling him "you wouldnt be evil if you detransitioned. everyone would be kind to you if you were still a girl" and same with trans women: "you would be smarter and respected if you weren't a woman. I wouldnt harass you if you were still a man."

malgendering says "these are the consequences of being a man/woman, and im going to make sure you suffer them."

[elethart]

Finally some quality content in my portfolio

[loveridden1999]

too young to hold on and too old to just break free and run

[toroidalearthtruther]

"less is more" is a lie perpetuated by big small to sell more less

[everest-81]

Come on

[parakeet]

why is this being recommended to me 17 years later. good for the horse thou