i hate that women and girls just have to carry so much trauma as a group and are expected to not change that. not challenge that. just accept it. and we don’t even talk about it most of the time.
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i hate that women and girls just have to carry so much trauma as a group and are expected to not change that. not challenge that. just accept it. and we don’t even talk about it most of the time.
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I first read this a year or two ago, and it completely changed my thinking about all of this. They let that man get away with 17 years of abuse and then turned it into a joke
The shooting of Najeeb Salem Sadeq occurred just hours before ITV News filmed an unarmed civilian being shot dead whilst walking in a group
I have no words. I truly don't.
حسبنا الله ونعم الوكيل.
I don’t care if every pro lifer on earth was also anti death penalty pro social safety net and has personally adopted 12 disabled foster children I still don’t think they should have the right to force women to give birth
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All of these pics are amazing, but this one in particular fills me with pure glee:
he took a bath 3 times
his name is Organic Spinach
the cleanest frog in Michigan
if i had some kind of deal as a kid where a frog was at the bottom of bags of spinach i would have easily eaten five times as much spinach
The US graphic novelist on having her comic strip Dykes to Watch Out For, turned into an audio series, growing up in a funeral home, and her famous women-in-film test
why the fuck would you ask anyone this. oh my god.
“Have you considered that you’re a bad example of a woman? Have you considered othering yourself with this ambiguous impersonal pronoun?”
It’s also that, to them, someone who’s considered a hero or a good person overall shouldn’t be a cis woman. If she’s still “cis” then that means she’s identifying as an “oppressor” in this new framework of cis vs trans. If you identify as not “cis” you can literally say anything you want. No one who is cis is given any kind of grace by the trans activists - she must think harder about her gender and do the right thing: Identify outside of her sex
literally no one asked
💀💀 I forgot someone has to ask me first if I can have opinions on gender?? Whoopsie daisy
It’s interesting how diseases rip through schools at incredible speeds despite being in an arguably modern, clean(ish) environment. I wonder if it has something to do with the whole “you need a doctor’s note to excuse your absence of even one day” combined with the average price of going to a doctor, the lack of education on things like “you’re still contagious even after the fever goes away”, and the overwhelming message of “if you don’t struggle through it, you’re a failure!”
On my campus there tends to be a problem where even I you have the doctors note professors will still take points off of your final grade regardless of how sick you are. I’ve seen people show up to class with the stomach flu, pneumonia, respiratory infections and all sorts of other contagious ailments.
Here’s a fun story:
The school system I grew up in put an absolutely ungodly amount of pressure on kids to Show Up Every Day No Matter What. Many schools are like this, but looking back, my town’s was borderline fucking dystopian. They asked me why I didn’t just “postpone” a surgery at one point— when I was fifteen— to give you an idea of how monumentally obtuse these people were.
So, in elementary school, I started having chicken pox symptoms, right? They were mild because I was vaccinated (yay!) but my mom recognized them quickly and took me to the doctor, because my mom is a reasonable human being with standards. The doctor said “yup, you’ve got those pox, it may seem mild but please for the love of god DO NOT take her to school, she is very contagious even though she may FEEL okay.”
So I had to stay home from school until I got clearance from my doctor to go back. I was an angry little gremlin the whole time, because I wanted to go to the school library and read books about the human skull, but my mother said, “no, you cannot leave this house, and do not scratch the bumps please.” So I sat at home and tried not to scratch the bumps, like a good little gremlin.
A few days into my Chicken Pox Related House Arrest, we got a letter from the school. I was far from the only person with chicken pox, as it so happened. Like… a tenth of my second grade class had Confirmed Pox. We all fell ill within DAYS of each other.
So how did this happen, you ask? Well, a kid had chicken pox, and he came to school anyway. “Ah, well perhaps they didn’t know,” you may very well say. “Maybe his parents didn’t notice!” No. No, they noticed. In fact they KNEW it was CHICKEN POX. They sent him to school anyway.
The kid’s parents…….. were, in fact, teachers at the school. And they KNOWINGLY made him go to school sick, because they didn’t want to risk hurting his precious “perfect attendance” record. They figured that since he wasn’t, like, Literally Dying, it was better for him not to miss school. Never mind the fact that they were actively endangering hundreds of little kids.
Fast forward to my freshman year of college. A kid came to class with mumps because he ‘couldn’t afford to miss’. Guess what happened? Mumps outbreak! Diseases are, as it turns out, good at being diseases! Vaccinations are phenomenal, but they can only do so much, and some people rely on herd immunity to not be killed by preventable illness.
This entire attitude needs to die. It’s dangerous. Food service workers are forced to show up sick, little kids are forced to show up sick, college students show up sick because they’re afraid of flunking out.
And on top of it all, misinformation campaigns are encouraging people not to get vaccinations! It’s 2019 and we’re flirting with the plague! Next thing you know some blogger is gonna be like “actually we should all be fucking rats and eating our meat raw, death to all science and god bless america”
Many kids at my school will show up really sick because we only get like three days of excused absences without a doctor’s note.
this is what those in literary academia call “foreshadowing”
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transactivism caught on so fast because it created acceptable ways for straight liberals to just outright admit that they think feminists are shrill and annoying and that gay people are kind of icky without feeling a shred of guilt for it
Lundy bancroft legit has dedicated his life to working directly with abusive men to interrupt their thinking and behavioral patterns, and making said patterns knowable and nameable by women. That is what male feminist ally behavior actually looks like. Obviously the every day person isn’t going to spend their entire life doing the kind of work he does, but on a micro level, recognizing and speaking about male pattern aggression/manipulation and disrupting those patterns in yourself and those around you is something you can actually be striving for.
That means not using your newfound gender awareness as a way to make women caretake your guilt, or coming up with clever ways to “overcome” that guilt, or using feminist rhetoric as a social capital or manipulation tool. It’s not that we’re not all very glad that you’ve learned how to cry – it would just be nice if you weren’t just doing all the same old stuff “once more, but with feeling.”
I love the way he never believes in their lies. I love the way he looks at things with complete honesty about the situation. I love how he is a man who is genuinely unwilling to trust abusers.
Here’s a free pdf of his book, Why Does He Do That?
I cannot believe I didn’t realize until this moment that Lundy Bancroft is a man.
He also really doesn’t beat around the bush. He comes right out at the beginning of the book and says he’s using “he” for the abuser and “she” for the victim, because that is the majority of cases. As with all “good” men, I’m cautiously optimistic, but Why Does He Do That? is a very resource to have. At the time of writing he’d counselled over 1000 abusive men IIRC.
Every woman, no matter your situation, should read his book!
This should be a working pdf link
A pygmy marmoset sitting on a bunch of green bananas.
Fact is we all want what she has
homosexuality is not "queer" to me because to my brain being gay is literally just normal, not some alternative counter-culture created in response to heterosexuality
Let me tell you about my new favourite cookbook
Hey tumblr. Are you trying to learn to cook for yourself? I sure am. My roommate just got me this book and I am totally blown away — it’s an entire cooking course in one book easy and accessible, taking you from following recipes to making up your own by teaching you the science behind it all. Do you love science? I love science. I especially love DIAGRAMS!
You can’t quite see it, but this tells you not just what parts to eat, but how to prepare it. I’m always in grocery stores staring at veg going “okay but what do I DO with it?” and this book actually answers that in clear, simple language and beautiful watercolours.
What’s the difference when recipes call for different types of frying? Hey, I guess I know now!
Illustrations instead of photos encourage you to play around instead of trying to get the exact same result.
Samin Nosrat, the author, is incredibly personable along with being a great writer and chef. The prose parts of the book are clearly worded and full of personality. It explains details of cooking that lots of other cookbooks leave out, meaning a intermediate cook like me can actually grasp skills like breaking down a whole chicken or getting the heart out of fresh artichokes.
The first half of the book is meant to be read straight through and explains the theory behind the elements of food in a casual writing style. Then it has 100 recipes that are meant to teach you all the basic skills and are a jumping-off point, because what she really wants you to do is EXPERIMENT! I can’t wait to eat a bunch of this stuff.
I don’t know about you, but I failed to learn cooking from my mom even though she’s a great cook. I regret it now and want to learn to be comfortable in the kitchen, because I love eating and I want to take back control of the food I eat. When I got this book, the first random page I flipped to had a matrix explaining what works well with avocado. I knew right away it was going to be my kind of book. (I ended up staying up late reading it.)
So if you’re also trying to learn to cook, to take back control of what you eat, want a really pretty illustrated cookbook, whatever — I can’t recommend this enough.
Her Netflix show based on this was incredible and she also reads the audiobook, so you can enjoy this no matter what format you like best.
I love Salt Fat Acid Heat - She’s really really good at breaking down why things taste good and what makes food do the things it does. I have changed how I prepare brisket because of her, and it’s so much better now. If you want to understand how food goes together so that you can move beyond following a recipe and into being able to improvise with food and make up your own recipes, tailoring the recipes you find to your own preferences, Salt Fat Acid Heat is like… the graduate-level class you need.