LESBIBUTCH

A nonbinary autistic lesbian who is happily married and grabbing life by the silicone dick. They/them.

[princesshamlet-deactivated20210]

this is maybe the funniest thing i’ve ever seen

[totallynotagentphilcoulson]

[0x1-deactivated20220826]

tgif stands for trans gender it’s friday

[testosteronetwink]

happy transgender it’s friday .

[fabledshadow]

happy transgender it’s friday

[annoyingalchemist]

happy transgender it's friday everybody

[cade-the-god]

happy transgender it's friday

[cowpokeprose]

Hey, gay working class and gay rural interests, aesthetics, and culture belong within the wider LGBT+ community. Country music belongs in gay spaces. Camo and trucker caps and work boots belong in gay spaces. Trucks and doorless jeeps and shitty old beaters belong in gay spaces. GEDs and high school educations and blue collar jobs belong in gay spaces. Being broke and looking like shit belongs in gay spaces. The community isn’t owned by the wealthiest San Fransisco and New York gay-geoisie. Their interests, appearances, and beliefs do not define queerness. 

[cowpokeprose]

Me: It’s important to remember to be inclusive of gay people from rural backgrounds.

Parts of Tumblr.com: I have literally never heard of classism and thus have no frame of reference for the idea that I should be nice to people with stereotypically low class interests and so I will make fun of those interests now. 

Me: Ah so I see I have overshot where y’all are at

[fluffy-flock]

Everyone in the notes: Yas! I love farms! Love them chickens, farm core is my life!

Bitch we all know you like farm asthetique. What we want is support for the Actual rural southern queer community. The trailer park/pre-used prefab queers. The ones who are never going to get more than a 10th grade education and work dirty blue collar jobs with hard labor. And remember that this whole ass time we often have to lie about who we are so we can keep the shitty hard labor jobs that fuck up our bodies. And remember that these communities are also black and Hispanic communities?? I see y'all in the notes “this is so white, this is so white” like the entire South isn’t full of poc and queer poc who struggle even harder because of all this??

Broke: everyone in the rural south is white homophobic racists

Woke: the rural south has large populations of queer poc who get no support and no acknowledgement within broader queer culture past the “gay cowboy” asthetic

[levonsnape-deactivated20230929]

I love The Golden Girls.

[gholateg]

Ya’ll don’t have any idea how fucking brave and needed these plot lines were.

This was before Ellen came out.

This was before civil unions.

This was before Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.

This was when your ass could be fired, blacklisted, and shunned with no legal protections for even being hinted at being gay.

And the Golden Girls said “Fuck you, Fuck this, we’re doing it anyway.”

[silenthillmutual]

I think it should be noted that Blanche’s quote about AIDS is also “It is not god punishing people for their sins” and that the episode also deals with slutshaming.

[swordshapedleaves]

Matt Baume on youtube has some excellent video essays on historic portrayal of queer people in media. He has episodes on these exact moments from the Golden Girls along with a lot of other media from that time and even older. Highly recommend!

[no-longer-another-bondi-blonde]

Everyone should know the international sign for Help Me. Let’s make this famous!!

[amanda-bakes]

Interesting; I didn’t know this was a thing.

[hopefulmisanthrope]

It’s apparently a thing, but it’s a very new thing, so it may need some help being known.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Signal_for_Help

[the-barefoot-hatter]

The Signal for Help (or the Violence at Home Signal for Help) is a single-handed gesture that can be used by an individual to alert others that they feel threatened and need help over a video call, or in-person. It was originally created as a tool to combat the rise in domestic violence cases around the world as a result of the self-isolation measures related to the COVID-19 pandemic…

The Signal for Help was first introduced in Canada by the Canadian Women’s Foundation on April 14, 2020, and on April 28, 2020 in the United States by the Women’s Funding Network (WFN). It received widespread praise from local, national, and international news organizations for helping provide a modern solution to the issue of a rise in domestic violence cases.

The signal has been recognized by over 40 organizations across Canada and the United States as a useful tool to help combat domestic violence.

Addressing concerns that abusers may become aware of such a widespread online initiative, the Canadian Women’s Foundation and other organizations clarified that this signal is not “something that’s going to save the day,” but rather a tool someone could use to get help.

[crpl-pnk]

ok very funny guys. you got me. now seriously who left all these neurotypicals in charge of the mental health field

[eurekapix]

who left all these healthy doctors in charge of the hospital

is literally what this sounds like

[agentelderofshield]

God, can you imagine how awful that would be? People with amputations consulting on things like prosthesis?

People in wheelchairs designing living and working spaces for people with mobility issues?

Autistic people actually trying to help other autistic people?

OMG, just thing – wouldn’t ti be awful if people who are now in remission actually helped manage the pain and other symptoms that come with having and treating cancer?

I mean seriously, what on Earth do any of those people really have to add to the discussion? What could they possibly know that an able-bodied neurotypical wouldn’t already know? I mean, experience doesn’t teach all that much!

/end sarcasm.

[noping-out-deactivated20241117]

[jenroses]

My care for EDS got radically better when my doctor’s kid was diagnosed. 

[goosewithajob]

Dr. Marsha M. Linehan more or less reinvented the field of behavioral therapy after spending years being treated to the worst 1950-60s psychiatry had to offer. She created the system now known as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, now considered one of the most effective treatments for suicidal and self-destructive behaviors, as well as pretty much any other form of mental illness or mood/behavior disorders. She was able to do all of this BECAUSE she’s self-diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, not in spite of it.

[lanthir]

The only therapist, out of the many I have seen over the past 30 years, to succesfuly treat my anxiety?  The one who had anxiety herself.  Not a coincidence.  

[star-anise]

Doctors with Disabilities Are Changing the System

[intersexfairy]

sensory issues be like *turns up phone brightness to hear better* *turns off light to see better* *socks don’t have to match but they MUST be the same length and texture* *washes hands out of no where because they don’t feel clean* *oversensitive to one sense but undersensitive to another, related sense* *unlocks phone to concentrate*

[advicefortranskids]

natural voice change

Lower

Boom Your Voice

How to deepen your voice naturally

How to talk with a deeper voice 

How to deepen your voice (pre-t) Voice masculinization

Vocal androgyny in speech and singing

This Phone App Helps Transgender Users Change The Pitch And Tone Of Their Voices (buzzfeed article) 

Higher

Voice Feminization

Pitch, range, resonance, depth

How to develop a female voice

Feminine voice techniques         

[heyheyheyuwannameetthetriplesas]

Someone might need this

[jabberwockprince]

since literally none of the links in this entire post works, I took it upon myself to go find stuff that seems useful rather than let an empty post go around giving others hope lmao. I haven’t tried these myself but maybe it works for some of y’all ? 

please add links if you got other useful stuff too !

Lower :

Voice Deepening Stretches. a tumblr post with pictures to show how.

How To Deepen Your Voice FTM. Alexander Jasper-Jay on Youtube. Pretty much a tutorial for the stretches from the previous post.

How to Make Your Voice Sound Deeper. Howcast on Youtube. Not FtM related or focused, I think this is mostly for acting ? ? ? 

Higher :

How to make your voice feminine. No head voice. No falsetto. Ada Han on Youtube.

How to Completely Feminize Your Voice. An article by Michela, a trans woman.

Vocal Feminization Guide for any voice type. Impulse Collective DID on Youtube.

Emma’s Voice Guide ! Reddit article.

[fruitypies]

to update: Ada Han’s video on how to make your voice more feminine. Part 2

To my trans mutuals/followers or just those who don’t like their voice and want to improve it.

[mrrrow-rio]

Boost!!

[treetopview]

does anyone else kind of.. enjoy spoilers ?? like they’re sort of a relief because then I know whether or not something is worth investing in watching or reading or not

I’m not gonna be disappointed if it doesn’t turn out how I want plus I’m not going to fast forward and skip through large parts of it to find out what happens, which I’m embarrassed that I do I just don’t have the patience

Is that just a me thing or do other people do that too? Is that an adhd thing?

I just do way better watching things if I already know the entire synopsis and can predict kinda when things will happen like landmarks in a movie that help me through

Please tell me this is an actual thing and not just me

[absoluteconceptofbeauty]

when i start saying weird shit to you thats the equivalent of a cat exposing its tummy

[diver-up]

u all ever lose the ability to socialize in the middle of a convo like.... ok i’m done now there’s no more words in here brain shutting off

[bi-trans-alliance]

#LwiththeT

[keposhka]

oh this is so beautiful :,)

[imanes]

forever removing “agree to disagree” from my vocabulary now i end all my arguments with “live with what makes you comfortable but know that ultimately you’re not telling yourself the truth” and that’s on me being sick and tired <3 we’re burning bridges today

[whitewinesupernova]

no offense but nonbinary ppl can have boobs…..nonbinary ppl can have long hair, wear dresses, use makeup, have beards, be tall or short, muscular, thin, or curvy……there is literally no wrong way to be nonbinary 

[sunlezz]

[empyrealhesper]

gosh it was so nice to read this

[gendercensus]

The 2021 Gender Census is now open!

[ Link to survey ]

The eighth annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 10th March 2021.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, retweet this tweet, boost this Mastodon post, check out this post on Reddit, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks like Facebook. Every share is extremely helpful - it’s what helped us get 24,000 responses last year.

Survey URL: https://www.smartsurvey.co.uk/s/gendercensus2021/

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

Thank you so much!

[gendercensus]

The small hours of Tuesday 16th February 2021

Well, we’re at over 28,000 responses and still climbing. The participation graph looked like this just before midnight:

Not only have we thoroughly defeated last year’s record, I am also genuinely concerned that I will run out of space on this Google Sheet. It only allows 5,000,000 cells and I did some spreadsheet optimising and calculating and I’ve got less than a third of my allotted cells remaining…! 28.2%, to be exact. 😅

And here’s the top 5 referrers:

tumblr - 48.5%

twitter - 15.5%

discord server - 12.7%

facebook - 6.8%

friend, family member or colleague - 4.4%

Because the participationship (note: not a real word) is mostly Tumblr (and with a larger proportion of Discord than usual), the percentage of participants over the age of 30 is only about 11%.

It would be really helpful if anyone was able to share the link one-on-one with any LGBTQ+ people over the age of 25, and it would be especially helpful if anyone was up for sharing the survey link on Facebook! Here it is again:

https://www.smartsurvey.co.uk/s/gendercensus2021/

All of this attention is just phenomenal, I am so proud, and so grateful for all of your promotional help, and so excited about all the numbers. :D

Seriously though, that graph. It’s intimidating me a little bit.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

If you are over 25 and qualify (or no someone who does) your voices are needed!!!

[wlw-library]

all women who wear glasses are gay. why are you wearing glasses, huh? to see other women?

[ndviduality]

Actually autistic ppl: pls refer to us as “autistic people”

NTs: people with autism

Autistic person: no

NTs: people suffering with the condition of autism

Autistic person: still no

NTs:

[lifeofcynch]

‘LOCKED IN AUTISTIC BODY’ HKFHDGDGFD?????

[aeondeug]

NT’s necks are going to be locked between these autistic arms if they don’t stop doing this shit