Lily

20-something, asexual, queer, she/her/they/them, nonconforming, white, sociology grad student

[koobiie]

i feel strongly about this

[ailurinae]

[i-am-a-fish]

I hope fifty good things happen to you within the next 30 seconds. I love you so much

[unichrome]

I’m slowly beginning to accept the reality that 2007 was not last year but in fact almost four years ago

[lilyfiremaster53]

I’m beginning to accept the reality that this post was not made last year but almost five years ago

[snommelp]

So, I’ve been pulled over a few times in my life. Not many, but a few. And I’ve also been in a couple of cars that got pulled over. And let me tell you, if you were actually doing something wrong, the officer doesn’t make any small talk, just straight into “I clocked you doing 70 in a 55.” The only time I’ve ever gotten the “do you know why I pulled you over?” was the time when I wasn’t doing anything wrong, and I got let go even though he insisted to the end that I was doing 87 in a 70 (white privilege at work).

“Do you know why I pulled you over?” is a trap. It means there’s a good chance the officer doesn’t actually have a good reason to ticket you, and is trying to get you to waive your 5th Amendment rights and incriminate yourself. If you make a guess, that’s a confession of guilt.

But there’s another trap, that I’ve heard of but haven’t yet experienced. It’s “do you know how fast you were going?” With that one, they’re hoping you’ll say no, because then they can name whatever speed they want – you just said you didn’t know how fast you were going, if you deny the speed they name then you’re lying to them.

[themightytej]

Oh, I’ve had that one. Go with “yes.” Don’t give them a number, just say “Yes.” Then they still have to offer a number and you can deny it without contradicting yourself. They could just ask you, at that point, but that’s suspiciously similar to saying they don’t know, and they tend to avoid doing that.

[fattyatomicmutant-deactivated20]

Reblog to save a life

[suspiciouslysharklike-deactivat]

if you scroll past this just because it doesn’t affect you personally, i see you.

[dovewithscales]

Also, you can always go to court and contest a ticket, and a lot of times you’ll win. Or if the cop thinks you’ll win they won’t even show up and you’ll win by default.

They like to target out of state plates because anyone who would be majorly inconvenienced by a court date two months away is a lot more likely to just pay it.

[canwriteitbetterthanueverfeltit]

hey, tag this with a food people get really upset about you not liking

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

"What would asexual people even need community for lol" Okay let me get this straight, you as a queer person cannot conceptualize why someone who wants and needs to live their life in a way that significantly breaks with societal norms and expectations in ways that will result in various structural barriers, alienation, isolation, judgment, invalidation and outright hostility might have a need to connect with other people like them? This is crazy talk to you?

[lilyfiremaster53]

Asexual people, a lot of whom do not seek out romantic partners, don’t need community? What a completely ridiculous notion.

I’m sure part of this discourse comes from the idea that ace people are more “robot-like” and feel less than other people. Like just because we don’t always want romantic-sexual partners we don’t want connection with others (once again ridiculous).

The other part is probably from the “asexual people don’t experience discrimination or stigma because they don’t DO anything” which also makes me so fucking mad because, yes we do! Rejection from both straight and queer communities. High rates of suicide and sexual assault. When we start considering BIPOC aces it gets even worse, which makes community even more important!

Community lets ace people connect with others who understand them, find people who will not subject them to normative romantic and sexual expectations, and helps them navigate the stigma they do face. Community is literally so fucking important for asexual people and comments like the one op is referring to set me off.

[fella-lovin-fella]

i hate it when people mistake "etymology" with "entomology." like, i know where they coming from but it still bugs me

[oneheadtoanother]

[mokeonn]

Here's the unedited comic for those curious:

[letsnotandsaywewantedto]

The original is from June 18, 1959.

Some have called "they pay me in woims" Sluggo's catch phrase. It's not. He said it once, and folks on Bluesky loved it so much they say it all the time, especially in response to the Nancy Comics by Ernie Bushmiller account. Here's the original "they pay me in woims" from February 22, 1978:

And, another mention of woims from September 13, 1949:

And the Woims Wednesday (aka Woimsday) image that gets posted almost every week because of the popularity of the word:

[monkeyfishgirl]

Some good news for Pride Month

[sockth]

Hey if you See This can you reblog this or comment on this with a character you headcanon as aromantic, asexual, or both. It can be canon it can be founded on absolutely nothing I just need more aroace stuff on here #yay

[writeranon69]

Don't Fall for this scam.

Transgender community, please please please do NOT use this product! It will kill you if used, please do not use it whatsoever.

Please reblog and spread the word

[ajolteonnamedsparky]

fighting for my asexual brethren, if you think someone who is asexual isn't a part of the LGBTQ community get the fuck off my blog. Including you, people who think cishet aces don't count. Fuck you especially you're no better than the acephobic people. Yeah. I said it. You suck too. But, aces. Asexuals, all of you, I love you. I love aces who have multiple queer labels, I love aces who are straight and cisgender. I love you guys. I love aces who have sex and aces who want to throw up at the thought of it. I love everyone in between and I think no matter what you should be accepted for who you are. We all are surrounded in a world faced by purity culture but also faced with a constant push for sex and romance and blah blah blah, who cares. Aces, live how you want. Be yourselves. Do not let others push you down, do not let people push you out from this community. You are a part of us. Anyone who says different doesn't know shit. I love you aces. I'm sorry if others don't. I will love you through every bad thing that has been said or has happened to you to get you here. Happy pride month. Celebrate who you are and who you will become. I love you all.

link to a post like this about aromantics too! Because I love both <3 /gen

[melandrops]

the aroace read of ryland grace is so personal and haunting. "you don't even have a dog." was it not enough to love the world for the sake of living in it. was it not enough to live for the thrill of discovery. was it not enough to smile at your students. was it not enough to be afraid.

[musiicpix3l]

Yes yes i know love is love. But they are still killing CHILDREN. over this.

[fluffmugger]

"Love is love" is a milquetoast cishet marketing phrase

Pride is a FUCK YOU to a society that wants us dead.

[ur-favorite-fishgirl]

if you vote me for president i vow to make everything the ocean again. no more land only ocean. this will solve all of our problems and replace them with new, far more interesting problems

[lilyfiremaster53]

Team aqua member?

[cherryhatter-deactivated2015072]

KICK THE CAN!

Let’s play the biggest game of kick the can on the internet.

To kick the can, reblog it. I wanna see how long this can go on for.

[visibun]

the oldest reblogs for this post that i can find are from january 2nd of 2013. this can has been getting kicked around tumblr for almost 13½ years now

[drtanner]

And yet somehow this is my first time kicking it!

[000l]

[shrewreadings]

like to charge, reblog to cast.