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Parsic (or parsgender) is a gender identity for people who’s gender identity and/or presentation changes or swaps depending on who or what* they’re interacting with.

i coined the term and both me and @belladonica made the flag! (it was really really cool of her to help me out)

Meanings–

Turquoise stands for parsics who’s presentation is louder, more chaotic, and/or have a lot of genders/sides they swap between. Blue stands for the unity between every parsic identifying individual. Violet stands for parsics who’s presentation is quieter, more controlled, and/or have only a few genders/sides they swap between. The turquoise to violet spectrum stands for the varying level of intensity you can experience being parsic. The cube stands for the differing sides/genders you experience.

Orchid is for parsfems who experience differing genders that are primarily feminine and/or exclude masculine

Lime is for parsmascs who experience differing genders that are primarily masculine and/or exclude feminine

White includes all or every possible gender/side that parsics experience BONUS: the parsic cube with the flag colors (transparent below), which can be added to combination flag edits!

*“Who or what” includes people, communities, media, aesthetics, concepts, mood, etc.

Some examples include–

feeling more feminine-aligned when consuming wlw content but also maybe feeling more masculine-aligned when consuming mlm content

presenting more gender neutral when interacting with others who identify similarly

changing what pronouns you use depending on a specific aesthetic you’re going for on a social media page

This might make it sound chameleon like, but it’s NOT about mirroring or blending in with others; this label is for people who feel like they have too many conflicting, pre-established “sides” to their gender identity, and that they maybe aren’t as consistent as they would like to be.

Parsic can be seen as similar to genderfluid and definitely overlaps, but where being genderfluid can be more random and differ moment to moment, being parsic generally means you have a “set” of static identities that can change depending on the mood or setting. This also means that you can be parsic no matter how many genders you have, you just have to have more than one you swap between!

The name is based on the Latin word “pars”, meaning part, side, region, component, etc. This word was chosen to represent the feeling of your gender being faceted like a gemstone or having different sides like a box or set of dice. This label can be used as an identity on it’s own OR a descriptor. i.e. parsic genderfluid, parsic bigender, parsic demigirl, etc.

HQ VERSIONS CAN BE FOUND HERE–

parsic flag - parsfem flag - parsmasc flag - parsic cube flag

parsic cube - parsfem cube - parsmasc cube

these flags are free to use, but i’d appreciate credit for coining the term and if you’d @ me so i can see what you do with it! :D

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Not only is it okay for nonbinary people to have boobs and like their boobs. It’s also okay for nonbinary people to want boobs or to want bigger boobs. It’s okay for nonbinary people to dislike having a flat chest or to wish their boobs were bigger. It’s okay for nonbinary people to seek out medications and surgeries that will give them their desired silhouette. Nonbinary people who enjoy padding and wearing push up bras, should feel free to do so. Wanting boobs is fantastic and nonbinary people should feel free to celebrate boobs and to be excited for boobs. Wanting boobs is just as normal a thing for a nonbinary person to want as wanting a flat chest.

#!!!

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“People are called the d-slur because they reject men! That’s why bi women can’t use it! Lesbian-only word!”

Nice lesbian separatism rhetoric, but that’s not how any of this works.

First off, literally nobody is going to ask a woman whether or not she likes men, or “make sure” she doesn’t, before they hurl slurs at her. That’s ridiculous. Bigots do not give a single solitary damn. Gay/bi people experience homophobia for our attraction to the same gender, not the lack of it towards different ones.

Second, there are bi women who only date women and straight women who don’t date anyone—lesbians arent the only ones who “reject men.” Insisting that other women inherently “cater” to men just because of their attraction is straight-up misogynistic.

Third, it takes about two seconds to research the etymology and see that it’s also—if not primarily—about women being masculine (which most people associate with same-gender attraction, which bisexual women experience). It arguably came from “bull-[d slur],” which was used to describe masculine women or those who “engaged in lesbian activities” (“lesbian” used to be a synonym for “tribade,” something one did rather than who one was.) A lot of homophobic violence comes from perceived gender-nonconformity.

Fourth, lesbians and bi women have shared community spaces and terminology since forever. “Bisexual” wasn’t a recorded identity term until the 50s, and in the 60s, some bisexuals chose to “call ourselves homosexual, not bisexual” because they saw “bisexuality” as a cop-out, and they’ll “be gay until everyone has forgotten that [same-sex attraction] is an issue.” Score one for internalized biphobia!

Until the 70/80s or so (when political lesbian came about and gained popularity among lesbians), the word “lesbian” typically (though not exclusively) referred to all woman-loving women (but sometimes, only butches were considered “true” lesbians). The political usage of “lesbian” increased as the gay movement grew in response to its misogyny and power imbalance.

Most books discussing butch/fem(me) history point out that a number of women in the scene, particularly fems, were behaviorally bisexual. Due to this—as well as their femininity—fems and fish [the black counterpart to “fem”] struggled in lesbian communities to be considered “true” lesbians. Many butches/studs assumed they were “marginal” and more likely to leave the “lesbian life” because they could “pass” as straight. (That sure sounds familiar.)

From Boots of Leather, Slippers of Gold: The History of a Lesbian Community (1994):

Fems, who never ceased to act on their own initiative, in some contexts were defined as other, as not really lesbian, because of their traditional feminine looks or their active heterosexual pasts.

In keeping with narrators’ varied experiences in finding their identities, the community did not have—nor does it now have—a hegemonic view about how to draw the line between the homosexual and the heterosexual. Many narrators see the butch lesbian as the true lesbian. Other narrators consider anyone who stays with women and is part of the community a lesbian.

The boundaries between heterosexual and homosexual have always been difficult to draw… The gay liberation model made the boundary clear by categorically including every woman who is attracted to a woman. But throughout the twentieth century there have been women who have spent some time in the heterosexual world and some in the homosexual world… Most narrators were aware of these ambiguities and took them into account by speaking in terms of bisexuality, or the pure versus the less-pure lesbian.

The lesbian community didn’t significantly split off from bisexual women until around the 80s/90s. There wasn’t a fully organized bi community until then, and bi self-identity still hadn’t necessarily taken off yet. During this political shift, lesbians deemed bisexual women the “only true heterosexuals” and “parasites attaching themselves to the Lesbian community” even though, for decades, the lesbian community was their community.

Even without this history, so many bi women I know talk about how the d-slur is virtually all they’ve ever been called by strangers and even family and friends in regards to their bisexuality, and still, people go “well, sorry, but you’re attracted to men so you can’t say our word,” as if bi women’s attraction to men negates the homophobia they face, as if they can’t be gender-nonconforming in the same way butch lesbians are.

Even by saying that “bi women are only called d-slurs because people assume they’re lesbians,” one acknowledges that bi women can have so much in common with lesbians that they get “mistaken” for each other and attacked for the same reasons: their love for women, and sometimes the gender-nonconformity that comes with that.

When bi women argue that they should be able to reclaim the d-slur, it’s not that they’re itching for shiny new ways to be edgy or even that they necessarily want to say it—it’s simply because this word targets them for the same reason it targets lesbians. It has always been their word.

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"for men" "for women" actually its for me

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"mens section" "womens section" im more of a clearance section kind of bitch

butchfemmeculture

Gender Troubles: The Butches

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As encapsulated so perfectly in Alison Bechdel’s ‘Fun Home’:

As a butch woman who was once a wee butch girl, I can attest to the sheer power of this.

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My dear lgbt+ kids,

2020 is now eight months old - so I want to remind you of a few great things that happened this year!

January:

- Northern Ireland legalized gay marriage

- New Hampshire driver’s licenses now explicitly include an “X” option.

February:

- Gay couples in Croatia are now allowed to foster kids

- In Israel, a change of gender on a passport no longer requires surgery

- The Supreme Court of Israel also ruled the current surrogacy law (which denies access to surrogacy for same-sex couples) unconstitutional

March:

- Washington removed the “gay panic defence” as a defence for committing a crime, meaning people can no longer use someone’s gender identity or sexual orientation as a defence for murdering them

- Virginia banned conversion therapy for minors

April:

- Gay marriage became legal in Sark

May:

- Germany banned conversion therapy for minors

- The president of Zambia pardoned nearly 3000 inmates that were convicted for homosexuality

- Gay marriage became legal in Costa Rica

June:

- While most offline Pride events had to be cancelled or postponed due to the pandemic, there were many different virtual Pride events

July:

- The President of Gabon signed a law decriminalizing gay sex

- Sudan lifted the death penalty for homosexuality

With all my love,

Your Tumblr Dad

cisheteroni

this is a PSA- if you're "anti-pansexual" just unfollow me/block me. I don't care about any discourse or arguments just go ahead and stop interacting with me and my blog

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Peach Layer Cake

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#hehe #nonbinary lesbian

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Xenboy is a term that combines the words xenogender, enby, and boy. It is intended for people who wish to highlight being simultaneously xenoic/xenine, non binary, and boy. It can apply to persons with any number of genders, and can also be used to encompass fluctuations and overlaps between those identities.

Full identification with xenine/xenoic, non binary, and boy is not required, though at least a partial identification with all three is a defining aspect of Xenboy.

The flag is free to use and no attribution is required, but to those who wish to post it with credit my twitter handle is @eboyrights.

I am open to some feedback on the term and the flag. ^-^

Related terms: Xenoic, Xenine, Xenby, Enboy

[submission] How sweet!

celestialmechanic

Data mining has revealed that there are at least 15 hidden genders, 3 of which have drop rates of less than 1 in 65536 and one that appeared only in the demo and was cut from the final release.