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The Art of Gold Digging

1. Change your Mindset

You don’t have to be a cutthroat scandalous woman in order to be a genuine gold digger.

Most of the true gold diggers I know are the nicest, sweetest, most charismatic women you would ever want to meet.

In the Slums and Ghettos, the poorest of the poor are doing things to their neighbor you wouldn’t do to a stray dog. So when people say things like „people with money are evil, corrupt, cold and heartless“ you know thats only BS the broke people say to make themselves feel better and justify their lack of ambition to make something better out of their lives

Don’t be a people pleaser, especially when the people you are trying to please aren’t doing anything for you or looking for your best interest.

„Success is a great deodorant. It takes away all your past smells.“ Once you’re up in a mansion or on an exclusive Island, would you really still care what people would say about you? That’s the point.

Don’t be apologetic because guys out there will not be apologetic for trying to have sex with you once they find out you’re an easy target or sucker for love. 

They will not be apologetic for taking advantage of your fragile state. They will not be apologetic for using you and moving on

2. Change Your Environment

When women are broke together, they get into all kinds of immoral activity. They get high and casually sleep with all kinds of guys. But all of a sudden, when one person tries to break out of the mold and do something different and better themselves away from the pack these friends start preaching morality.

Women who escaped their poverty circles always had to stay low key with their game in order to avoid the negative backlash

It is lonely at the top but it is jam-packed at the bottom. Remember its better to be envied than pitied.

Gold diggers do not have pity-parties. Misery loves company, but gold diggers will have none of that. 

A true gold digger has nothing to complain about because she’s getting hers. 

You are going to be the one on vacation, you are going to be the one traveling the world, you are going to be the one living the lavish life yourself. You won’t have time to talk about somebody else living that lifestyle.

In many cases, poor people procreate with other poor people, therefore they never break the cycle of poverty that goes on for generation after generation.

Rich people know how to nurture and breed family bloodlines of wealth like thoroughbred horses. 

This is how they stayed rich for generation after generation after generation. They understood the concept of assets on assets. Try to become an asset. 

Go to upscale places, hang out around upscale people in upscale places. If you can place yourself there physically, you will get there mentally and ultimately financially.

Just get into the dating scene with rich guys to be around that wealthy vibe, to learn from them, and to make contacts through them. 

You’ll learn how to deal with rich guys and you’ll learn how to be an asset when that one Prince Charming does come into your life and you want to have that long-lasting relationship.

3. Get in the right energy

Think about success all the time. Think about being a winner all the time.

If you don’t have that winning mentality, you’re not going to appreciate what you get, simply because you don’t appreciate what you have.

It is very important to speak highly of people. It is very important to have a positive outlook about life, about everything.

You don’t want to project a negative aura. When people see that, they loose interest in you.

You want to at least appear to be as positive as possible.  A woman who has a good vibe and good energy is infectious and people want to be around her.

Successful men conduct business in large part by being charismatic and impressing others. Often they want a woman who’s the same way.

When your target is trying to enlighten you on something, you want to show that you appreciate and respect him. You don’t want to play dumb, but being ditzy in a subtle way works countless times.

4. Commit To The Game

The way to learn the lifestyle is to re-invent and rebuild yourself from scratch. 

You’ve got to get rid of the old, meek you and transform into a brand new gold digging seductress.

Women who live out their entire lives in safe situations, only dreaming one life „on the other side“. Some of them try to explore the other side in secret. But this tends to be half-assed 

You get in what you put out of a situation. I you put half-assed energy into the game, you’re going to get half-assed results

You have to like what you do. You have to be addicted to the thrill of the hustle.

GD Game:

The biggest mistake women make when they’re dealing with POTS is that they try to deal with all these guys the same way. That’s like playing lottery when it comes to dating.

Every target is a custom job. You have to be a chameleon with your game.

You’ll have to be able to adapt to the game that the guy is using towards you. 

A good gold digger knows how to adapt to any man and any surrounding 

when you date, do not think that your only job is to look pretty. If that’s the only asset you’re bringing to the table, at some point in time you’re going to be replaced. 

Being a pretty woman with a lot of game to back up your looks will get you in the door and keep you in the game. 

A lot of rich guys assume that most women out there who try to step to them are selfish. You have to prove otherwise. 

But if you can come across as a selfless humanitarian, or as someone who cares about the environment and what goes on in the world, your target will respect that. It will lower his defenses.

GD Looks:

If you want to live in a castle, you have to look like a princess. 

You can’t have a low budget look trying to get wealthy men. You really have to invest in yourself. 

When your targets see that you invest in yourself and take care of yourself, they’re going to want to continue the process as well. 

If he’s financially disciplined, he wants a woman who’s at the very least physically disciplined.

White clothes give off the illusion of wealth and success even if you are not rich. wear as many white outfits as you can. 

Wealthy men do notice a a woman shoes and look at the style of shoe a woman is wearing. 

When wealthy men see that you have nice shoes, it tells them that you take time out to take care of your feet. 

The subconscious correlation men will make is that you’re going to take that same care and dedication with other parts of your body and by extension, with other people.

More than that, shoes and feet are an aphrodisiac to men. When they see women in heels, they zone in on the way they walk, and how graceful their stride is. 

the best way to walk in high-heeled shoes without them hurting your feet is to walk one foot in front of the other. That will help alleviate the pain and it will give you a graceful, sophisticated look. That will help you look more thorough in the game.

Best Places to start GD:

Excellent places where you can meet rich men is are upscale hair salons, high end shoe stores , expensive restaurants and golf

You can have the whole damsel-in-distress thing going on, and wealthy men will be glad to show you and teach you how to play golf. They love helping a little lady learn the ropes of the game. This is also a great opportunity for a conversation starter as well. If you want to be a good gold digger, definitely take up golf. 

Happy hour at an upscale hotel is another great place to meet wealthy men. Every city has at least one or two upscale hotels. There are cities with several upscale hotels. You can go there during happy hour, either alone or with a friend, just to wind down and have a drink. 

The hotel bar is a great place to rub elbows with the upper crust in your neighborhood or city. 

In many of these places you won’t even have to strike up the conversation yourself. Just by positioning yourself in these locations, many guys will simply step to you. 

It’s really about timing and positioning yourself strategically in the right locations. 

Just getting to a spot and being in the right place at the right time is about eighty percent of the game. The rest should fall into place. 

In order to participate at an exotic car event, one has to have serious money to have a car to get into one of these races. For wealthy men, it’s like a hobby to them. Women don’t generally know about this. This is a great little secret of the gold digging game.

How to spot a rich man

One thing you want to look at are a man’s hand. If you see a man with a manicure that means that he likes to present himself in a certain way. 

Look at those fingernails. When you see a guy with nice hands that shows that he’s not doing manual labor. Most millionaires just don’t do manual labor. They have other guys doing the grunt work

Avoid guys who are too flashy. Most guys who dress in gaudy outfits and trying to display money, are not really rich.

Wealthy men dress clean and they’re well groomed, but the don’t wear loud colors and don’t display over the top jewelry.

The casually dressed guy sitting at the bar could be an undercover millionaire. There are targets who purposely dress down and drive an average looking car to hide their wealth.

Follow them around town and see where they hang out. They might be driving that bucket to the yacht club. They might spread their wealth in several different banks and investment houses.

Fake Watch? The second hand of a genuine Rolex watch does not tick. In most watches, the second hand will tick. The Rolex hand floats, it never ticks

Things to be aware of:

Protect your reputation. For a Gold Digger, being labeled a slut is career ending! 

When you just meet a guy, and he wants to immediately take you on a vacation within the first few days of knowing you, that should send you a red flag.

He knows that once you’re away from what’s familiar to you, you’re going to be a little more vulnerable. 

You don’t want to have sex too soon because the minute you do, you don’t have anything left to bargain with. You don’t want to put yourself out there like that. 

When you go on vacation with a target immediately after meeting him, you have to dust off the old school, “It’s that time of the month” line 

You do not want to flat-out reject your target because that will leave a negative vibe. You want to be able to do it in such a way that your target will come back wanting you more. 

Remember: As a true to the game gold digger, you’ve got to be subtle in the way you do things. 

Let’s say a target wants you to spend the night with him at his home. You never want to say, “Hell no, I’d never do that.” You never want to diss the gentleman. You want to play it real cool. 

For example, you can say something like, “I have to respectfully decline.” 

The reason why you don’t want to blatantly reject targets is because a lot of these guys think with their egos. As a gold digger, you want to cater to and stroke their egos. You want to make them feel manly. 

Don’t think with your own ego, because these guys will sit up and tell you that you’re the best thing since sliced bread, only to tell you the next day, “I’m done with you. I’ve got a new girlfriend.” 

Part of the sugar daddy game is they’ll offer to get you a nice house, they’ll offer to get you a car, or something else of prime importance. Sugar daddies make it all seem like you have them wrapped around your finger. 

Unfortunately, the opposite is true: They’re getting you wrapped around their fingers. That’s the trick a lot of women don’t know about. Once you get into that house, once you get into that car, you’re under their command. 

A true to the game gold digger is always in control of the game. You let him think that he’s in control, but you always run the show as a true gold digger 

Don’t ever let a target manipulate or pressure you into any situation. No matter how much money they give you, never let a target use money to control you.

Always Come Across As Being Unattainable

You want your target to pursue you. You want to have your target earn you. You want your target to court you. The reason is a simple one: People value what they work for. 

if you go to a restaurant and the food is a hundred dollars a plate, psychologically you’re going to think that the food is better because it’s more high-priced. 

You want to come across as being unattainable, like you’re not quite ready for a serious relationship. 

You have to be courted into a relationship, slowly, gradually. Your time is such where you seem a little too busy to spend with your target. You always want to keep your target chasing.

He has to know that you are a high maintenance young lady. If you come across as low budget, he’s going to treat you like you’re low budget. 

Wealthy guys are going to test you. Some of these targets are going to try to play you like you’re beneath them. 

You have to step up to the plate and let them know that you’re high maintenance and that they’ll have to continue to treat you like you’re high maintenance

No matter how smoothly and subtly you work it, you want to be stern and still get your point across.

Discipline

When you have a sense of discipline, you will be able to control your actions and not let your actions control you. 

You’ve got to be very disciplined when it comes to dealing with your targets, because they’re going to try to impress you, they’re going to wine and dine you. They’re also going to test you and see how weak you are, they’re going to try to see what moves and motivates you, they’re working really hard to see your Achilles’ heel. 

You’re going to have to stand strong and not be swayed by any of the wealth you see before you. You can’t be thrown off your game by any sexual chemistry you and your target may both have. 

wealthy men like the challenge. If you can show that you can go toe to toe with the best of them without breaking down or giving in, the payoff will be worth it.

Be Unpredictable

“familiarity breeds contempt.” When people get too used to you, they almost develop a certain level of disdain. 

you do want to be unpredictable. You change your patterns every now and then. 

This could be as simple as switching hobbies. You can rearrange your daily routine. You can change your look. It could be something as subtle as that. 

If you’re used to going to the mall everyday, at the same time of day, think about heading for the gym instead. 

There are all kinds of little things you can do to switch up the pace and throw your target off-guard. That way, he won’t be able to simply put you in a box. 

When they think they know you, turn left and go the other way. You always want to keep them on their toes. 

It’s like putting together a puzzle. When you’re working a puzzle, you’re intrigued by that puzzle because you’re trying to figure it out. Once you put the puzzle together, you’re not intrigued anymore. You have it figured out.

As a gold digger, you want to keep adding pieces to the puzzle so your target will never fully figure you out. 

Change your demeanor and attitude. One day, act totally happy-go-lucky. The next day, you have a dead-serious look on your face.

Source: “The Art of Gold Digging” by Tariq Rasheed

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Rita Hayworth in You’ll Never Get Rich (1941)

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Marks Of The Genuinely Cultured And Sophisticated Woman

For the feminine and high value woman of substance, culture is expressed in the refinement of thought, emotion, conduct, manners, taste and by the sophisticated confidence and attitude of a woman. 

What is a cultured woman? We may often talk about the college educated woman and frequently identify her with the cultured woman. But an educated woman isn’t necessarily a cultured woman.  There’s nothing instinctive or pretentious about genuine culture, either. As far as we know, culture is something that a person has to learn - to invest in - through a genuine interest and training.  Thankfully, we were all born with the capacity and potential for developing culture, and for becoming genuinely cultured and sophisticated women in this school of life. Incidentally, this is also the kind of woman that the high value alpha male is attracted to and looking for in a wife.  Can you imagine Prince William choosing Kim Kardashian over the well-bred and cultured Kate Middleton as a life companion, dove? I think not. *Wink*

Food for thought: Studies of the manner in which Americans spend their leisure time have indicated that up to 80 per cent of that leisure goes into the watching of television. 

Apparently the average viewing time devoted by the American family to watching TV amounts to five and a half hours a day! I also read somewhere that not more than 20% of Americans are reading a book, compared with 55 per cent of the English. However, Americans are reading more magazines.  I’m glad my family have never been obsessed with TV sets, or with reality TV or trashy magazines!!

What, then, is culture? A dictionary definition of culture might read, ‘The training, development and refinement of mind, tastes and manners.’ Observe that the emphasis here is on training. But the operative word is 'refinement.' 

In the case of the cultured and sophisticated woman, refinement pertains to a state of:

Grace Elegance Gentility Delicacy Sophisticated confidence Enlightenment Polish Worldly experience Freedom from coarseness and vulgarity in character, thought, feelings, speech and manners One of the best definitions of culture I’ve discovered so far is Alfred North Whitehead’s: “Culture is activity of thought, and receptiveness to beauty and humane feeling…" 

As far as culture is concerned, the activity of thought, the receptiveness to beauty and humane feeling should not only apply to one’s self, but to that of others. The receptiveness to beauty and humane feeling also should stem from within oneself.

These characteristics are necessary and essential traits of the cultured and sophisticated woman,  lovely, as well as the feminine and high value woman of substance. *Smile*

Food for thought: You reveal your inner self by your choice of reading. Do you read literary trash or masterpieces? Are your books mere mental 'chewing gum’ with no nourishment? 

Do you read literature or just books and magazines? Do you read for answers to life’s problems? Do you have any faith in librarians, English teachers, Book-of-the-Month-Club committees, or literary authorities when they tell you what they think are the world’s greatest books?  What are you reading now, angel? What book are you going to select next when you finish the present one?

By 'activity of thought’ it’s implied that the cultured woman is characterized by a mind that’s: Actively interested and curious in other cultures, in the world around her and in her immediate surroundings Latching onto anything of interest and curiosity Constantly attentive and receptive Viewing education as an investment in oneself Well-informed

All this is due to the fact that the cultured and sophisticated women has a mind that’s very much alive, and excited by the nature of things, and curious as to their being. The actively thinking mind constantly wants to know! *Smile* 

Furthermore, lovely, curiosity is one of the permanent and certain characteristics of a broad and intelligent mind. The second aspect of 'activity of thought’ is the ability to use one’s mind as a finely analytic tool, capable of critically probing the evidence, and arriving at sound conclusions, and even of suspended judgment. 

A liberal arts and classical education is the education which gives a clear, conscious view of a person’s own opinions and judgment, a truth in developing them, an eloquence in expressing them and a force in urging them.  Education is eagerly sought out and appreciated by a woman of substance and excellence, and the historical courtesans and Japanese geisha know that a well-read woman is a dangerous creature. *Wink* 

I aim to create a library as wonderful as the picture above! It’s the home library of Pamela And Averill Harriman. Isn’t it inviting?

A woman is known by the books she reads… if she reads. Don’t get into a rut with your reading, cupcake. Murder for breakfast, lunch and dinner will soon lose its appeal. Mix in a few side orders of biography, travel, poetry, science, philosophy and world affairs.  A combination of travel, fiction, and sports, with philosophy, fashions, and tall tales will help you to relate your literature to life.

What more could a woman ask than a good book, a comfortable chair and a cheery fire? Whether you read for inspiration, guidance or comfort, whether you seek stimulation or relaxation, there’s magic between the covers of books! The Marks Of A Genuinely Cultured And Sophisticated Woman 

The principal mark of the cultured woman isn’t so much her knowledge as her attitude of mind in relating her knowledge to the world of experience. It’s a common error to equate knowledge with culture, just as education is usually falsely identified with culture.  They’re not the same things. Knowledge and education are indispensable parts of the cultured woman’s equipment, but in themselves they don’t confer the grace of culture.  The first mark of the cultured and sophisticated woman is that she holds the teacher of that knowledge and education in high respect. Whenever she thinks, she remembers those who taught her how to think. 

A cultured and sophisticated woman is:

Classically and liberally educated Knowledgeable about the world and world affairs Refined Highly selective and discerning Genteel Hungry for the gaining of knowledge and wisdom Well-read Well-traveled Civilized Never rude Articulate and properly speaking A speaker of more than one language Knowledgeable about different cultures and social codes Highly appreciative of art, history, philosophy, psychology, classical literature, music and ideals  Accomplished Aware that the truth is more frequently ascertained by asking questions than by giving answers Aware that setting oneself in order is the basis for practicing good human relations Of the belief that the Socratic injunction, "Know thyself,” is the beginning, but not the end of wisdom Of the belief that knowledge of self is necessary means toward the end of achieving wisdom  Understanding of the nature of human nature, psychology, its structure and dynamics, subconscious and conscious

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7 Keys to Becoming a Classy Woman

Traditionally, classy means to be stylish and elegant; respectable and lovely. However, I find the traditional definition and ideas of how to be classy can be slightly limiting, depending on how you interpret it.

So let’s re-define classy in a better way: a genuine, feminine and high quality woman who holds herself and thinks of herself highly regardless of what life circumstances may present, and despite what other people may think. A classy woman does not judge herself regardless of what mistakes she might make and knows that aiming for perfection is really failure because it is just a way to beat yourself up inside. Moreover, because of these attributes, a classy woman can handle all social situations and conversation with confidence.

That being said, here are the 7 Keys to becoming a classy woman.

1) You should start by being a high quality woman and projecting (marketing) yourself as such.

What is classy is special. Classy is something you don’t get on your average street corner. However, the reason high class women are so rare is because most women give trash. The reason they give trash is because they think trash (about themselves and others), talk trash, and habitually focus on trash.

You cannot be high class if you don’t THINK you are high class. You have to start by believing you are top stuff. (If you’re wondering how to do that, please see the next dot-point). It’s your job to market what you have, and to market yourself, you have to believe you are It.

If you don’t think marketing yourself is important, then I must tell you that you could be the best woman around – loyal, sweet, dynamic – and people wouldn’t have a clue. Marketing yourself doesn’t mean to yell and shout about yourself (far from it). Marketing yourself – is all about holding yourself highly, and acting so (impeccable self-respect, NOT carelessness). There’s a difference. For example, the difference between making a mistake and “not giving a ****” and making a mistake, acknowledging it, and proceeding to move on and do better. The former is about the woman having little regard for herself, and the latter is all about her valuing herself and others. 

A high quality woman is a woman of value and a woman of value is one who values the happiness of others, and who is considerate. People will rarely perceive real value in you unless you give THEM something. Think of what a typical low value and low quality woman looks and acts like. Usually, this kind of woman is so significance-driven that she is habitually unable to listen, to care for or to help others. Typically, this kind of woman makes you cringe because she gives the female gender a bad name. She may even frustrate you with anger because you simply can’t get a word in and let’s face it, it’s HARD being around someone who doesn’t care about you at all.

A woman of low value has such a low sense of self-worth that it’s impossible for her to perceive what life is like from another angle. She’s too in to herself! It’s very much a case of ‘the empty vessel makes the most noise’.

Here is what a high quality woman is NOT: She is not someone who is constantly sucking value from others.

2) Develop rituals that support your sense or self-worth.

As I stated above, a classy woman is a woman with a high sense of self-worth and who also projects herself that way. And high self-worth only comes from knowingyou are worthy.

However – you can only truly know, and feel, with certainty that you are worthy when you DO enough, ACCOMPLISH enough, and GIVE enough (to yourself and others) that you have little choice but to give yourself utmost respect. 

If you think I’m talking about accomplishments in the traditional ‘career’ sense that this world so encourages for women, you’re wrong. This is not a true, lasting accomplishment. I’m talking about emotional fitness: a woman who can hold her own yet give her heart in the face of grave fears.

So – develop rituals: whether that be a daily practice of gratitude, A daily resolve to push a little further on your spiritual path with your spouse or your children, a daily practice of viewing life as a playground rather than a battleground and looking for the evidence to support that belief, a daily ritual of giving love rather than judgments – it’s up to you.

These rituals are a way to make you actually feel great about yourself. Not just empty self-talk. And have you ever been in a group of women and one was crying over a tragedy (being lied to by a man or something) and all the girls are saying “don’t worry honey, you can get anyone you want – he’s just a slag”. Well, this is mostly useless because most women in this situation don’t make any changes – and just then proceed to think trash. You must to think GOLD thoughts to become Gold.

Example: you can use this as a measure of your sense of self-worth and confidence: If you were dropped in the middle of a daunting social situation, say, the red carpet tomorrow in among the most respected, poised and famous leaders, philanthropists, business men and women, actresses, designers, etc – would you be comfortable, and looking forward to the event? Would you believe that you too, have something of value to bring to the occasion?

3) A high class woman rarely loses her cool.

There are, of course, situations in which a woman will feel and seem crazy, needs to raise her voice and get angry and that is fine. You don’t want to be one-dimensional.

However, the point here is not to just not lose your cool, or not to have anger, it’s about having the mindset that allows you to move forward and not damage things with people unnecessarily because of your need to feel better and significant in a moment, in a misunderstanding with someone who means a lot to you, or any other difficult situation.

This is about a confidence in yourself to be able to handle anything that happens. I know this is not easy, because sometimes, we feel very uncertain, vulnerable, lost, unloved, hurt, shocked, and overwhelmed. We all have those moments – but remember, it is what you do about it, most of the time (not some of the time) that counts. (Please see dot point 2 for a strategy on what to do). It really goes back to valuing yourself.

4) Great Posture.

Probably one of the most important attributes a classy woman must have is great posture. I’ve done a video and post on posture (with the help of my Hero, my Man, David). The reason posture is so important is because it affects how others perceive you a lot more than you could imagine. If a woman holds herself highly, she usually has great posture and people are drawn to this. It’s one of the quickest, fastest and best ways to market yourselfand to feel better about yourself. As humans, we are all drawn to people or things that seem to be of high value, and to humans who project themselves as high value.

We want the best because it means a better experience, a better quality of life, more safety (at a primal level, mostly in our subconscious).

If a woman walks around with her shoulders slumped, people subconsciously pick up on this energy! I promise you! Even if they don’t consciously know your posture is bad. Go check out the video now. Go! 

5) Authenticity, authenticity, AUTHENTICITY.

Contrary to popular belief, being classy and elegant isn’t about “self-control” or holding things in. It’s not about being a stoic.

Always be authentic. You could have just lost a dear family member, your dog could have gotten run over, you could have had a big issue with your best friend, you could be down about losing your job, or just life’s problems, and that is all fine – as long as you are authentic.

A classy woman doesn’t fake happiness. This is false advertising, and false marketing! You can be grieving, or experiencing emotional suffering, and still be classy. All you have to do is acknowledge the pain, perhaps share your feelings with others, but still hold yourself with grace and poise.

To actually be authentic, you must value being authentic more than you value havinganother kind of ‘identity’. This identity problem consumes a lot of us women. For example, a lot of women are actually feeling hurt at a given time but pretend to be the happy mother, friend or wife, because they don’t want to have the identity of being silly or overly sensitive (in this masculine world, we tend to look down on a woman’s natural and biological gift of emotions – and our ability to feel these emotions for an extended period of time).

Drop the identity thing and go for authenticity. Authenticity rules over anything. More than ever now, people are starting to want what is real. Secretly, deep down (behind the masks that many of us put up) I think we all prefer to be around what is real. In the old days, it was a lot about ‘show’ and keeping ‘face’. Now, things are becoming more transparent. Also, we are sick of living in a fast-paced environment where people are always climbing the corporate ladder, valuing ‘things’ or money, and we want people who are clear rather than obscure.

6) Be True to Yourself

You cannot be classy unless you are true to yourself, so stay true to your feminine core and be OK being a woman. Don’t view having long hair as a drag, put the effort in to looking pretty and beautiful – women are supposed to look and more importantly, be attractive. This is only going to happen when you exude femininity, however.

It’s not about wanting to change what you’ve been given, or being superficial, it’s simply about taking pride in your femininity and your appearance.

Many younger as well as middle-aged women simply let themselves go. In other words, they start to value themselves less. They get fat, stop combing or styling their hair nicely (or cut it in to a short style that their husband hates), start making the time to exercise, eat well or socialize.

Letting your appearance go can sometimes be a tell tale sign that you habitually feel bad about yourself, your life. or that you don’t care about yourself, which negates class.

Aging is not an issue for a classy woman. Age can and often does do wonderfulthings for a woman – including giving her added class, if she loves herself. Meryl Streep is a prime example.

Hint: Here is what classy is not: it’s not about having money. Look at Paris Hilton! Or perhaps Amy Winehouse. Enough said.

7) Dress modestly where it fits.

Don’t turn up to a classy function with your breasts overflowing. I have noticed that a lot of women use their large breast size as an excuse for not being able to keep them out-of-view. Regardless of breast size, small or large – a woman can choose to put them on show or not.

Don’t turn up to your father’s 50th in a backless dress with plunging neck-line and a hem that barely passes your hip bone.

At certain times, or on certain occasions (social or private), it’s fine to show leg or cleavage. However, you must have the awareness and self-respect to judge correctly. And for most women, it’s not a matter of stupidity or ignorance of dress code, either. It’s really a matter of: how desperate are you for attention? Even if only subconsciously. How sure are you that you are valuable as a woman without revealing everything? How small do you really feel inside?

If a woman has a nice figure, (nice legs, breasts, bum) – people can actually tell, even if you’re wearing a turtle neck and tracksuit pants! Even if you’re wearing a paper bag! It’s just that it may not be as “eye-catching” because the vie for attention isn’t so obvious.

Make sure there are some nicely tailored dresses and pants in your wardrobe that are form-fitting, well-made and good quality. Even if you can only afford one or two pieces. It’s worth it.

Below is a list of women whose style and mannerisms you could choose to model. The best way to start dressing classy is to choose someone you identify with and see what she wears. Carefully observe the posture on these women!

Here are some possible examples of women with class:

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One final note: please remember that as a classy woman, you have the audacity to contribute to, as well as care for, those women who you perceive as less classy. Being classy is not about excluding people.

Copied & Excerpted from: http://www.thefemininewoman.com/2010/11/7-keys-to-becoming-a-classy-woman/

[rbghousewife]

Excerpts on Elegant Speech From: The Woman You Want To Be [Margery Wilson]

truly one of my favorite resources. thinking of uploading much more from this text.

[sugar6ixxx]

How to be a kept woman

Any woman who dares to suggest that it’s OK to live off a rich man is likely to be dismissed as a traitor by feminists. Yet this is exactly the lifestyle promoted in a new book by Abigail Bosanko. Though the novel is fictional, the author was ‘kept’ by her husband, an investment fund manager, in an elegant Edinburgh mews house while she wrote it. Here, we present Abigail’s guide to becoming a kept woman… KNOW WHAT YOU WANT BEFORE you even contemplate being a kept woman, know what kind of man you want. If you want an art historian or collector who works for Sotheby’s, don’t settle for a picture framer, even if he has a string of shops. Be confident - an intriguing 21st century woman with her own independent pursuits and talents. You want this man to fall in love with your beautiful mind. HAVE A SKILL Choose an unusual skill - this is intriguing and sexy. Play polo, or golf (not football - men see women who like football as spies in the camp); have an intimate knowledge of 18th and 19th century courtesans; play an instrument; learn about wine or speak an unusual language. Knowledge of food is always sensual. SPEND TIME ON YOURSELF This is something puritans disapprove of, but spending time on yourself - doing your nails, having a massage or a facial, or even just wearing your favourite perfume - is all good for your self-image and self esteem. UNDERWEAR Lingerie is psychologically revealing. If a woman is in a happy relationship she has all sorts of fabulous lingerie, but when she’s unhappy she’s got her 90-denier winter warmers, and fleecy vests, because she’s not particularly interested in sharing that part of herself. Even if you feel like 90-denier, wear something silky that makes you feel good. CLOTHES Nurture your curves like actresses Kate Winslet, Catherine Zeta Jones and Marilyn Monroe. There is nothing wrong with being a size 14 - look at Nigella Lawson. Think Forties Domestic Goddess. Wear elegant, simple, well-cut clothes, such as shawl-collared suits which hug your curves, in neutral tones. And don’t forget your heels. WHERE TO MEET The first-class lounge at the airport is perfect. Save up all your air miles and buy a club class seat to somewhere such as Paris or New York. Hope for a delay, then you will all get to know each other playing Scrabble, with endless free drinks. Fine art, furniture and jewellery auctions at the top auction houses are also perfect. WHAT KIND OF MAN? Obviously he’s got to be wealthy, but he’s also got to be discreet. Showy wealth is a definite no-no. Lots of gold jewellery shows someone who needs to be in a credit card club to feel financially confident. All a man needs is a beautiful watch, or a signet ring with the family crest. Find out where he has been on holiday. There are two types: if he has been scuba diving in the Maldives or white-water rafting in the Amazon, this shows he has money and a sense of adventure. Alternatively, cushy stays in sumptuous hotels are perfect. If he hasn’t had time for a holiday, he’s too busy to appreciate you. HIS PERSONALITY He should have an active hobby - one that shows stamina, which is vital. He should be generous, of course, and protective of you. He should be well-read and informed, reading at least one newspaper in addition to the FT. Books could be things such as Martin Amis’s Experience, or J. M. Coetzee’s Waiting For The Barbarians. DROPPING HINTS In our modern world where women are career- queens, men find this concept odd. One male friend of Abigail asked: ‘Why would an intellectual woman want to be bank-rolled?’ But when it was explained that it would allow her to follow her vocation, the concept became quite appealing. Start by saying that you would love to be able to pursue your passion as a rare book restorer/ cartoonist/script writer, but can’t afford to. He’ll be impressed and will offer to pay. HOW DO YOU KNOW HE WILL KEEP YOU? The first sign is when he offers to pay off your overdraft, then credit card bills, then suggests you don’t go in to work but spend time with him. While he’s at a business lunch he would love it if you went shopping - he will pick up the tab, of course. When it comes to this sort of arrangement, you have got to be honest, clever and sophisticated. TERMS Be bold, be daring, be honest. You need a joint bank account - you set the limit - plus your own personal savings account. He can buy you a chic mews house, a penthouse flat - or, of course, you can move into his mansion. Ask for accounts at your favourite shops. You also need treats such as manicures, pedicures, chocolates and flowers. Exotic holidays and weekend breaks are essential. SEX This is sensual, loving, tantalising sex, not you fulfilling his fantasy - not unless the fantasy is mutual. When it comes to sex, remember, curiosity comes first. With all the money you now have access to, you can change the venue as often as you like. Instead of going home, book into a five-star hotel. It will never get boring. GIFTS You should ask for gifts that are original: ‘A friend received an embroidered silk cheongsam (Mandarin gown) from her lover who was travelling in China.’ Expect a single, beautiful pearl, elegant jewellery, a race-horse, £1,000 worth of Lottery tickets or rare books such as the original Les Liaisons Dangereuses. HOLIDAYS At least four times a year, not counting short breaks. Abigail’s husband often takes her to a romantic hotel near the Sorbonne in Paris. Think skiing in Aspen, scuba diving on the Barrier Reef, a trip to the Galapagos or Madagascar, sunbathing in St Lucia. He might have his own private yacht, so cruise the Caribbean or the islands in the Mediterranean. WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR TIME Write that novel that’s said to lurk inside us all - Abigail wrote hers; finish your art history degree. Get to know the best restaurants and cafes so you can lunch at length with your friends. Afternoons-should be reserved for shopping or pampering, and evenings with him. WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR (HIS) MONEY It goes without saying that you will revamp your wardrobe. Keep champagne, chablis, caviar, organic bread, bacon and quails’ eggs in your fridge. A bit of philanthropy is essential, too, so set up covenants to your favourite charities and feel charitable towards bone fide beggars - give more to buskers and pavement artists, because they are at least trying. Send your family on their dream holiday, and treat your man to a surprise trip on Concorde or the best seats at a major international sporting event. WHAT TO SAY TO CRITICS Always keep a bottle of champagne in the fridge for your disapproving female friends. They will be extremely envious, so kill them with kindness. Never apologise about your chosen lifestyle. Don’t brag about it either - it’s not dignified. END IT You can insist on an expiry date - a year and a day maybe - but you decide when. Do not return your gifts. When it ends, put all your overflow cash into an ISA and go on holiday for a month. Go somewhere romantic and beautiful, and take time to think. You never know, he might follow you there and beg to keep you in a permanent arrangement. Lazy Ways To Make A Living by Abigail Bosanko, Time Warner Books, £5.99.

[keptotherwoman]

[sugaryvixen]

Read this sis

[theluxemiss]

Books to Manifest Prosperity, Confidence, and Wealthy Men (Part One)

Law of Attraction, Manifestation, Wealth, and General Self-Improvement

♥ 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success

♥ 21 Success Secrets of Self-Made Millionaires

♥ A Curious Mind: The Secret To A Bigger Life

♥ A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

♥ Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires (audio)

♥ Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny

♥ Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

♥ The Breakout Principle: How to Activate the Natural Trigger That Maximizes Creativity, Athletic Performance, Productivity and Personal Well-Being

♥ Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao

♥ Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us

♥ Girlboss

♥ The Girl’s Guide to Being a Boss (Without Being a Bitch): Valuable Lessons, Smart Suggestions, and True Stories for Succeeding as the Chick-In-Charge

♥ Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t

♥ Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, and the Past-Life Therapy That Changed Both Their Lives

♥ The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams & Reaching Your Destiny (audio)

♥ Outliers: The Story of Success (audio)

♥ Pocket Prayers: 40 Simple Prayers that Bring Peace and Rest

♥ The Power of Intention

♥ The Secret

♥ Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals

♥ Rich People Problems: A Novel

♥ Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement

♥ What I Know for Sure 

♥ Who Moved My Cheese?: An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life (audio)

♥ Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting

♥ Your Illustrated Guide to Becoming One with the Universe

♥ Your Inner Awakening: The Work of Byron Katie: Four Questions That Will Transform Your Life

  Confidence, Seduction, Style, Etiquette, and Psychology of People

♥ Get Out of Your Own Way Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

♥ The Road Less Traveled, Timeless Edition: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth

♥ The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem: The Definitive Work on Self-Esteem by the Leading Pioneer in the Field (audio)

♥ You Are Enough: How to Elevate Your Thoughts, Align Your Energy, and Get Out of the Comparison Trap

♥ You Can Heal Your Life

♥ 48 Laws of Power (audio)

♥ The Art of Seduction (audio)

♥ Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again – With Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation

♥ Ho Tactics: How to MindF**k A Man Into Spending, Spoiling, and Sponsoring

♥ How to Make Him BURN with Desire Only for You

♥ How to Talk To Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships (audio)

♥ Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Revised Edition

♥ The Power of the Pussy – How to Get What You Want From Men: Love, Respect, Commitment and More!

♥ The Power of Pussy (Part Two): Dating, Marriage, and Divorce Advice for Women

♥ Pussy Whip – Proven, Powerful “Secret” Technique Controls Your Man

  Sugaring, Relationships, Love, and Marrying Wealthy

♥ China Rich Girlfriend

♥  How To Marry The Rich: The Rich Will Marry Someone, Why Not You?

♥ Manifesting Love: Powerful Secret Techniques

♥ Men Don’t Love Women Like You!: The Brutal Truth About Dating, Relationships, and How to Go from Placeholder to Game Changer

♥ Solving Single: How to Get the Ring, Not the Run Around

♥ Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl – A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

♥ Why Men Marry Bitches: A Guide for Women Who Are Too Nice

♥ Football: The Basics for Women

♥ Get Your Own Damn Beer, I’m Watching the Game!: A Woman’s Guide to Loving Pro Football 

* Continue to check back for updates with links to audiobooks and PDFs.

* Read PART TWO here.

[wolfie-monica]

Daily affirmation:

I am a money magnet and I attract wealth and abundance.

[unihversal]

“Your soulmate is not someone who comes into your life peacefully. It is who comes to make you question things, who changes your reality, somebody that marks a before and after in your life. It is not the human being everyone has idealised, but an ordinary person, who manages to revolutionise your world in a second.”

— Unknown (via virgoassbitch)

[surra-de-bunda]

There’s nothing more cringe worthy than someone who is judgmental as fuck but never accomplished anything, has nothing going for them and they’re deeply flawed. Don’t be that person boo.

[createyourlifeofabundance]

Money Affirmations

I am a magnet for money. Prosperity of every kind is drawn to me.

 Today is a delightful day. Money comes to me in expected and unexpected ways.

 I move from poverty thinking to prosperity thinking and my finances reflect this change.

 I delight in the financial security that is a constant in my life.

 I am open and receptive to all the wealth in the Universe.

 I am open and receptive to new avenues of income.

 I now receive my good from expected and unexpected sources.

[boarcriminal-deactivated2018052]

[pure]

anti-racist academics

[blackberryshawty]

Wow. Me.

[sauvamente]

That kkkock

[cheyennecheyenne]

same :/

[scaryyspice-deactivated20200111]

This…is so funny

[lyjerria]

who….. made this….. about me

[wwwdotamandapleeeasedotcom]

Me…..

[sensei-silvia-blog]

I feel attacked 💀

[darkcocosb-blog]

Me on a daily!😂👏🏽

[aphroditeinfurs-deactivated2017]

[sugarbabypr]

Words about freestyling

That problematic man keeps insisting on messaging me and I am so annoyed. I am honestly considering leave the website, focus on the POTs I’ve found there and start only freestyling. I’ve done it before without even reading the tips of the other sugar babies and got the number of a intelligent and classy 65ish lawyer. Free styling will be the thing for me from now. It sounds weird, but I feel like it exposes you less and you know why? Freestyling allows you to pick to who you’re exposing yourself. Everyone in the website can see you, pics, description. You can’t pick who sees you. In real life, random people won’t have this uncontrolled access to you/your life and they can’t take a screenshot to expose you. Media has been destroying the life of many. We have to be careful what we put online. Also remember that it is very easy to fake online, but out of the screen he can’t pretend he looks good, he is intelligent or that he is super rich. In real life, you can figure out only by watching them. You’ll be able to know their real behaviour towards a woman, if they seem and sound like a successful gentleman etc. It is harder to lie when you are having a conversation looking in each other eyes - men aren’t good liars, especially when they need to answer fast, like in a conversation in person. It is also easier to attract them. You can be charming, smile, show how good you look and how classy you’re, and showing how worth you are, you can conquer their minds, hearts and down there way easier than hiding in a screen. If you are efficient, you’ll be able to see what this person needs in his life as well and use that, secretly, to show you can fill that empty space.

I want to remember too that I am not talking only about finding a sugar daddy. Freestyling isn’t even only about sugar relationships. It creates you connections that can be used to stair up in life. This world has infinite possibilities and we must explore all of them in order to be successful and open doors for our path. You can freestyle to get a mentor in your field. You can freestyle to get a friend to introduce you to new social circles. Freestyling, in my opinion, is about meeting people, creating connections and using them in your favor. And remember to be as you as you can. In person it’s harder to pretend to be something or someone you are not and no one likes a fake or a liar.

This was me ranting about how freestyling >>> websites. I want to remember I am not experienced like most girls here and I am always open to advice and opinions, just please don’t be rude ok? I am fragile. Stay safe babies. 💌

[greelin]

$50,000 immediately dropped into my bank account wouldn't improve EVERYTHING but boy it sure would be a grand, sexy little start to a good, happy life path, don't you think

[meilintheempressofdreams]

Reblog for unexpected $$$ dropping into your Bank account.